I have no idea where my life is going

let me start out by saying im 19 years old, been out of high school for a year and a half now. Started smoking the ganja my junior year, pretty much been a stoner ever since. Ever since high school ended Ive been completely lost.When high school ended im moved about 45 minutes away up into the mountains, I did it because I needed to get away from the town I lived in for 19 years of my life. it wasnt bad at first, but after a while I started hating it up there, I didnt know anybody up there, so I was pretty much just smoking weed by my lonesome self.well around march I moved back to my old town and moved in with 4 of my best friends from high school. I couldnt wait, I thought things were gonna start going good, life was gonna be fun again. I soon experienced otherwise. Me and my friends arent the same people we were in high school, we dont get along, I dont get along with any of them really. the make me into an outkast because I smoke weed and dont drink beer with them. I really feel like I have nobody. Im a real shy guy, and its not the easiest thing for me to make friends, so ive always just kinda been stuck with the ones I hvae. Ive recently made a decision to go move back in with my parents. Im leaving a good paying job and pretty much all my friends because im so unhappy down here. The funny thing is im leaving because my roomates make such a big deal out of me being a stoner, but once i move back into my old house, I plan on quitting smoking weed. Weed has been great to me, so many wonderful experiences that I cant remember most of, lol. But it has also dont alot of negative to me to. I can tell all the damage it has done to my body and mind, im not nearly as sharp as I used to be, and well, I just dont feel like im on the right path anymore. I really just dont know what to do with my life right now. im moving back home, I have big debts to pay off, i havent even started college yet and ive been out of high school for 1 and a half years. I really just need to clear my mind from all the smoke, straighten alot of things out, get life back on the right track, and finally feel some happiness again. i never thought id grow up to be as stressed out as Iam right now, I feel like my whole like is falling to peices and slowly coming to an end. You know what would make all this better to, it seriously would make me so much happier with my life, its all I really do want. a girlfriend, ive been so lonely for most of my life I cant even put it into words. I just want somebody to be with and be able to take care of. this sounds cheesy as fuck I know, but this is the only place I got to let my feelings out. i hope thing get better for me

im in the same boat as u...except i barley smoke weed...im just extremely lazy...im 19 been outta school for a year and a half and have no motivation what so ever to get a real job...i just float around these bull shit jobs, and sell weed...to cover rent and what not...i feel like im not doing anything with my life and if i keep it up im gonna end up in jail...but lifes a bitch so to say...i dunno whats gonna happen but everyday i wake up im glad to be alive, i guess in the end thats all that matters...

Well, I think you should quit weed first off. Start back up if you'd like once your lifes together. Move in with your parents, get a steady job to get yourself out of debt. Once that happens, or while, go out to clubs and shit - that's a good way to meet people. You have to stop being shy, just try taking to girls and guys, see if they're cool or not.
I guess it's easier said than done but you only live once, so get out there!
I hope this helps, just giving my two cents. I wish you luck:thumbsup: .

first and foremost u have to figure out what you want in life. what do u want to be? where do u want to be? what goals do you have for urself? Those are very important things to consider because if you dont know what you want, you wont know where you need to start in anything.

All you need to do is weigh out ur options and think about what you have to do to start gettin there. You might feel like ur stuck, but ur not there is always an option.

Life is what you make it and trust me you will go from 19 to 25 to 50 before you know it, life just has a funny way if passin us by, now u can either stand there still while it just moves on or u can grab ahold and ride. its all on u.


Good Luck in ur future :)

peace and love Ammie

good luck ;)

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Originally Posted by darthstoner09

