My fucking roommate pt. 2

She went around telling people, "I had to give my roommate money, so now I am worried about rent"
She didn't have to "give" me money, she owed me money, and still does owe me something like 1100. Telling other people that she had to give me money makes me sound like a money grubbing asshat she is paying off for no reason. NOT PLEASED!
She gave me $50 to replace a $300 serta desk chair she broke.
I payed most of our phone/internet bill and left her to pay 50 something on it. My e-mail got cut off yesterda, and when I asked her to call, they had cut off my net access because that 50 something had not been paid. She has no car or license, no debit card cuz she fucked up her bank account so she can't just call and pay by phone so I have to drag my tired ass out in the rain to take care of this.

After these things happen I tell her that an X-Box would be a suitable replacement for the laptop I lent her that was stolen while in her possession.(6 months ago) I had a decent laptop, when it was stolen my same make and model where going for 500-600 on eBay so it isn't unreasonable.
Right after I mention this she calls up her x-boyfriend to buy back the used x-box that he got her for christmas. (he kept it in the breakup, nice right?) I am not jazzed about receiving a used box though I shut up thinking that at least I will have "something" to make up for my laptop.
The next day she negotiates a deal to get a new x-box with two games and is running all around my room happy that she gets a new x-box. This quickly gets sorted out, and grudgingly she offers me the new one. very grudgingly.
When the box arrives hours later she protests when I pick it up and take it into my room, keeps calling it "ours" opens it up herself, hooks it up in the living room herself, begins playing it herself, and is still up doing so at 4am when I went to bed. I have not even touched it.
Instead of feeling grateful and friendly to her for paying me back, I feel resentful and cheated. I am poor, the last console I owned was an old school sega that I bought for myself back in '91. I've never played an x-box, and I don't feel like I own one now. I don't even want to play it now.
It's like giving someone a present...and then using it for them, baking someone a cake, then eating all the icing off it.
I feel like she should have asked to play it, asked me if I wanted to take it on it's virgin run, should not have ever referred to it as "ours", and should have given it to me herself with a little thanks, sorry I got your laptop stolen type thing.
I'm so tired of her shit.
am I blowing this out of proportion?

Wow, your roommate sucks. Can't you just boot the bitch?

What the fuck? Your definitely not blowing it out of proportion, what a fucking asshat.
You shouldn't put up with it, there's a million and one things in there that I wouldn't put up with from a room mate. It sounds like your pretty much her nanny and she's acting like a little bitch.

Sorry to be harsh, she's probably a friend of yours but if you want my opinion you stand up and tell her your pissed. I know it's easier said than done but she's taking total advantage of your generosity. She should sort her own fucking life out, not you. The whole Xbox factor just adds insult to injury.

If she acts like your in the wrong, fuck her. Tell her your not paying for any of her shit if she's not gonna make an effort to return the favours. Make a stand!

i don't think you're blowing it out of proportion, i'd have been pretty pissed if i were in your shoes and i'd have kicked her out

Agree with all of the above. Your well within reason to be damn pissed. She is definately taking advantage of your generosity. If I were you I'd look for a replacement room mate. She probobly is a friend, but any true friend wouldn't be fucking you like this. 1100 is a big loss, but it might be worthwhile to just forget about it and get her out of the house to prevent further issues. It sounds like she will just continue to run up a big tab with you that she can't pay off.

Pack her bags.

Scarlet this situation isn't getting any better and chances are it's going to get worse :( You are going to have to get her out before she drives you crazy altogether. She's a slob, she is completely irresponsible, she has no respect for you, your home or your possessions....why are you allowing her to stay :confused:

I know it's hard to be the big bad wolf but this person is seriously taking the piss - bigtime - you've been more than fair with her. But you really should think about giving her the boot, you're a nice woman surely you can find a better roomie than that. Do yourself a favour - cut out the dead wood, just my opinion. I really hope it all works out. She would do my head in :mad:

irresponsible doesn't begin to cover it....
she lost her house key the first month we lived here...she still doesn't have a new one so every time she goes out I stay up until she gets in because I can't sleep with the doors unlocked and if I lock them I will just have to get up to let her in. The joy of the situation is whenever I say.."dude, you need to get a housekey" she says, yes next time WE are out WE should stop and get one. WTF is this "we" shit? It's like she thinks because we are roommates I am obligated to help her run around and take care of her shit.
I've helped her a lot, when we met she was a jobless refugee going from loser boyfriend to loser boyfriend and her own family wouldn't lend her money to help her get out of her situation. She didn't know how to dress, had zero manners and very little home training. Now all kinds of guys want to ask her out, she looks and feels a million times better and while this is not all due to me, I did help to pick her up and dust her off. Yet I get very little respect from her as a person, she has people over here until all hours of the night, and just...I dont even want to get into it, it's making me cry.

