Help with Life Crisis...

hey everyone. this is a thread asking for help..

im sure many if not all of you have experienced a time when everything is gone, and you have nothing, and no one to turn to.

My girlfriend of 2 years whom i love very very much, broke up with me because A.) shes interested in other guys, and B.) because my drug use was affecting our relationship.

on top of that, my job that i had which paid very well with great work said that they ran out of work for me to do so April 15th is my last day.

all my friends went to college out of state and i go to a Technical College where everyone is a lot older than i am so i dont make friends.

im not suicidal or anything. im just very very down and feeling hopeless.

does anyone have any suggestions on a pick-me-up?

im contemplating going away to a different state college and sort of starting over. going to the dorms to meet new people and stuff.. but im not too crazy about the idea.. just somewhat of an option i brewed up..

I am in a similar situation. This is what I did:

I grew a big scary beard and all I do is lift weights and curse under my breath.

Life is simple.

Das Boot that was hilarious

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Originally Posted by kryptonite420

Get a new job, get a new chick, get some new friends and smoke more.

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i wish it was that easy... but im afraid ill turn to alcohol or substance abuse. which im definitly not into,, thats why im trying to solve my problem as quick as i can.

haha i wish it was as simple..

but it is true that being sober is quite different in the mind than getting high every day... i just cant make any rash decisions..

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Originally Posted by kryptonite420

Come on man hit this blunt and let your problems go up in smoke.

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...temporarily


hmmm justin, you're not an idiot so you can figure this out. i would look for events and other things that may interest you and go there and meet other people who are also interested in it. all you really need to do is make 1 friend and then meet all of his or her friends and you're in!

it can be very tough though... if it doesnt work out i would definitely go to college. it's an amazing experience.

is there anyone down south near the desert that i could live with?

believe me im cool with everything...

im 19. into anything. but mostly peace and chaos.

i know they dont go hand in hand.
but run with me.

Tough to give you any specific advice on what to do because we don't know enough about your situation. I will tell you, however, to just hang in there and take things one day at a time. A few years from now today will just be a distant memory. I've been through so many weird and bizarre periods in my life, times that seemed hopeless, and now I'm totally happy. The other thing I can say is that if you want to make things better YOU have to make them better. Don't expect anyone else to do it for you. Even if they help you out its still going to be up to you to make it happen.

im thinking though. maybe this is my door.

maybe this is what i need to do.

i need to start my journey

but at the same time im torn by physical emotion.

damn...

the thing is. im a firm believer in Jim Morrison. i believe he was the most "right" figure the world has known.

i find myself following him.
ive never wanted to get old.

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Originally Posted by Das Boot

I am in a similar situation. This is what I did:

I grew a big scary beard and all I do is lift weights and curse under my breath.

Life is simple.

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That had me laughing for about a minute. lol


And to Justin, just hang in there man. You never know what the tide will bring (to quote Castaway, lol)

the bottom line is this though..

if i dont get back together with my girlfriend.. i will become a wanderer.

something people rarely become. but ifeel a great urge

Don't drink, do something physical. Go running with some music, thats a better way to let your anger/depression out.

It will make you feel better too, trust me.

May want to wait till your sober though

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Originally Posted by justinsane

hey everyone. this is a thread asking for help..

im sure many if not all of you have experienced a time when everything is gone, and you have nothing, and no one to turn to.

My girlfriend of 2 years whom i love very very much, broke up with me because A.) shes interested in other guys, and B.) because my drug use was affecting our relationship.

on top of that, my job that i had which paid very well with great work said that they ran out of work for me to do so April 15th is my last day.

all my friends went to college out of state and i go to a Technical College where everyone is a lot older than i am so i dont make friends.

im not suicidal or anything. im just very very down and feeling hopeless.

does anyone have any suggestions on a pick-me-up?

im contemplating going away to a different state college and sort of starting over. going to the dorms to meet new people and stuff.. but im not too crazy about the idea.. just somewhat of an option i brewed up..

