I would appreciate some help with somehting...

hey everyone I really need some advive and i hope I make sense because im high on a brownie... but I want some SERIOUS advice, please...

I'm going to try and make this short i don't want to bore anyone with too many details,,, but basically i had a great shot at getting this girl a couple years ago and was a complete dumbass and fucked it up... we were kinda smoke buddies before she started to gain interst in me and I (regretfully) turned her down and shit was wierd between us for a while... then we started hanging out again, mostly with other people in social gathering, smoke circles and what not, but just as friends....

now 2 years later it's pretty much the same except we don't hang out alone anymore really, but we see eachother around and hug and say hi or whatever, a freindly greeting. But I can never stop thinking about her. I've tred to move on to other girls but it never goes anwhere and none seem to fit my style (she has been single the whole time, aswell)...she is perfect and it took me too damn long to realize it... we are both unique in our own sorta ADD way (which we both have and I can't describe), we share all the same interests (i.e. music, chronic, movies, whatever). These are her exact words( talking to me) "you and I are the same person, we share the same brain"


But she also sends me definate signals saying 'let's just be friends' when i try to get closer to her and this alwyas makes me feel real bad. I try not to dwell on the past, but I can not get over her (tried many times). Would anyone (hopefully ladies, but guys are welcome to respond too) PLEASE give me some advice on how I would go about getting with her, and how would I go about doing it???


if someone helps me acheive my goal, MAJOR karma for their future:)

You blew it hun, I think you did some unrepairable damage. Im sorry hun.

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Originally Posted by rebgirl420

You blew it hun, I think you did some unrepairable damage. Im sorry hun.

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i think that too,désolé. But you just need to see other buddies and not think about her. And for the fact that you tried to get with other girls is maybe because you went to fast into these girls because you were thinking"if i'm with someone i'll forget her". But you're not taking the good way. I think the best thing you can do is smoke with other girls, as friend, like you did before with her.The exception is that you will know what to do... not turning a girl down too soon:pimp:

If a girl really doesnt want to be with you, than theres no magical way to change her mind. Ask her if she's interested in you if you think you could be misreading her signals. Sorry, but sometimes you just have to try to move on.

your fucked. she dosent want you, and if you changed how you act to appeal to her more, youll be fucked later on when you start acting like your old self. sorry dude.

try some of the sweet talk. i personally think that it might be beyond repair but if you whip out a few "cute" lines every now and then and tell her shes beautiful than theres nothing preventing those sparks from flying again...

Anything is possible. dont forget that.

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Originally Posted by Jimbob1310

try some of the sweet talk. i personally think that it might be beyond repair but if you whip out a few "cute" lines every now and then and tell her shes beautiful than theres nothing preventing those sparks from flying again...

Anything is possible. dont forget that.

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Yea man, pull back, and be a friend. Stop thinking about her, think about yourself. Embetter your life in the process, perhaps she'll see what's she's missing, and give you another chance.

don't listen to any of them! they don't know. never give up man. that happened to me sort of. different circumstances. but anyways this girl and i parted ways about two years ago as well. i've kept at it and she knows how i feel. she's had boyfriends here and there and i've absolutely despised everyone of them. well now that we're both done with the whole college thing and looking to get on with our lives, she calls me up out of the clear blue one day and tells me she wants me to come see her. the point of the story is, if you like her a lot dont give up, dont be overbearing, but let her know how you feel. if its meant to be it'll all work out.

Research co-dependancy. And this goes for practically all of humanity.

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don't listen to any of them! they don't know. never give up man. that happened to me sort of. different circumstances. but anyways this girl and i parted ways about two years ago as well. i've kept at it and she knows how i feel. she's had boyfriends here and there and i've absolutely despised everyone of them. well now that we're both done with the whole college thing and looking to get on with our lives, she calls me up out of the clear blue one day and tells me she wants me to come see her. the point of the story is, if you like her a lot dont give up, dont be overbearing, but let her know how you feel. if its meant to be it'll all work out.

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uh, alright well way to stick my insight in with the rest...

im tellin you man, read my first post, thats the way its gunna happen...ive got firsthand experience.

well, if she is sending signals that she doesnt want to be with you then that probably means she doesnt want to be with you. if you go ahead and man up and just tell her how you feel you risk ruining your relationship with her forever. then again, if you really feel strongly for this girl then you should tell her about it. good luck bro, dont envy your situation

just ask her out......(do something extremely nice/cute for her)