Feeling like shit, need to talk to someone.

I have no one to talk to right now, and i feel so bad, it's like everything i've got means nothing, whats the point?

I split up with my long term girlfriend in 2005. It was hard but i pulled myself through it. Then we got talking again last year, and it opened up all the old wounds. I went of the rails, and even though i dont want to admit it i got depresed. I love this woman, more than anything in my life. I'd give up weed for her, i'd die for her.

She felt the same about me, untill it went pear shaped.

And then tonight, i tried to talk to her, just to see if she was alrgiht, how life was treating her, and she just said she couldnt talk and she'd talk to me later.

We've always been civil, we always sent texts to each other for our birthdays and christmas, and this year, i sent her one, and she didnt bother replying..

I dont know what i feel, i just feel lost. I feel like im broken.

Nothing means anything anymore because all i want is her. I'f give everything up for her.

out of the handful of gals i've been with she was the one i wanted.

We pictured us getting married, kids. the lot.

We had it all planned out. My life was going to be perfect.

Im just rambling, im sorry, i just needed to say all this stuff to someone, i just miss her so much. And i know shes not comming back.

I supose im feeling all the depression i had before, x10.

She was the only one for me, im never going to find someone as smart, funny and beautiful as her. She was perfect, in every way. It was like i'd written down what i wanted in a woman and she was it.

I've lost the best thing i've ever had in my life.

things will look up, there are plenty of fish in the sea and that just wasnt the one... im sure there is someone that is better than her that is gonna be yours one day... keep your head up bro...

i know exactly how you feel bro.
you just gotta think about the positive stuff, i know its hard.. like i said i know exactly how you feel, i pretty much went through the same shit.. only girl i ever loved....
but look at it this way..


if she is in the past, there is a reason she didn't make it to your future.

ill smoke one for you bro

that suucks so bad im sorry man, i know the feeling.
the only advice i could give you is to wait it out, emotions come & go. itll end eventually, but things could get better and they could get worse, and dont assume theyre gonna get worse.
just be happy, your alot better off then alot of people. think of that guy who was coming home from vacation, and canada thot he was a terrorist so they shipped him off to syria to be tortured. that something to freak out about!
you can smoke weed every day, i cant. i envy you.

peace!
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Aww, LIP, you poor guy. I wish I could give you a joint right now. :)

We all have our ups and down days. I suggest you try moving on from this girl. It may take a few years to finally move on, but why torture yourself over something that might not happen? You're just stressing yourself out.

Best way to get over a girl, is maybe meet a new lady. An animal is a great cure for feeling sad. Cats are great for that.

My cat cheers me up when I'm in the worst of moods. It's something about their purr and chilled back personality that does it.

Maybe consider going out for a run, a walk, or a lagar or two with some friends. Just do something to keep your mind off of your problems. Sitting around dwelling about it will just sink you even deeper. Keep your mind busy, then in a few weeks, you'll think about her less and less until she's out of your system.

Like you said though, you don't think "it" will ever happen, so now is a time to move on.

Don't think of giving up though. I mean, you have a stable job that you don't seem to mind. Dealing with deseil marine engines if I remeber right, and that is an awesome career! You have done so much that others just dream about. You have the smarts and the know how.

You'll find that special lady someday, but maybe this girl isn't it. Move on and do your best.

Keep your head up and know we would miss you if you stopped coming around. :)

If you can't be without her, don't be. Go get her. Unless it's more complicated than that...

Maybe she doesn't want to talk because it hurts too much??

She might be *trying* to move on with her life, ya know. And that's what you have to do. Either be with her or move on. If you stick yourself in between, that's when the heartache ceases to pass.

Chin up, LIP. You'll find a gal. ~

Cheers guys.

I know your right, i've gotta get it out of my system. But everthing i think about leads back to her.

The only way i'll ever be able to forget her is if i die and come back as a turnip.

But fuck me, im so unlucky if i died i'd come back as myself.

Its just... I really dont know, i cant explain how i feel, it's as though i dont care about anything, i feel as though i could stand infront of a train and not even think about the consequences, it's almost as though i've got nothig to loose.

Fuck, i love her. I really, really love her.

If i wasnt such a coward i know what i'd do, but i cant.

Im sorry, i just dont know what to post, i dont know how to describe what im feeling. .

I just feel broken... the pain of breakin my back is nothing compared to this.

I probably wont post again tonight, im just posting aload of bull atm, i need to get my head striaght.