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Hey....I am going to give you something to live by....THERE IS ALWAYS SOMEONE IN THIS WORLD THAT HAS IT WORSE OFF THAN YOU. Keep your head up.

i just cant cope and dont feel like i can.

I wouldn't call this a life crisis, I would call thisa LIFE.

That is life man. Freinds come, friends go, girlfriends come, they go, jobs come, they go. Everyone goes through this and you will get over it.

Find new friends
Move on to other girls because she has moved on
Find a new job

There. I have lost all my friends because I choose not to drink anymore. I've lost girlfriends, found new ones. And I've done about a million jobs, and I get a new one.

This isn't that bad. Just a slight bump in the road. You'll get through it, but don't sit there are dwell on these things or you'll drive yourself crazy.

Good luck.

Peace.

Quit using drugs. If it's affecting your relationship with the girl you love in a negative way, it's not worth it. Duh.

I don't know your situation but I would suggest if you are feeling down try getting in to some physical activity. For me rock climbing is where it is at and if you are a stoner and fairly in shape you will love it. Don't ask me why but nearly every climber I know does or used to smoke weed, they seem to go hand in hand. If you get into it you will get loads of cool friends and have something that will become an important thing in your life. It is also seems to stop people (me and mates at least) going over board on the chemical pleasures. :rasta:
If the above sounds like a shit idea how about having a year off college and going travelling. If you want to go travelling it gets harder and harder as you get older.;)

my gurl broke up with me because i smoke but the way i view it is there are too many gurls out there to worry bout one.

I say sit back and realize what you had, not what you lost. Your LIFE WILL get BETTER, this is a low point, may seem like a bad but it can only get better.

i havent used any substance in like 2 weeks. i dont feel the need for it plus i know i shouldnt do it because my mindset is too negative to have a good time..

i know that it should get better, but i dont have any options.

edit: yeah, i realized how shitty my reply sounded and all i can tell ya to do is to find a job if you really need one and meet some new people. and as for the girl, fuck her dude. :rasta:

hey man if you really feel the urge to become a wanderer then i think you should. maybe this is your chance to start living and do what you are meant to do. and as for the desert, cant help you there but it sounds like a great place to seach for your life

Man i feel exactly the same, all my friends are being douches right now and my gf who im not even sure if we are together anymore is being a bitch and i love her alot. I think we should buy a ranch in cali and start a comune and all of us live as a family like the manson family minus the helter skelter business. That would be kickass.

my girl is comin by soon to let me know whats up..

here we go...

Becoming a wanderer is not a bad idea, I know I will be soon, this summer hopefully. I've already sold most of my possesions and let me tell you, it feels nice to let go of all those things. The only problem is that I'm a girl and travelling alone probably isn't the safest thing to do, but if I have to I will.


If you are seriously thinking about wandering you should check out www.couchsurfing.com Its a community of people who let you sleep on their couches, give you a place to stay, friendly conversation and a nice meal. The network is HUGE so no matter where you go, there will always be someone with a couch they are willing to let you sleep on.

looks like we wont be getting back together. she completely ignores me...

its so hard to have her as the biggest and best part of my life and then she suddenly abandons me and never speaks to me again..

as for the wanderer thing. i was mildly intoxicated..... which is unfortunatly my only medicine when im alone...

part of me really wants to. but i know that its very far-fetched..

Hey man, just chill for awhile!!! You seem like a decent kid with a good head, things will work out. Life always seems more fucked up than it is at your age. Take a hard look at this girl and decide if it is really worth it, my first real love wound up leaving me, broke my heart!!! Now I'm married, happy, and successful (by most standards) she unfortunately is now a prostitute.
Man, I really lost out on that one!!!..LOL

i had a shitty day too man. dude to be blunt with you.....i stay away from women. they're annoying, expensive, and just cause too much bullshit. if something happens, they tell all their fucken friends than you have like 10 people hating you or else they stalk you. hogwash i say!! jesus christ what the fuck!! thank god i'll be single and smoking chronic the rest of my life. sex is pointless to me as it holds no relevance to me anymore. its just a physical urge. weed reveals my mind.

oh and i am suicidal. runs in my family. i would love to die actually and go back with god. i hate life here. death is the illusion and where life truly begins. this realm is just here so we can evolve more.....but its still an illusion.

as long as your single, your pockets shall jingle.

