how to deal with the fact that you have never had a girlfriend...

WOOOAAAA!!

WATCH THAT WHORE WORD! THAT WILL NOT GET YA LAID!
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what ive found to work best to find a girl friend is to treat all woman like woman, another person, not a potential girl friend, or one night stand. Treat them like you would any other person you know. And If u fall into the friends zone thats ok, cause you get what most guys dont get, to see what they realy want in a man and how they feel about things that guys dont usually see. And guess what that friends zone thing is just like having an ace up your sleeve cause when you do meet that one girl you like, youll know exactally what to do and what not to do. Oh and most girls dont care that your a virgin, never been on a date, never had a girl friend, its all about how you are on a constant. You cant be the cool guy who everyone loves one day and then some closet anti social stoner the next, so its easiest to be yourself in the long run and thats why many relationships fail.

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Originally Posted by silkyblue

WOOOAAAA!!

WATCH THAT WHORE WORD! THAT WILL NOT GET YA LAID!
:hippy:

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lol.. well I meant one that gives sex for money.

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Originally Posted by birdgirl73

Companionship, friendship, love and affection are very much biological needs. In study after study, we know that people of all ages live longer and in better health when they have companionship and affection. Babies who are deprived of care and nurturing don't thrive at all, and adults are not all that different. It is very much a biological need, most likely driven by evolution. Companionship, since it's a boon to our health and longevity, increases our chances of successfully passing our genes on to another generation.

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Now thats the kind of post i like to read right there. I myself love relationships. I love to have someone to share my life with & to give her all the love i can. Call me a pussy if you must, but remember this when i'm having someone to hold me & share my deepest thoughts with, you'll still be crawling through this world crying for someone to love.

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Originally Posted by Gandalf_The_Grey

Well, looks like I win this thread; 22 and never had a girlfriend, haven't had sex, not even been kissed. Horray for me, the winner....



Man I fucking hate life sometimes:mad:

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22 and already have that glorious white beard, thats awesome:D

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Originally Posted by 420_24/7

22 and already have that glorious white beard, thats awesome:D

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Holy monkey you're right! Thanks dude:D

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Originally Posted by kms brown

what ive found to work best to find a girl friend is to treat all woman like woman, another person, not a potential girl friend, or one night stand. Treat them like you would any other person you know. And If u fall into the friends zone thats ok, cause you get what most guys dont get, to see what they realy want in a man and how they feel about things that guys dont usually see. And guess what that friends zone thing is just like having an ace up your sleeve cause when you do meet that one girl you like, youll know exactally what to do and what not to do. Oh and most girls dont care that your a virgin, never been on a date, never had a girl friend, its all about how you are on a constant. You cant be the cool guy who everyone loves one day and then some closet anti social stoner the next, so its easiest to be yourself in the long run and thats why many relationships fail.

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None of this info is helpful for anybody trying to get laid, as I said before, women don't even know what they really want so asking them for tips won't get you anywhere as far as sex goes.

Non, you just need to get laid, you can worry about all that balance crap later on, but first thing's first, just get laid. I guess you could hire a professional if that is your last option, but that won't really teach you anything about how to talk to girls, so I wouldn't recommend that unless you are getting frustrated to the point where all you can think of is sex, (which doesn't sound like that is you, at least from what I'm getting).

I don't know any girl that would prefer a virgin over a guy that knows what he's doing, not just for sex, but relationships as well. They all want a guy that knows what he is doing, but you will never figure out what to do if you don't have the basics of a relationship down, that is, sex. Yes, sex is the basic core of all relationships. The main reason relationships fail is because they don't have a good sex life, having a good sex life with your mate is the most important part of that relationship. If you never learn the basics, you can never advance into a serious relationship, so don't listen to anybody that tells you sex isn't important because it is, and it always has been in human history. So many people today ignore the importance of sex in a relationship, is it any wonder why so many relationships fail? Divorce is becoming the trendy thing to do these days, few marriages last longer than 5 years, and people continue to ignore the importance of having a good sex life in their relationships.

Although, it seems you are choosing what you want to hear, you are ignoring excellent recommendations given in this thread because you continue to believe in some "balance" crap. With as little experience as you claim to have, I'm not sure how you can even think you know enough about women to have balance. That would be like me claiming to know how to balance my check book when I don't even know enough about my own bank account to log in and see how much money is left. Ok, maybe a bad analogy, but I do think you should be focused on sex and only sex, and let the relationship part come together when the time is right with the right person. The more women you date, the more you will learn what you do and don't like in a partner, both physically and emotionally, again, don't ignore the physical side!

^lol, very true, very true

ok well first of all I'm not denying the physical side of things. I absolutely know that I need sex, but I was using the balance thing to refer to my sexual balance. I said I really do need a sexual balance and that means: getting laid right now.

I understand that there is an emotional gap (or imbalance) you are yearning to fill with some female excitement. If you are looking for a relationship then of course it's going to take some more time than just finding the girl that will relieve your urges. Nobody is still clear on your situation...we don't know your appearance, history, or ideals that might have caused you to believe your stuck in this rut. Be as whatever it may be, you aren't a hopeless person.

Nothing in life was meant to be easy so you are going to have to get on your feet and make some action happen. Get your name out there, meet new people, and present the attitude that you want people to see about you, and you bet it'll need to be a confident attitude. Nobody wants to feel sorry for you, they want to see the greatness in you. Focus less about what is wrong with you, and more about how you can work to change it.