tired of pleasing myself...

At some point I just need to say this I guess, this is as good as time as any... It has been way too long for me... I am going nuts here. I love my husband and I would never leave him and I would never want to intentionally hurt him... But he is hurting me! I know its not on purpose but this is killing me.. It's the only thing I've been thinking about for days, and when I'm high just forget it. It's like every breath I take is fucking orgasmic.
I can't deal with this it is pure and simple torture. I wonder if anyone has ever wanted it so much as I do right now. I lay awake at night just imagining a man's hands on me gentle and firm~ I am loving it, caressing my neck pulling my hair down on my back on my breast, slowly, on my tummy, softly, back to my breast, mmmm, just imagining it makes me groan with pleasure.
Kiss me let me kiss you
hold me let me hold you
I want you I want you...
in me.
Whisper to me, tell me something softly in my ear. Something, anything, tell me you want me.
I want to nibble on your ear, I want to run my hands through your hair, let me sigh, sigh with pleasure
as I kiss you
kiss your neck
and down
down
kiss you on your body, on your arms on your abs,
kiss you...
everywhere
slide my tongue down your...
I want to savior every bit of you
as you hold me,
hold me.
make me scream silently from within
I want you
I want you inside of
me
tease me, make me beg,
I don't care
I need you.
make me feel like a woman again...

am i really all alone here..?

wow!! down boy, oops too late i've gelled my pants!! Print what u typed and show it any man u fancy a 'quicky' with, it just might work.. heheh

Maybe talk to him about it? Or try introducing some excitement (not saying that it couldn't be already right now, it just seems like it.)

I hope everything gets better for you, dear! Hang in there!

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wow!! down boy, oops too late i've gelled my pants!! Print what u typed and show it any man u fancy a 'quicky' with, it just might work.. heheh

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My sentiments exactly. I don't know what nut of a husband would turn that down!

try telling this to your husband instead of a message board it is probably a little more direct hahaha

Well, if you need help reliving these "symtoms" im more than happy to re-inact what you wrote. .. Damn, its better than porn lol...

Thanks for reading guys.. Jake that's actually great advise.. Believe me I have tried just about Everything... with my hubby though, he's got some issues. and as much as i love him I am at the end of my rope. I don't want to leave him and I feel like such a whore for having these thoughts, but shoot I've got needs you know? I'm only 25, I shouldn't have to deal with this!
And yes suhl, thanks for your 'words of wisdom' but we have talked about this, we have been talking about this for a few years now. So know, I'm just like where do I go from here.

You have to get a divorce, first. I'm in the same situation, except I spent the past five years arguing with my girlfriend, not my wife.

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Thanks for reading guys.. Jake that's actually great advise.. Believe me I have tried just about Everything... with my hubby though, he's got some issues. and as much as i love him I am at the end of my rope. I don't want to leave him and I feel like such a whore for having these thoughts, but shoot I've got needs you know? I'm only 25, I shouldn't have to deal with this!
And yes suhl, thanks for your 'words of wisdom' but we have talked about this, we have been talking about this for a few years now. So know, I'm just like where do I go from here.

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Buy Cosmo or one of those other girly magazines. I know those "101 New Best New Moves" articles are cheesy, but some are awfully creative, too. You need to sneak attack your man. Don't give him a chance to say no. Be waiting for him (with no clothes on and all "hot and bothered" :D) when he gets home from work. Let him try to say no to that...

I will not get a divorce, we have the perfect marriage except for this and we have a child, he is a great dad, I will not split up my family.
Would an occasional 'hook up' really ruin what we have left? I have always looked down on cheating, but I feel that it would be so much worse to leave him...

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Maybe talk to him about it? Or try introducing some excitement (not saying that it couldn't be already right now, it just seems like it.)

I hope everything gets better for you, dear! Hang in there!

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No fuck that

seriously try this it will work, as long as he has a dick it'll work!!