let me start out by saying im 19 years old, been out of high school for a year and a half now. Started smoking the ganja my junior year, pretty much been a stoner ever since. Ever since high school ended Ive been completely lost.When high school ended im moved about 45 minutes away up into the mountains, I did it because I needed to get away from the town I lived in for 19 years of my life. it wasnt bad at first, but after a while I started hating it up there, I didnt know anybody up there, so I was pretty much just smoking weed by my lonesome self.well around march I moved back to my old town and moved in with 4 of my best friends from high school. I couldnt wait, I thought things were gonna start going good, life was gonna be fun again. I soon experienced otherwise. Me and my friends arent the same people we were in high school, we dont get along, I dont get along with any of them really. the make me into an outkast because I smoke weed and dont drink beer with them. I really feel like I have nobody. Im a real shy guy, and its not the easiest thing for me to make friends, so ive always just kinda been stuck with the ones I hvae. Ive recently made a decision to go move back in with my parents. Im leaving a good paying job and pretty much all my friends because im so unhappy down here. The funny thing is im leaving because my roomates make such a big deal out of me being a stoner, but once i move back into my old house, I plan on quitting smoking weed. Weed has been great to me, so many wonderful experiences that I cant remember most of, lol. But it has also dont alot of negative to me to. I can tell all the damage it has done to my body and mind, im not nearly as sharp as I used to be, and well, I just dont feel like im on the right path anymore. I really just dont know what to do with my life right now. im moving back home, I have big debts to pay off, i havent even started college yet and ive been out of high school for 1 and a half years. I really just need to clear my mind from all the smoke, straighten alot of things out, get life back on the right track, and finally feel some happiness again. i never thought id grow up to be as stressed out as Iam right now, I feel like my whole like is falling to peices and slowly coming to an end. You know what would make all this better to, it seriously would make me so much happier with my life, its all I really do want. a girlfriend, ive been so lonely for most of my life I cant even put it into words. I just want somebody to be with and be able to take care of. this sounds cheesy as fuck I know, but this is the only place I got to let my feelings out. i hope thing get better for me

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If you dont know where you're going, any road will take you there.:confused: \
\ dai*ma:stoned:

Growing up aint nothing
but all this indecision with these, debts, and doubts, and worries
hanging over my head
when i was a child
i spoke as a child
i wish i could remember
what i said:(

Life is cake, just smoke and do what you gotta do.

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Originally Posted by ChronicMike

Life is cake, just smoke and do what you gotta do.

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lol, I won't take that advice.

I was in the same situation, ive been smoking weed constantley for 7 years, i've been through hell and back. 1, got kicked out my house for being a lazy sod, and not being part of a family, i use to treat my parents house like a hotel, i use to get up in the morning go round a m8s house and just smoke weed all day, and play ps2. |I use to go back home very late about 2, 3 or sometimes 4 in the morning, just stoned out my face. Some days I never even use to see my mum and dad or sisters for a week even though I still came home everyday, one day my mum and dad just had enough, they told me if i want to live under there roof i have to be back home for 10,oclok , i thought feck that i told em i ain't living here no more so i just moved out and moved in with me gf (probably the worst mistake i ever made, moved out my house). she had a single room so it was difficult for the both of us to live there. I use to blaze zoots after zoots and that fecked up my head i didn't know if i was comming or going. I use to smoke on average about 6-7 zoots a day, on a daily basis and i swear it fecked up my head. and then one day i said to myself i'm gonna stop. I tried to stop on previous occasions but couldn't. But this time with pure will power i gave up smoking all together for 2 months. for the first two weeks it was fecking hard, i couldn't sleep coz i'm so use to blazing a zoot before going to sleep but I stuck at it, cold turkey as people call it. but after a 2months break i felt the differnce, i started to think staright put everything into perspective and got my life together. after 3 months i was back on it, and it feels goooood it feels like your first ever zooot. I dn't smoke like a chimney no more, those days are over for me, i smoke about 2-3 zoots daily and thats me.

I think thats what you need to do m8, stop smoking the herb for a couple of months m8, and you will feel like a different person trust me. if your stoned 24/7 you can't think staright and you can't make any realistic goals. for the first two weeks you will feel like shit, sleepness nights and very moody. but after two weeks you will feel fresh and alive again and more importantley healthy.

good luck daima. you can do it m8.

ok guys i can go on and on and on about my life but its too boring so i ain't gonna bother.

this is only my second post and I told you part of of my lifestory to a bunch of strangers. :)

same kinda thing happened to me but not as dramatic. I had been smoking for 5 years maybe, 4/5 yrs. nearly every day. then when i was 16/17 i started 6th form (uk just b4 uni shit) and my life was shit, i didnt kno what i was doin where i wanted to be in life etc etc, hardly went out just sat and smoked. and i knew the weed was to blame. I gave up half way thru 6th form, worked hard, got decent grades now im off to uni soon and only smoke every other day taking 5-6 day breaks now and then (mainly because im skint!).

anyway the point myself and others have already made is definatly try giving up weed for a while at least.

Theres millions just like you and almost everyone goes through this very phase in their 20s, where do I belong? I should be finding the love of my life... Read a book called "Quarter Life Crisis". Entering adulthood will have many lonely times

weed is making u feel worse as ur kinda depressed now its making the emotion feel stronger.

hell yea it is, I know this for a fact and thats why I have to stop. I know millions of people go through this, it pisses me off that so many people have to go through so much bullshit during there lives, when we should be enjoying every possible second of it.Im finishing off my last sack, I probably have a gram left that I will smoke tomorrow and then that will be it for me and weed for a while.thanks everybody for the comments,ill keep ya posted on how things go the next few weeks.

