how to deal with the fact that you have never had a girlfriend...

Most if not all women would reject a person whose never had a girlfriend or have never had a sexual relationship, in these days. aside from the fact that I have to lie, it may be hard to hide it since it's resulted in many imbalances physical and emotional. also I would guess that women are different in these days, most don't want to marry or stay exclusive for an amount of time.

maybe I'm just full of it.

I am 21 by the way not a teenager anymore...

dude i dont exaclty now what you mean... are you saying that you hopeless to ever have a relationship cause you never had a girlfriend???

if so... like no way man. theres plenty of ppl that havent been in a sexual relationship at your age, also theres many girls that wouldnt mind that you havent. i guess in north america the average is 16-17ish??? that means theres many people both be4 and after that age. your perfectly normal. everyones different. dont sweat it and dont fear you "inexperience." youll get it eventually when the times right, just dont worry about it so much and when you feel the time is right just let it happen. its not as bad as you think.

Well, don't lie about it then. Be honest and be yourself. Have a good time. :D

I don't know, I'm in the same situation but I guess apathy doesn't work for everyone. You are probably just worrying too much about it, which won't help anything. Look out for number one, and then worry about finding number two. :thumbsup:

I'd edit my last post but I think that the unintentional bathroom humour in it deserves to live on. :D

Dude, same here.

Well the reason for me is that I was f*in stupid. I had a couple opportunities recently, but I blew them all.

I'll keep my eyes open.

BTW, I'm 19.

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dude i dont exaclty now what you mean... are you saying that you hopeless to ever have a relationship cause you never had a girlfriend???

if so... like no way man. theres plenty of ppl that havent been in a sexual relationship at your age, also theres many girls that wouldnt mind that you havent. i guess in north america the average is 16-17ish??? that means theres many people both be4 and after that age. your perfectly normal. everyones different. dont sweat it and dont fear you "inexperience." youll get it eventually when the times right, just dont worry about it so much and when you feel the time is right just let it happen. its not as bad as you think.

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yeah that's pretty much what I thought...

I'm 21 and a virgin, but I've had my share of intimacy with other women, however like you, I have turned down countless (and I mean COUNTLESS) opportunities for serious relationships. I am extremely particular of my ideal woman and truly believe I have to be. But I don't go around picking up women, in fact, I keep my emotions well conserved.

I'd disagree on your position that women favor someone experienced over conserved. They want someone they know they can trust, and I believe they are less likely to trust a man that has been with a lot of women. All women are different, some are follow the "friends with benefits" lifestyle and others are really looking for someone to start a new family with.

I also disagree with your statement about women not wanting to marry. I have yet to hear from a single woman that is not interested in marriage. (Check out the Marriage thread before even THINKING about marriage, PLEASE!)

If you are in a hurry for intimacy, you should do some overlooking on your personal self. Appearance (esp. posture), behavior, dialogue, health, and perhaps your bank account are factors that women definitely pay close attention to. Just don't force yourself toward women and you should have better luck.

Again, we have our whole lives ahead of us with boundless opportunities. :thumbsup:

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I'd disagree on your position that women favor someone experienced over conserved. They want someone they know they can trust, and I believe they are less likely to trust a man that has been with a lot of women. All women are different, some are follow the "friends with benefits" lifestyle and others are really looking for someone to start a new family with.

I also disagree with your statement about women not wanting to marry. I have yet to hear from a single woman that is not interested in marriage. (Check out the Marriage thread before even THINKING about marriage, PLEASE!)

If you are in a hurry for intimacy, you should do some overlooking on your personal self. Appearance (esp. posture), behavior, dialogue, health, and perhaps your bank account are factors that women definitely pay close attention to. Just don't force yourself toward women and you should have better luck.

Again, we have our whole lives ahead of us with boundless opportunities. :thumbsup:

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Originally Posted by Innominate

I'm 21 and a virgin, but I've had my share of intimacy with other women, however like you, I have turned down countless (and I mean COUNTLESS) opportunities for serious relationships. I am extremely particular of my ideal woman and truly believe I have to be. But I don't go around picking up women, in fact, I keep my emotions well conserved.

I'd disagree on your position that women favor someone experienced over conserved. They want someone they know they can trust, and I believe they are less likely to trust a man that has been with a lot of women. All women are different, some are follow the "friends with benefits" lifestyle and others are really looking for someone to start a new family with.

