girlfriends parents hate me

ok i am in love with this beautiful asian girl and she has everything a man could ever want. but her parents hate me. i did NOTHING to offend them in anyway. they always talk behind my back and whenever i call for her they say she doesnt want to talk to me. one time she came over crying and she fell into my arms because her parents were swearing at her and asking her y the fuck she was going out with a round-eyed whiteboy and if she kept doing so they were going to excommunicate her.

well she started crying over my shoulder and i felt so bad for her that i was doing this shit that maybe it would be better for me too break up with her. she started telling me all the shit her parents were calling her (bitch, slut, etc.) for dating me. then she fell into my arms and we just cuddled on my bed for like 2 hours which felt warm and great and it made her feel better. i tried to raise her self-esteem by telling her the truth that i loved her and that shes isnt really a bitch and too not listen to her parents.

so the next day i went to her house to talk to her parents and they wouldnt even shut the fuck up for 1 sec. to let me talk. they said that it would be a cold day in hell before i ever touched thier daughter, and too get the fuck away from there house and never come back and that thier daughter hated me and never wanted to see me agian.

but that night she snuck over around 2 in the morning and she apologized for how her parents acted and i said it wasnt ur fault and i forgive them. i told her that she shouldnt listen to what her parents tell her and that she is beautiful and nice and that i loved her. well we started to hug, then kiss, then touch, one thing led to another and before we knew it our clothes were off and we were fucking like there was no tomorrow. afterwards we hugged for a little bit and i made sure she felt fucking great about herself before she went home.

well now its the next day and i feel guilty about havin sex with her because it was her first time and if for some reason her paerents found out i have no idea what they are capable of doing. i need some help, can someone please help me on what to say to her parents to make them not hate me so much. i have tried EVERYTHING i can think of from complimenting them to sitting down and talking with them. they still think im the worst thing ever to happen to thier daughter and now they are taking thier anger out on her aswell as me.

does anyone know something i can say to her parents to make them not totally fucking hate me anymore? i have to do something cuz i love thier daughter and i dont think were be leaving each other for a long ass time.
any helpful suggestions would be GREATLY appreciated.

Oh wow, this is a tough one. Her parents hate you because you're white? If so, it's not you that they hate. Her parents may be very old fashioned and want their daughter to only date Asian? Or did some white person piss them off in the past so they think all white people are bad? I don't know...Does she have a close relative that might accept you and maybe see that you are not all that bad....and help you let her parents understand that you do love her and you will treat her well. Maybe you could write her parents a letter?

I don't really have an excellent advice for you. I'm sorry to hear about your situation...I can offer you support though...

Good luck!

Its sounds like you Truley Love this Girl and she defenetly feels the same way about you.

Maybe you should move in together and put her Narrow minded/Racisit Parents totally out of the picture..

In time her parents will come to their sences.
Because If they Dont they'll Loose their Daughter....

dude i dated this korean woman for about 6 months...she was the biggest freak i ever met btw,right after the first time i met her parents i never heard from her again...they were majorly old fashioned from what some mutual friends told me. youre probably in the same situation.

If the girl is less then 18 I wouldn't pursue it. Not if she lives with her racist parents still!

If she's 18 or over & u have ur own place MOVE HER IN.

i wanna know how the fuck they found about u guys having sex?

these parents r assholes man, theres not much u can do thats gonna have a postive affect

if u and ur gf really love eachother like u said, ull find a way to get thru this

goodluck

later

fuck them man they can butt the fuck out i had the same problem once parents hating me that is, anyway ended up her mom called the cops and i got my ass arrested for "harrasment" but any way dont give up keep the realation goin on the low down even arrest didnt stop me so more power to u bro fuck those bastards

get her to ask them why they hate you. also writing a letter would be a good idea, but keep it simple. thing is though, if she's been brought up with those parents, she won't wanna do something big like move out or defy them alot, because shes been brought up to respect their authority. but sreiously dude find out the reason they dont like you, if its racism, fuck em, (or their daughter) if its something you can negotiate on, give it a try, but dont back down too easily, theyre not so high and mighty.

maybe they read your entry on the "shower sex" thread

Thats very sad.Fuck those parents.Dont say nice things or crawl to them they will hate u more and think u have motives.My family hated my ex but with good reason.They seem not to like you as your not asian.Thats crap i would hate for my inlaws to hate me they probably do.I thought my partners mum wouldnt like me because she is Maltese and im not and i thought she only would like her son with another wog woman because he was with one for a few yrs before me.All is good though and she is happy that we are having a baby even though she is pushing the marriage a bit much.Anyways i will take so much crap from an inlaw but not too much.If you love each other screw her parents and see each other secretley.Dont take shit from those bastards.

