Getting the boot for smoking the root

Heres a nice little story for you guys:

Ive been tokin occasionally for the last 3 years and dont see it as being a big deal. My dad busted me twice already and flipped but let it fly by telling me to quit. I didnt quit and now he busted me again (some kid told his dad I was a dealer) Because of this I have to options:

1: Stay home.
-Stop seeing all my friends
-Take drugs tests every so often
-Not allowed to leave unless all the information as to what im doing at what time and stuff is written down beforehand.
-No crashing at my buddies until my dad knows all my new friends and stuff.

2: Move out.


Now if it was just quitting weed, sure I could do that temporarely or even permanetly, its no big deal. Its the friends thing that bothers me. My entire life I have put friends before family because they were more "like" me and understood and stuff. For example, my dad was always an overachiever and I get average grades. I get in shit for having 70% and stuff. So anways I called my cuzin and my dad is talking to her right now. Im moving out to her house or to my buddies (his mom said it was cool).

Essentialy, I'm leaving because I can't be controlled and I can't lose my friends.

Wish me luck!

My gosh, well good luck to you. Hope it works for you.

consider all possible ramifications of your actions.
if you leave w/o your dads permission then you can be called in as a runaway and any house they find you in, the owners could be charged with harboring a runaway (you) and they could get in bg trouble for it.
not trying to be a buzzkill, but if you want some of my advice im going to need a little more info.
how old are you and what state do you live in?
you sound like you might be 14-15-16 years old(?)

Eeeks. This doesn't sound like a good situation at all. Before you take the leap think about this: Someday your friends are going to move away, get married, start families and do their own thing. I don't know how old you are but after you graduate many of them will go off to college and others will beat feet to bigger and better things. Your family, on the other hand, will always be a part of your life. Always....until they die. Ask yourself very seriously who's more important: Your father, who truly loves you, or some friends who may or may not be in your life in the future. Peace and good luck.

I was in the same situation, I just had to deal with the same rules you posted above and 1-2 weeks of them seeing how I was depressed they let me go back out, then I started smoking again and didn't get caught until about 6 months later and they didn't care as much because I had my priorities str8t. Trust me don't let weed make you do stupid decisions. You also mentioned you don't want to lose friends. If there really your friends they should still be there when you are allowed to go back out and chill. Honestly ive lost more pothead friends by chilling with them everyday, either they ended up in jail, moved, rehab, or went off to college.

I have my dads permission to move out, so thats not a problem. And Im 18, I wrote this up real fast so thats why the text isnt all that good. Im going to my cuzins, this is a good enviroment to live in, not a "dope house" as one could call it. I would say that the main reason I am doing this is to give my dad some time to cool off and to think about the situation without having to deal with me everyday. The main reason for his reaction is that my mother is a cocaine addict and went to rehab three times. He puts all drugs in one basket, no matter in what class they truly belong.

This decision really shapes your life and will ultimately be one of the most important decisions of your life. i feel VERY strongly about that. I really feel like you should suck it up and stay with your father and just do what he says for now. If i were giving advice to a close friend in this situation I would tell him to play it cool for a little bit and if your friends mean that much to you when the smoke clears you can attempt to bargain with your dad and see the old friends again... REALLY THINK THIS THROUGH MAN, THIS IS SUCH A BIG THING. Friends move and change but your family will always be there! it sounds like your father really loves you and wants the best for you (after reading the whole coke thing)

I'm gonna go stay there for a bit and see how everything pans out. If after a couple of weeks my father is over it all and ready to take me back, I'l come back home. Otherwise, I'l give him more time.

ok so you're 18 man. My father was the same way while I was in high school. He just wants the best for ya .As Hiproglow said,your family will be with you forever;and you'll graduate soon and all of your lives will change real fast. So basically, put up with his BS about smoking for now. It's worth the wait ,if you do move out , have a job setup before you leave ,believe me..

shitty situation to be in... but....

can you support yourself... can you actually (and legally) support yourself? if not, what other choice do you really have in the matter?

edit: just read you're 18, so the first question still stands, can you support yourself? if not, what choice do you really have in the matter?

That fuckin' sucks, man.

Best of luck, in any case...

I think I will just stay home, deal with this stuff. At least it will force me to bring up my french grade. It will be funny when he asks what made me change my mind.

"A bunch of stoners"

Thx for helping out.

Yay! I'm happy that you made that decision. It won't be easy, you'll have to be patient but in the end you'll be wiser for the wear. Good luck to you and Peace!

I'm glad I have my Liberal parents. Being dutch helps too. :D

Sorry to hear life is shitting on you right now. You have given away all your rights as a human being giving permission to give urine tests every so often. You're 18, time to live your own life if your parents can't accept yours.

That's what I would do anyways. :)

Heres the simple truth: no one looks after you or cares for you more than than your parents.

His house...his rules.....respect that, or hit the road.

Your father doesn't want to raise a loser.
He wants a son who can take care of himself after he's gone.

Being 18 is still a long way to go before you get there and its a lot easier when dad is on your side.

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Originally Posted by Nochowderforyou

I'm glad I have my Liberal parents. Being dutch helps too. :D

Sorry to hear life is shitting on you right now. You have given away all your rights as a human being giving permission to give urine tests every so often. You're 18, time to live your own life if your parents can't accept yours.

That's what I would do anyways. :)

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Sorry, I forgot to add this: Theres no way I'm doing a piss test, ever.

This isnt going to be a "life changing experience" as people are making it out to be. Thats just being over-dramatic and silly :p . Your simply moving out to another family members house because you are not happy where you are at. You could either really enjoy staying at your cousin's house or hate it and move back in with your dad after he has cooled off. Lifes all about experiencing new things and making mistakes and learning from them. I wish you luck though.

Hope everything works out. This happened to my friend and she just decided to move out because she couldn't deal with her parents. And now she can smoke all the bud she wants:jointsmile:

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Originally Posted by big smoke07

This isnt going to be a "life changing experience" as people are making it out to be. Thats just being over-dramatic and silly :p . Your simply moving out to another family members house because you are not happy where you are at. You could either really enjoy staying at your cousin's house or hate it and move back in with your dad after he has cooled off. Lifes all about experiencing new things and making mistakes and learning from them. I wish you luck though.

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BigSmoke,

You're wrong but you wont see that until you have your own child.
What you can not see @ 17 is a child through a father's eyes.
At least not yet.

Its like the pet dog that wants to run into the street.
You know better but do you think your dog cares?
He just wants to run.

What do you do?

Let him run and probably get hit by a car, or protect him from the obvious dangers that he is not aware of?

What do you do?

Thats what a father faces everyday.

Here are a few things that you can never know until you are a parent.
1. No one cares for you more than a parent. Hard to believe I know.
2. A parent is only as happy as their saddest child.

Its not as casual as a sleep over.

I agree but disagree. Alot of people grow up smoking weed and are very succesful in life. I doubt him moving with his cousin at 18 is going to change his life FOREVER.

Each to his own opinion though.