I also disagree with your statement about women not wanting to marry. I have yet to hear from a single woman that is not interested in marriage. (Check out the Marriage thread before even THINKING about marriage, PLEASE!)

If you are in a hurry for intimacy, you should do some overlooking on your personal self. Appearance (esp. posture), behavior, dialogue, health, and perhaps your bank account are factors that women definitely pay close attention to. Just don't force yourself toward women and you should have better luck.

Again, we have our whole lives ahead of us with boundless opportunities. :thumbsup:

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I agree with this man. :thumbsup:

I'm almost 20, and in the same boat.

I also figure that I need to focus on school and photography more so, I mean, I'm not gonna prevent anything from happening if I find the right person, but at the same time, I'm not gonna go out of my way.

There are more people out there just like you than you think, I used to be the same way, thinking I was one of few, but I know now, and am content with the fact.

Well, looks like I win this thread; 22 and never had a girlfriend, haven't had sex, not even been kissed. Horray for me, the winner....



Man I fucking hate life sometimes:mad:

Thank your lucky stars if you have not had a girlfriend!

Concentrate on your life and goals, then when you least expect it a girl will come around and screw that all up.:thumbsup:

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Well, looks like I win this thread; 22 and never had a girlfriend, haven't had sex, not even been kissed. Horray for me, the winner....



Man I fucking hate life sometimes:mad:

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I am sure you have posted about it before but I cant remember the particulars..what the reason for this? Is it by choice?

Edit: how did you become a glorious beacon of light already? :jointsmile:

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Well, looks like I win this thread; 22 and never had a girlfriend, haven't had sex, not even been kissed. Horray for me, the winner....



Man I fucking hate life sometimes:mad:

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lmao, im very close to being in that same situation :S I dunno but all the girls I know are completly retarded, stuck up and arn't intrested in anything but typical scene / so-cal / popular douche bags. I didnt get a good round of girls as friends

im in kind of a crappy position to meet girls atm though, don't go to school (just graduated 07) dont have a job (but most likely will be in the IT field, which is like .5% women) Im thinking of resorting to online dating? cus seriously, I KNOW i can easily remain single if I dont start doing shit, lol.

I am 25, never had a girlfriend, didn't loose my cherry till I was 19. I have severe social issues, but if you play your game right you can make girls think you are a playa, and that's why you've never had a serious g/f, not because you are what I am, an anti-social loser. lol

Your past experience really does not matter for anything at all, all that matters when it comes to girls, is confidence. If you are confident even though you have little or no experience, you can get a girl to be interested in you. Some people here sound like they are way too nice, don't be! Being nice will get you nothing but perhaps a peck on the cheek from a girl and her constant phone calls at midnight with her crying talking about what an ass her boyfriend is. That is a situation you never want to be in, also known as the dreaded friend zone.

Just be confident, that is the most important thing. If you have to fake the confidence, that is fine, as long as you can fake it long enough to convince a girl you are worth paying attention to then your job is complete.

Oh, one more thing....try dating Asians. I don't know why, but I just have good luck with them, worth a shot ;)

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lmao, im very close to being in that same situation :S I dunno but all the girls I know are completly retarded, stuck up and arn't intrested in anything but typical scene / so-cal / popular douche bags. I didnt get a good round of girls as friends

im in kind of a crappy position to meet girls atm though, don't go to school (just graduated 07) dont have a job (but most likely will be in the IT field, which is like .5% women) Im thinking of resorting to online dating? cus seriously, I KNOW i can easily remain single if I dont start doing shit, lol.

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I'd like to give you some help, but damnit....I'm in pretty much the exact same situation lol I just want to say, stay FAR AWAY from online dating!! Well, at least those dating sites. Myspace can be handy, however it seems like most girls on myspace from so-cal are hispanic....and everytime I see some wannabe gangsta posting something stupid like "aww let me hit dat bay bay, get at me" or whatever, I just get turned off. You also have to have a trendy myspace page to get hits from girls worth dating, so myspace hasn't been much of a help for me.

