Depressed, Heart Broken and Turning to Alcohol

Ok, so as most of you should know, i much prefer a spliff and a few bong hits to getting drunk, but recently my girlfriend said it'd be better if we were friends. I took it pretty hard. Im slowly getting used to the idea of not talking dirty over the phone and not putting "i love you" at the end of Text msgs.

Only problem is im drinking alot more, every day i drink so much i cant stand up, i havnt been to work for a week, and im drinking more than a bottol of whiskey a day. Im still smoking me daily 1/4 but im fucked with the drinking. I think im becomming an alcoholic.

What should i do? Im in peices.

Oh dude!
Im so sorry to hear about this.

Your not stupid, so Im not going to go on about how alcohol isn't going to make things better, only worse....

Just try to keep yourself occupied, start going to the gym if possible...maybe take long walks....just find ways (hobbies) to keep you occupied and keep your mind off her. Try doing somthing you wouldn't normally do!

I dont know what else to say dude,
I wish you the best of luck!!

Take Care
Az.

Cheers man, i think i might start hiking agian, havnt done it in years.

I guess its just a cse of pulling myself together, only problem is its harder to do it then it is to say it.

Find something "deep" that you want to know about, learn about it, then create a final draft for others to read. That slows down your drinking.

Hello Lip

Trust me when I say that hitting the bottle will only compound and extenuate your depression. Actually, I guess that smoking dope during this time doesn't help, but hey, I did it lol

Relationship breakups suck. Mine did, and I've got kids too...I guess that my responsibility to them has stopped me from doing 'something silly'...but it comes close some days...

I wish you luck dude, relationships come and go...and bring the joy and heartache that we all 'suffer', but you must remain constant.

Try to look at this in a positive way (hard to do, I know), but thinking that it wasn't meant to be, and maybe 'the one' is still out there waiting for you to find her...

Res...

cmon lip
dont let a female
run your emotions
getting drunk helps
but after awhile it gets boring
hiking is the best thing ever
find a fine bitch to hike with
and problem solved

girls can damage guys in bad ways
be stronger and tougher than her

You gotta hit a low to want to change,it's seem you might be lucky enough to of hit it... Just put the bottle down and up the weed to a ½ a day...

The best advice is "occupy yur time" even if it means gluing Popsicle stix together...LOLz...

i know what you mean its really hard to not say i love you when she signs off my friend who used to have really strong feelings for me and i still love alot still calls me on the phone every once in a while and i find it so hard not to say i love you before she goes to sleep some times i wait till she falls asleep on the phone and say it to her then cause it feels right

i turned to pot and alcohol too they helped me alot in my time of need the alcohol not so much anymore though now when i drink sometimes i get as depressed as i was then and talk about wanting to die

yeah man exercise is the ticket. no point in becoming an alcoholic, it's just covering your emotions. you gotta deal with them and move on. exercise really helps take your mind off of anything. go to the gym, go on hikes, whatever it is you do. Peace

I'm sorry she broke up with you..but I believe that everything must happen for a reason. Be it good or bad. And turning to alcohol to solve your problems, dont you think that's proving you're pretty..WEAK?! I'm sure you're a lot stronger than this post makes you seem.. . maybe you should prove to yourself that you're better than that. I wish you the best

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Originally Posted by LIP

Cheers man, i think i might start hiking agian, havnt done it in years.

I guess its just a cse of pulling myself together, only problem is its harder to do it then it is to say it.

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Do it dude. Work yourself hard till you have a hard time catching your breath. That will help you a ton. Good luck, bro

do anything. just try to stay strong and busy. I dont know if your ready to or not but go out with the boys and start looking for some girls. good luck

*Opens a bottle of Jack Daniels*

*Pours a shot*

Been there, and stayed! :D

Whiskey's good if you don't over do it, man. Limit your drinking to weekends, and keep toking!

Btw, woman are plentiful; don't let the one determine you emotional state! Easier said than done, but if you think about it, this is a great chance to meet new people, and maybe find a woman better suited for you?

You know, one that digs your style. You're a cool cat, Lip, and I seriously doubt you'll have any problems with the ladies.

:smokin:

No NO not one person said to keep drinking!
Dude you have to keep drinking the whiskey, the more the better!
Fuck your job that chick and everything else in the crazy world!
Only you have the power to totally and completely destroy your life
Hopefully your reading this from a desk of vomit and filth
and that you have given up all hope.
Soon your vision will be blurred and the simple task of standing will be impossible.
that burning your feeling is your liver shutting down and soon all of your other organs will too!
an alcoholic induced coma laying face down for days with no one caring is the only fitting way!
Farewell!

When I was 22 or something, I went out with a girl from Texas...I was still in New Jersey at the time. Things were good for the first year...they were so good that I was trying to figure out how to move to Texas and was looking to go back to college. It finally felt like my life was coming together.

