the thin line between life and death: rip andrea and tony

:sadcrying:sadcrying:sadcryingthursday morning one of my friend got in a car accident in utah on the way home from a cali vaction(i live in iowa), but her aunt was driving and she fell alseep and my friend and her cousin werent wearing seatbelts, my friend is now gone forever, and her cousin is brain dead, her aunt is in "stable" condition, its some fucked up shit that an 18 year old can die there shoudl be soem kidn of rules with life that you cant die until your atleast 30, but she was fuckin 18, about to graduate, and was engaged. ive known her for about the past 4 years, although i wasnt really close with her i used to hang out with her all the time and just get fucked up, and her younger brother and i have been friends for about the same amount of time, thursday morning there was a 2 hour delay in our district because of snow, she died at 730 and her brother was over at my house at 9 and he didnt find out about his sisters death until after he got out of school when he was on a burn cruise with some of his friends, not even 3 years ago my best friends brother died after he got high and drowned the kid was 15 fuckin years old he died 4 days before his golden birthday, his funeral was on his birthday for fucks sake, i knwo this is a pretty long thread but i just wanna express the pain i feel because of these two deaths, it seems like yesterday that me and her were smoking at her dads house, she was the coolest chick you could ever know she was a great friend, she never really hated anybody if she did she didnt show it, she would give you the shirt off her back, only if andrea(friend) had been wearing a seatbelt, she may not be in perfect health oviously but im sure anybody would rather have some broken bones then being dead, i know im just ranting and raving but its for a good reason wear your fuckin seatbelt when you get in a car man, i never used to give a flying fuck about weraing a seatbelt and i didnt think that it mattered that it wouldnt make a difference but it can and those faggot cops give people tickets for a good reason because they know how that shit can happen in a matter of seconds, first thing you do when you get into any vehicle is put your seat belt on, easy as that, im still waiting for ashton kutcher to hop out of my closet telling me that i just got punkd and that andrea and tony(best friends bro that died, and odly the name of andreas younger brother) are still alive and this is all some big kind fo sick twisted joke,
:joint1: so people who have lost friends or family members in the past smoke a bowl hell if you done have weed smoke a cig for them people that youve lost



Rest In Piece

Tony Jared Murphy
1988-2004


Andrea Marie Bellmann
1988-2007

You two will always be missed you will be in our thoughts and your memories will be kept in our minds forever.



ede

I'm sorry, but I don't think they'd want their last names all over a public internet forum.

yea probably shouldlnt have put names on there, bad idea on my part

I think you still have time to edit.

I'm truly sorry for your loss. You emphasize your pain when you said, "waiting for ashton kutcher to hop out of my closet telling me that i just got punkd." Stay strong, take a day off and just reflect on the good times, man. The world seems mean when your thoughts are tender. It's not a joke, as much as you would like it to be, you must accept the reality--only then can you begin to move on.

Thanks for sharing.

yea its just hard to belive when soembody is there everday, you see them constantly and your close to them and then the next day there gone, ive never really understood the saying "you dont know what youve got until its gone" until now, you truly dont know what youve got until now i think deaths of family and friends are so unbeliveable because alot of people take there relationships for grantid and the oviuos fact that you care for that person alot, yea i just need to sit down and think of all the good times weve had and sit there and smile and try not to forget the bad, i appreciate the sympothy alot though, im even more depressed because of her death originally it was because of probation and the shit im in, but yea i appreciate it, thanks




ede

Sorry to hear about the losses man. I don't have any weed atm, but will light up a cigg in memory. Think of the good times and keep on keepin' on. Good luck to you.

cry at birth, laff at death, there in a better place now

I always find it best to celebrate lost lives during death instead of mourning. It's how I got through many friends/relatives deaths. I remeber the happy times, not what they are leaving behind.

In New Orleans I believe they dance in the streets during a funeral. Like I said, celebrate their life.

