My wife left me... So I got high

I was pretty damn high last night. My wife left me, went to stay with her parents. We had a big fight. Allow me to set the scene...

We're both incredibly young. We got married right out of high school, as we were with each other for 3 years in high school. We had never lived with each other, so that was a bit of a mistake. I'm 19 now, married, and in college with a TOUGH major. I'm trying to become a doctor, and I've got a pretty good chance with my grades.

Now, I don't know about all of you, but it's tough to live on your own with no support from your parents while taking college classes. Furthermore, it's even tougher to live while supporting a spouse who refuses to work, clean, or do anything at home. That's the problem... I've been working 100 hours a month on top of 12-15 hours of class each week. I have been so busy, too busy to clean up the house. So anyway, I keep coming home, and the house is a wreck... papers everywhere, she leaves food out, the laundry gets piled to where it is taller than me, and cat shit is everywhere. She doesn't change the litter box, but she blames the messy house on the cats. Well, let me tell you, the cats don't let the dishes pile up to kingdom come.

She doesn't contribute, and doesn't help me out. She takes too much, and doesn't give. I work my butt off for her. So how does she treat me? Like she's the victim and she's the one who'se made sacrifices. Just because she had a chunk of cash when she came into this marriage a year ago apparently means that she doesn't have to work, because "She's already made her sacrifice." I'd be more understanding if she had a job, or college classes, but she literally has NOTHING, and does NOTHING. She's got no friends, and threatens to commit suicide every time we have a big fight. She's violent, blows up randomly, and even punches me (I don't hit her back though, I'm a respectful guy towards women).

Well, someone told me that I really should just lay it down to her and let her know I wouldn't tolerate it. I did, for about 1 hour, I just stood up to her and let her know how angry it was making me. I didn't do this suddenly, either. I had asked her to go pay a cable bill, and she said she would. Later that day when I reminded her, out of nowhere, she yelled "Shut up!" So I just told her for an hour how horrible it was that she doesn't want to help, how much she would fail as a parent if she couldn't handle basic responsibilities, how I love her but need her to take up the slack, etc.

Well, she left me after I said that. Maybe she will come back, I don't know, I feel like crap right now. I'm pretty high too. I was very stoned last night. I need to just relax, maybe everything will fix itself. I don't know why I posted that here, but I know that stoners can be very accommodating.

I am so sorry to here that.... I have some thing for you. Give me a few min to put it togeather for you.

Thanks igot4cheep. This is actually the first time we've been apart for several months, and definitely the first time she's "left me"

FTS... Her you go I wrote you a song. I hope you like it,

I got married right out High school because I got High.
I marred my High School sweetheart because I got High.
I wanted a happy life and I know why because I got High, because I got High, because I got High.

I am going to Medical School because I got High.
I am working 100 hours a month because I got High.
Trying to get a better life for my wife and me you know why because I got High, because I got High, because I got High.

Now my wife wonâ??t clean the house because she got high.
She wonâ??t the gotdam house because she got high.
I think I hate this bitch and I know why because she got high, because she got high, because she got high.

I come tired as shit because I got high.
I come piles of dirty dishes because my wife got high.
Now my house smell like old cat shit and I know why because I high, because I high, because I high.

I have given so much of my life up for her because I high.
Now I know I hate bitch because I high.
I leavening her ass in middle of the night because I high, because I high, because I high.

I just got graduated Medical School and great life because she high.
She missed out on a great life because she high.
Now I am banging a super model and I love my life because I high, because she high, because we high.




All in all man donâ??t let any one push you down. You can do bad buy your self. So if she wants to act like a fool then let her. Just do it from across town. You guys are young and people change. So donâ??t get stressed out and fuck up your life over something that is trivial. Keep up the good work and maybe itâ??s time to trim the fat from you life. I just shaved off 160 pounds if you get my drift. Remember on how this feels so you will not have to go thru it again and you can be happy. GOOD LUCK MAN.

hahaha! Oh man, thanks dude... that really helped. You're a riot. Seriously... I never thought I'd ever have to go through all this, but we at cannabis.com are like a big family. Maybe this is all for the better, even if she doesn't come back... I don't know how to feel, but you're right, people change, and if its not meant to be its not meant to be. Still, she's my wife, and I feel my duty to her every day. She just doesn't feel the same way..

I won't leave her. She's gonna have to leave me.

damn i just smoked my first dro of the day and this is a sad post. I feel your pain man...my girlfriend has been very difficult and I'm 20. :stoned:

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Originally Posted by igot4cheep

Now my wife won’t clean the house because she got high.
She won’t the gotdam house because she got high.
I think I hate this bitch and I know why because she got high, because she got high, because she got high.

