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Simple question.
I've learned a lot about myself from the year or so I've been single but it sucks. I know what I can offer......
Anyways, some people tell me it's better to be single and lonely cause you have no boundries and all that. and of course, being in a good relationship has it's obvious benefits
(:(I miss them)
so what'll it be? single or in a good relationship?
haha single and lonely, you don't gotta be lonely just cause you're single.
I wouldn't know since I've only been single but I'd pick that 'cause it'd just be easier 'n you wouldn't have to deal with drama or have your heart broken or nothin'
can't stand being alone.
yea, you're right frivolous. Alone is a much better word.
but there are single people that would consider it lonely.
well i'm crazy in love with my boyfriend now, and i wouldnt have it any other way :D
Since 6th grade I have been on and off with a girl with the looks of an angel but personality of a devil.(long story) We broke up before my sophmore year of college. I am now going into my 3rd year and just recently (3months ago) Entered back into a relationship. And i love it. I mean being single is fo sho fun for a while but you do get bored & lonley. After about 8 months of being single you get sick of it. This new girl puts limits on me so I cannot be the craziy partier i use to be. And thats a good thing because im slowly but surely getting my life established. I was a dirty dog, but noww im a straight puppy..LOL
I'm diggin the single life right now.
I prefer being with someone. I feel like such a loser when i'm single and get rejected. I'm really happy with my g/f, we've been together nearly 4 months now, which is the longest i've ever been in a relationship.
well damn... of course i prefer being with someone... but i have speant the better part of my adult life working, training and being too busy... i have probably ignored miss right 100 times...
i would rather be single than be in a bad relationship... and i would much rather be in a good relationship than single... i good partner can make EVERYTHING better
I would much rather be in a committed relationship.
I think everyone needs to be single for a while to learn who they really are, and whats important to them. When you're too busy trying to please someone else, you lose sight of your own needs.
But, when you know who you are as a person, and are happy with that, you can truly love someone else.
A relationship is all about compromises...it's a give and take kinda thing. It's not easy or perfect all the time, but when you love someone with all of your heart, you want to make it work.
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Originally Posted by Bluntmasterbabe
very true!!!! too bad sometimes you love them a little more, and are trying to make things work harder than they are, and lose sight of what's important (not me silly)
am i happy being single? thats kind of like how in the summer time i can't wait for winter, and in winter i can't wait for summer.....if that makes any sense.
That makes perfect sense h4h.
But equating single and lonely- nah, I don't see that. If you are happy with yourself you can be perfectly content single, or in the company of friends.
Now, single, and un-fixably HORNY, that's another thing entirely!!!
The grass is always greener.....right?:)Quote:
Originally Posted by higher4hockey
I think everyone is that way...just human nature to be unhappy even when we have everything we ever wanted (not everyone, just most):)
Single.
Relationships are amazing, but they will always put constraints on you, no matter who it is you are with.
I think the process of finding yourself is an ongoing one, that if done properly, never ends. And you need to be able to spend time free of everything, just to yourself, for long periods of time if need be, and a relationship tends to get strained in situations like that. And I know that I would not want to put someone through that purposefully, when I need to just seperate myself from everything.
Now I currently am with a wonderful woman, whom I love dearly. But I noticed the strain on our relationship from doing the above mentioned... and I have found, by living life as a single person, while still spending time with her in most of the same ways we did before, that everyone is alot happier. I do things with her because I want to, not because we are dating and need to do things together... I surprise her with things because I want to, everything I do I do because I want to, with no expectations, and no boundaries.
I can feel ok with just disappearing for days at a time on some soul search, and she can feel the same. Its not perfect, and its probably not for everyone, but its something, and thats all that matters.
im pretty happy being single i got hurt pretty bad with my first and only relationship and ive had a sex buddy at one time but she wasnt any good at handjobs so i made her leave and never talked to her again and i didnt get anything more then a H.J. i think the only way id be happy in a relationship is if i found a chick that really really dug me and i could fall in love with and have a real good relationship without lies cheating and overall douchebaggery then id have to probably marry that chick cause shed be the one.