Dude, I'm really sorry t'hear that. No one deserves death at 18. Like others have said, just remember the good times you've had with 'em. Whenever I have to deal with death, I enjoy sitting in a dark room with or without weed and just sit and reflect, and, if you feel like it, crying. Just sit and think, man.

On another note, if you don't mind me asking, where at in Iowa? I live near Osceola and Creston, down near the south west corner.

i live in dubuque iowa, i appreciate your guys' suggestions and shit, i really do, i just found out today that her wake is tuesday so i plan on going to that, and i foudn out today that her brother ran away last night when his family was cleaning out her closet, nobody knows where he is or what hes doin hopefully he didnt do anythign stupid like kill himself but i couldnt really blame him if i was in his posistion id probably buy a half o and a half gallon and plan on dying, i cant handle shit liek that, its why i posted this thread cause i didnt knwo what to do with myself after i heard what happened, but thanks guys ill keep everything youve said in mind




ede

if you dont knwo dubuque is in the northeast corner of the state right where illinois and wisconisn meet



ede

I'm sorry to hear that.:(

my condolences

Wow, that really fucking sucks, i'm sorry man... :(

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Originally Posted by Ganj

I'm truly sorry for your loss. You emphasize your pain when you said, "waiting for ashton kutcher to hop out of my closet telling me that i just got punkd." Stay strong, take a day off and just reflect on the good times, man. The world seems mean when your thoughts are tender. It's not a joke, as much as you would like it to be, you must accept the reality--only then can you begin to move on.

Thanks for sharing.

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unbelieveably... i kept waiting for the same thing at my brothers funeral... for the first hour i was there i refused to go within 30 feet of the casket... cuz of 2 reasons: 1... i wasn't ready to see that, and knew without a doubt, ever bit of strength i'd showed since the momment i was told he died, would go right out the window and i'd break down (which i did) and 2. if my hopes had came true and he did sit up and tell me it was some prank, i would give him a reason to need that casket...

on the seat belt thing... i dunno how, but i was in a high speed chase, 120+ mph... car flipped quite a few times, i was in the back seat, with no seatbelt what so ever... i wasn't even hurt... aside from my knees slamming together and bruising...

it makes me realize how lucky i really am... i see people are severely injured or killed in car wrecks all the time... at lesser speeds... but somehow i lived, nearly without any injury or pain what so ever.. i don't believe in god.. but it makes me realize all that much more, that something had to of been watching over me that day...

i'm sorry about both your friends... it hurts to lose someone... it hurts more when you knew them well... and i agree, there should be some law in place, that you can't die when you're so young.. but in all honesty, if that were true, teens would be even more wreckless, then they are now.. (not saying your friends were wreckless, just teens in general)

yea man last night i went to the wake, first thing i did was hug tony, i didnt go see her for a while cause i didnt wanan see her dead, and when i did i just stood there in shock waiting for her to open her eyes and sit up and talk, today i went to school and i left early because ive felt like shit since i went to that wake, the funeral started about 35 minutes ago i wanted to go tot hat but i didnt have a ride it fuckin sucks,it was cool though at the wake i know that she wouldve have wanted it any other way because the whole place was covered in pictures of schoom and shit, she was wearing this cool shirt with a bunch of shooms on it, it was deffinetly a sad time, me and one of my friends went and smoke a j for her in his car out in the parking lot, we got out of the car and smoke just rolled out haha and this one chick i dont knwo probably one of andreas friend was like "yeaaa smoke it up for andrea and then my friend asked her if she wanted a hit and she came and took one and was like"thats for andrea", the whole time i was there i couldnt help but smile and laugh cause all i was thinign about was the fun times i had with her and i only cried a couple times, but yea it was deffinetly a very sad time and a very sad place to be



ede

its really painful to lose someone so close to you, its like a pain that never goes away and nothing can fix it.
im sorry that had to happen, death is really depressing.
they will be missed.