overwhelming rage and anger

do any of you suffer from uncontrollable anger.
i am a mellow easy going guy.
for some reason people always let me down.
after many years of being let down by friends,family,co-workers,strangers
i have developed this hatred.
i get angry very quickly and when im upset i feel like i can hurt someone real bad.then when im calm and think about what i couldve done i feel worried cuz i cant stop the rage.what are some things i can do to calm me down.weed helps alot but sometimes it just dosnt.

for example.
i was driving this weekend.the car in front of me was turning left so was i.as the cas turned the corner all of a sudden it stops.i brake hard and honk my horn.some lady with her teenage daughter flips me off.i get mad but fuck it ill go around.as i do i look at the lady and she tells me fuckin asshole and flips me off again.i flip her off tell her fuck you bitch and drive on.about a block later im at a red light.she pulls up next to me and tells me what the fuck are you gonna do she keeps talking shit so i put my car in park and its the middle of the big street.i go to her window and shes talking real bad shit you fucking bitch you fucking asshole this and that.i socked that bitch in her head and was trying to pull her out of the window.shes screaming now cuz im insane.
i see her daughter run from the car and all kinds of people were watching.
i told her talk shit now bitch but she was terrified.i let her go and ran to my car and split.i dont feel bad cuz she provoked me good but i coulda killed her easily and that scared me.i need to get out of this city

Therapy helps

I've been many times due to anger and other reasons but it helped me

yeah but they are gonna tell me what i already figured out.
i heard about an experiment they did with rats.
they put a bunch of rats together in a confined space to live.
rats were a lil agressive being around the others.then they added more rats to the same space and they started to fight and kill each other.too many rats in too lil a space.i feel like one of the rats

I don't suffer from uncontrollable anger, I can control it, but when I do lose it, I lose it hard :)

Therepy has helped me a bit, plus, the realization that stupid people will remain everywhere in our streets, and getting mad about it over and over again, over shit that will never change...will drive a person insane and get them into trouble. I realized getting mad at dumb people is pointless, and their stupidity is punishment enough.

Take up some fighting classes. I use to get in fights every weekend at the bars and I'd end up in the think (drunk) tank. Doc. told me to get a creative outlet for my anger, so I took up kickboxing. Now every Thurs. night is my release night and I get my ass kicked, and kick some ass :thumbsup:

Get a punching bag or something. Punching shit helps sometimes, but anger shouldn't control your life either. Find out why you're so angry, and start to fix that problem.

Good luck!

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Originally Posted by Nochowderforyou

I don't suffer from uncontrollable anger, I can control it, but when I do lose it, I lose it hard :)

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Same here. I have an EXTREMELY bad temper and attitude but I have learned to keep it mostly under control. There are times when someone just hits that certain spot and I completley lose it. I have gotten so mad before that I blacked out and didnt remember fighting the kid.

I have the same problem with other drivers friendowl, just yesterday this asshole pulled out in front of me and I had to hit the brakes so hard I locked up ALL FOUR tires! Ended up exchanging a few *compliments* ;) and drove on. I dont know about jumping out in the middle of the road and punching a chick in the face tho. Just try and keep your anger from getting you killed or put in jail. :thumbsup:

Yea I do but its more directed at society and life...not individual people...its kinda depressing.
But hey....what can you do.
:)

Yea I lose it all the time, I went to anger management for a while, I noticed though the majority of the time I lose it is when I'm drunk, I've blacked out a few times aswell not knowing what I was doing, not even thinking, doing some pretty crazy things, but I've noticed also that it never happens when I'm stoned.

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Originally Posted by Nochowderforyou

I don't suffer from uncontrollable anger, I can control it, but when I do lose it, I lose it hard :)

Therepy has helped me a bit, plus, the realization that stupid people will remain everywhere in our streets, and getting mad about it over and over again, over shit that will never change...will drive a person insane and get them into trouble. I realized getting mad at dumb people is pointless, and their stupidity is punishment enough.

Take up some fighting classes. I use to get in fights every weekend at the bars and I'd end up in the think (drunk) tank. Doc. told me to get a creative outlet for my anger, so I took up kickboxing. Now every Thurs. night is my release night and I get my ass kicked, and kick some ass :thumbsup:

Get a punching bag or something. Punching shit helps sometimes, but anger shouldn't control your life either. Find out why you're so angry, and start to fix that problem.

Good luck!