Darthstoner, I feel ya man. I read your post and I would like to offer my perspective. This is my understanding from what you write, ( dont forget Im pretty long winded hehe)
It sounds to me that you are stuck in a cycle that is draining you slowly. That feeling of being lost and wandering without purpose is stemming from your need to feel you are accomplishing something, reaching goals and have asolid place in the world. Well, you do have a place. The first thing I would like you to understand is that you are essential. You do have a role and a purpose even though at this point in your life you dont see it clearly.
Part of it all is your age. You are at that crossroads between youth and manhood and that is a place that is often cloudy. Its a huge change. We get that feeling of being forced out of a comforte that is childhood and into a unknown place. Looking at the owrld around it is easy to wish we could have more time to not have to be part of the group that appears to have so many issues to deal with. So, we escape it as long as we can.
Taking the time off between school and the next major undertaking is natural and normal. Time to relax, live life and gain a new perspective, choose some new goals and take those first steps towards reaching them. Smoking weed isnt necessarily the problem and quitting smoking is not the quick fix. But nobody knows better than you if it is time for you to take a break from it.
But, my opinion is that if you consider yourself a "stoner" then things are kinda out of hand. There is a big difference between smoking marijuana and being a stoner. Being a stoner means you are in a constant state of trying to escape the reality that is yours. And this escaping for so long does take its toll on your body, mind, and spirit. No matter what you use to escape, or how long you do it, there comes a time when you have to open your eyes, tired and red as they may be, and see that your reality is here waiting for you. And, it is getting impatient with you ignoring it.
Moving back with your family is a good move if you feel helpless and irectionless if you will recieve the support and motivation from them.
It will give you an opportunity to get back to the basics and rebuild those basics again.
Your need to have new friends and a girlfriend is natural and healthy but dont expect them to be the solution. The answer to orur problems lay within.
You need some confidance. Some strength of spirit and conviction.
Set yourself some goals. Make some immediate goals and once you accomplish them you will gain this. One step at a time work your way nearer to the person and place you wish to be at. Do some "soul searching" find out who you are and get to know him first. Then you will know what you have to offer and gain confidance to take the initiative to seek new friends with common goals and interests. It is unhelathy to try to force yourself into old relationships simply because they once gave you comfort. You have evolved and so have they . You might fit better with them later on, maybe not.
Not all friends are lifelong friends. Not all paths run parallel forever.
Seek your own path and you will find that with a little faith you will encounter all that you need upon it.
There are some simple yet powerful tools to help you find and adhere to your path. Dreaming , meditating, internal dialogue and journaling are some of them. They help you to learn who you are and be comfortable in your skin and to monitor your own progress on your path.
If you like , email me and I can share some insight and guidance on these things and others.
The most important thing for you to do is know, and love yourself. The rest will follow. Without these key things you will repeat your cycle.
Take care man.

peace.

Helllllo.
If you're wondering about your career, (you should be, imo),
http://www.collegeboard.com/csearch/...eers/profiles/
Detailed descriptions of careers, majors, classes and interests that would help with your descision, etc. It covers basically everything, and is very direct. Once you make a descision about your future, you'll most likely feel better, becuase you have a goal and hope.
Good Luck.

Ahem, time for a famous quote that seems to fit you like leather pants, darthstoner:

~ "SHAKE.THINGS.UP.A.BIT! ~

You need to get into a new routine it sounds like. Maybe get a new job, or get a student loan and go to college? Or start your own fight club? It's all about what you want to achieve.

Ammie had a GREAT post and I just loved this part: "life just has a funny way if passin us by, now u can either stand there still while it just moves on or u can grab ahold and ride. its all on u."

Damia* - also LOVED your poem. So true! I keep reading it over and over again.

If I were you, I'd maybe give college a shot. Think about it. You go off and meet ALL KINDS of new people. That's the only way you're going to meet Mrs. darthstoner now isn't it?

Whenever you smoke the last of your stuff, sit down and think about life.

What it means to you?

What you want out of it?

And so on.

I wish you the best my lost friend.

Peace & Love, always ~

if going back home with your parents is an option, do that

maybe take a break from smoking? i had a bad experience with e a week and a half ago, so im ending my experimenting with all that shit. im even taking a break from smoking weed. tomorrow will be my 4th day. sometimes you gotta change shit up to get a different perspective.

