yeah when im with a girl i like i get bad at talking and i say stupid things or just nothing at all. which makes it feel weird, which makes it harder to feel normal. am i antisocial or something? what can i do
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yeah when im with a girl i like i get bad at talking and i say stupid things or just nothing at all. which makes it feel weird, which makes it harder to feel normal. am i antisocial or something? what can i do
Im the same way i get a loss of words or say something stupid but its like i can talk to girls over the enternet easy lol. I guess talking with them a lot more will help
i experience similar problems... ive been told its either social anxiety or avoidant personality disorder.... or a combination or the both... sadly there isnt a quick fix for either
my only suggestion would be to just start talking to girls more, whether you are attractive to them or not... go up to random girls and make conversation... chances are you will never see them again if you make an ass out of yourself :)
idk the problem is i cant make convorsation, espesially right on the spot. sometimes it comes to me, but its the many times it doesnt that suck.
Maybe smoke some before you start hanging around woman or talking to them it could help you open up and enjoy talking to them instead of standing there and making her bored as hell.
well, im not very social when im high, i get immersed in myself. i am when im drunk though. i think the probolem is i cant break the silence. i have stuff to talk about but i dont know how to start a conversation with someone i know nothing about. even some people i do know too. :O
"Cold silence has a tendancy to atrophy any sense of compassion." - Schism - Tool
I was very antisocial about a year ago (Weed has nothing to do with being antisocial because I didn't smoke a year ago) But I was really antisocial and shy towards everyone not even girls just like everybody... But then I got a job at a grocery store which forced me to be mature and talk to customers and meet new people/ be around people generally more often (Whole Foods Market BTW) but it forced me to break out of my shell and make conversation with people - at first I was really quiet around the people I worked with and only talked to customers but that changed quickly,m soon I started talking with everyone I worked with and I found my self being able to hold conversations better and not to be self conscious about what I say and to just say it - Well in the end I became sociable again - Just surround yourself with people and be yourself if they don't like you who cares? You only live once don't live your life being someone your not. Just be yourself and say whats on your mind - I can assure you people like it when others are not afraid to state whats on their minds because they are probably thinking the same thing. - Sorry If I got all philosophical on you.
BTW Weed actually did help me become a better person and "Find myself" now I am my own person and I don't fall into trends any more and I am pretty much "me for once in my life"
I'm in the same MagicHerb. Recently I've learned to talk to people instead of hiding away in my shell, but I wouldn't have a clue how to talk to a girl in a more intimate context. This thread should be interesting, I'll keep a close eye on it. Good luck bro.
You need to stop being so self conscious. I had the same problem for YEARS during puberty and whatnot. I'm not sure what happened, but once you learn to relax and stay calm, things go a lot smoother. You only get better with practice, so keep at it.
Just curious, are you referring to conversation with complete strangers you're looking to get to know, or people you are familiar with?
your awesome for quoting TOOL!Quote:
Originally Posted by SpiralOfDivinity
i also read that certain strains of MJ are better for anti-anxiety, i would be interested in learning more about that
If you need to prepare for social interactions by implementing the use of bud, you have a problem, and a serious one at that.
They are people too. Just converse with them like a regular person. A little disinterest on your part seems to draw their interest if in fact they had any interest to begin with. Slightly cocky but a little aloof or hard to pin down don't begg or grovel. If you are too needy and clingy it is gauaranteed to put a woman off. Be nice but not too nice.
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just let it flow...
the harder you try to talk, the harder it's gonna get... just forget it's a girl you like... you're just shooting the shit with just another person... just let it flow naturally man...
a couple beers/shots won't hurt tho... it's not enough to get you drunk or buzzing, but enough to get you to loosen up some... maybe take 'em out for dinner and have a beer/drink with your dinner
Dude, you're not anti social, just shy man, start talkin' more, be yourself and you'll get over it, it's no biggie.
its just nerves but try and ignore them and just say what you want, sounds hard but dont see them as girls i suppose just try and see them as males and talk to them more.
^^^ Oh yeah i remmember that bastard from DOOM, i used to love that game lol.
Watch some porn movies and learn some lines to break the ice. :weedpoke:
Talking to random people isnt easy! But dont be scared... I always see so many guys who I wish I had the balls to talk to, but Id never know what to say to them. But I feel like it's the guy who should approach the girl ... which s pretty lame and I should get over that, but who ever gets picked up by a girl? Like wut the hell are u supposed to say? U got a mirror in your pants ....
Being high and talking to girls I have no interest in...never works out. I can't stand talking to anyone on the phone when I'm high MUCH less a squeaky, fast, sober voice. lolQuote:
Originally Posted by MagicalHerb
but when it's a girl i like(which I miss doing) I take control of the conversation. I'm talking on the phone to get to know her right? So I ask questions... questions that matter not what she just ate..
but then it all depends on how close you two are.
i don't know. just carry the convo along as long as you interested.....when it becomes dull, wait for her to start carrying it and if not, call her another day.
and if you mean in person....that's called socializing(sp)
for me, being all high, looking stupid or dumb, cotton mouth, the giddyness, redeyes...dry nose..making your sound croaky
all that affects socializing with a girl because IMO, when you socialize with a girl, you have to stay on your toes..
be witty.... cause, by nature, girls will doubt you at first...
you have to think fast to make her laugh and.......
im rambling...
hope that helped a little