Why not take back what it's taking from you?
I would say that I'm in a pretty shitty living situation right now, if I've got nothing to loose...because really I pretty much have nothing besides a bank account, then why not just train hop and listen to stories of hobos and drop acid in the desert?! Wandering is the best way to get as many experiances into the little span of time we call life.

It was Bob Dylan who said "When you got nothin, you got nothin to lose."

i do believe this. and would love to be a wanderer.. but im young, only 19.

i do want to die young because i dont see joy after a certain point i think....

so id be a wanderer... but theres only so much for a youngin like me to get my hands on before im cashed ya know? then ill be back home facing the same shit... or maybe not... i wouldnt know

Ahh!!
Why do you think so negatively??
I'm only 18 and I'm starting this journey in a few months. Besides the little money I have, I am depending on people's kindness to get me to places.

Did you take a look at the site?

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Originally Posted by thebathroom

Ahh!!
Why do you think so negatively??
I'm only 18 and I'm starting this journey in a few months. Besides the little money I have, I am depending on people's kindness to get me to places.

Did you take a look at the site?

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im usually a very positive person. but i cant help but be negative lately as i dont see a light

Well it's understandable because you just broke up with your girlfriend. It's going to be shitty for a while.

If you need someone to talk to I can give you my msn... I have a lot of ideas up my sleeve, not all practical, but worth a try. I hope you get out of this.

i would like your msn if you dont mind.. i dont really have anyone to talk to about this....

ok its

silent[_]film[_]starr[_] at
hot mail dot com.


sorry for the sillyness, I don't want anyone to find my address, but [_] means underscore.

just think of all the positive things you take for granted about your life. you have your eyesight, get out tomorrow and look at something beautiful. you have the gift of being able to walk (two good legs) which is more than some people have. just to be able to breathe deeply and appreciate the fact that youre ALIVE is sometimes enough. returning to the concrete reality of the body can feel amazingly good if you have a chance to calm it down.

most of the chance circumstances that make up your life at any given time are mostly in your head. instead of defining your life in terms of girlfriend/no girlfriend, job/no job, etc, just look at where you really are right now, in your physical body and in a certain physical environment, just feel what it is to be alive without judging it. this is a moment you will never get back again, and although its scary to think about the future and security and so on, you are every bit as alive as you will ever be. if you have the chance at each moment to decide whether youre going to make your life as you live it a living hell or a living heaven, i might see what it feels like just to feel good about that freedom even if there's no external reason to look at it that way.

dont worry if this doesnt work right away. just notice how you feel and be aware of it, and realize that every moment in life has this element of choice. i realize this doesnt help you actually get your gf or your job back, and those kind of problems will not go away instantly, but life always has so much to offer in the most unlikely places. the things that bring you joy will not be expected, so dont try to plan it.

like i said i know this doesnt SOLVE the problem but puts it in another light, and i can't help feeling that there is something very true about this advice, it has helped me many times in the past.

i hope you're feeling well enough to be kind to yourself; the worst thing about depression is feeling like you dont deserve happiness. but you do, always, and i hope this helps a little bit. i hope im making some sense.

this is day 5 and its only gotton worse. i fell asleep at 12:00 and woke up at 3:30.

i just cant control my mind right now.

i sorta feel like that right now...sudden bouts of depression and hopelessness..im in college too, and all my friends moved away to bigger cities and better things. i feel like a loser sometimes even though im in college too, and what makes it worse is that they make fun of me for staying home and going to the local university. and i also dont have any friends at school. but i say to myself everyday that things are gonna get better, this is just a period and it will end soon. and it is getting better, this is my 4th semester at college and this is the first one where i actually enjoyed going to school, and i actually have someone to hang out with in between classes and eat lunch with. i used to eat lunch alone every single day in my past three semesters, thats when i would be so depressed i would want to cry. ive started excersising regularly, and cut down on the bud, i just smoke on weekends. its great.