how to deal with the fact that you have never had a girlfriend...

[Non]

Most if not all women would reject a person whose never had a girlfriend or have never had a sexual relationship, in these days. aside from the fact that I have to lie, it may be hard to hide it since it's resulted in many imbalances physical and emotional. also I would guess that women are different in these days, most don't want to marry or stay exclusive for an amount of time.

maybe I'm just full of it.

I am 21 by the way not a teenager anymore...

Non Reviewed by Non on 10-18-2007. how to deal with the fact that you have never had a girlfriend... Most if not all women would reject a person whose never had a girlfriend or have never had a sexual relationship, in these days. aside from the fact that I have to lie, it may be hard to hide it since it's resulted in many imbalances physical and emotional. also I would guess that women are different in these days, most don't want to marry or stay exclusive for an amount of time. maybe I'm just full of it. I am 21 by the way not a teenager anymore... Rating: 5

[Canadian_Cron]

dude i dont exaclty now what you mean... are you saying that you hopeless to ever have a relationship cause you never had a girlfriend???

if so... like no way man. theres plenty of ppl that havent been in a sexual relationship at your age, also theres many girls that wouldnt mind that you havent. i guess in north america the average is 16-17ish??? that means theres many people both be4 and after that age. your perfectly normal. everyones different. dont sweat it and dont fear you "inexperience." youll get it eventually when the times right, just dont worry about it so much and when you feel the time is right just let it happen. its not as bad as you think.

[LuckyG]

Well, don't lie about it then. Be honest and be yourself. Have a good time.

I don't know, I'm in the same situation but I guess apathy doesn't work for everyone. You are probably just worrying too much about it, which won't help anything. Look out for number one, and then worry about finding number two. :thumbsup:

[LuckyG]

I'd edit my last post but I think that the unintentional bathroom humour in it deserves to live on.

[THClord]

Dude, same here.

Well the reason for me is that I was f*in stupid. I had a couple opportunities recently, but I blew them all.

I'll keep my eyes open.

BTW, I'm 19.

[Non]

dude i dont exaclty now what you mean... are you saying that you hopeless to ever have a relationship cause you never had a girlfriend???

if so... like no way man. theres plenty of ppl that havent been in a sexual relationship at your age, also theres many girls that wouldnt mind that you havent. i guess in north america the average is 16-17ish??? that means theres many people both be4 and after that age. your perfectly normal. everyones different. dont sweat it and dont fear you "inexperience." youll get it eventually when the times right, just dont worry about it so much and when you feel the time is right just let it happen. its not as bad as you think.

yeah that's pretty much what I thought...

[Innominate]

I'm 21 and a virgin, but I've had my share of intimacy with other women, however like you, I have turned down countless (and I mean COUNTLESS) opportunities for serious relationships. I am extremely particular of my ideal woman and truly believe I have to be. But I don't go around picking up women, in fact, I keep my emotions well conserved.

I'd disagree on your position that women favor someone experienced over conserved. They want someone they know they can trust, and I believe they are less likely to trust a man that has been with a lot of women. All women are different, some are follow the "friends with benefits" lifestyle and others are really looking for someone to start a new family with.

I also disagree with your statement about women not wanting to marry. I have yet to hear from a single woman that is not interested in marriage. (Check out the Marriage thread before even THINKING about marriage, PLEASE!)

If you are in a hurry for intimacy, you should do some overlooking on your personal self. Appearance (esp. posture), behavior, dialogue, health, and perhaps your bank account are factors that women definitely pay close attention to. Just don't force yourself toward women and you should have better luck.

Again, we have our whole lives ahead of us with boundless opportunities. :thumbsup:

[420MissHighTimes420]

I'd disagree on your position that women favor someone experienced over conserved. They want someone they know they can trust, and I believe they are less likely to trust a man that has been with a lot of women. All women are different, some are follow the "friends with benefits" lifestyle and others are really looking for someone to start a new family with.

I also disagree with your statement about women not wanting to marry. I have yet to hear from a single woman that is not interested in marriage. (Check out the Marriage thread before even THINKING about marriage, PLEASE!)

If you are in a hurry for intimacy, you should do some overlooking on your personal self. Appearance (esp. posture), behavior, dialogue, health, and perhaps your bank account are factors that women definitely pay close attention to. Just don't force yourself toward women and you should have better luck.

Again, we have our whole lives ahead of us with boundless opportunities. :thumbsup:

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[The Lorax]

I'm 21 and a virgin, but I've had my share of intimacy with other women, however like you, I have turned down countless (and I mean COUNTLESS) opportunities for serious relationships. I am extremely particular of my ideal woman and truly believe I have to be. But I don't go around picking up women, in fact, I keep my emotions well conserved.

I'd disagree on your position that women favor someone experienced over conserved. They want someone they know they can trust, and I believe they are less likely to trust a man that has been with a lot of women. All women are different, some are follow the "friends with benefits" lifestyle and others are really looking for someone to start a new family with.

I also disagree with your statement about women not wanting to marry. I have yet to hear from a single woman that is not interested in marriage. (Check out the Marriage thread before even THINKING about marriage, PLEASE!)

If you are in a hurry for intimacy, you should do some overlooking on your personal self. Appearance (esp. posture), behavior, dialogue, health, and perhaps your bank account are factors that women definitely pay close attention to. Just don't force yourself toward women and you should have better luck.

Again, we have our whole lives ahead of us with boundless opportunities. :thumbsup:

I agree with this man. :thumbsup:

I'm almost 20, and in the same boat.

I also figure that I need to focus on school and photography more so, I mean, I'm not gonna prevent anything from happening if I find the right person, but at the same time, I'm not gonna go out of my way.

There are more people out there just like you than you think, I used to be the same way, thinking I was one of few, but I know now, and am content with the fact.

[Gandalf_The_Grey]

Well, looks like I win this thread; 22 and never had a girlfriend, haven't had sex, not even been kissed. Horray for me, the winner....



Man I fucking hate life sometimes