When he gets it from work or what it is that he does next time make sure your playing some slow music, candle lights all that shit etc, wear something sexy and revealing and then the rest is up to you, you can just jump on him if you want to :p it will work

i just had to make the size bigger to get noticed seriously try it lol

Yankeesgirl83, again thanks for th advise but seriously when I say I've tried everything I meant it! Believe me I am Very open minded, including sexually,
This has been going on for a while and it took me some time to realize it wasn't me...

I have no idea, what happened, I guess it has to be something medically? I don't know there are a few years between us as well (he's 14yrs older). We used to have fantastic sex and it slowly became less and less frequent until now it's become nonexistent.. He doesn't smoke, and they have found out so much bad shit on the effects of viagra, we really haven't gone down that road.

I hope, in eight years, I'm not going through the same period of abstinence :what: .

Oh, shit. It's happening now! :cursing:

fuck me and be with him
we dont have to talk or anything

lets just fuck each other till we are tired
and then you can jump out of the king size
bed and go home [[you can say you were horseback riding]
he he asks why you are limping

No, thanks, friendowl. I'm comfortable, here. :o

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Yankeesgirl83, again thanks for th advise but seriously when I say I've tried everything I meant it! Believe me I am Very open minded, including sexually,
This has been going on for a while and it took me some time to realize it wasn't me...

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Hippiegirl... you need to talk to him....its not fare if he doesnt even know he is doing something wrong.

Maybe see a doctor?


I hope all goes well........


hippie is there a chance he is cheating on you? Sorry had to ask.

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Rape him.

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Exactly

and what Bong30 said is good aswell that you should be fair and at least tell him because thats true, its not fair if he doesnt know you doing something wrong

for all you know hes thinking the exact same thing!?

You have to at least talk to him about it

I met a girl one time from out of state.

We hit it off right away. She told me she was single and was just in that state visiting her parents.

After much intense sex over a months time she comes to me one day crying.

'What is it I said"

"I have to tell you something"

"What"

"Im married"

"WHAT"!

That set me back.

At any rate she had similiar complaints as you.

Pent up with so much sexual energy it was too hard to contain.

Needless to say I couldnt become involved in that situation as it was very uncomfortable to be alone at her parent's house while her husband was calling from out of state and arguing about their relationship while I was sitting right there to hear it.

She was very unhappy no doubt.

We parted as friends as she decided to go back and try to make it work.

I never heard from her again.

Bong is absolutely right.

Libido could be way off If there are any of a number of hormones or neurotransmitters that are either too high or even too low.

Strange but, this describes my parents relationship. My mother said, from their early thirties. Hard to understand, especially since my Dad has been involved in high levels of pharmacy for 50 years. Nothing changed, except moms resignation to expect anything.

Yo I live in VA and I am close ENOUGH to 18. If you ever stop by, PM me? :o :thumbsup:


















No BS.....:dance:

Miami Fl here, Holla I got the fira..... Or you can give him what we like to call "hood viagra" = Coke and Alcohol :D

Wait, everyone is giving advice on how to seduce the guy, but what's the problems he is having? Why exactly are you two not having sex? Without knowing that, trying to give advice is like trying to solve a civil war between an alien species.

Where in Virginia do you live, Mr. N?

ARGHHHH!!!

What exactly are u talking about when U have a chat about it (don't answer)? You obviously don't make any progress. You can't just have a chat or a heated debate.. U gotta lay down some shyt in order to get solutions. Tell him exactly what you want and how its going to go as soon as the convo finishes; then ask him if he got a problem with it. Often people say they talk but they just exchange lots of words with only half the emotion and feeling they are feeling. Honesty gotta play a bigger part. My view is totally hypethetical, but it look likes someone is far too relaxed (may as well be unconcious) and I can't figure if its u or him..

I know a man shaggin a woman (not far off ur age) and she is married but she don't have sex with her husband. Long story short, she only staying with her husband for the sake of the children but she is game to wind up in the arms of another who makes her feel special even if its just an hr a day... at 25 ya don't wanna waste ur time wondering (u already know this) if the ole dawg is permanently confined da kennel.