Online dating use to be so easy for me, my friends thought I was nerdy for always meeting girls from the net, but hey, at least I was gettin some action! But somehow I seemed to have lost my touch in the last couple of years, I haven't met a girl from the net in a long long time, not even a fatty :(

So I guess I too would like some advice for online dating, like where some good chat rooms are, etc. But I have little faith in signing up for an actual dating service, too many freaks and weirdos on those....or am I mistaken on that?

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I'd like to give you some help, but damnit....I'm in pretty much the exact same situation lol I just want to say, stay FAR AWAY from online dating!! Well, at least those dating sites. Myspace can be handy, however it seems like most girls on myspace from so-cal are hispanic....and everytime I see some wannabe gangsta posting something stupid like "aww let me hit dat bay bay, get at me" or whatever, I just get turned off. You also have to have a trendy myspace page to get hits from girls worth dating, so myspace hasn't been much of a help for me.

Online dating use to be so easy for me, my friends thought I was nerdy for always meeting girls from the net, but hey, at least I was gettin some action! But somehow I seemed to have lost my touch in the last couple of years, I haven't met a girl from the net in a long long time, not even a fatty :(

So I guess I too would like some advice for online dating, like where some good chat rooms are, etc. But I have little faith in signing up for an actual dating service, too many freaks and weirdos on those....or am I mistaken on that?

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lol, yeah man, myspace is horrible for finding new girls. Its ok to use to talk to girls you meet in person, most of them my age do. But yes, I was branded an outcast all through elementry school basically. Then later on in highschool hardly anyone actually knows me, but if you ask someone about me most likely its "oh yeah, he looks like a pretty chill guy" or "I really like his hair!"

I dont think its good for me to live in a mainly white area, not trying to sound racist or anything but I swear I've been made a spectacle because I grow dreads. Its what my hair does when I dont comb it, I cant help having curly hair. But these people are so fucking retarded, i cant walk down the hall without hearing the name "bob marly", its rediculous. And these girls (which 99% of them are white) seem to have an imbeded mentality of indifferance when it comes to actually dating black people, hell even mexicans and asians. You dont ever see any of them walkin around with nothin but a white guy. I've had 2 girlfriends, one in kindergarden, 1 in 4th grade (lol @ elementry gf's) both were mexican (which i dont have a problem with by any means, they were good lookin to me) but sadly most girls are too tied up in their little bitch clicks. I challenge these girls to go for something a little more exotic, somethin different then all the steriotypical bullshitters, hardly origonal people.

A lot of online dating sites i've tried usually give me bad results (if any for free) I tried chemistry.com thinking it might be decent. Looked through my top 5 (free) matches and they were barely matches at all. I got a terrible impression of all of them and NONE of them even had "african american" under their match req. shit. 3 of them only had "white / cacasian" and they other 2 had most BUT black! wtf???? seriously, you would think they take this into consideration when "matching" couples.

I'm 18 and never been in a serious relationship (lasted longer than a week or two), and haven't been in a relationship since I left high school.
If you guys want a girl so bad, get one, it's not really that difficult, put some effort in!
It just depends who you will settle for, for me personally I haven't come across any lady's who I would would even consider to spend the rest of my days with.

Besides that I enjoy being single alittle, I means I can talk to lady's anyway I like and not feel like I shouldn't be having a laugh with other girls because I'm attached to someone. No responsibility apart from myself.

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Thank your lucky stars if you have not had a girlfriend!

Concentrate on your life and goals, then when you least expect it a girl will come around and screw that all up.:thumbsup:

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yeah thats what Im trying to do but sometimes i get all preoccupied with my social life and cant focus on my studies. im trying to keep myself busy.

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I'd like to give you some help, but damnit....I'm in pretty much the exact same situation lol I just want to say, stay FAR AWAY from online dating!! Well, at least those dating sites. Myspace can be handy, however it seems like most girls on myspace from so-cal are hispanic....and everytime I see some wannabe gangsta posting something stupid like "aww let me hit dat bay bay, get at me" or whatever, I just get turned off. You also have to have a trendy myspace page to get hits from girls worth dating, so myspace hasn't been much of a help for me.

Online dating use to be so easy for me, my friends thought I was nerdy for always meeting girls from the net, but hey, at least I was gettin some action! But somehow I seemed to have lost my touch in the last couple of years, I haven't met a girl from the net in a long long time, not even a fatty :(

So I guess I too would like some advice for online dating, like where some good chat rooms are, etc. But I have little faith in signing up for an actual dating service, too many freaks and weirdos on those....or am I mistaken on that?