I like the fact that I'm attached to a loving husband, but if I weren't I definitely think being single is preferable to being in an unhealthy, unsatisfying relationship. It's natural to want intimacy and connection, I think. But I'd much sooner be unconnected than allow myself to subsist in an unahppy partnership. Life's too short for that. And being alone isn't the end of the world, despite what some people may think.
Frankly, the freedom of the single life sounds appealing to some of us long-married types. I think that's just because it would be so different from what we're used to. My husband and son have been in Houston at my in-laws' house since yesterday and won't be back till tomorrow. I'm loving the peace and relative solitude. Nothing like a quiet house (except for barking Chihuahuas) to let the mind settle and do some thinking. That, to me, would be the best thing about being single. Plenty of quiet and the freedom to do quite literally anything I wanted.
I enjoy all my wives (7 total)
You should be here on Naked Tuesdays! :thumbsup:
I like to feel loved, so I hate being single =]
I like being single, I have been married twice.... unlike the cat that sits on a hot stove, is only gonna do it once, dumb ol' me didn't learn the first time.
I have a GF, and we have been together for almost 6 years. Neither of us have any plans to change the terms of our relationship. There is something to be said for the great sex too. The biggest thing about being single, is that you have to figure out the differance between being "alone" and being "al-one" (all one). A great partnership is not combining 2 halves to make a whole, but combining 2 all-one singles to make a pair.
Great sex by itself, does not a relationship make.
The hardest thing I have a problem with is finding a *partner* that has the drive, intuition, education, and work ethic to be able to keep up with me. Finding a lover is not a problem.... there are lots to chose from.....but finding a partner..... thats the real trick.
Idealy, I would love to find a partner that is also a business owner and understands the business of running a business, has the dedication, and time required to run a business.
I suppose the real question should be "Are you looking for a partner?? or just a fuck buddy??
I was just seeing someone for a few days and it started getting somewhat serious so I broke it off immediately. I don't know why but I just don't want to be tied down at all at the moment. Of course, I would eat my words if Ms. Right walked by right now
I hate getting involved in a relationship...there's several girls that I hang out with and randomly do things with...much more suitable for me at this point
Ive been lonely pretty much my whole life and it feels shitty. So im going with the relationship option.
Hmmmm... I picked "other." How to explain? Every time Ive been in a serious (and healthy) relationship where I thought she was "The One" I have never been happier. It is clearly the point of Nirvana for me. As much as I love women, having one woman to love supremely in infinite intimacy is indescribably fullfilling... as if when I get to that point the love that I have building inside of me brims over the surface in insurmountable excess, and I am truly at peace in my heart. Women are the only thing that prevents the wild animal inside of me from taking over completely... you have a very primal hold over that part of my cerebrum, and I am ever grateful for it. As of recently I am discovering that this is most likely an instinct I inherited from my Mohawk ancestry, pretty much like alot of my cemented personality traits. The only thing I didnt seem to inherit from them was a love of working thousands of feet up on steel girders with no harness lol.
Having said this, its easy to see why women are my only weakness. I open up to everybody, but only to a certain extent. It takes a special woman to get me to open up completely and make me completely vulnerable to her. The problem with this is that I havent been able to choose somebody that wont take advantage of that, and its burned me on many occassions. I am coming to the realization that a relationship must not be in the cards for me at this juncture, but will hopefully take place later in life. For now, my purpose is to be there for women in anything they might need. So far with the exception of sex.. Ive popped into alot of different womens lives in the months since my break-up, and while most of them wanted sex, I wouldnt do it. They would most definitely catch feelings, and their heart would break when I moved on to wherever I was needed next. Make no mistake, these women all desparately needed me for various reasons, and they deserved it, but... Im not into breaking hearts. If I ever meet a girl that deserves it and I have faith that she would understand my position and that I wont be around forever then I might, but... many girls would be willing to lie to themselves, so.. most likely not. I use this time as a period of "fasting" to really gather a concrete hold on myself without any distractions of intimacy and lust. Those issues can really cloud the issue of LOVE.