Make him start a thread so we can attack him and see if he turn bottyboy.
(ps get a strap on and try and push it up his bum, this will tell u if he turned into funny guy)

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Wait, everyone is giving advice on how to seduce the guy, but what's the problems he is having? Why exactly are you two not having sex? Without knowing that, trying to give advice is like trying to solve a civil war between an alien species.

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Agreed (errrrrr) am i a hypocrite or does it fit?

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ARGHHHH!!!

What exactly are u talking about when U have a chat about it (don't answer)? You obviously don't make any progress. You can't just have a chat or a heated debate.. U gotta lay down some shyt in order to get solutions. Tell him exactly what you want and how its going to go as soon as the convo finishes; then ask him if he got a problem with it. Often people say they talk but they just exchange lots of words with only half the emotion and feeling they are feeling. Honesty gotta play a bigger part. My view is totally hypethetical, but it look likes someone is far too relaxed (may as well be unconcious) and I can't figure if its u or him..

I know a man shaggin a woman (not far off ur age) and she is married but she don't have sex with her husband. Long story short, she only staying with her husband for the sake of the children but she is game to wind up in the arms of another who makes her feel special even if its just an hr a day... at 25 ya don't wanna waste ur time wondering (u already know this) if the ole dawg is permanently confined da kennel.

Make him start a thread so we can attack him and see if he turn bottyboy.
(ps get a strap on and try and push it up his bum, this will tell u if he turned into funny guy)

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I know a lady who is still married, still lives with her husband, but, sleeps in a different room. They are, only, staying together for their 16 year-old daughter.

Hey guys,
Thanks for all the advice... that pot just knocked me on my ass yesturday, perhaps it was what I mixed it (oops)!
I can't believe I said all this shit though, even if it is just a message board... but yeah, sadly all of it is true. And thanks for the offers guys, but I'm all set with that jail bate ; ) maybe you can call me in a couple years (joking).

I don't know, seriously, since its already out there. Like I said with my hubby I know he loves me, and we've talked. I know if he read this it would break his heart. I have told him, I do tell him everything, but I have actually asked him do you want me to leave you or just cheat.. and he is near tears, what the hell am I supposed to do. For the first year or two I was very patient and understanding but this is crazy, he knows, it's a problem, we've been discussing this for so long. He says he just can't and then he gets embarrassed which just makes it worse but god I just don't know. And he's too embarrassed to go to the doctor. There's only so much patience a girl can have. If it weren't for our son, I would probably be gone by now. But.. I do really want things to work out, I have offered everything I know. He says no to other girls to porn to anything. He won't let me go down on him nothing... It's nuts. and no, I don't believe that he has a gay bone in his body. If he did fine, at least I would have an explanation but no...

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Hey guys, maybe you can call me in a couple years (joking).

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Sorry i kinda skipped around from what I got it sounds like he has got erection problems you can purchase viagra right off the internet with no prescription even cheaper mexico $0.60 a pill. Slip it to him if you have to.

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Sorry i kinda skipped around from what I got it sounds like he has got erection problems you can purchase viagra right off the internet with no prescription even cheaper mexico $0.60 a pill. Slip it to him if you have to.

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She said the health risks are a bit too great...

tell him he has to suck it up and go to a doctor, for his own good. there could be a bigger health issue that this is just a symptom of.

Oh I didn't read the whole thing. That sucks

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Make him start a thread so we can attack him and see if he turn bottyboy.
(ps get a strap on and try and push it up his bum, this will tell u if he turned into funny guy)

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As a bisexual, the last paragraph of your post blatantly offended me.

Please remember, we're a group of people just like any other religion, race, or whatever...

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When I said attack him, I didn't mean rip him about being homo/bi. But I suppose it's too late for appologys, as I could end up digging a nice deep hole for myself. Like the next question could be 'what did u mean?' but I'll end my 49cents worth now, a you've already proved my opinion here to be insensitive.

