i kissed my best friend last night

yikes, thats the truth. here is what happened:
we were STONED. i was spending the night. i woke up with her face right next to mine. she says to me 'youre pretty when u sleep' (this is the kinda platonic nicery that goes on between us, the standard dishing-out of friendly compliments. i thought nothing of it, so i said 'you looked hot stuff in your new dress today'). next thing i know, she grabs my whole face and just kisses me. a long, long, LONG kiss. no tongue. just lip. im stunned. totally weirded out. so i just do the next best hting and kiss her back. we exchange a few more pecks and a caress or two.we say NOTHING while this goes on. then i roll back over and fall asleep.
it didnt hit me till i woke up this morning. i'm a little freaked out. because i am not sure whether it was sexual or not. i do NOT swing that way, it one of the few things i wont do and i know that she does. madi and i will hug and cuddle like girl-friends do, but this just blew me away. i didnt say a word about it because i am not sure what to think. wtf? i have this scared feeling in the back of my head that this kinda thing will ruin our relationship. madi knows very well that i do not dig other women, but by kissing her back i think i just screwed up the message. i am just not sure what to do. i bitched at her earlier that day because i HATE her boyfriend, and i am not sure if she took that as some kind of hint. was she just stoned? i dont think so cause madi tends to keep her head well above the water. iam just scared.
need some help u guys! what do you think????
p.s. madi is my platonic soulamte and i want to keep our realtionship

This thread is Soooo Hot...

I wud just explain to her how you feel,the friendship will last if it is meant to...

NO ITS NOT!!!!!!!!! jeez u guys, you gotta take me seriosuly. this whole ordeal is just EATING my brain! I GOTTA TALK TO HER SOONER OR LATER

Maybe don't do or say anything right now and just see if she brings it up again. Then if she does, y'all can talk about it. Sounds like it was just a spontaneous moment of sleepy closeness, but if she swings both ways and had stronger feeling about it than you did, it has the potential to throw the dynamics of your close friendship off if she wants things to progress further. Romantic feelings do have a way of throwing a monkey wrench into good friendships, don't they? This happened with a guy friend of mine, and things have never been the same between us. (He felt romantic and I didn't.)

You're in that phase right now where it sounds like you're a little freaked and want to understand what happened and categorize it and maybe file it into some proper category so you can feel like you've dealt with and finished with it. That's why I think you need to take a day or two to sit with it and just fully process it and not rush in there and say something that would potentially hurt her feelings or damage your friendship. Does that make sense?

First) Take a chill pill

Second)Tell her how you feel.

Was this video taped?

Guys can be such dips!!!

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Maybe don't do or say anything right now and just see if she brings it up again. Then if she does, y'all can talk about it. Sounds like it was just a spontaneous moment of sleepy closeness, but if she swings both ways and had stronger feeling about it than you did, it has the potential to throw the dynamics of your close friendship off if she wants things to progress further. Romantic feelings do have a way of throwing a monkey wrench into good friendships, don't they? This happened with a guy friend of mine, and things have never been the same between us. (He felt romantic and I didn't.)

You're in that phase right now where it sounds like you're a little freaked and want to understand what happened and categorize it and maybe file it into some proper category so you can feel like you've dealt with and finished with it. That's why I think you need to take a day or two to sit with it and just fully process it and not rush in there and say something that would potentially hurt her feelings or damage your friendship. Does that make sense?

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makes perfect sense. the problem is, ill be leaving the country for one month in 4 days. i am kinda rushed for time and i dont wanna just abandon this little incident liek it never happened. maybe it was sleepy closeness, i dont know. im just worried it will hurt our relationship. i feel like madi is a good listener and appreciates my opinion but sometimes she has a very skewed way of looking at things

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makes perfect sense. the problem is, ill be leaving the country for one month in 4 days. i am kinda rushed for time and i dont wanna just abandon this little incident liek it never happened. maybe it was sleepy closeness, i dont know. im just worried it will hurt our relationship. i feel like madi is a good listener and appreciates my opinion but sometimes she has a very skewed way of looking at things

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That's right! Are you the one who's going to Spain?

Yikes, that does change things a bit. Well, then just talk to her and see where her head is and tell her you love and adore her and don't want to do anything at all to hurt your friendship and that at the same time you're not sure how you feel about what happened and don't think you share bi feelings. Just because you're going away doesn't mean you have to resolve everything immediately. I sorta wonder if while you're gone things won't simply resolve themselves. Tell her you'll bring her a good souvenir!!!

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Guys can be such dips!!!

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Please.............. we are 100% dips. what about the video?


Bizz
Are you sure she doesnt want more than you?

If yes.....do you want to be bisexual? might be good move?? i cant answer for you.


If no.... maybe it was just a "once" thing.