I come tired as shit because I got high.
I come piles of dirty dishes because my wife got high.
Now my house smell like old cat shit and I know why because I high, because I high, because I high.

I have given so much of my life up for her because I high.
Now I know I hate bitch because I high.
I leavening her ass in middle of the night because I high, because I high, because I high.

I just got graduated Medical School and great life because she high.
She missed out on a great life because she high.
Now I am banging a super model and I love my life because I high, because she high, because we high.

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that part was sweet goodness, ill tell you like ive been told all my life, "dont sweat the small stuff, only the big stuff like life" bitches come and go, get yourself together there will be plenty more women in your life time, dont fret over some broad who isnt worth it man. Good luck!:pimp:

Thanks.

I mean, am I unreasonable? I try to see things from her perspective, but I just can't for the life of me put myself in her place when she told me to "shut up" when I told her to go pay a bill that was due... after she originally told me she would in the first place. I can't put myself in her place when she's too busy playing neopets or some other online game to just help out with the basic necessities of taking care of a home.

Driveby, do you think she could be depressed? She is showing some signs of it.

man ur situation suks but try to look on the bright side of things at least ur healthy (i think)ur not gonna die from this and at least u dont hvae a kid! man if u had a kid with her u would have to be tied to this girl until the kid turns 18 and not to mention how much it would suck for a kid to have a split family if u guys did divorce or w/e but man i wish u the best of luck and hope u can get things back together well.

lol you have some bitch who is using you, treating you like shit while you bust as so she can be a lazy baller... "i won't leave her"...sucker

she has her teeth in deep... i say congrats on the split, feel good about it, you just excercised your intelligence and will.

YOU SIR ARE SMARTER THAN ME!!!! smoke on friend

She's been to the doctor and is on antidepressants. I think she's bipolar though moreso than depressed. The psychiatrists refuse to see her because we don't have money or insurance.

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Originally Posted by drivebyphilosopher

Thanks.

I mean, am I unreasonable? I try to see things from her perspective, but I just can't for the life of me put myself in her place when she told me to "shut up" when I told her to go pay a bill that was due... after she originally told me she would in the first place. I can't put myself in her place when she's too busy playing neopets or some other online game to just help out with the basic necessities of taking care of a home.

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let her go out on her own, she'll soon realize that the world is not as accomidating as you have been, and shortly after realize that she fucked up. You guys are young, and did something quite common these days, i almost did it myself. It usually turns out being a mistake. You keep yourself together, you sound like you have a strong future, and with all that money youll be making, you can smoke all the pot you want.

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Originally Posted by Number 1 DJ

man ur situation suks but try to look on the bright side of things at least ur healthy (i think)ur not gonna die from this and at least u dont hvae a kid! man if u had a kid with her u would have to be tied to this girl until the kid turns 18 and not to mention how much it would suck for a kid to have a split family if u guys did divorce or w/e but man i wish u the best of luck and hope u can get things back together well.

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It is for this reason that I have not had a kid. I saw something like this possibly happening, and I did not want to be locked in in that sort of way. Plus, I didn't think she was responsible enough to raise one.

You know what I find kind of strange? 2 years ago, I drove to her mothers house and took her away, because she wanted to get away from her mom. Her exact line of reasoning was, "She's driving me crazy and I cannot live with her anymore. I hate her!"

Now, she basically had her mother do the same thing with me. She told her mother that she hated me and that I was driving her crazy.

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Driveby, do you think she could be depressed? She is showing some signs of it.

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hit her up with that magical ganja and if u live anywhere with medical mary jay she might be able to get a card maybe u can get her to make her own crop that u can smoke off of lol best of luck my man

dude... you need a little TuckerMax.com

don't be that sucker man... you are about to up your status significantly, drawing more predators attention.... you are a male wildebeast, and i can tell hommie wants to be a lion

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Originally Posted by drivebyphilosopher

hahaha! Oh man, thanks dude... that really helped.

I won't leave her. She's gonna have to leave me.

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Any time man...:S2:

BTW don't wate untill you make $500.000 to leave her. She will get half. And then I don't want to read a "How to hide a body" Thread on here from you. Good luck and Have fun.:thumbsup:

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Originally Posted by Number 1 DJ

hit her up with that magical ganja and if u live anywhere with medical mary jay she might be able to get a card maybe u can get her to make her own crop that u can smoke off of lol best of luck my man

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Her job tests for it. Luckily she doesn't care about me smoking though. She's smoked with me before. I think it would probably help her, yeah. Then again, she'd still never get anything done around here (hell, it'd probably make her worse in that respect, though I don't know how much worse you can get than not doing ANYTHING.

this might sound crazy but make sure that if u have any kind of sexual relations with her again that she doesnt tamper with the condoms becuase she prob knows she had it really good with u and might want to have a kid so she can get child support and have a free source of income at ur expense becareful some ppl out there will try to bend u over for there own selfish reasons not saying she is like this just sumthing to keep in mind

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Originally Posted by igot4cheep

Any time man...:S2:

BTW don't wate untill you make $500.000 to leave her. She will get half. And then I don't want to read a "How to hide a body" Thread on here from you. Good luck and Have fun.:thumbsup:

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I know. Sometimes I worry about that. I mean, hell, if she isn't helping me right now, how can I expect her to help me in the future? I HAD to lay it down for her yesterday. She left me no choice. I didnt LIKE yelling at her and making her feel bad, but I've tried EVERYTHING else. I tried asking her nicely, tried not doing any of her stuff, tried pleading, reasoning, etc.

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Originally Posted by FakeBoobsRule

Driveby, do you think she could be depressed? She is showing some signs of it.

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Depressed.... I dont know. I took on mental disorders for a wile. To me it just sound like is is F!@king lazy man.

RUN! RUN! RUN as fast as you can!
it won't get any better
Ditch her NOW!

can u really see u spending the rest of u life like this? u cant change a person they have to change themselves and if she doesnt see a reason to change because she knows u'll be there to take care of her then she wont change she'll just keep on sucking ur blood like a chupacabra

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Originally Posted by Number 1 DJ

this might sound crazy but make sure that if u have any kind of sexual relations with her again that she doesnt tamper with the condoms becuase she prob knows she had it really good with u and might want to have a kid so she can get child support and have a free source of income at ur expense becareful some ppl out there will try to bend u over for there own selfish reasons not saying she is like this just sumthing to keep in mind

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I have worried about this a lot. I watch her take her birth control pill every night though. So far, so good. I don't use condoms. We've had a few scares before where she's missed a pill, but she hasn't gotten pregnant yet.

On an unrelated note, by the way, I am actually kind of enjoying the house to myself right now.

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Originally Posted by Dr HaZzMatT Esq.

RUN! RUN! RUN as fast as you can!
it won't get any better
Ditch her NOW!

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i have to say sucker one more time so you get it....
sucka


and don't EVER let them touch the condoms! jesus christ man

I seams to me that you already know what to do. Donâ??t let you heart get in the way of you brain.

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On an unrelated note, by the way, I am actually kind of enjoying the house to myself right now.

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TIP: You can still buy Scott Peterson's fishing boat on EBay!
Take her fishing!

Its just, guys, I can't handle being wrong about everything that has happened in the past 3 years. I've stood up for this woman like nobody's business. Hell, I took on 7 total strangers for making fun of her. I've stood up for her for family and friends, and made lies to cover her ass. I love her, and if I leave her, I don't want everyone to tell me "I told you so" and everyone to think of me as a failure. I can't handle that..

yo man if i were u i would start wrapin ur shit up!!!!!!!!!!! i cant stress that enuf man the losss of a lil comfort is not worth 18 years of agony of paying 500ish dollars a month to some one u that just sits around and u wouldnt get to see ur kid that much unless u got custody but still man why go through it? wrap ur shit homie!

yo man whats done is done who cares what other ppl think yo! tell em to F*** themselves the biggest mistake here would to stay with her and make ur self miserable ppl forget shit fast anyways if ur really worried about it and ppl that make fun of u are not ur friends

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Originally Posted by igot4cheep

Depressed.... I dont know. I took on mental disorders for a wile. To me it just sound like is is F!@king lazy man.

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Igot you must have missed driveby's follow up post to mine:

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Originally Posted by drivebyphilosopher

She's been to the doctor and is on antidepressants. I think she's bipolar though moreso than depressed. The psychiatrists refuse to see her because we don't have money or insurance.

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Driveby that's tough because obviously she needs to be treated properly before you can decide your future but the writing is on the wall.

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Originally Posted by drivebyphilosopher

I love her, and if I leave her, I don't want everyone to tell me "I told you so" and everyone to think of me as a failure. I can't handle that..

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Sometimes our best actions only result in rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic. Would you rather keep this up for another few years only to end up leaving her and then have everyone tell you "Wow, we really told you so?" Get her some help soon so that you can make a proper decision on your future.

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i have to say sucker one more time so you get it....
sucka

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Its just, guys, I can't handle being wrong about everything that has happened in the past 3 years. I've stood up for this woman like nobody's business. Hell, I took on 7 total strangers for making fun of her. I've stood up for her for family and friends, and made lies to cover her ass. I love her, and if I leave her, I don't want everyone to tell me "I told you so" and everyone to think of me as a failure. I can't handle that..

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Then stay sad & upset
sucka!

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Originally Posted by drivebyphilosopher

Its just, guys, I can't handle being wrong about everything that has happened in the past 3 years. I've stood up for this woman like nobody's business. Hell, I took on 7 total strangers for making fun of her. I've stood up for her for family and friends, and made lies to cover her ass. I love her, and if I leave her, I don't want everyone to tell me "I told you so" and everyone to think of me as a failure. I can't handle that..

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swallow your pride... don't what's right when you know you are/have been wrong, is very liberating, but hard

fuckin married people and "i don't want to be a failure" GOD i hear that shit soooooooo mmuch from young couples...

TOO BAD, marriage is fucked, it is only for 20% of the population... we don't live in a caste society anymore...

dude, what other option do you have, you are smart... none, unless you are cool with having a lazy naggy queen bitch, who will take your money for nothing in return but stress...

i will get married
a)when i find a rich chick who has it so good, i don't mind being a bitch
b)i am old, and set... and i want some younger chick for arm candy... who cares what she does?
c) when i find somone who fits me perfectly, and ebbs to my flow, and greatly enhances my life, and wants to keep me happy (of course it goes both ways)


which option sounds less likely.......... C

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Originally Posted by drivebyphilosopher

Its just, guys, I can't handle being wrong about everything that has happened in the past 3 years. I've stood up for this woman like nobody's business. Hell, I took on 7 total strangers for making fun of her. I've stood up for her for family and friends, and made lies to cover her ass. I love her, and if I leave her, I don't want everyone to tell me "I told you so" and everyone to think of me as a failure. I can't handle that..

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Believe me man I mean this is the nicest way possible. You are ONLY 19 stop acting like you are 91. You life has not even begun yet. Chill out smoke one and calm down. This sound like this is the first time you got your heart broken. Yea I know you love her and you put so much time in the whole relationship. But there is a time you need to do what is best for you. I am sure all the older people here can tell you the same. It is your first and it will now be your last. Itâ??s sucks every time but it will make you stronger in the end. Calm down, chill out and think.

BTWâ?¦ Never taken on 7 guys unless it a life or death matter.

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Originally Posted by FakeBoobsRule

Sometimes our best actions only result in rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic. Would you rather keep this up for another few years only to end up leaving her and then have everyone tell you "Wow, we really told you so?" Get her some help soon so that you can make a proper decision on your future.

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You raise a very good point here...

I'm going to have to make sure things change before I let her come back. I won't, unless things change.

BTW no one cares about divorce anymore... just married people, or divorcees

now society does judge marriage failures when there is kids involved, but that is fuckin retarded too...

i'm not takin anyones shit unless i get something out of it... you cannot put somone's happiness, or what society thinks ahead of your personal happiness... why you think OJ killed that cheatin whore... he snapped

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Originally Posted by drivebyphilosopher

You raise a very good point here...

I'm going to have to make sure things change before I let her come back. I won't, unless things change.

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lol change


i am gonna call you dr kid

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Originally Posted by igot4cheep

Believe me man I mean this is the nicest way possible. You are ONLY 19 stop acting like you are 91. You life has not even begun yet. Chill out smoke one and calm down. This sound like this is the first time you got your heart broken. Yea I know you love her and you put so much time in the whole relationship. But there is a time you need to do what is best for you. I am sure all the older people here can tell you the same. It is your first and it will now be your last. Itâ??s sucks every time but it will make you stronger in the end. Calm down, chill out and think.

BTWâ?¦ Never taken on 7 guys unless it a life or death matter.

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I agree with everything you said and I'm sorry for holding on too hard to something that I can't control, save for the whole "first time you've had your heart broken" stuff. I've had it worse before, actually. I had one chick break up with me on a hospital bed once when I was thinking I was gonna die, said she cheated on me, that was tough. I'm smoking a fattie right now reading all of this. Thats what I like about smoking fatties... gives you a little perspective on things. I understand everything you guys are saying, just know that its VERY hard on me, because I've busted my ass for the last 3 years and it seems like its ammounted to nothing.

Thank You....
You know HighTillIDie is telling you some real shit too man.