After the first year...I don't know. Maybe it was the distance, maybe we were just in two different 'emotional places' but the relationship started getting rocky. All of a sudden, the life that I had planned was crumbling.

We broke up and my head was really screwed up. I thought I was a failure and that I'd never be able to accomplish anything good in life. I was smoking like a train, drinking like a fish, and fucking like a loose rabbit. I came to realize that I was self medicating myself because of the hurt and that it wasn't doing anything beneficial for me.

Slowly, things calmed down. I went back to drinking on the weekends instead of every night, went back to smoking a bowl or two instead of trying to get through an 1/8 in a night, and I stopped hooking up with females just for sex. I resigned myself to the fact that this particular relationship wasn't meant to be and the best thing I could do was to learn from the mistakes that were made so my next relationship would be even better. And that's what happened...I eventually met who is now my wife and have been happy ever since.

So yeah, it hurts...it hurts like a motherfucker! But, it does get better and the pain does go away. You need to take time for yourself b/c eventually, you're going to meet someone new and you won't be able to give that new relationship the full attention that it deserves unless you let go of the past. Judging by your posts, I surmise that you're going through the natural pain process and you'll bounce back just fine. It's not going to happen overnight...but let it happen at it's own natural pace.

Lip dude i know how you feel man, i been there namy times myself, u just gotta forget about her, spend more time with your friends, their more important than some girl anyway.

I've about given up tryin to find "the one", i've yet to meet a girl who is 100% honest with me (and we guys are the ones who are supposed to lie all the time, pfft, yeah right).

And girls wonder why so much guys ARE actually assholes??? ha... i'll tell ya, its cuzza women in the first place.

Just forget her man, go out, party, have some fun, sleep with whoever you want, drink yeah but drink with friends in a social way.

Peace dude, smoke up, hope it all turns out ok :thumbsup:

I'm stunned that nobody here has offered the advice for you go see a therapist Lip.

At a minimum I would tell you to go to Alanon, thats AA's cousin, if you know someone else that is an alcoholic its for you.

Unlike AA you can do whatever drugs/drinking you want, I've been and I can tell you that it helps beyond belief to be able to get yer shyt out on to others and have help carrying it.

Matter of fact I still go to a Therapist and I more than likely will keep going till I'm more than thru with my divorce.



http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/

Go to this link man, it just might save yer life. Then again if yer not at the bottom yet, what ive typed probably wont mean anything to you.

Whatever you choose good luck to ya man.

The best thing you can do is cut off all contact with her. You can try to be friends all you want, and maybe even suceed, but it'll keep the pain flowing whether you know it or not.

Sorry to hear about your break up, man.
Exercise is good but it must be hard for you to find the energy right now.

If you're going to keep drinking then go hang out at a pub where you can possibly meet someone new and socialize with the natives.

Also, you are drinking an awful lot! You smoke allot, too.

In a couple of months, this will all be a distant, hazey, hazey, hazey memory.

i agree with Florida mon...... LIP, excesize, Turn That Fuel To Fire if ya know what i mean, you can turn negitive energy to positive... Make her come crawling back only so you can say "well I think we still need time or maybe we should just be friends"

Always try to use bad situations to better yourself in the long run, It will make you feel better and more in control of the situation.
Idk just some advice, 1.

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Originally Posted by LIP

Ok, so as most of you should know, i much prefer a spliff and a few bong hits to getting drunk, but recently my girlfriend said it'd be better if we were friends. I took it pretty hard. Im slowly getting used to the idea of not talking dirty over the phone and not putting "i love you" at the end of Text msgs.

Only problem is im drinking alot more, every day i drink so much i cant stand up, i havnt been to work for a week, and im drinking more than a bottol of whiskey a day. Im still smoking me daily 1/4 but im fucked with the drinking. I think im becomming an alcoholic.

What should i do? Im in peices.

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What the fuck is this..................Are you a Fucking Man Or a Mouse? Hit the bottle for a week blow off some steam. Then pull your self up by your boot straps, and go to fucking work.

Ill hit you with the Tough Love....

Get your ass up and go out and do some thing.............

Fuck the bottle...........its OK for a week.. or so, but its not you.


P.S. took me a year to get over my last girl friend.......lol

hang in there LIP

Everyone's who's telling you to lay off the bottle is giving you good advice, LIP. In the long run, alcohol only adds to depression. And in the process it damages your liver, too.

Exercise. Then exercise some more. Smoke in moderation. And start thinking about getting back out there and meeting some other ladies. You may not feel ready to do that, but it is a very good cure for what's ailing you. Take care, and feel better real soon!

hey LIP Im sorry to hear about things. Deffinatly stop drinking. It might even be good to stop smoking for a bit. Alcoholics are the worst. I live with one and its terrible. Sometimes I wish my brother would just die its that bad... You dont want to hurt yourself or others who care about you. Its destroyed my family pretty much so do yourself a favor and dont drink. I hope you feel better.