You need to talk to her..............imho



Now, if I was was you, and not married with a wife and 2 kids,

I WOULD PUT MY TRACK SHOES ON, AND TAKE A RUN AT THAT

Right back to birdgirls observation......dips :D

bizzle where are you going?

iloveyou

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That's right! Are you the one who's going to Spain?

Tell her you'll bring her a good souvenir!!!

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OMG the jokes could roll on forever..............

You're a bad BOY, Bong! And a very goofy one. Nonetheless, I must say I do enjoy your silliness immensely!!!

I wud Def not go with Birds advice here,tell her exactly how you feel"Now",thats what friends are for!!!

Well, there wasn't any tongue.. :p
Think of it like Who Framed Roger Rabbit. Just a big fat "Thank you for being such a wonderful person" kiss.
I have a best friend (however she's female) and this kind of thing goes on all the time... She has a boyfriend too, but he's totally understandable of our platonic closeness.
You never know though... One night... after a few shots... things get a little hot... Your perspective might change. But if you're truly as close to her as you say you are, nothing should change your foreverfriendship.
Peace, havva nice trip. :)

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You're a bad BOY, Bong! And a very goofy one. Nonetheless, I must say I do enjoy your silliness immensely!!!

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Thank you BG..... i have been in a good mood latley, and smoking this weed called Avalon, and it makes me silly.



Bizzle... what are you going to do?
























when are you going to do it? sorry im so bad.;)

Eating your BRAIN!!!

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EATING my brain!

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That's funny, bizzle. I thought you would have used another piece of anatomy.

Way to go. :clap:

At least, you can say that you've done it.

I've been in the same situation many times

my suggestion is to let it cool off for a couple of days to a week, and then when the timing is right to explain how you feel

lay it out gently

if the friendship is strong enough then it will be fine

my best friend used to be in love with me and she was lesbian, and well one drunken endeavor almost destroyed a 10 year friendship, but then I just explained myself in a calm manner and all was forgiven and its like nothing ever happened

omfgiloveweedihavetochangemypantsnow *twitch, twitch*

:dance: :dance: :dance:

What's Avalon, Bong? I've never even heard of that. . .

Kryzco

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lay it out gently

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beachguy in thongs

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That's funny, bizzle. I thought you would have used another piece of anatomy.

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i though i was bad

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What's Avalon, Bong? I've never even heard of that. . .

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It is blueberry, afgani cross............OMG wicked

I've always found it was best to be up front with people especially ones you care about....if your bothered by it only two ways to get over it, talk about it or ignore it.

I think you know which option is best. Good Luck.

okay so i am thinking about asking her what she meant that kiss to be. THEN i will tell her that even tho i love her like a sister, i just cant put myself inn a sexual relationship with her, it would be too awkward first of all and i just cant bring myself to do anything like that to her or any woman. i think it would hurt our relationship more than it would do good.

what i find so strange is how we hung out for maybe 4 hours that morning and the whole time, WE SAID NOTHING about it. nothing. maybe she doesnt even remember... it was like 4am and we were pretty burnt out from a whole day of walking in the woods and toking....i'm confused. madi is usually the type to say something i she was uncomfortable....maybe she just wants to give me time to think it over, maybe the whole thing was calculated...maybe it was total random girliness blown out of proportion. i am almost scared to approach her. like i said, its eating my BRAIN (yes, brain)

We need pics to see if your making the right decision.

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We need pics to see if your making the right decision.

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Yes, pictures would help :).

yes, dips most definetly. but u gotta luv em

Aint nuthin wrong with girls kissing in my opinion. It aint the end of the world being a lesbian.

i love death cab for cuties soul meets body :D

You seem pretty scared of approaching her because of what the outcome is going to be but like alot of people said here if the friendship is strong enough this shouldnt be an issue.

I'm just curious why you kissed her back in the first place?
Perhaps she was doing what you were doing and kissed. Maybe you two feel the exact same way and is waiting for the other to approach about the situation. And maybe you guys feel the same way about the kiss. I say you just approach her, unless you're going to wait for her to approach you first.
I think its going to turn out fine, you guys seem like pretty close friends. I mean cmon you kissed.
My fingers are crossed for you. Good luck Bizzle.