Cheers guys.

you just gotta relax and get your mind off of it man. go meet up with some friends and go do something, go on a hike and smoke, go swimming, idk.. get drunk, find something that you can do and forget about her, i know it sounds hard and all, but you gotta just take that in.

keep remembering what i said

if she is in the past, there is a reason she didn't make it to your future.

its true man... its true

That sucks LIP. Girls do that to some of us, and I was saying the same thing once about a girl. Us humans can get over love believe it or not. Just relax man, you definetly aren't alone, not in life or in love.

I have been through similar circumstances and there is no easy way to over come something like this. It's a very lonely situation to be in unfortunately. I found myself on my own a lot, not eating much, and in general being quite messy and careless. I suggest you spend some more time with family, yeah that's right chat to Ma and Pa for once, or even a brother or a sister (if mature). Love is a wonderful but cruel concept, it's great when it works but when it goes wrong it is without a doubt the most painful thing in the world.

Another pointer, never assume that she doesn't care just because she wasn't in touch with you (the text). Remember what you two have been through this is hard for her too I'm sure. One thing seems quite possible though, she is moving on. You should try to do it too. I'm not saying banish her to the back of your mind forever or even forgetting about her altogether, but start dating other people it would be fun I suggest not getting into anything serious yet though.

I hope you feel better soon.

Just try and do what I suggested, keep your mind busy. :)

Just don't do anything to harm yourself, okay? :)

if she wasnt the one that means that theres an even better girl out there waiting for you. You just need to go out and find her

girls cause the worse pain
id rather get shot and then run over by
a speeding truck then to deal with that

you get a good job doing what you love
you got a cool attitude and you grow some good skunk

i think you should just be happy you are free to have a good life

when i feel like you do
i surround myself with funny people and get drunk
but i know you like that cane but now is not a good time for that shit
just be happy man , life is too short to dwell on the past

if i was in essex or wherever the fuck you are
i bet you wouldnt feel all bad
wed be fucked up laughing doing some crazy shit

man... whats up with everyone being depressed... its getting shitty... i keep trying to kill my self... but someone is always there to stop me when i get that sad... but ive gotten alot better... im finaly fealling alot better... now that court is behind me...

Everyone is feeling down today, aren't they partyguy.

Maybe the flow of good weed has slowed down a bit. I know LIP, and if he had a spliff of some good Uk skunk, he wouldn't be feeling like this. :p

Lets get the whole world stoned, just for one day. :D

Nah, the crizzles in my bizzle dizzle. Idunno what to say, go fuck some whores and drink yourself to sleep tonight, you'll feel better in the morning.

we all have this happen 2 us...no real way of gettin rid of the feelin, cuz that would be like tryin to get rid of the love, and that aint possible. if its a relationship that doesnt look like its gonna end up together, which ive been through a lot, u jus gotta go girl huntin again! theres tons of those out there jus like the one u like waitin out there.

dont think like that man thats ur prob. there are so many girls out there in the world that u can find somone that u love even more than her, i went through a similar situation around the same time u did and u just have to realize its over, it was fun while it lasted and everything comes to an end. Its not going to help u being all depressed and thinking negative that u wont find anyone like her itll just make u even more depressed. My advice is to not call her, as much as u would want to it will only make u think "if only" and u dont need that u need to forget about her and move on because belive it or not she is not the one for u. and next relationship dont ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever! think ur goning to get marryed and plan ahead becuase if u do it feels like u got ur hopes up for nuthin and makes it feel like a divorce instead of a brake up and i know this one from experience bro

oh and smoke lots of weed everytime u think about it when i broke up thats what i did one minute id be bawlin and the next minute id be laughing my ass off not even remebering ol' whats her face

Lip, what do you mean "Pear shaped"?

Does she know how you feel? Marrige kids and stuff?

does she love YOU.... is she shallow, is she worth fighting for?

Are you just In love with the Idea of How it could be?

give me a few answers and Ill give you some advice, just need to know more about her..... I know how you feel.

B30


Sorry that you are feeling blue....


Shit happens for a reason.

Most, if not all of us, have gone through something similar. Your girl always seems like THE one and like there is no other better. But after you get your next girl you'll see that SHE seems like THE one too. That's how it works. Pick yourself up and go meet someone else.

FYI I've been through that before AND worse. The girl of MY dreams died of cancer in 2005. I felt like ending my own life but I pushed on through it. I'm still here. Not as happy but still here and hoping to someday find someone even half as good as her...

You know what you gotta do
It is time to seek the truth. You may be torturing yourself for nothing.

As spike lee would say

"Do the Right Thing"

for you!

