Getting the boot for smoking the root

[Cheebah]

Heres a nice little story for you guys:

Ive been tokin occasionally for the last 3 years and dont see it as being a big deal. My dad busted me twice already and flipped but let it fly by telling me to quit. I didnt quit and now he busted me again (some kid told his dad I was a dealer) Because of this I have to options:

1: Stay home.
-Stop seeing all my friends
-Take drugs tests every so often
-Not allowed to leave unless all the information as to what im doing at what time and stuff is written down beforehand.
-No crashing at my buddies until my dad knows all my new friends and stuff.

2: Move out.


Now if it was just quitting weed, sure I could do that temporarely or even permanetly, its no big deal. Its the friends thing that bothers me. My entire life I have put friends before family because they were more "like" me and understood and stuff. For example, my dad was always an overachiever and I get average grades. I get in shit for having 70% and stuff. So anways I called my cuzin and my dad is talking to her right now. Im moving out to her house or to my buddies (his mom said it was cool).

Essentialy, I'm leaving because I can't be controlled and I can't lose my friends.

Wish me luck!

Cheebah Reviewed by Cheebah on 01-05-2007. Getting the boot for smoking the root Heres a nice little story for you guys: Ive been tokin occasionally for the last 3 years and dont see it as being a big deal. My dad busted me twice already and flipped but let it fly by telling me to quit. I didnt quit and now he busted me again (some kid told his dad I was a dealer) Because of this I have to options: 1: Stay home. -Stop seeing all my friends -Take drugs tests every so often -Not allowed to leave unless all the information as to what im doing at what Rating: 5

[ericwt]

My gosh, well good luck to you. Hope it works for you.

[MastaChronic]

consider all possible ramifications of your actions.
if you leave w/o your dads permission then you can be called in as a runaway and any house they find you in, the owners could be charged with harboring a runaway (you) and they could get in bg trouble for it.
not trying to be a buzzkill, but if you want some of my advice im going to need a little more info.
how old are you and what state do you live in?
you sound like you might be 14-15-16 years old(?)

[HiProGlow]

Eeeks. This doesn't sound like a good situation at all. Before you take the leap think about this: Someday your friends are going to move away, get married, start families and do their own thing. I don't know how old you are but after you graduate many of them will go off to college and others will beat feet to bigger and better things. Your family, on the other hand, will always be a part of your life. Always....until they die. Ask yourself very seriously who's more important: Your father, who truly loves you, or some friends who may or may not be in your life in the future. Peace and good luck.

[cannabisg]

I was in the same situation, I just had to deal with the same rules you posted above and 1-2 weeks of them seeing how I was depressed they let me go back out, then I started smoking again and didn't get caught until about 6 months later and they didn't care as much because I had my priorities str8t. Trust me don't let weed make you do stupid decisions. You also mentioned you don't want to lose friends. If there really your friends they should still be there when you are allowed to go back out and chill. Honestly ive lost more pothead friends by chilling with them everyday, either they ended up in jail, moved, rehab, or went off to college.

[Cheebah]

I have my dads permission to move out, so thats not a problem. And Im 18, I wrote this up real fast so thats why the text isnt all that good. Im going to my cuzins, this is a good enviroment to live in, not a "dope house" as one could call it. I would say that the main reason I am doing this is to give my dad some time to cool off and to think about the situation without having to deal with me everyday. The main reason for his reaction is that my mother is a cocaine addict and went to rehab three times. He puts all drugs in one basket, no matter in what class they truly belong.

[MarzVooolta]

This decision really shapes your life and will ultimately be one of the most important decisions of your life. i feel VERY strongly about that. I really feel like you should suck it up and stay with your father and just do what he says for now. If i were giving advice to a close friend in this situation I would tell him to play it cool for a little bit and if your friends mean that much to you when the smoke clears you can attempt to bargain with your dad and see the old friends again... REALLY THINK THIS THROUGH MAN, THIS IS SUCH A BIG THING. Friends move and change but your family will always be there! it sounds like your father really loves you and wants the best for you (after reading the whole coke thing)

[Cheebah]

I'm gonna go stay there for a bit and see how everything pans out. If after a couple of weeks my father is over it all and ready to take me back, I'l come back home. Otherwise, I'l give him more time.

[Kindbud]

ok so you're 18 man. My father was the same way while I was in high school. He just wants the best for ya .As Hiproglow said,your family will be with you forever;and you'll graduate soon and all of your lives will change real fast. So basically, put up with his BS about smoking for now. It's worth the wait ,if you do move out , have a job setup before you leave ,believe me..

[slipknotpsycho]

shitty situation to be in... but....

can you support yourself... can you actually (and legally) support yourself? if not, what other choice do you really have in the matter?

edit: just read you're 18, so the first question still stands, can you support yourself? if not, what choice do you really have in the matter?