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Thats very sad.Fuck those parents.Dont say nice things or crawl to them they will hate u more and think u have motives.My family hated my ex but with good reason.They seem not to like you as your not asian.Thats crap i would hate for my inlaws to hate me they probably do.I thought my partners mum wouldnt like me because she is Maltese and im not and i thought she only would like her son with another wog woman because he was with one for a few yrs before me.All is good though and she is happy that we are having a baby even though she is pushing the marriage a bit much.Anyways i will take so much crap from an inlaw but not too much.If you love each other screw her parents and see each other secretley.Dont take shit from those bastards.

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VERY bad advice if she's under 18 & living with mom & dad.

Try thinking first, then posting...

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Originally Posted by ZigZagZeppelin

VERY bad advice if she's under 18 & living with mom & dad.

Try thinking first, then posting...

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burn! ouch dude

I still can't believe half the things Im reading here, muncheemama...

like what, ZigZag?

people advising a young dude to pursue a girl (living with her parents) when the parents dont like them together. Not even knowing if shes a minor.

I like to keep people OUT of jail..

this is true, the age difference in this situation would be of interest. Dude, can you tell us the age difference?

Hey knob i dont there age go fornicate yourself fuckwit.I do write things without thinking and i will continue to do so.Get fucked if i write something inappropriate im sure a moderator will delete it as it was advice that i gave not you so just be concerned about yourself and not what i write.FUCK OFF zigzagzeppelin

wogs Lmao...:D

its like that show king of the hill their neighbors daughter is going out with bobby hill and they dont want her to becouse she needs a smart asian man and booby hill is white

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Originally Posted by jacquelyne

Hey knob i dont there age go fornicate yourself fuckwit.I do write things without thinking and i will continue to do so.Get fucked if i write something inappropriate im sure a moderator will delete it as it was advice that i gave not you so just be concerned about yourself and not what i write.FUCK OFF zigzagzeppelin

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More nonsense, eh?

suck a phattie, BITCH

i hate it when people post wanting advice, they get a load back and then dont reply to it.
HINT

I agree, we are all spending our time here trying to help this guy out and he doesnt even have the preasence of mind to check his MFing thread....unless the asian ppl killed him and hes being turned into general taos "chicken" right now.....mmm general taos chicken

sorry ya'll havent been here in awhile, yea were both minors, the age difference between us is 3 years. it would be kinda hard to keep it a secret as serious as this relationship is tho. i tired writing them a letter i dont think its gotten to them yet but i hope to god it works. and i asked her to ask her parents why they hate me and all she said they said is that if they find out she was with me again they would call the police for sexual harrasment (wtf?) and i cant even imagine not being able to see her agian :(

^^^im really hoping that qwas just a threat.

Be advised, if shes a minor living at home with mom & dad THEY have the law on their side.

I'd try to get over her & move on.......there are many hotties out there, ya know.
:)

u just need to chill and dont be worrying so much,just dont go over to her house.her folks are muppets anyways so u dont want to go to her house,just make sure wenever u see her she comes to ur house or else somewhere away from her house so her parents wont see yous,its easy to keep a secret relationship and its more fun

your both minors so enjoy yourselves and dont be worrying,chances are its not goin to last forever in anyways so just enjoy the time yous have and fuck like rabbits



if all that fails then dont worry,the parens have a bullseye on their forehead so it wont be hard to mis them with a couple of bullets

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Originally Posted by professer evil

if all that fails then dont worry,the parens have a bullseye on their forehead so it wont be hard to mis them with a couple of bullets

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great advice....

Ahole

I'm a bit hesitant to give any advice since if your both minors and there's a three year difference between you then one of you is at least 14 if not younger. My guess is it's the girl. If some 17yo guy comes around when my daughter's 14....well....let's just say I won't be too happy either.

That being said, I was in the same position as you 9 years ago. I was white and my girlfriend was Chinese (actually living in China as was I at the time) and, ironically, there was a three year differnce between us. She was 23 at the time, however, not 14, you perverted cradle robber!! Just kidding, sort of.