All I can say is, You'll never completly get over her. You can only try to replace her with tons of other women and numb the pain with drugs and alcohol and than and only than can you grit your teeth and bare it.

That's what I did... Still havent gotten totally over it

Just try to move past it. There are tons of other girls out there, I was with a girl and really messed it up and was pretty pissed at myself. The best way to get over it was listening to music and reflecting on what messed it up. I have found someone twice as nice. Just try to push it out of your mind with other things, you'll never forget her that we know but just use a picture of her as some rolling paper or something, sure it'll taste like shit but it'll still be a cool way to end it all.

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Originally Posted by LIP

I have no one to talk to right now, and i feel so bad, it's like everything i've got means nothing, whats the point?

I split up with my long term girlfriend in 2005. It was hard but i pulled myself through it. Then we got talking again last year, and it opened up all the old wounds. I went of the rails, and even though i dont want to admit it i got depresed. I love this woman, more than anything in my life. I'd give up weed for her, i'd die for her.

She felt the same about me, untill it went pear shaped.

And then tonight, i tried to talk to her, just to see if she was alrgiht, how life was treating her, and she just said she couldnt talk and she'd talk to me later.

We've always been civil, we always sent texts to each other for our birthdays and christmas, and this year, i sent her one, and she didnt bother replying..

I dont know what i feel, i just feel lost. I feel like im broken.

Nothing means anything anymore because all i want is her. I'f give everything up for her.

out of the handful of gals i've been with she was the one i wanted.

We pictured us getting married, kids. the lot.

We had it all planned out. My life was going to be perfect.

Im just rambling, im sorry, i just needed to say all this stuff to someone, i just miss her so much. And i know shes not comming back.

I supose im feeling all the depression i had before, x10.

She was the only one for me, im never going to find someone as smart, funny and beautiful as her. She was perfect, in every way. It was like i'd written down what i wanted in a woman and she was it.

I've lost the best thing i've ever had in my life.

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Try telling all this to her?

you gotta see her face to face, straight, you'll be able to observe just how she feels about you, and talk to her about it, or you'll always be wondering, what could have been.............

I had a similar experience awhile back...And I still think about the girl and love her(though I have learned to shift to a different type of love). But I have finally put myself back out there, and met other girls and realized there is so much potential with other girls for me, that I stopped obsessing about what couldve been.

That's gotta be hard, LIP. I can't imagine what sorrow you're feeling. I've major depression, and some days, it literally seems like there is no purpose in living. And I don't think I will ever crawl out of that hole.

But then I get over whatever I'm brooding about, and I can't see how I could have been that depressed and apathetic the previous day. It's hard, LIP. But the good times overrule all, and I hope you don't struggle with this all in your mind. Talk to friends, family members, even a counselor if you need to.

We'll always be here for you.

AND GEE, THANKS GUYS FOR SAYING WOMEN CAUSE SO MUCH PAIN THAT IT'S BETTER TO BE RUN OVER BY A TRUCK THAN TO GET INVOLVED WITH ONE OF US. MAKES ME FEEL REALLY GREAT MYSELF.

J/k... :p

a bottle of tequila and a couple limes is all you need...

I went through something like that too Lip.
It really hurt like nothing I've felt before, life just seemed useless after that.
Years after I still have dreams about it and though I hardly think about it during the days.
Give it some time, I know it seems unbearable right now. I know you've probably heard this before but time heals all...
I hope you feelbetter soon, love hurts, you're not alone.
*hug*

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Everyone is feeling down today, aren't they partyguy.

Maybe the flow of good weed has slowed down a bit. I know LIP, and if he had a spliff of some good Uk skunk, he wouldn't be feeling like this. :p

Lets get the whole world stoned, just for one day. :D

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actualy... today... is the first day in a long while that i havent felt depressed... although... to day i have had quite a few Bi-polar pissed off to happy out breaks to day... (mostly because of what my dad is trying to do.,..)

lip hey man havent spoke to ya in a while ive been kinda avoiding an aqaintance on msn but illl start goin back on now hopefully ill catch ya soon bruv, this spliff goin out to you

You sound a lot like myself right now, LIP. Similar thoughts are haunting my mind right now as well. Reading all these thoughts and responses from many different viewpoints though really puts my own emotions in perspective and it helps alot. (Thanks for the collateral advice everyone) For the past couple of days I've been going through quite an uncomfortable break up with my significant other and it hurts like nothing else. I can't even begin to express the angst that I feel right now but it's getting better with journal/blogging/social therapy. (This vary thread is a good start) You’d be surprised how good it feels to get every single thought about her out of your system, If you have an understanding friend with a talent for patience, I definitely recommend talking or even writing, in length, about your experiences, thoughts and feelings. It has helped me quite a bit and I hope it helps you too. Good luck, man. Take some comfort in knowing that your not the only one suffering right now. Misery loves company, eh?

