I don't understand girls..

There's this girl I really like, and we have been friends for a while but last summer i admitted to her that I had a crush on her, but she said that she didn't feel the same way ect.. Last year I moved and during the winter she sent me a text message saying "I wish you were still here, your the only person that ever understood me". Well I am actually back in town (possibly for good) and she's acting like barely a friend. I have seen her maybe 3 times in the two months i've been back, and I think she ignores my calls/texts. Should I bother trying so hard to be her friend? I still really like her, but i'm sick of her texting me asking for drugs, but when she doesn't need anything she RARELY replies. She also gives us no time alone for me to explain things. Anybody have any suggestions what i should do?

well while i'm hesitant to say this about all women....

women want what they can't have... simple as that.... there are soooooooooo many instances of a girl not liking some guy, until he was unavailable to her... then all of a sudden she wants him... (i.e. you chase after her for upwards of a year, nothing... you get with some other chick after giving up, the next week all of a sudden she wants you)

Sounds like she's found someone else tbh m8.

I'd dump her.....you've already guessed she's using you for drugs. People grow and change. You don't need that sort of thing.

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Originally Posted by KHAN

Sounds like she's found someone else tbh m8.

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Nope, though part of me wishes that was the case..

(edit: Weedhound: we're not going out so i can't "dump" her, and there are some days when she does actually talk to me when she's depressed and i'm a little worried that if i didn't help her she might do something stupid ((she's been to the hospital for alcohol poisoning because she drinks to much when she's depressed))

Ignore her texts and calls. Don't answer a single one until it appears that she's missing you.

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Originally Posted by cannabisis4for20

Ignore her texts and calls. Don't answer a single one until it appears that she's missing you.

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I tell myself thats what i'm going to do, but every single time she does i always answer/reply.. but i might as well try harder

Does anybody have any other ideas? Or do any girls have any clue into why she's acting the way she is? Because she won't explain it to me.

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Originally Posted by slipknotpsycho

well while i'm hesitant to say this about all women....

women want what they can't have... simple as that.... there are soooooooooo many instances of a girl not liking some guy, until he was unavailable to her... then all of a sudden she wants him... (i.e. you chase after her for upwards of a year, nothing... you get with some other chick after giving up, the next week all of a sudden she wants you)

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hahahahaha

yes, but that's also true for a lot of men - they want what they can't have. i've seen that many many many times. i'm not denying that women are like that, and i'm not saying that all women or all men are like that, but yes, there are many of both sexes that are like that (in my opinion)

and that's why i laughed. because it's true concerning both women and men.

anyways, dude, hate to say this, but yes, it does sound like she's just using you for drugs. yes, be her friend, but don't go out of your way for her. if she's going to be a fair-weather friend, really there's no reason to bust your ass going out of your way for her. it sounds like she's taking advantage of your niceness and possibly taking advantage because she knows that you did have a crush on her (do you still? if you do, i really think she's not treating you right, don't put up with that shit dude). i don't think you should completely drop her as a friend, but she'll get the message if you're not always there at her every beck and call. don't let her play mind games with you, sounds like thats what she's doing.

I think it may be time to call in an expert:

Tucker Max.

Warning: This is a link to some border-line offensive material, don't read it if you're easily offended. There aren't any graphic pictures or anything. Just text.

Guide to Mid-Level Game: Closing the deal - Rudius Media Message Board

It sounds, quite frankly, like she's just not that into you. Except on the occasions when it serves her purposes, like for drugs.

Find someone else to be interested in. And then be a bit more stand-offish. I think it's true that young women go for people whom they consider to be a challenge. When we get older, we're just grateful when you have a pulse rate and can stay awake past 10 p.m.

dude ask here to hang out or go out if shes not into it then dont get caught up with here

She's using you bro, find another girl to have fun with.

