Which part of yourself can you really trust?

My situation:

My brain is telling me with every alarm signal and sense of good judement that for my own good I must not pursue "Girl"

My heart is telling me with every beat it pumps that I cannot be without "Girl"



Who's voice is loudest in your mind? I am still undecided in my mind, hence my mad mood swings in the past couple of weeks towards her. At any given hour I will either be in the mood to completely shield myself from her and forget she exists, or I could be in the mood to allow my eyes to never move away from her knowing fully well that every second of pleasure I get from looking at her will be an hour of pain later in the day.

You are truley in hell, my friends, when you begin conditioning yourself at night to hate the most beautiful thing in your life...and you wonder if succeeding in doing so is really even for the best at all...

That fucks with a girl. One minute you want them, the next minute they assume they did something wrong. Its happened to me too much.

If you really want her, if everything just sort of disappears around her when you look at her, go for it. If you feel she could be good for you or could be a big part of your life, go for it.

You'll regret it later if you don't. :)

I know....but she knows how I feel, said she wasn't ready for a relationship just yet but loves me and wants to see how it'd work out, and then a week later is dating some other dude and starts acting like she's forcing her eyes not to water when she looks in my direction. How am I supposed to feel?

Ideally, I think the smartest thing is to make the decision with both elements--intellectual and emotional. Sometimes going on an entirely emotional impulse (heart) or according to the zing of attraction along can be risky. Fun but risky. Usually when your intuition alarms and good judgment are telling you not to proceed, there's a good reason behind that. Those alarms are probably protecting you from getting hurt in the long run.

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Originally Posted by birdgirl73

Ideally, I think the smartest thing is to make the decision with both elements--intellectual and emotional. Sometimes going on an entirely emotional impulse (heart) or according to the zing of attraction along can be risky. Fun but risky. Usually when your intuition alarms and good judgment are telling you not to proceed, there's a good reason behind that. Those alarms are probably protecting you from getting hurt in the long run.

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I wrote a song today with the reoccuring theme that I am prepared to lose my sanity and self destruct from this retarded pain I have if it means one day it'll mean something

unless you're just misinformed your brain is always right... your heart however seems to LOVE lying to you...

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Originally Posted by slipknotpsycho

unless you're just misinformed your brain is always right... your heart however seems to LOVE lying to you...

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well.. your brain can over-complicate the simplest of tasks and and your heart warms and reacts to things you deep down find essential to your happiness

it can go both ways!

i've never had my brain lie to me...

however i've found myself in great deals of pain very often cuz it told me to do soemthng or go after so and so....

Brain!!

brain even if heart sounds sooooooooo right? fuuuck i'm not liking these replies LOL

Brain can keep you outta bullshit, But you gotta feed the heart every now n then.

I don't trust either of them anymore. :(

She loves you but she wants to see how it works out...then she's off dating another guy? I'd be pretty concerned if I were you as well. :wtf:

Why not use a little of both?

And at the end of the day, can you be without them or not, bottom line. If it's those little things she does that keep you up in the clouds...I'd say you already know the answer. ~

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Originally Posted by Its a Plant

If it's those little things she does that keep you up in the clouds...I'd say you already know the answer. ~

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All she has to do is say a word, blink, smile, cough, anything, and I melt....the only thing is though is we used to be soo compatible but lately I find there is some awkward wall up between us. I don't know if one of us is presenting this wall or if it is just there on it's own, but I need to knock it down somehow. Using both my brain and my heart at once I can only come to the conclusion that I must act as though I am over her so she might relax a bit more and maybe in turn it'll condition me somehow to really be over her. The direction I'm going in right now seems to be getting me no where fast, not to mention in heaps of pain. All for a girl I've never even had the pleasure of kissing..

You know...it's like having your legs fall out from under you 3 feet from breaking the finish line of an Olympic race. Just as all seemed to be falling in place, the unexpected happens, and I'm left in a pile watching someone else take the prize. It's bullshit

Why don't you just lay back and let things happen. If she really wants to be with you to then she will come back to you.

Your heart pumps blood. Your brain makes decisions...You all are such softies. :p

My Bf and I were apart for a year. We completely stopped talking for the last 6 months of that year. Then crap started happening and he was being blamed for a huge robbery (about 300k of jewels). After 5 years of being friends with him and 3 years dating.. I knew that he couldn't have done it. The cops started asking me about him and I was like omg there is just no way. I spoke with his family. Specifically his aunt and she asked me what I felt in my heart. I told her that my heart said he didn't do it. She said that I had to tell him that while he was being framed that I believed in him. So I did. We ended up getting back together and they found the true robber and it wasn't him.

Were getting married this summer.

Follow your heart but ignore your brain at your heart's peril...

i usually go with my heart,, but damn man, i dont know,, yeh, i usua;lly follow my heart, but my brain is smarter , i just let it overule any stupid decision,, but my heart usually kows whats best,, better for me and everyone, my brain is jkust more rationlal

Why were the only 2 choices brain and heart?
When I opened up the thread I was expecting 'cock' as one of the choices....
:D

Nothing wrong with following the heart some of the time
If your brain agrees with your heart go for it.

But this girl is playing you and your brain knows it.

Come on grow some balls!

Tell her straight up how you feel. If she gives you any bs and still wants to date this dude, walk away and never look back.

If she wanted to be with you she would not be dating this dude. Period!

Life is to short to be strung along by a girl. There are thousands of beautiful girls out there. Go get one.

when it comes to the fairer sex, 99 times out of 100 i throw caution to the wind, the consequences be damned and follow my heart with reckless abandon.


its kind of like in days of thunder when 'ol cole trickle gets into that wreck, he cant see what he's getting into, but yet he never takes his foot off of the gas and heads straight into the unknown. unfortonately it ends up in a horrible wreck, but it also ends up in him meeting his future ol lady.

thats me, head first 100 miles an hour, might crash and burn, but i might meet another on the way down.