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about when i posted the thread talking about how to deal with the loss of a loved one..... the reason why i posted that, was that day, my grandpa on my dads side, had a stroke, and i knew it wasnt going to be good.... but the reason why i was asking how to deal with the loss of a loved one, is because despite loosing 2 people close to me, i was basicaly drunk or high the entire time.... and i dont want to go back to using anything right now...
Yeah, sometimes when there's a difficult situation in your life it may be best to keep your mind clean and clear. Intoxicants can delay the processing of your emotions and any lifestyle changes that ensue, actually making it harder to cope, but causing you to think you're ok. On the other hand, if there's just something that keeps haunting you and you can't figure out how to let it go, some deep relaxation and meditation with the herb could show you a way to help yourself. I would go without for a while, then if there's anything left hanging for too long seek help getting "out of your own head" so to speak. But i'm no psychologist, so use salt liberally on my advice.
How do you deal with grief? You cry, you cuss, you go kind of crazy for a while. You feel hollow or like ashes inside. But eventually, it fades. It never really goes away. I still mourn my Mother. It's been more than 20 years. But life goes on and we survive. New people come into your life and you go on.
It's kind of funny- my Mom was abusive, bipolar and a real bitch at times, but I mourn her loss more than I mourned my Dad's! I was always "my Father's daughter" -I look like him, act like him, loved him dearly, but it was Mom's suicide that really hit me hard. I "fell into a bottle" for several years. But like I said- we survive it all! Hang in there. It will eventually get better. - Granny
ppl deal with losses and grief differently u know, like storm crow said ^ u go thru all kinda stages, and eventually it subsides. it doesnt go away and dissapear nd thats just sumthin u learn to live with..in the end what can u do? just think of the good times, and thank god or whoever u believe in that that person was sumone important in your life and helped u grow, be thankful for the experiences u guys shared...
Sorry to hear man, my grandparents all past away so I would know the feeling, I bet they are in peace now.
sorry to hear bout ur loss, hope u work through this hard time smoothly
you have my deepest sympathy I hope you and your family finds comfort in the weeks ahead ((((((cyberhug)))))
thank you everyone....
we were goning to go and see him tomarow, on his hospis bed(for those of you who dont know, basicaly his death bed) but then he passed away, so we are still gonna go to tacoma.... but we are just gonna go see the family,(dads mom, his brothers, his sisters, my cusians.... blah blah blah... we havent been down there in a while anyways.... i think i was the only one that made it down to tacoma any place near any of the holidays.... i was down for thanks giving... and thats about it....)
but gonna go see the family tomarow.....
Bro, Im so sorry. I hope you feel better. He wouldn't want you to be depressed about it, he would want you to live life and be happy. I feel so sorry for you. I too am dealing with the lose of a loved one, though in a different way (but I don't wanna hijack your thread, so look for a thread on that maybe in a few days or something, I dunno)
Anyway, I hope you feel better. Im so sorry for you.
Peace, love, And Support, Da Polar Bear
I n I want you to continue to live your life well. Remember, when you have problems in life, think of the squirrel putting nuts away for the winter. It looks insurmountable, but as he puts the nuts in every day, by the first frost he has enough to supply him throughout the winter. Or as Bob Marley sang it, "If you're the big, big tree, we're the small axe."
aww man, sry to hear that
yea... so.... i got back from tacoma.... and god damn this man was a saint compared to the rest of the people in our family... he had awards for going to school every day.... for how good his spelling was... his basket ball team only lost 3 games one year.... he won state for track(the long jump) plus he was the manager for all other sports...(he wasnt a very bulky guy, but he was tall so he played sports that required tall skiny guys) and he was in the korea war also(for those of you who havent read the posts about my other grandpa, my grandpa on my moms side served in the korea war to...)
but.... it really sucks... because there are SO many questions, i wanted to ask him... like i said... there are very few times in my life that i saw him...