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yikes, thats the truth. here is what happened:
we were STONED. i was spending the night. i woke up with her face right next to mine. she says to me 'youre pretty when u sleep' (this is the kinda platonic nicery that goes on between us, the standard dishing-out of friendly compliments. i thought nothing of it, so i said 'you looked hot stuff in your new dress today'). next thing i know, she grabs my whole face and just kisses me. a long, long, LONG kiss. no tongue. just lip. im stunned. totally weirded out. so i just do the next best hting and kiss her back. we exchange a few more pecks and a caress or two.we say NOTHING while this goes on. then i roll back over and fall asleep.
it didnt hit me till i woke up this morning. i'm a little freaked out. because i am not sure whether it was sexual or not. i do NOT swing that way, it one of the few things i wont do and i know that she does. madi and i will hug and cuddle like girl-friends do, but this just blew me away. i didnt say a word about it because i am not sure what to think. wtf? i have this scared feeling in the back of my head that this kinda thing will ruin our relationship. madi knows very well that i do not dig other women, but by kissing her back i think i just screwed up the message. i am just not sure what to do. i bitched at her earlier that day because i HATE her boyfriend, and i am not sure if she took that as some kind of hint. was she just stoned? i dont think so cause madi tends to keep her head well above the water. iam just scared.
need some help u guys! what do you think????
p.s. madi is my platonic soulamte and i want to keep our realtionship

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your only choice is to talk to her and tell her how you feel about the situation, if it goes 'untended' she will more than likely get the idea in her head that it's ok by you, thus she's going to build a whole relationship in her head that's not even there and when it all finally comes to light she will more than likely be devestated, or atleast highly upset, upset you don't want her that way, upset you mis-lead her, upset that you didn't say something at the time, upset that she feels like an idiot... yea talk to her, and do it ASAP, the longer you go without doing, the more chance your friendship will be completely ruined by the whole thing...

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I'm just curious why you kissed her back in the first place?

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good question... i never really asked myself that. i think it was just knee-jerk reaction. honestly, i am as far from bisexual/gay as possible.(i seriously doubt i have any sexual feeling stowards her.) my mom is gay, its a very awkward thing for me. kinda scary.but it happened n a matter of 30 seconds..i kinda went for the ride there

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good question... i never really asked myself that. i think it was just knee-jerk reaction. honestly, i am as far from bisexual/gay as possible.(i seriously doubt i have any sexual feeling stowards her.) my mom is gay, its a very awkward thing for me. kinda scary.but it happened n a matter of 30 seconds..i kinda went for the ride there

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I dont think it was any of those, I just think you were high and it was just something that happened. Strange (and very interesting) things happens to me when I'm around enough people when I'm blown-out-of-my-mind high. So I wouldnt feel strange or different if I were you, just be careful that the mood isnt too...uhh...deep when your high with your friend next time lol.

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good question... i never really asked myself that. i think it was just knee-jerk reaction. honestly, i am as far from bisexual/gay as possible.(i seriously doubt i have any sexual feeling stowards her.) my mom is gay, its a very awkward thing for me. kinda scary.but it happened n a matter of 30 seconds..i kinda went for the ride there

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Well you did say you were both stoned.. so umm im thinking since alot of things tend make alot sense when you're high, maybe it made sense to you to kiss back but of course there is no proper reason to why it made sense, except only because you were high? But that leaves us with no solution except to talk to her. Do it Bizzle talk to her you can do it!

i luv all of u guys, so supportive

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i luv all of u guys, so supportive

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Was I very supportive? :)

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good question... i never really asked myself that. i think it was just knee-jerk reaction. honestly, i am as far from bisexual/gay as possible.(i seriously doubt i have any sexual feeling stowards her.) my mom is gay, its a very awkward thing for me. kinda scary.but it happened n a matter of 30 seconds..i kinda went for the ride there

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That may be a big part of why this whole situation is so upsetting to you. Society conditions everybody to be "gay" "strait" or "bi", but really we probably all have the potential for any. I heard in some ancient Roman armies they encouraged the men to have sexual relationships with each other, and it drastically increased combat performance and bravery because they felt they had to look out for each other, due to the emotional attachement. I really think when considering whether or not we're "gay" or "strait", we all need to seriously consider if either is such a terrible thing, and if our repelled response to an opposite sexual preferrence is really so disturbing, or the result of deep-seated societal conditioning.

send her some flowers with a simple, "see ya soon...love, <name>" and leave it at that. short n sweet but leaves her plenty of room, well, both of you plenty of room yet shows her you're interested in taking it further and you have class...
nothing fancy, just a few roses (3 means love and yellow or salmon pink are always a hot choice) in a simple vase...to send more at this time may appear like you're trying too hard and it'll show her you have taste and common sense!

good luck...and yes, it probably will affect your platonic relationship but a mature conversation AFTER you return will clear up everything and the month apart couldn't be better at this time!

that's what i'd do if it were me in your shoes...

oops, guess i overlooked the part about biz being a grrrl...lol

but it still oughtta work...lol

You need to kiss her again and see what
happens this is the only way you can
truly test the freindship.
THIS TIME TAKE PICS

Ah, does anyone have a towel?

all kidding aside, surely this friend of yours thinks of you as more than a friend. High or not, something made her do it, whether she knew it or not. It sounds like one of those subconscious things that people sometimes do without even realizing. Obviously you need to talk with her, and hopefully things will be the same for you two. Good luck with that and have fun in Spain!