How ya doing today LIP?

Oh shit, i was wondering why you haven't posted for a while, mate most of us have to go through this some time in our life and it hurts trust me, i been where you are and its the worst pain in the world, i used to dink at least a litre of pure vodka or whiskey a day it makes you feel like things are better but in reality their not and it only makes it worse, and takes longer for you to get over it. You will get over it, it just takes time, time heals everything, being drunk isn't going to help it will just get you more depressed about it lay off the drink and dont touch any more just stick to the weed.

If you dont mind me asking how long were you with her and why did she end it?

The best thing for you to do is (even though its hard) try and take your mind of it, do anything, most importantly work, thats gonna help big time try not to think about it too much because it will just get you more depressed, you know you got it in you to do it, and you obviously deserve better than her.

keep ya head up mate :)

its hard to break up with people, ive been in a serious relation ship, and i had to move away from the girl and told her just to be safe and make sure we werent cheating on each other, maybe we should take a break... that worked for about a week, and i was back with her

but rember this bro, its even harder to get off the bottle then to forget about some one you love. just go get laid, that how i forgot about one of my exs, and fell back in love with my girl, cause one girl gave me hella bad blue balls, and then i rebered how deb had never once in my life givin me bluse balls.

i use to drink, but i gave it up after deb got raped, after i almosted killed a person, and my brother got alcohal posin all while drunk

LIP, fucking save up some pounds mate and fly to Amsterdamn! Get that fucking crazy ass crystal weed that you have put up so many times in the forums. I met some guy out here form the UK and he was talking about that, so know I totally believe that shit is over in amsterdamn...hell yeah bro...upgrade from your 200pound ozs, and get yourself a real OZ of pure crystal weed...otherwise some good MasterKush will do :)

You will then forget about all your sorrow and move on, or simply be up there:thumbsup:

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123 Thought you got banned?

Cheers guys. I went for a hike the other day, well. It took me a good few hours, i cleared my head, smoked a fuck load of weed, and then went to sleep on top of a hill for about 2 hours.

Your all right, driiking wont get me anywhere. I dont know why i started, i hate alcohol.

The worst thing is she called me the other day, and i melted... We ended up having sex over the phone, i was so happy for about 30 mins, then i went back to feeling like shit.

This morning when i woke up, i sat down, smoked a spliff and thought about the good things that i still got.

I supose i just gotta forget...

The only things getting to me is she keeps blowing hot and cold. One minutes she cumming like a train, the next shes saying we gotta leave it.

Cheers for the support guys. And im not drinking no more, i drunk myself outta money lol... At least i still got my weed.

Back to work on monday :)

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Originally Posted by Marlboroman

I'm stunned that nobody here has offered the advice for you go see a therapist Lip.

At a minimum I would tell you to go to Alanon, thats AA's cousin, if you know someone else that is an alcoholic its for you.

Unlike AA you can do whatever drugs/drinking you want, I've been and I can tell you that it helps beyond belief to be able to get yer shyt out on to others and have help carrying it.

Matter of fact I still go to a Therapist and I more than likely will keep going till I'm more than thru with my divorce.



http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/

Go to this link man, it just might save yer life. Then again if yer not at the bottom yet, what ive typed probably wont mean anything to you.

Whatever you choose good luck to ya man.

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Wow! Someone else who's been in Al-Anon! That's awesome!


Anyway, it's really not a good idea to be smoking [pot] and drinking at the same time. One ulitmately sinks you lower and the other brings you up. The combination isn't really a good one.

Just get yourself involved with something like someone else said. I love reading. Pick up a book about Buddhism or something. It makes you think and you won't be so concentrated on the bad stuff. :)

i'll god damn drink a bottle of whiskey and then go back to work the next damn day. it doesn't matter if you are hung-over like fuck and throw up or any damn think like that. i do some very physically demanding shit too, and it damn sure hurts, but if you got to survive then you got to suck it up.

drinking works man, if you want to be in a blurr for a while, but thats the extent of it. sometimes i get mean and shit too, which isn't good for the family you know. i made a committment to keep it under control, which is really the only way to use any substance.

im glad you went on a hike dude, thats cool, nothing like the outside and fresh air to make you realize that these computers are honestly worthless and hold no true value of what really exists in this world.

phone sex is worthless. if shes not good enough to say it to your face then you ought not to let her feed that shit to you over the phone....

im a mean evil bastard once you betray me though.

best of luck, and all you have to do to get through is be a man. and now that you are stay that way, a man has got to work.

Dion

ever think why she's going ,( sex over the phone ...pmsl) how much does that cost for 30 minutes lip is it a premium line and by any chance was ur girl called Honey ???

i think apart from excersise and clearing your mind a good thing would be to hang out with your pals and talk it over and have a good time. theyll cheer you up for sure.