Thanks everybody for the advice, and yes blazed_babe I do still have a crush on her, but in her defense i don't know if she knows i still do.

ok bro, you know what's up... and dude, if a chick get's to know you, and she isn't into you, once... than it's over, because you don't have that right kind of respect, and you aren't playing the game right, to earn her respect. basically though dude, there is no way to play it to have her, only to play her, and manipulate her, but you are best movin on man... worth more trouble than good, by far...

and cannabis4for20 thanks for that website... i need to polish a couple aspects myself ;) :pimp:

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Originally Posted by HighTillIDie

ok bro, you know what's up... and dude, if a chick get's to know you, and she isn't into you, once... than it's over, because you don't have that right kind of respect, and you aren't playing the game right, to earn her respect. basically though dude, there is no way to play it to have her, only to play her, and manipulate her, but you are best movin on man... worth more trouble than good, by far...

and cannabis4for20 thanks for that website... i need to polish a couple aspects myself ;) :pimp:

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Tucker max has guides to all different situations to picking up girls on the message board but I swear I've seen you avatar on his message board.
Also, go to tuckermax.com and read one of the stories. You won't be able to tell me it's not funny.

[quote=HighTillIDie]ok bro, you know what's up... and dude, if a chick get's to know you, and she isn't into you, once... than it's over, because you don't have that right kind of respect, and you aren't playing the game right, to earn her respect. basically though dude, there is no way to play it to have her, only to play her, and manipulate her, but you are best movin on man... worth more trouble than good, by far.../QUOTE]

I just wanted to clear things up that might not be so clear.. I am not trying to seduce this girl and fuck her. Of course I would not complain if things ever led to that, but I really just want to spend time with her.

[quote=LiveHigh]

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Originally Posted by HighTillIDie

ok bro, you know what's up... and dude, if a chick get's to know you, and she isn't into you, once... than it's over, because you don't have that right kind of respect, and you aren't playing the game right, to earn her respect. basically though dude, there is no way to play it to have her, only to play her, and manipulate her, but you are best movin on man... worth more trouble than good, by far...

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I just wanted to clear one thing up that might not be so clear.. I am not trying to seduce this girl and fuck her. Of course I would not complain if things ever led to that, but I really just want to spend time with her

(edit: sorry about double post, i'm not sure what happened I tried editing the original because the quote didn't work)

Haha, yeah, I loved the Tucker Max story about the time he went to the gay bar. He wrote a guide to dating now? The guy's a complete asshole, but at least he knows it and will admit it. Really, the key to getting girls to like you all boils down to being confident in yourself, but that can be pretty tough to fake if you're not.

I've known girls who have strung guys along just because they like the idea of having guys longing for them. These are a dangerous breed. Stay away! They'll keep you at arm's length. They push you away if you get too close, and pull you back if you get too far. But their only real goal is to make themselves feel better by having guys want them. Some girls will even do this unintentionally, until someone points out to them how cruel they're being.

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Haha, yeah, I loved the Tucker Max story about the time he went to the gay bar. He wrote a guide to dating now? The guy's a complete asshole, but at least he knows it and will admit it. Really, the key to getting girls to like you all boils down to being confident in yourself, but that can be pretty tough to fake if you're not.

I've known girls who have strung guys along just because they like the idea of having guys longing for them. These are a dangerous breed. Stay away! They'll keep you at arm's length. They push you away if you get too close, and pull you back if you get too far. But their only real goal is to make themselves feel better by having guys want them. Some girls will even do this unintentionally, until someone points out to them how cruel they're being.

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Yeah the appendix, gay bar, and buttsex are my 3 favorite. The guides are on the Rudius Media Message Board not his website

Guide to Mid-Level Game: Dealing with an Ex making a scene - Rudius Media Message Board
Guide to Beginner Game: How to develop game if you have none - Rudius Media Message Board
Guide to Mid-Level Game: Telling the truth - Rudius Media Message Board
Guide to Mid-Level Game: Closing the deal - Rudius Media Message Board
Guide to Beginner Game: Recovering from getting shot down - Rudius Media Message Board
Guide to Beginner Game: Having game is not the same as playing games - Rudius Media Message Board
Guide to Mid-level Game: How to protect yourself from getting hurt in a relationship - Rudius Media Message Board
Guide to Mid-Level game: Taking a girl from a guy - Rudius Media Message Board
Tucker's Guide for Men: Why you don't have a girlfriend - Rudius Media Message Board
Tucker's Guide for Women, Part 1: Why you don't have a boyfriend - Rudius Media Message Board

I totally agree ... Put her on ignore all together! :thumbsup:
She is playing a game trust me I know I am a woman ... Anyways besides that smoke a fatty and be happy! :rasta:
Cheers :thumbsup:

Ok, so updated situation.. I talked to her on AIM for a bit and was in the process of writing an angry stoned instant message when she actually replied, so i changed from angry and just simply asked her if she was going to change or not.. she said "i don't know" so i told her to text me if things were going to change text me and if they weren't don't and blocked her from AIM so.. i'm pretty sure i'm done with her now, thanks you guys for helping me realize that she was playing a game. I love the internet!