a good way to get rid of a unwanted housemate is:

HERES ROBERTS TOP 5:

5- Steal all there clothes
4- Steal all there tampons and replace them with used ones!
3- Place knob cheese on there pillow (N/A if your female)
2 - CHANGE THE FUCKING LOCKS!
1- SHIT ON THERE BED AND ALL THERE CLOTHES

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Originally Posted by ScarlettCrush

irresponsible doesn't begin to cover it....
she lost her house key the first month we lived here...she still doesn't have a new one so every time she goes out I stay up until she gets in because I can't sleep with the doors unlocked and if I lock them I will just have to get up to let her in. The joy of the situation is whenever I say.."dude, you need to get a housekey" she says, yes next time WE are out WE should stop and get one. WTF is this "we" shit? It's like she thinks because we are roommates I am obligated to help her run around and take care of her shit.
I've helped her a lot, when we met she was a jobless refugee going from loser boyfriend to loser boyfriend and her own family wouldn't lend her money to help her get out of her situation. She didn't know how to dress, had zero manners and very little home training. Now all kinds of guys want to ask her out, she looks and feels a million times better and while this is not all due to me, I did help to pick her up and dust her off. Yet I get very little respect from her as a person, she has people over here until all hours of the night, and just...I dont even want to get into it, it's making me cry.

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Scarlet this woman is a leech and she will continue to bleed you til you boot her sorry arse out. She's making you unhappy, she shows total disregard for everything. You've done your part, you've helped her, now enough is enough.

It's a horrible situation and I feel for you but there is only one answer, and you know this. Goodluck babe x

There are many ways of ridding oneself of an unwanted cohabitant. I suggest a staged approach, using increasing levels of persuasiveness.
A good starting technique would be to follow your roomate around constantly, shouting incoherently at the top of your voice. You will find that after a while they will become disconcerted and leave.
If this fails, you would be best to go on the offensive, and use somewhat more proactive techniques. Try hiding under their bed with a power drill until they go to sleep, and then start drilling up through the mattress and into their back. Laugh manically while you are doing this to improve the effect. This should soon see them off.
A small minority of people will put up with even this level of discomfort in order to avoid moving, and if your roommate should turn out to be one such individual, I would suggest that you adopt the only course of action which is, in my experience, absolutely guaranteed to permanently remove them from your life.
First, incapacitate the offending individual by strapping them securely to a radiator (the radiator can, if you so wish, be left on to increase discomfort). Then, tie a piece of sausage to a long synthetic line, and force feed it to them. After nature has taken its course, the line will emerge from the other end of their digestive tract and you will be the proud owner of a roommate on a string!
Bundle the roommate on a string into the back of your car, and drive to the nearest airport. Tie a long rope to the string through your roommate, and ascertain which aircraft will shortly be leaving for Mogadishu. Sneak onto the runway and covertly tie the rope to the back of the plane.

Your roommate will in this way be towed behind the aircraft to a completely different continent, and you will be free of them forever.

yeah shes just fucking using you.

honestly I just want to live with her in peace. I don't think I can afford to live here on my own and she does still owe me about 1100, I know if she leaves I will never see that money and I will be so strapped for rent. Replacing your roommate when you are a pro domme is not easy.

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Originally Posted by ScarlettCrush

honestly I just want to live with her in peace. I don't think I can afford to live here on my own and she does still owe me about 1100, I know if she leaves I will never see that money and I will be so strapped for rent. Replacing your roommate when you are a pro domme is not easy.