It sounds less like erection problems than desire problems, right? All sorts of things can affect desire. Conflicted emotions or deep-seated issues. Hormone levels. Men often have that low-desire problem when their testosterone is too low. Might be worth going to the doctor about. Or to a therapist, too, to talk about the issues causing his disinterest.

Lack of desire in men is a fairly common problem and not one to be embarrassed about. Or at least only if it's not something he'll seek help for, which is just silly when there might be help available. If he doesn't get help, as you don't believe in divorce, you're truly not going to be able to stay with him.

Cheating on him just disrespects him and your marriage, and if you consider the sad situation you're cheating on, I'd hope you'd feel awful about that. If you really have to have sex with someone else, get outta that marriage first. Otherwise, take care of your own needs playing solo for a while and strongly encourage him to get some help, explaining that you can't continue like this. Do the honorable thing and address it directly without cheating.

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I know a lady who is still married, still lives with her husband, but, sleeps in a different room. They are, only, staying together for their 16 year-old daughter.

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If more parents did that, if the honeymoon was over, until the child (or children) was grown, the society would be much better. Even if they had lovers on the side, with each others' consent, the child is usually better off than if they got divorced.

I think that the young lady has a right to propose arranging something like this with her husband. This way, nobody "cheats", because they agree on it. There are websites for couples that do this - some husbands actually enjoy watching, or hearing about, their wives' sexual escapades with another man, or multiple men.

Do a google search for Cuckold, Cuckold lifestyle, message boards, websites, stories, videos, etc. Youâ??ll be amazed at what people are doing.

Sounds like he's hiding something. Why is he embarrassed?
Maybe there's something in his past he's not telling you or won't face himself?
What does he mean he... just can't?
Any man can TRY to please a woman.
(COMMUNICATE)
Do you MAKE LOVE in OTHER ways?
Sounds passive/aggressive to me.
Misogenist? (one who hates women)
Madonna/Whore Syndrome?
Why doesn't he want/like sex?
How can you help someone when you don't know what the problems is?
I think he's scared.... of something....anxiety maybe?...... or he's playing you.
Hope it gets better girl the best IS yet to come........................................

Ok.

Your sure he's not into men.
Your sexually available.
No interest in porn or other women.

So it does sound like libido.

Start with the basics.

Sexual libido in men is a complicated loop system involving the flight or fight response, the sympathetic/parasympathetic response between the brain, the liver and sex organs. I cant begin to tell you how important the liver is.

Many internal chemicals are involved.

N.O (nitric oxide), dopamine, acetylcholine, DHT, Prostaglandin E-1/E-2, Human growth hormone, DHEA, Seratonin and the liver P-450 enzyme.

Is he taking any of the following that would interfer with the liver or dopamine.

Statin drugs for the heart.
SSRI antidepression drugs.
NSAIDS i.e. tylenol etc.
ADD/ADHD drugs.

How old is he?

Does he work out intensly. Weight lifter?

Smoke weed? how many years?

Has he had a vasectomy?

Does he take a prostate drug called finisteride?

Does he drink any alcohol at all?

Is he taking ANY other drug, be that street drug or pharm drug?

Overall eating habits, junk food?

Im having second thoughts to have ever responded to this thread in the first place. Wanna know why?

I dont believe you.

I think you are projecting your own lack of interest in your husband and justifying a reason for wanting out of the relationship or his inability to turn you on.

I dont think there is anything at all wrong with your husband sexually like you said and that is why you were being so vague about it.

It very common for a woman to love her man very much yet not want to have sex with him, then project that into him as his problem.

Right or wrong?

The part that gets me is that he won't even let you go down on him. What guy says no to a blowjob... at least on a regular basis?

I agree with RainyDayWoman when she asks... what is he hiding? Are you guys intimate in other ways, both physical and emotional? Have you approached him with your frustration?

Either way, I hope it all works out for you...