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I don't understand girls...

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Allow me to take an evolutionary biology perspective on this matter.

At any given time, women of high desirability have a multitude of potential suitors. Though different women and different men may have different tastes of partners, let's face it, if you like one girl then chances are many others want her as well. There are baristas of Starbucks whom are asked out no less than ten times a day. To further complicate the matter, unsuccessful suitors take form of male friends; they all either secretly want/would want to screw her or she wants/would want to screw them, depending largely upon who initiated the friendship and timing, as sexual attraction is the primary impetus towards such matters. So, women have many suitors whether or not realized.

Multiple suitors have the evolutionary advantage of mate selection by natural selection. Weak suitors don't survive and by the constant, gradual adding in of new potential suitors, whom either survive or die, certainty of the most fit suitor is resolved. You were voted off Survivor Island long ago but since you had kept up the interest to keep the connection, she figured she may as well capitulate and use it for what it's worth: drugs. People will use you only as much as you allow them.

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Originally Posted by Oh My High

Allow me to take an evolutionary biology perspective on this matter.

At any given time, women of high desirability have a multitude of potential suitors. Though different women and different men may have different tastes of partners, let's face it, if you like one girl then chances are many others want her as well. There are baristas of Starbucks whom are asked out no less than ten times a day. To further complicate the matter, unsuccessful suitors take form of male friends; they all either secretly want/would want to screw her or she wants/would want to screw them, depending largely upon who initiated the friendship and timing, as sexual attraction is the primary impetus towards such matters. So, women have many suitors whether or not realized.

Multiple suitors have the evolutionary advantage of mate selection by natural selection. Weak suitors don't survive and by the constant, gradual adding in of new potential suitors, whom either survive or die, certainty of the most fit suitor is resolved. You were voted off Survivor Island long ago but since you had kept up the interest to keep the connection, she figured she may as well capitulate and use it for what it's worth: drugs. People will use you only as much as you allow them.

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That's what THIS (Guide to Mid-Level Game: Closing the deal - Rudius Media Message Board)
IS FOR

She is a *user*, all she wants is your drugs... dump her and find somebody that really gives a crap about *YOU* and not just what she can get from you.

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Originally Posted by slipknotpsycho

well while i'm hesitant to say this about all women....

women want what they can't have... simple as that.... there are soooooooooo many instances of a girl not liking some guy, until he was unavailable to her... then all of a sudden she wants him... (i.e. you chase after her for upwards of a year, nothing... you get with some other chick after giving up, the next week all of a sudden she wants you)

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Yup, that's exactly it. The thrill is gone once you catch the fish. lol.
I dont think she likes you that way sorry to say. Its time to find another, to take your mind off her THEN find the one after you've forgotten the first girl. lol its complicated but it works for me.

i had a girl like that... without the drugs though.
wed go through 2 months hanging all the time, then just stop, and she wouldnt answer txt/calls. shed say she would call me then wouldnt.
i gave up on her and stopped trying

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Originally Posted by Willyboy241

i had a girl like that... without the drugs though.
wed go through 2 months hanging all the time, then just stop, and she wouldnt answer txt/calls. shed say she would call me then wouldnt.
i gave up on her and stopped trying

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Do you guys still talk?

If you really want her you have to find the balance between ignoring her completely and making it seems like you're ignoring her.

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Originally Posted by birdgirl73

It sounds, quite frankly, like she's just not that into you. Except on the occasions when it serves her purposes, like for drugs.

Find someone else to be interested in. And then be a bit more stand-offish. I think it's true that young women go for people whom they consider to be a challenge. When we get older, we're just grateful when you have a pulse rate and can stay awake past 10 p.m.

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BG it's nine-fifteen for me. Live, you've gotten pretty much every possible answer here and you don't like any of them. The one you're looking for (she adores me) just isn't there....mostly because everyone else can see that already. You even get glimpses of it as well....which is why you started this thread.

I usually agree with BG on this stuff but not here. You don't need people in your space that come in and suck the life out of you. Leave the game playing for Monopoly. This girl is trouble. Go get a pet if you want to feel needed. This one will bring you down. :wtf: