virgin problems

okay, this may sound stupid but to me the sexuality forums here seem to give the most best and honest advice/answers/experience out there.

that being said, i'm 20 years old and am still a virgin. i've been with probably 5 or 6 different girls throughout my teen years and until now and i've done light stuff but not alot, most of the stuff was the opposite sex going down on me, etc. i never really returned the favor 'cause i didn't have to lol.

well anyways, i'm kind of self-conscious about it now. i feel like i'm too far behind the game now and that the next girl i'm going to be with i'm not going to be able to please because of my lack of experience. i'm not sure whether just to be honest about it and tell her i am a virgin and don't have much experience with women or what. it's not that i don't want to be sexually active, i do and the worst part is is that i've had the chance, PLENTY OF TIMES i just sort of...bailed out. now i'm going to be 21 in a few months and be able to hit up clubs and stuff but i'm worried cuz honestly, i have next to no experience and most girls i meet have a lot, or a normal amount.

for all the ladies out there, what do you think? do women prefer guys with the experience who know what they're doing? it is better to just be up front and honest about it and work from there? sometimes i feel like just getting it out of the way and hooking up with some of the trashiest sluts i know to gain the experience, but i really don't think that's the way. i kinda want it to be better than that. my problem isn't getting the girl, it's what to do when i have her lol.

if you can understand and offer any advice or anything, thanks. maybe i'm just making too big a deal out of things

i don't know i'm so fucking confused sometimes!! thanks for listening!

Just be honest about it. And if she laughs at you or whatever then you wouldnt wanna sleep with or get into a relationship with her anyway.

I agree with rebgirl.

You know, I think that these 20-something-year-old virgin posts are the most common type of posts in the Sexuality forum.

be honest. Tell her. If she chooses to help ya out...let her. If not, Reb is right....she's prolly a bitch who isn't worth the time.
Sluts won't pay attention, and will most likely be turned off. But the majority of nice girls would be willing to ease you into it I bet :thumbsup:

Thing is, sounds like you're just gonna go out and find a girl and do that right away. I recommend finding a girl...and casually seeing her and spending time together for a couple dates. She may even appreciate that you didn't try it right away, lol. Once you have spent some time with her, then the time should come...that way you have a little comfort, and can explain your situation.
Good luck:D:smokin:

be honest, i would almost find it hot having a guy with no experience how i could well ... trian lol. be pretty fun too.

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Originally Posted by rebgirl420

Just be honest about it. And if she laughs at you or whatever then you wouldnt wanna sleep with or get into a relationship with her anyway.

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if and when this time comes,your most likely going to like the person not just do it for the sake of it..
tell her she will appricate it,,

best of luck..
if you were in europe,i would send you to amsterdam..:) :rastasmoke:

All the advice here is spot on. Ive noticed alot of girls like the idea of "breaking" a virgin. Like Rebgirl said, be honest. Allow the conversation to steer towards sex and tell her whats up. Dont be nervous about it, you got a 50-50 chance (to be honest I think your odds are MUCH better) that she will be turned on by it and want to fuck you that much sooner.

Another thing.. you mention you didnt go down on the girls because you didnt have to. If you want the most out of your sexual endeavors, I would suggest WANTING to eat women out. Its one of my favorite things in the world to do, and BELIEVE ME, its payed off 100fold. Think countless threesomes with your girlfriend and her best friend. No strings attached, no bad feelings.. just countless episodes of hours of hot sweaty sex because you are a giver. And when guys are givers.. women are more inclined to give back even more.

Anyways I probably shouldnt have flooded you with all that shit, that will come in time. Just be cool, dont be nervous and dont sweat about bein a virgin or telling girls that you are.

Oh, and... learn to eat the pussy and LOVe it lol.

Apparently a good recipe for pussy taste is tofu, pineapple juice and salt. So, like, if you ever want to learn to aquire a taste, there you go.


Sometimes I really, really don't want to remember where I learned the things I know.

Everyone is right, just be honest from the get go. I can tell you right now she will probably get so turned on knowing that she could teach you all of those things. Especially if shes got a dominant streak about her.

Haha see?? ^^ told ya so :p :D

EDIT: Oh and apparantly I love you, Miss Mary lmao :p

hell man, i gotta give it up to ya... i got laid out of desperation, i was tired of being a virgin... glad i did it... would of been cooler if i had more/real/strong feelings for the girl...
(REAL GUY ADVICE) (ladies i'm sorry)
if you care about the girl, tell her before hand... be honest, it has just never happened, no one special, blah blah blah...
if you don't really care all that much about her, and yall are both just in it for the moment... i wouldn't matter at all if you told her, but it would help explain your akwardness. (i would just say i'm drunk, lol jk)

a little heavy petting and sensitive aggression is what get's me laid 75% of the time... as a rule of thumb, if she smokes (anything) she is statistically twice more likely to bed down... and if you can put your hand on her inner thigh, without any tension, you are in.... being really stoned can actually hurt the sexual experience, and for most women, decreases the sex drive. Alot of women also drink to loosen up a little bit... which was a huge turn off when i was younger... but it is just that way with alot of women. they aren't nessecarily skanks, (most likely tho) and it doesn't mean you are taking advantage.

most people like someone around their level of sexual experience, but it depends on the personality. but dude... don't feel like you have to tell someone about your past... that can be such a huge turnoff

just take it at your pace, and be comfortable... but you are gonna have to take some risks and be aggressive... go ahead and eat some pussy, work up on some skills, get a trick or two... be kinky man, try shit... YOU NEVER KNOW

and there is never better sex than that with someone you love, and deeply care for.... and her sister lol

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Originally Posted by HighTillIDie

and there is never better sex than that with someone you love, and deeply care for.... and her sister lol

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Or best friend LOL

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Originally Posted by GraziLovesMary

Or best friend LOL

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lol man, that one is kind of a oxymoron ya know... because right after you finish you are like... "well, i don't really think they are that good of friends to be honest...."

the worst is when the chick tells on herself... leaves ya thinking "i knew she didn't get off"

I think telling them that you're a virgin would make many women uncomfortable, they'll just freak out and think you will be crap in bed. Most women like a man that can that's in control.

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Originally Posted by Fugitive

I think telling them that you're a virgin would make many women uncomfortable, they'll just freak out and think you will be crap in bed. Most women like a man that can that's in control.

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:thumbsup:

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Originally Posted by GraziLovesMary

Haha see?? ^^ told ya so :p :D

EDIT: Oh and apparantly I love you, Miss Mary lmao :p

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lol thats great. ;)

make like malkane and fuck a whore

julie love is meant to be good

:s3::kisslove::jawdropper::gunfighter2::giggity::b igsmoke:

lol snowblind, i was just reading his thread and his experience with her.

well i put myself out there, 2 nice dates planned for this weekend and another one next week. we'll see how everything goes but i guess i'm just going to buck up, suck up, and just go in head first (figuratively and literally).

i figure there's no use worrying and focusing on all my inexperience since it won't help me gain any, i'm just gonna do my best and learn through experience, though it may be rough and err....quick at first lol. i'm looking forward to being more sexually active and open, i think it's good for the body and the soul to make love.

hopefully my dates are turned on by the fact that i'm so innocent. :thumbsup:

Good luck!!

Yea some girls are creeped by the fact, cause they want to know it's going to be good for sure.
But I agree with the women like to be the first to pop a guy's cherry....it makes her comfy...cause maybe she doesnt have all the experience in the world...but knowing you have none, she will feel at ease. And she can train you...hahah as someone said.

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Originally Posted by HighTillIDie

lol man, that one is kind of a oxymoron ya know... because right after you finish you are like... "well, i don't really think they are that good of friends to be honest...."

the worst is when the chick tells on herself... leaves ya thinking "i knew she didn't get off"

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Nah.. like as in... your girlfriend and her best friend at the same time... as in... it just kinda fell on my lap and I took advantage of that for about 6 months straight averaging one to two 3-hour sessions a week :D :D :D

GOOD LUCK DUDE !!!!

I honestly think losing your virginity is way over rated. Im 16. Yeah thats young but if you are a virgin at the age of 20 whats the fucking problem? You still cant even legally drink, time will pass and when you lose it you will be like. What the fuck was wrong with me for putting this as such a "important" thing in my life.. or something like that. =]

And I'v heard of alot of girls that get around and still suck at sex. Im pretty sure you can satisfy (sp?) a girl even if you havn't lost your virginity yet. Just watch alot of porn xD

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I honestly think losing your virginity is way over rated. Im 16. Yeah thats young but if you are a virgin at the age of 20 whats the fucking problem? You still cant even legally drink, time will pass and when you lose it you will be like. What the fuck was wrong with me for putting this as such a "important" thing in my life.. or something like that. =]

And I'v heard of alot of girls that get around and still suck at sex. Im pretty sure you can satisfy (sp?) a girl even if you havn't lost your virginity yet. Just watch alot of porn xD

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Totally... watch lots of different kinds of porn.. the more you watch the more comfortable you will be with your knowledge of sex. I used to call them "instructional videos" lmao. I watched so much porn before I ever had sex, honestly by the time I lost my virginity I was a fuckin pro.. I knew hundreds of positions, which ones were more satisfying for females, how to judge if a womans diggin the sex by her reactions (something that you can only get off porn if you know body language and can figure out when shes faking it or not.. shes usually faking it lol).. I dunno just lots of shit.

Eh, sex is only a big deal if you're not getting any.

I didn't lose mine till i was 22. And my current girlfriend was a virgin (not anymore though!) when we met. She was almost 22.

Don't worry about any lack of experience. If you take one thing away from this thread, it should be that sexual experience is a lot less important to girls than you probably think it is. If anything will turn off girls, it'll probably be your insecurity about it. Try and turn it around and don't be embarrassed that you've never had sex. Instead, tell girls you have really high standards, and so far nobody's met them. If nothing else, she'll think you're funny. :D

GO FUCK A WHORE AND GAIN EXPERINCE JUST WEAR A RUBBER...

lets here it for whores !!

thats gotta be a good job, in a utopian world. in this one it must suck

i really wanna go to amsterdamn and get a bj by twins whilst im blazin

snowblind

Just remember alot of kissing and alot of touching, by the time you get round to putting it in she should be already talking about driving you round to meet her parents.

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GO FUCK A WHORE AND GAIN EXPERINCE JUST WEAR A RUBBER...

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i'm a dog, i love ho's, i'm addicted to money, cars, and clothes...

everyone who said be honest is right cuz if you try and do it wihtout tellin her
she'll just think you're bad at it loll...i busted in 2 minutes my first time :p
all over the girl's stomach hahaha....don't be worried just have fun
or practice with a prostitute first...

So long, v-card.

I lost it last night. I was at a friends party and an old ex I hadn't seen in years was there. She was smoking hot, short skirt, nice rack. We got drunk, hit the bong with some quality Kush that's in town, then got more drunk. Eventually we made it to my friend's bed and went at it. Our clothes were off within 2 minutes and it just...happened. I told her I was still a virgin and she was glad I told her and I went for the condom and BAM! She said no need she's on the pill. I forgot to ask her if I needed to pull out but I went inside of her. I was really worried cuz I figured I should have asked beforehand maybe? lol I was probably just paranoid she's on the pill so no need to worry...I hope.

I heard sex is better without the condom so I was sort of excited...I had a hard time getting it in at first lol but after a few minutes of struggling I made it. I think being that drunk helped me go for longer, probably between 5-7 mins I'd guess but I was afraid I was gonna lose it in under 2 or something lol. It was so hard getting it in! I don't think she was wet enough and there was no condom or lubrication I'm guessing? We had like no foreplay we madeout for a bit then went right to it. I didn't think it would be THAT hard getting it in although it was probably just me.

I passed out right after and woke up to one of those "WTF DID I DO LAST NIGHT" feelings but oh well. She was sexy and we were both attracted to each other and it was just...great!

It was sort of rough all in all but it was my first time so that was expected, it's gonna get better with experience.

Fuck no. NEVER be honest about virginity ESP. at your age.

Just go in there and have sex. Dont be honest as you'll get burned very quickly. It takes a lot for a women to 1) get aroused 2) orgasm, if they already now you'll be shit there more likely to bail on you. Why bother wasting your time with a person who has no knowledge of the female body (first hand experience). This is one of the cases where I would advise a white lie.

.......NOW after sex, depending on how it went, tell them the truth. If it went well tell them like my first time, if it was shitty tell them you were having a rough week or something else. Kicker is, if it did go well and it was your first time it lays a solid impression on them. Kinda like a newbie at a sport demonstrating amazing skill.