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You know I totally get what you're saying, in the meantime I would be on the look out for a new roomie though. It's just that the 'living in peace' thing doesn't look like it will ever happen with her. So far nothing has brought her to her senses. I just hate to see a genuine person like yourself being made a shit out of. It maybe easier in the longterm to forget about the cash she owes, let's face it with her track record what hardship could she bring to your door in the future. Do what you gotta, but in the meantime - keep looking for a replacement.

I think it would help to put an end to any support; loans, borrowing, letting her in because she forgot her key. etc. It's a mistake to enable a parasite. You may be kind hearted, and find this difficult. I think she senses a vulnerability in you, and is taking advantage of it willfully. I have seen this kind of thing before, and believe that if you could percieve her true motives, you'd have no trouble throwing her out, you'd be so mad. She may very well be acting out the irresponsibility and lack of self reliance just to be able to victimize you, and others. There are people who make a lifestyle out of this kind of behavior, and they can get pretty good at it.

I wish you luck; one of the hardest things to do is to rid yourself of a loser once they get the psychological hooks into you. Get past this and I'll bet you won't let it happen again. I know I didn't.

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wat does she owe you for?

when we first moved, I asked if she wanted to move with me, because she was kind of at loose ends as well. Her family laoned her 200$, my family lent me 2400, so of course I paid the deposit, first months rent, ect. She owes me for half the deposit and first months rent. I told her she did not have to pay all the deposit, though she should pay some since she broke the washing machine that came with the property. (and it was brand new too) So at the least she owes me 800 of which she has paid me 100 that I had to ask for. (and since then she has told people she had to "give" her roommate lots of money, and her previous boyfriend called me her warden so I know that anything I say or do is put out into a bad light)
Previously when I call her on this behavior she has been pouty and thrown a little bitch fit at me by packing up all the stuff I ever lent or gave her, and moving it into my room, crying and being a kid. I don't want to deal with that.
Now last month she had a big wad of cash she used for lots of other things, didn't pay me, didn't pay off her bank account, ect. I'm just ill with her lack of responsibility. I don't mind doing some things for her, but I mind doing everything for her. The x-box situation just kind of iced the cake.

next time she goes out... go out afterwards. Maybe she will get that hint lol.

She has no house key? How convenient! :) Give her 30 days' written notice to find a new place to live. Maybe have her sign it too, & make sure you each have a copy. Or perhaps just have both copies notarized.

Then post ads, whatever for a new roommate. If this girl is still there at the end of 30 days, place her possessions outside, then lock the door. Hey, you gave her sufficient notice, so at that point she is no longer your problem.

Good luck to you... having a negative force in one's own home can be very exhausting.

i agree with lulu, you need to solve this scarlett.

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Originally Posted by Dick Justice

Wow, your roommate sucks. Can't you just boot the bitch?

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I didn't have to read the rest of the thread after this post. Kick her ass out.

I just sent her this thread.

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Originally Posted by ScarlettCrush

I just sent her this thread.

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hahahahaha ummm that should do it nicely :D

http://lofi.mp3search.ru/lofi/25/259760.mp3

Well best of luck to you then!

I don't want to kick her out of my life, I just want her to act right.
It has improved, but this incident...makes me think otherwise. I woud rathr she learned and grew from this. Not everyone extends their hand out to you, I know because I have struggled for a really long time with no help. Seems like if someone helps you...you should not take advantage.

Sent her the thread; that's pretty smart. You're more compassionate than I would have been.

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Shoot her?

She sux Scarlet.
It looks to me Like you try to avoid conflict as much as possible wich might lead you to Not speak whats on your mind.
and She (your roomie) see that and takes full advantage of It...

let Her Know your a wake up to her and see how she reacts...

It just means Scarlett's kind hearted; that's not exactly a war crime. We could use more people like that. And a lot less of her room mates type.

Scarlett, you seem pretty nice, how'd you end up being a domme girl? I always thought they were mean spirited, bitchy types.

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Scarlett, you are way too nice
Kick her ass, take stuff from her when you can

Cunt

A woman who speaks her mind! Bravo!

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I am a a kinder, softer sadist.

I have empathy, and that is what makes a truly good dominant. I have their best interests at heart and in mind when we see one another. I have made better men out of many of my clients.

Please let us know what happens....and you sent her the thread....priceless.

I never would have thought of that but it's perfect.

wow.

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A kinder, gentler sadist. Of course, that makes perfect sense.

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