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i think online dating services look too much like a meat market.

I've had a problem doing the 'cold pickup' or what they call when you chat with a girl spontaneously that you don't really know. it seems girls like that the most, but I may be wrong. you have to have good social skills, and yeah you can compliment a girl on just her looks that way too, but I want things to flow naturally like we meet first as friends or casually through conversation and same interests, and I don't just chat with her just because I want a girlfriend, you know what I mean?

seems like I cant meet a girl, whilst Im doing something of the same interest like at school or at work but some have strict rules like "don't date anyone who is from work, from school, your neighbor, etc" only in special cases I guess.

I think girls prefer the spontaneous pick up like on the street or whatever. like they say they dream about someone who 'sweeps off their feet' spontaneously but that limits them too...

Women love a spontaneously cunning man, but more than likely they will not fall for typical dialogue because depending on the woman, they've seen how men approach them and have a sense of what the man's motives are, so I would stay away from cheesy conversations that might lead to no where.

My approach to finding a woman is meet them but don't provide them with the least bit idea that you are attracted to them. Keep them guessing. It is important to not only be conservative in terms of dialogue but behavior and body language as well. Show that you are a deep-minded and caring person, meaning that you have an empathetic and affectionate side, something all women are looking for. It is amazing by how much attention women will provide when they see it inside of you. Very few women meet men that are socially responsible in these terms, but if you grab her interest, just then will she yearn for your affection that you've held back from her.

Always remember that these connections take time.

from the flip side i got in too a heavy relationship when i was 17 and although she wasn't my first she felt like it cus it was the first time i had love and sex. anyway 4 years down the line i was broke, somewhat mentally disturbed and fucked. things went proper sour.

they say that males brains don't fully develop till were 25. so take your time build up your resources, people and careers. then youll have more to offer than douche scenesters and wanna be gangsters. cus real gangsters wear suits.

but just be on the look out cus the best girlfriends are just really really good mates you get to fuck.

peace and progress.

Women are highly over rated. Get a rubber fuck me in the face doll and dog for companionship.lol;)

/\/\/\/\ if you believe that why you even bothering with the doll. wont the dog satisfy both your needs

^ ewwww... I dont think he ment beastiality, haha

lol well blow up women are more hassle, puncture repair kits are fuckers

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lol well blow up women are more hassle, puncture repair kits are fuckers

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Needle-dick? :)

Naw no doggy style.lol
If I get too horny and start thinking about picking up a girl at the local bar I just slam my a door on my cock.lol

what is there to deal with? if I were u i'd practice seducing the ladies to boost my confidence... smoking cannabis and thinking oneself into a hole is unhealthy...

as we can see, no man is an island... therefore don't assume you are the only dude who has never had a girlfriend (not that you are assuming that of course). I sometimes feel as though I haven't had a girlfriend, but only because its been ages since I've been bothered to commit to anything beside a successful harvest. we all have our issues :)

for me... going someplace new, and treating the event ~(any event)~ as a big act with the world as my stage often provides me a confidence boost... under this new light I realise that I can be and do what ever I like all depending upon how confidently I carry it off... the watcher is non the wiser as they engage in conversation an feed of my invented magic... during these moments the possibility of establishing long lasting relationships is just so possible...

I told a girl around 6 years ago quite confidently that I was a virgin, but I didn't say it as though it was any kind of major issue... she wanted to fax pipe off to cut a long story short... she made a bigger issue out of it on the surface than I did and she very much desired to put me out of some kind of misery... she couldn't wait to take her panties off and pull me in... steamy windows lol enuff!!

hold yer head up and get on with being alive dude

And for some odd reason I thought I was the "only" or one of a "few" people with this problem...

I am a senior in highschool Havent had a relationship since 9th grade... (lasted 2 weeks) anyways its not like im bad with women... I have many girl friends but on that note its always that... Every girl that ive ever met and became friends with thats what I turn out to be... the "FRIEND" who she cries to and tells you to "stay the way you are now you will find some girl that deserves you"

or this is a good one to

"Your going to make some girl extremely happy one day"

OR this one is even better...

"I want a guy JUST like YOU"

on that one I cant help but say... "Im standing infront of you"
and that usually ends with "I dont deserve someone as good as you" ...