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good advice nochowder,i do boxing,i go twice a week,and i must say getting my ass kicked is very humbleing :) but it's also fun hitting other people,hard.

i'm very easy going and don't have anger problems for the most part,i have totaly lost it before,i feel like i could rip someones throat out or smash their forehead in.but that only last for about 5 minutes then i pretty much get it under control,i'm still increadably pissedbut under control,for those five minutes i just leave the room.seems like men just have uncontrolable rage sometimes,women too but just not in the same fassion.

friendowl, the shit ain't going to disappear. you can't control life, but you prob know that better than me. only thing you can do is find the quiet place away from the cramped rats. pls don't consider it as BS but if you find some way to relax the rage will dissolve. i'm not saying you should forget about all your issues, but in you put it in a wider perspective.. man nothing can touch you. focus on the things you love most, you'll find that if your mind gets back at ease.

yeah, you could also buy cheap large broken stuff and smash the crap out of it. works too. or go one-on-one with the neighbour's dog.

i do. one time at lunch my friend lokingly took my gatorade. and i fuckin flipped out and threw my milk against the wall and ketchup broke my tray over the table and poured gatorade all over the floor. everyone stopped talking and was like wtf is wrong with him, anyway just put the gun down for a minute and pick up the bong its not a new method. peace

i definitly know where friendowl is coming from

hitting things helps, i have a cheap thin plywood door that i love putting my fist thru when things get bad, hitting broken appliances with metal bats releaves alot too, well hitting anything witha bat really... :D

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Originally Posted by friendowl

do any of you suffer from uncontrollable anger.
i am a mellow easy going guy.
for some reason people always let me down.
after many years of being let down by friends,family,co-workers,strangers
i have developed this hatred.
i get angry very quickly and when im upset i feel like i can hurt someone real bad.then when im calm and think about what i couldve done i feel worried cuz i cant stop the rage.what are some things i can do to calm me down.weed helps alot but sometimes it just dosnt.

for example.
i was driving this weekend.the car in front of me was turning left so was i.as the cas turned the corner all of a sudden it stops.i brake hard and honk my horn.some lady with her teenage daughter flips me off.i get mad but fuck it ill go around.as i do i look at the lady and she tells me fuckin asshole and flips me off again.i flip her off tell her fuck you bitch and drive on.about a block later im at a red light.she pulls up next to me and tells me what the fuck are you gonna do she keeps talking shit so i put my car in park and its the middle of the big street.i go to her window and shes talking real bad shit you fucking bitch you fucking asshole this and that.i socked that bitch in her head and was trying to pull her out of the window.shes screaming now cuz im insane.
i see her daughter run from the car and all kinds of people were watching.
i told her talk shit now bitch but she was terrified.i let her go and ran to my car and split.i dont feel bad cuz she provoked me good but i coulda killed her easily and that scared me.i need to get out of this city

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Just think...you might get lucky one day and hit the right "bitch" in her face and get a gun right back in yours. Your nothing! If I was her I would have got your tag number and let the better half take care of it! Creep! Hitting a darn woman and then making excuses for your lack of anger control! A dude like you ever approaches my window..Just because she cut you off and cursed you does not make one .. a man that actually hits a terrified woman!

i am a calm, cool, relaxed person. but as soon as i sit behind the wheel of a car whooaaa look out!! I become a mad man:mad:

in response to shelbay
i understand your mad cuz of what i said
i agree with you.i have never hit a female before and dont plan on doing it again but this woman was a member of a local neighborhood gang.she was way out of line.trust me shelbay if you provoke someone you know when to stop.this lady didnt.she was very rude and disrespectful and telling me she was gonna kill me and shit.i guess you had to be their to understand.
if you start some shit with a stranger either man or woman you better be prepared to back up your actions.if she didnt want no shit she coulda just drove on.she assumedshe was tougher so she get bitch slapped.so what

I'm always known to be a calm and calculated fellow.

But the problem is, I am going through this real extreme hatred problem. Kind of like what friendowl was talking about but much more extreme.

I just hate everything I see all of a sudden, like it's like a bad trip where you are seeing only the negative and dirty aspects of everything. I can't see anything but imperfections. It's kinda scary.... I feel kind of like a young child who was just born is in a 21 year old's body, and it's learning about everything for the first time BUT it's all negative impressions.

Okay then I apologize for not understanding the whole story okay? Once again I "spoke" without the whole story...but for real man...don't hit the women..when they want to be a man..just knock them on their butts. I didn't know she was a gang member..I hear they fight like men...I just had a mental image of a helpless woman that was mouthy just getting hit on so I ..do apologize.

we are in the same boat feast.
when good men turn bad
that should be my title for this year

and people still say marijuana has no negative effects, lol.
I have

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i am a mellow easy going guy.
for some reason people always let me down.
after many years of being let down by friends,family,co-workers,strangers
i have developed this hatred.

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same here dude

I'm a mellow dude. I'm also an insane, hypocritic, prejudiced, fascist.

I know it sounds like new-age bullshit, but I almost killed myself trying to pretend I didn't get angry. I embrace both sides now, after a life of bottling it all up. Anger therapy taught me one thing: don't go to anger therapy. Those, or at least my, physchotherapists do nothing but add to the problem.

"I WANNA HIT YOU SO FUCKING HARD!"
"Hmm. Okay. Now, why?"
"BECAUSE YOU ARE A FUCKING RETARD!!"
"Hmm."