You're being pretty bright for a 19-year-old, honestly. Get your life together first, then blaze. If you stay stoned all day every day, you won't ever get your life together. Anything done to excess is bad, including pot. It took me a long time to figure out that smoking pot IN MODERATION is great, but smoking nonstop day after day, month after month, year after year isn't that great at all.

Set goals, and use pot as a reward for accomplishing them, like Towelie did in that one South Park episode. You could even make it like a game: paycheck = 1 joint, acing a test = 1 joint, getting a degree = 20 joints, whatever. If you tie your smoking to the achieving of goals, and actually stick to it, then the better you're doing, the more you can smoke, which provides extra motivation to succeed, a motivation that non-smokers wouldn't have.

brother dont sweat it because one day this shit will all come to pass.

i think my experience with weed has been very pleasant. when i first started smoking i was an emotional wreck after losing a girlfriend, rebounding with another, losing THAT girlfriend, getting kicked out of my parents house, blah blah. i finally had enough and went off into my own territory. i smoked weed day and night and can literately say i've been stoned for a full year... it really was good therapy for me because it let me put the past in the past and live in the present... and there's nothing better than not dwelling on the past.

you got to understand that life is all about posibilities. think about what you'd want your life to be ideally. then think about what steps you can realistically do to get your life where you want it. it might not be easy but then again it might not always be hard. human beings don't like change cause we're creatures of habitat and routine--so maybe a change is just what is needed so that things will become what you want them to be.

don't sweat the small stuff and it's all small stuff.

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Set goals, and use pot as a reward for accomplishing them, like Towelie did in that one South Park episode. You could even make it like a game: paycheck = 1 joint, acing a test = 1 joint, getting a degree = 20 joints, whatever. If you tie your smoking to the achieving of goals, and actually stick to it, then the better you're doing, the more you can smoke, which provides extra motivation to succeed, a motivation that non-smokers wouldn't have.

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That's the most brilliant idea i've ever heard! I've just now started to grasp this technique... it's kind of like training yourself like one would train a dog with food. If you give a dog a treat after each trick, he learns to associate the trick with the reward. So in the same respect, this technique is called positive reinforcement and it works much better than negative behavior.

If you train yourself in this way, you might find yourself working very hard to complete your goals --if for no other reason , then it permits you to smoke. A true win-win situation:thumbsup:

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Originally Posted by ChronicMike

Life is cake, just smoke and do what you gotta do.

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You're cool.

good cause if you did,,,it wouldn't go that way...

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Originally Posted by weedskunkpot

lol, I won't take that advice.

I was in the same situation, ive been smoking weed constantley for 7 years, i've been through hell and back. 1, got kicked out my house for being a lazy sod, and not being part of a family, i use to treat my parents house like a hotel, i use to get up in the morning go round a m8s house and just smoke weed all day, and play ps2. |I use to go back home very late about 2, 3 or sometimes 4 in the morning, just stoned out my face. Some days I never even use to see my mum and dad or sisters for a week even though I still came home everyday, one day my mum and dad just had enough, they told me if i want to live under there roof i have to be back home for 10,oclok , i thought feck that i told em i ain't living here no more so i just moved out and moved in with me gf (probably the worst mistake i ever made, moved out my house). she had a single room so it was difficult for the both of us to live there. I use to blaze zoots after zoots and that fecked up my head i didn't know if i was comming or going. I use to smoke on average about 6-7 zoots a day, on a daily basis and i swear it fecked up my head. and then one day i said to myself i'm gonna stop. I tried to stop on previous occasions but couldn't. But this time with pure will power i gave up smoking all together for 2 months. for the first two weeks it was fecking hard, i couldn't sleep coz i'm so use to blazing a zoot before going to sleep but I stuck at it, cold turkey as people call it. but after a 2months break i felt the differnce, i started to think staright put everything into perspective and got my life together. after 3 months i was back on it, and it feels goooood it feels like your first ever zooot. I dn't smoke like a chimney no more, those days are over for me, i smoke about 2-3 zoots daily and thats me.

I think thats what you need to do m8, stop smoking the herb for a couple of months m8, and you will feel like a different person trust me. if your stoned 24/7 you can't think staright and you can't make any realistic goals. for the first two weeks you will feel like shit, sleepness nights and very moody. but after two weeks you will feel fresh and alive again and more importantley healthy.

good luck daima. you can do it m8.

ok guys i can go on and on and on about my life but its too boring so i ain't gonna bother.

this is only my second post and I told you part of of my lifestory to a bunch of strangers. :)

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You sound so much like someone I used to know its eerie, going from seven to 3 zoots a day is a drastic lifestyle change, nice one man:D