What
The
Fuck.

Oh, well me and this current girl are hitting it off pretty well we've hung out every night/day since we met... about 1.5 months ago... And we both agree theres never a day that passes that we dont "want" to hang out with each other...

But shes made it clear that she doesnt want a relationshit right now because of her last boyfriend "ruind" her but its ok I guess so yea... all of our friends think we screw around but the reality of the situation is we dont at all... nothing

But oh well they keep telling me to make the move but... Yea no point because she made it PAINFULLY clear that she doesnt want any type of "love" life at all and shes happy without one.

Thats just my thought on the subject and a small story...

yea...

<3 all at cannabis.com!:rastasmoke::rastasmoke::rasta:

Everyone starts somewhen :jointsmile:

I don't think I'll ever get a girlfriend

I dont even know how to get one. One cannot even really be direct in looking for a girlfriend without it looking like you're just looking for meat can they?

I always found that a direct approach works. My opening line is :
Do you fuck on first dates? LOL

Only kidding my problem isn't getting girlfriends it's keeping ex=girlfriends away.At my moms funeral two of my exes were there as well as my current one.

In my own experience as funny as it seems,I usually find women when I'm not looking.Its seems if I show no interest it makes them more attracted to me. The times I was most approached by women was when I was married. My wives friends were all over me. But me being the idiot I was I never took any of them up on it.

i dont get why girls get all whorish around every other guy except for me and then they get all mad with me or some shit and are quick to throw me a lawsuit.

one of the funniest things i've ever read, on a guitar forum

"Sex is overrated. Try World of Warcraft."

Why do so many of you guys want a girl friend? Most of you guys are younger than me, you shouldn't even be looking for a girlfriend, you should be dating as many women as you possibly can, the last thing you want is to waste your youth with 1 person! I think this is where many of you are having problems, because you are so desperate for a girlfriend every girl you talk to can smell your desperation so you get a quick route into the friend category. But if you make it clear you are only looking to date, aka have sex, then they will never make the mistake of thinking of you as a friend. If they aren't interested, move on and find another. Repeat this process over and over, and in time, you will get better and better, but don't waste your time with a girlfriend while you are so young, in the long run you will just see how much of a waste of time that was.

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one of the funniest things i've ever read, on a guitar forum

"Sex is overrated. Try World of Warcraft."

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ROFLMAO!!!!! :S2::S2::S2:

BTW... for all those who think the life is shit only because they have not girlfriends... i can say from my own experience... i had my first girlfriend when i was 20, so i know how you feel. And i can say its not THAT too much... Its good, of course, but not having one is not the end of the world.
AND, having a girlfriend brings a LOT of new problems... many of which you may not be ready to deal with. I say it by experience, its far more complicated than you think... and to someone who never had any relationship, women can be, at least, incomprehensible... It would have been better for me if i had my 1st girlfriend when i were older, and wiser.
Also, i know it seems to be a lot of "social pressure", like to be the only ones that are alone... but dont worry about it. Each one is a unique and special person, and no one should feel need to be like no one... so, just be yourself.
A final advice, is that things happen when youre NOT looking for them. If you worries too much about finding someone, probably youre just keeping them away. Stop to worry, do other things, enjoy your life, and when the right time comes (cause it always come), you will find your one. Until then, relax... or, like was said in the quote on the yoda's post (my version):

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"Sex is overrated. Try Weed :stoned:"

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Why do so many of you guys want a girl friend? Most of you guys are younger than me, you shouldn't even be looking for a girlfriend, you should be dating as many women as you possibly can, the last thing you want is to waste your youth with 1 person! I think this is where many of you are having problems, because you are so desperate for a girlfriend every girl you talk to can smell your desperation so you get a quick route into the friend category. But if you make it clear you are only looking to date, aka have sex, then they will never make the mistake of thinking of you as a friend. If they aren't interested, move on and find another. Repeat this process over and over, and in time, you will get better and better, but don't waste your time with a girlfriend while you are so young, in the long run you will just see how much of a waste of time that was.

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the problem is I can't even get a date or fuck budddy

what the fuck is dating anyway. I dont know how to go about that one with women. "Hey you wanna go on a date?" it sounds better if I just ask them if they wanna hang out.