Although, I do aim it all at objects. Proudly so, I haven't hit anybody in anger since 6th grade. Although, I've gone through countless doors, walls, TVs, and VCRs. Also, now I found a sweet spot. I have a solid oak door frame, perfect for elbows at 200 mph.

yeah... i go with nochowder on this one.
i am a very mellow person.. and almost nothing pisses me off. but i get strong urges to kill things (mainly people) around me. i found that martial arts helped with this... im not sure how though.. but iv been a tai kwan do black belt for a little over half a year, and have taken up akido.
if none of this helps.. go to a doctor or a therapist to mellow out.

Girls do get really pissed, but it only hurts me when I loose it. Leave the area when you're loosing it. All you have to do is turn and get the fuck out of the situation. When u out, knock the shit out of your own stuff. makes u feel worse about the outcome. Maybe u won't act out if u hurt yours and not theirs. Is it worth getting yourself sick over? Cause you will get sick from anger. Makes your stomach sick after a while. Take a breath, is there a thing of beauty and grace you can hold onto, not people, I'm there with you on that. Can you focuse on something that will bring some grace into your soul. That's what you feel like when you love or help someome. I go out by myself into the mountains and lay on the ground and ask for grace. If I'm open it comes in, if not at least I haven't hurt anyone that doesn't deserve it. As for those who deserve it: Call them on it and let them make it up to you. If they don't fuck em, they not worth your time. I'm to the point that I would rather do things alone than with a dick.

this is all very simple to explain... we have a cave man's brain living in a modern society our brain wasn't deisgned for all of this stress... think about it, people have road rage because unconciously our brain doesn't understand why the person infront of us won't do what we think they should. the only way to overcome this is to realize that control is an illusion and we have no control so just sit back relax and let the good time roll, and let the chips fall where they may

Im always in control of my emotions. If I'm not, follow the trail of blood to locate my secret lair

ganja girl -good words.i go alone and walk also.mountain tops and deserts are great for solos.

chowder cuz of your ass i signed up for muy thai kickboxing.start next mon.
i cant wait to spar with someone.im a masochist and love getting slugged.

escobar-its hard to enjoy the ride when the the roads bumpy

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Originally Posted by friendowl

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rats were a lil agressive being around the others.then they added more rats to the same space and they started to fight and kill each other.too many rats in too lil a space

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I'll be damned if I let myself think and interact like a rat. We're human.. and we have the ability to think about when to do things and when not to do things. Assholes in traffic do not really bother me.. I've actually never honked my horn at someone. If someone needs me to honk at them to let them know what they've done, then they're either oblivious ( and deserving of my pity, not anger) or it was an honest mistake (in which case I would not be angry with them). Taking my eyes and concentration off the road to flip off or yell at a driver would make me feel really stupid if that caused me to hit something. Getting out of the car to do anything would make me feel extremely stupid if I got hit (not to mention being detrimental to my health. Getting angry, to me, is unwise in most situations becuase it is emotional (faster) and not reasonable (slower). When speed is required, emotion is more appropriate (if correctly handled).

That said.. I've had a horrible temper since I was very little. My father had the same temper. Most of my anger has disappeared as the result of reasoning about the situation. I usually dismiss the remaining anger by letting it do it's thing in my imagination, and not in real life. If I can later deal with that so it doesn't make me angry again, I try and do that.

Dude, from what you say, maybe you should take a trip out of town for a while. there is one thing i have learned about violence after years of studying how to inflict it, seeing it's place in history and it's results, studing the human social sytems as they exist and have existed. there is one CONSTANT to VIOLENCE and that is: once violence is initiated, IT WILL ALWAYS ESCALATE TO THE NEXT LEVEL!

goodluck on this one, you may have finally found a reason to learn how to control yourself. i mean if your actions make you dead, maybe it's time to stop those actions..

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Originally Posted by friendowl

ganja girl -good words.i go alone and walk also.mountain tops and deserts are great for solos.

chowder cuz of your ass i signed up for muy thai kickboxing.start next mon.
i cant wait to spar with someone.im a masochist and love getting slugged.

escobar-its hard to enjoy the ride when the the roads bumpy

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Make a trip to Cheaha Mt. It will give you peace of mind...and I could get you a free cabin?

alright shelbay im on my way.
from east la to montana yee haw

Friendowl: If you were not angry, would you be crying? I noticed that when i feel really bad, so bad i have to maintain myself, that i am in severe pain. It seems like I have to be hard or I will meltdown in a pool of tears. So I remain pissed and have a chip on my shoulder thru the day and I miss all the good energy of the day. Good stuff can't get in if your wall is up to the outside world. So maybe you need a good cry. If you do allow yourself this gift, let it go and really get into it. Hold yourself if u have no one else. When u done, ask the energy of god to fill you up. That energy that comes in is grace. Get as much as u can. It's good.

"and so today I pray for grace" Laryn Hill

sounds good
its weird cuz i hold so much in that comes out on other ways.
like when i was watching "the land before time" and lilfoot gets seperated
or when the smurfs cant find there way back to the village i just break down in tears