Every cloud has a silver lining... All things happen for a reason,,,find the positive and feed it...

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I have no one to talk to right now, and i feel so bad, it's like everything i've got means nothing, whats the point?

I split up with my long term girlfriend in 2005. It was hard but i pulled myself through it. Then we got talking again last year, and it opened up all the old wounds. I went of the rails, and even though i dont want to admit it i got depresed. I love this woman, more than anything in my life. I'd give up weed for her, i'd die for her.

She felt the same about me, untill it went pear shaped.

And then tonight, i tried to talk to her, just to see if she was alrgiht, how life was treating her, and she just said she couldnt talk and she'd talk to me later.

We've always been civil, we always sent texts to each other for our birthdays and christmas, and this year, i sent her one, and she didnt bother replying..

I dont know what i feel, i just feel lost. I feel like im broken.

Nothing means anything anymore because all i want is her. I'f give everything up for her.

out of the handful of gals i've been with she was the one i wanted.

We pictured us getting married, kids. the lot.

We had it all planned out. My life was going to be perfect.

Im just rambling, im sorry, i just needed to say all this stuff to someone, i just miss her so much. And i know shes not comming back.

I supose im feeling all the depression i had before, x10.

She was the only one for me, im never going to find someone as smart, funny and beautiful as her. She was perfect, in every way. It was like i'd written down what i wanted in a woman and she was it.

I've lost the best thing i've ever had in my life.

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look at it this way u dont wanna b tide down cause that wat happends they fuck u up make u depressed and u lose all freedom , i would never get married arghh!! wats the point so u can split up n get divorced and depressed

You guys are right. I've gone two years without her, i supose it's time to move on. I know deep down she's not comming back, it's just yesterday it bought all the feelings back.

My love for her was un-conditional, so i supose i will always think of her, and love her.

But if me and her arnt together, theres no point getting upset over the past. 2 years is a long time, you'd have though i'd have gotton over it by now.

Cheers for the kind words.

I just had tp type it all out instead of thinking about it. Cos i live on me own i have no one to talk to, so this really helped.

I dont think im gunner go looking for a partner just yet though.

dont i tried that b4 u will just feel worse wait till ur head is fixed

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You guys are right. I've gone two years without her, i supose it's time to move on. I know deep down she's not comming back, it's just yesterday it bought all the feelings back.

My love for her was un-conditional, so i supose i will always think of her, and love her.

But if me and her arnt together, theres no point getting upset over the past. 2 years is a long time, you'd have though i'd have gotton over it by now.

Cheers for the kind words.

I just had tp type it all out instead of thinking about it. Cos i live on me own i have no one to talk to, so this really helped.

I dont think im gunner go looking for a partner just yet though.

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Yeah man just chill. The ladies come and go. They come the most when you aren't looking for them.

Look if you wanna feel better it will take some discipline. Im not really the one to talk about this but I promise you it does work. Your addicted to her and you are having withdrawals. The human brain is a funny thing but trust me on this. You need to work-out. Lift weights, do pushups, run in place, anything you can for about 15 minutes and you have to BREAK A SWEAT or its not good enough. Do this twice a day. Be sure to do lots of stretching first and the time used for stretching does not count. Stretch alot and often as possible.

What you will find is you will strengthen your mind; as well as your body. You will begin to feel better after the workouts but it will wear off quickly at first. Don't get discouraged. You will also need to turn off all TV radio, etc, except lights and meditate for another 15 minutes, doesn't have to be right after, can be later that day. Sit in the middle of a room and close your eyes. Make sure it is quite. Sit on the floor with your legs crossed and try to clear your mind. Empty your thoughts and invision you are somewhere else, calm relaxed, on a beach with soft waves rolling in, clear water, soft sand.

Drinks lots of water, and eat less carbs. You will feel better I promise this helps. You might take this as a learning to break up experience. Because most of us don't stay with one person our whole lives. If you love her let her go and try to be happy for her. Shes trying to do what is right for her.

Good Luck. Its never easy.

Everyone has some huge things to regret about their past. Depressed people will lament on them constantly but thinking about them just makes things worse. Youll want your old girl more than ever because now she is something you want but cannot have. Seriously move on now because unfulfilled love can swallow men alive.