Anyhow when she first told her parents they wouldn't stand for it. Her mother actually got on a bus and took the 8hr ride from her hometown to Shanghai to talk my girlfriend out of it. They forbid my girlfriend from ever seeing me again but she continually resisted and eventually they agreed to meet me. The first meeting was a bit shakey, not as bad as yours was but then again SHE WASN'T 14, but we kept the pressure on. Basically we kept showing them that we loved each other. I was also very careful to respect their culture and not do anything to offend them. Over time the gradually accepted the fact that their daughters happiness was what was most important.

Well, like I said that was 9 years ago and as of last May we've been married for 8 years. I now get along great with my in-laws and spent nearly all of last February(Chinese New Year) with my wife's whole family back in China. My Mother-in-law always tells me that she knows I'm a good husband because her daughter is always happy. I may be a crazy round-eye but now I'm one of the family.

So, my first advice is to find an older gf. But if you insist on seeing her make sure her parents know you care about her. Always be polite "yes sir", "no mam", "thank you", "please" , etc when talking with them. Make sure you always get her home in time and for God's sake make sure you ALWAYS use protection and DO NOT get her pregnant. Hopefully, if they see she's happy, they'll gradually learn to accept the fact that their daughter is dating an old pervert.

just be secretive.

hey fengzi dickhead just cos shes 14 (shes responsible) doesnt mean she cant think for herself.

ok this isn't my real advice (i can't really give you any for biggomist (sp? and word usage?) parents...but....slap them both in the face and tell them "i'm a juggalo bitch!"

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Originally Posted by henrypj

just be secretive.

hey fengzi dickhead just cos shes 14 (shes responsible) doesnt mean she cant think for herself.

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Hey you little fuck, I take it by your response that your 14 too. She may be responsible at 14 but obviously your not. If you were'nt such a moron you'd be able to realize that just by the fact that I did give some advice I was at least 1/2 way joking when I called him a cradle robbing pervert.

In any case you're a fucking idiot loser if you think that being secretive and sneaking around is the best way to handle the situation. What happens when they get caught? Which they inevitably will. Now not only is he white and a lot older, but he's turned their sweet little girl(at least that's what they probably think) into a liar who sneakes behind their back. I'm sure that's going to score him a lot of points.

He asked for advice on how to get her parents to like him, not tips on how to sneak around. Someday little boy, when you finally grow out of your pj's, you'll realize that dishonesty isn't the gonna help him.

....i was under the impression that pj was a girl....

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....i was under the impression that pj was a girl....

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Isn't it "Henry" PJ? Oh well, just in case I guess I should re-word my last sentence:

Someday little boy(or girl), when you finally grow out of your pj's( and possibly into lacey lingerie), you'll realize that dishonesty isn't the gonna help him.

You people need to calm the fuck down, jesus christ.

yo fengzi shes 3 years older than me man aint no 14. im not a pedafile man

im 16 and shes 19, how did u come to the conclusion she was 14?

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Originally Posted by MyStiCalFiSh

im 16 and shes 19, how did u come to the conclusion she was 14?

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You mentioned you were both minors, I'm not sure where you are but where I am your a legal adult at 18, so if both of you were minors one must have been 17 and the other 14. I just assumed she was were the younger one. Now I'm envious of you, I would love to have been with a hot 19yo when I was 16.

In any case I was just joshin you man, I tend to have a bit of a sarscatic sense of humor that doesn't always come across if you can't hear my voice. Plus, if she was 14 that would have been a BIG reason why her folks might have been pissed. Sorry if I sounded like an ass.

Anyhow, since we did have similar situations I was trying to actually give some advice about what worked for me.

"But if you insist on seeing her make sure her parents know you care about her. Always be polite "yes sir", "no mam", "thank you", "please" , etc when talking with them. Make sure you always get her home in time and for God's sake make sure you ALWAYS use protection and DO NOT get her pregnant. Hopefully, if they see she's happy, they'll gradually learn to accept the fact that their daughter is dating" a younger "pervert".

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Originally Posted by henrypj

just be secretive.

hey fengzi dickhead just cos shes 14 (shes responsible) doesnt mean she cant think for herself.

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some loser comes to bang my 14 yr old girl they'd really get some shit.

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Originally Posted by MyStiCalFiSh

im 16 and shes 19, how did u come to the conclusion she was 14?

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I see the parents point of view on this:

How could you POSSIBLY financially support this girl, especially if she had a baby?

Answer: you can't, best to find a girl your own age or YOUNGER

shes legal, keep doing her, but wrap it up...