My fucking roommate pt. 2

[ScarlettCrush]

She went around telling people, "I had to give my roommate money, so now I am worried about rent"
She didn't have to "give" me money, she owed me money, and still does owe me something like 1100. Telling other people that she had to give me money makes me sound like a money grubbing asshat she is paying off for no reason. NOT PLEASED!
She gave me $50 to replace a $300 serta desk chair she broke.
I payed most of our phone/internet bill and left her to pay 50 something on it. My e-mail got cut off yesterda, and when I asked her to call, they had cut off my net access because that 50 something had not been paid. She has no car or license, no debit card cuz she fucked up her bank account so she can't just call and pay by phone so I have to drag my tired ass out in the rain to take care of this.

After these things happen I tell her that an X-Box would be a suitable replacement for the laptop I lent her that was stolen while in her possession.(6 months ago) I had a decent laptop, when it was stolen my same make and model where going for 500-600 on eBay so it isn't unreasonable.
Right after I mention this she calls up her x-boyfriend to buy back the used x-box that he got her for christmas. (he kept it in the breakup, nice right?) I am not jazzed about receiving a used box though I shut up thinking that at least I will have "something" to make up for my laptop.
The next day she negotiates a deal to get a new x-box with two games and is running all around my room happy that she gets a new x-box. This quickly gets sorted out, and grudgingly she offers me the new one. very grudgingly.
When the box arrives hours later she protests when I pick it up and take it into my room, keeps calling it "ours" opens it up herself, hooks it up in the living room herself, begins playing it herself, and is still up doing so at 4am when I went to bed. I have not even touched it.
Instead of feeling grateful and friendly to her for paying me back, I feel resentful and cheated. I am poor, the last console I owned was an old school sega that I bought for myself back in '91. I've never played an x-box, and I don't feel like I own one now. I don't even want to play it now.
It's like giving someone a present...and then using it for them, baking someone a cake, then eating all the icing off it.
I feel like she should have asked to play it, asked me if I wanted to take it on it's virgin run, should not have ever referred to it as "ours", and should have given it to me herself with a little thanks, sorry I got your laptop stolen type thing.
I'm so tired of her shit.
am I blowing this out of proportion?

ScarlettCrush Reviewed by ScarlettCrush on 06-12-2005. My fucking roommate pt. 2 She went around telling people, "I had to give my roommate money, so now I am worried about rent" She didn't have to "give" me money, she owed me money, and still does owe me something like 1100. Telling other people that she had to give me money makes me sound like a money grubbing asshat she is paying off for no reason. NOT PLEASED! She gave me $50 to replace a $300 serta desk chair she broke. I payed most of our phone/internet bill and left her to pay 50 something on it. My e-mail got cut Rating: 5

[Dick Justice]

Wow, your roommate sucks. Can't you just boot the bitch?

[Button Basher]

What the fuck? Your definitely not blowing it out of proportion, what a fucking asshat.
You shouldn't put up with it, there's a million and one things in there that I wouldn't put up with from a room mate. It sounds like your pretty much her nanny and she's acting like a little bitch.

Sorry to be harsh, she's probably a friend of yours but if you want my opinion you stand up and tell her your pissed. I know it's easier said than done but she's taking total advantage of your generosity. She should sort her own fucking life out, not you. The whole Xbox factor just adds insult to injury.

If she acts like your in the wrong, fuck her. Tell her your not paying for any of her shit if she's not gonna make an effort to return the favours. Make a stand!

[fuzzyblue]

i don't think you're blowing it out of proportion, i'd have been pretty pissed if i were in your shoes and i'd have kicked her out

[mono repin]

Agree with all of the above. Your well within reason to be damn pissed. She is definately taking advantage of your generosity. If I were you I'd look for a replacement room mate. She probobly is a friend, but any true friend wouldn't be fucking you like this. 1100 is a big loss, but it might be worthwhile to just forget about it and get her out of the house to prevent further issues. It sounds like she will just continue to run up a big tab with you that she can't pay off.

[GTC21]

Pack her bags.

[Lulu]

Scarlet this situation isn't getting any better and chances are it's going to get worse You are going to have to get her out before she drives you crazy altogether. She's a slob, she is completely irresponsible, she has no respect for you, your home or your possessions....why are you allowing her to stay

I know it's hard to be the big bad wolf but this person is seriously taking the piss - bigtime - you've been more than fair with her. But you really should think about giving her the boot, you're a nice woman surely you can find a better roomie than that. Do yourself a favour - cut out the dead wood, just my opinion. I really hope it all works out. She would do my head in

[ScarlettCrush]

irresponsible doesn't begin to cover it....
she lost her house key the first month we lived here...she still doesn't have a new one so every time she goes out I stay up until she gets in because I can't sleep with the doors unlocked and if I lock them I will just have to get up to let her in. The joy of the situation is whenever I say.."dude, you need to get a housekey" she says, yes next time WE are out WE should stop and get one. WTF is this "we" shit? It's like she thinks because we are roommates I am obligated to help her run around and take care of her shit.
I've helped her a lot, when we met she was a jobless refugee going from loser boyfriend to loser boyfriend and her own family wouldn't lend her money to help her get out of her situation. She didn't know how to dress, had zero manners and very little home training. Now all kinds of guys want to ask her out, she looks and feels a million times better and while this is not all due to me, I did help to pick her up and dust her off. Yet I get very little respect from her as a person, she has people over here until all hours of the night, and just...I dont even want to get into it, it's making me cry.

[robert42]

a good way to get rid of a unwanted housemate is:

HERES ROBERTS TOP 5:

5- Steal all there clothes
4- Steal all there tampons and replace them with used ones!
3- Place knob cheese on there pillow (N/A if your female)
2 - CHANGE THE FUCKING LOCKS!
1- SHIT ON THERE BED AND ALL THERE CLOTHES

[Lulu]

irresponsible doesn't begin to cover it....
she lost her house key the first month we lived here...she still doesn't have a new one so every time she goes out I stay up until she gets in because I can't sleep with the doors unlocked and if I lock them I will just have to get up to let her in. The joy of the situation is whenever I say.."dude, you need to get a housekey" she says, yes next time WE are out WE should stop and get one. WTF is this "we" shit? It's like she thinks because we are roommates I am obligated to help her run around and take care of her shit.
I've helped her a lot, when we met she was a jobless refugee going from loser boyfriend to loser boyfriend and her own family wouldn't lend her money to help her get out of her situation. She didn't know how to dress, had zero manners and very little home training. Now all kinds of guys want to ask her out, she looks and feels a million times better and while this is not all due to me, I did help to pick her up and dust her off. Yet I get very little respect from her as a person, she has people over here until all hours of the night, and just...I dont even want to get into it, it's making me cry.

Scarlet this woman is a leech and she will continue to bleed you til you boot her sorry arse out. She's making you unhappy, she shows total disregard for everything. You've done your part, you've helped her, now enough is enough.

It's a horrible situation and I feel for you but there is only one answer, and you know this. Goodluck babe x