I'm hate to be alone, therefore I never am.
Birdbirl brings up a excellent point.Quote:
Originally Posted by birdgirl73
I've never been alone. I went straight from my parents house to my now husbands house. I don't know what it's like not to have to account to someone! But, boy, what an exciting idea!
Don't get me wrong. I've had a good life and I wouldn't change a thing, but if something happened and I was single again, I certainly wouldn't rush into another relationship. I think it would be a relief to only be responsible for my own happiness for awhile. It's hard work to make everyone happy, all at the same time. Sometimes its impossible!
Besides, my husband is a loving, understanding, faithful guy and I know I was lucky to find him. Lightening doesn't strike the same place twice. I'd rather be single than settle! ;)
after a stormy and nearly fatal decade of being half of a couple, i realized that i was one of those. another decade of drifting from relationship to relationship only served to chisel that opinion into stone. i now keep that tablet hanging above my bed, my own personal ten commandments.
I would rather be single than settle again...life is way to short for a dull, boring relationship....when I find someone...it will be great...I am not rushing into anything right now..at all.
I would love to be in a good relationship. But, single is probably better for me, my heart has been broken way to much. I must pick the selfish mother f'ers. I'm still married to the biggest lyer, selfish jerk. SELFISH SELFISH SELFISH!!! Can't even handle our kids, because he rather be bangin' every chick in town, acting like some stupid teenager, partying everynight, he shoud of grown up by now. Hes' almost 40, jeez. Now that I got that off my chest. I perfer SINGLE!!! As long as I can have some company once in awhile!
I dont know I have been alon for so long I forget what been in a relationship (normal relationship) is all about. My life is full of fight and overnight girlfriends. When I find that girl I am sure I will be off doing somthing eles instead of keeping her happy. This aspect of life is troublsom to me, but someone has to do it.
hate hate hate being alone, i cant deal with it
Learning to enjoy ones own company is an admirable goal.
And until you can entertain yourself, a meaningful relationship with another person is impossible.
You can't count on someone else to keep you company all the time- it's unfair to you both.
I think I only really figured this out recently, and only internalized it within the last year. It's very freeing.
i like to believe that everything happens for a reason. For some reason nothing has happened to me yet.
SINGLE...4 sure! if u need to be in a relationship to make urself happy than u have got a probelm. i am not emotionally co-dependent, i do what i want when i want. bro u gotta cut the fuckin strings *snip* and do what YOU want to. free yourself. i cant think of any benefits in being in a relationship...no not even sex i like switch up that.
why B in a relationship? every girl im with all i can think is "if i can cook this much better than you, theres something wrong." and what do u mean,, 'single and lonely' bro i think u done fucked up and bonked ur head. im so busy with different things i cant imagine having time for a girl. im 2 busy making $ and working out trying to get my DL back up to max.
when i am relaxing by myself i just close my eyes and see nothing but colors. real life colors that i can feel and taste. i go inside myself and smile knowing that in this beautiful, anything is possible and anything could happen. i guess im easily amused. i crack myself up.
dont get me wrong...i like a LITTLE bit of intimacy every other blue moon, but less is more. u always want to walk away from a situation being in control and having them think that they are.
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Im in the same boat.Quote:
Originally Posted by Markass
Can't truly say to be honest with yea, theres this girl I'm absolutely crazy about, I just can't find a way to tell her how I feel.
I'm open and honest about how I feel, I could potentially ruin a perfectly good friendship in a selfish act of greed.
I'm intrapersonal and keep what I feel to myself, everyone goes on in life happy and oblivious while I tear myself apart from the inside out.