My friends, Im in tears having to make THE toughest decision of my life

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Originally Posted by daddysgirl1976
I can definately understand your problem. I am a 31 yr old female who has the same condition. I have underwent 2 surgeries and am having another done in October, I am having my apocrine oil glands removed. I can definaltely understand the pain, agony, and embarrassment you feel. If you ever want to talk and just need someone to listen or compare "war" stories you can email me
Steph

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Originally Posted by UTD Toker

Well folks, When my dad came in yesterday, all he sayed was, "Well, have you thought of our convo last night?" I said yes I'm going to go through with the surgery. And he sayed "good, because weed can lead you down the wrong path." At this point, hes SOOO convinced that weed is bad I think trying to convince a 50 yr old man is pretty pointless and risky to our relationship as father and son... Im just gonna stay clean for like 3 months, get the surgury, work my ass off at Papasitos, and then move out!:thumbsup: Keep it TREAL can.com and next time you toke up think of poor old me lol Have a great day everyone:D

Hey steph im so glad to find someone else in the same boat as me:(
Do you find cannabis to help with your cysts? i learned that smoking kinda aggravated it but vaporizing really helps...I dont really have email but do you have a myspace or aim? Thank you maam for your reply:thumbsup:

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im not really sure.... maybe, have to opperation, and wait until you are able to get up and do things for work, befor you start smoking agin?

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Originally Posted by stinkyattic

There is a no email addy rule in place here and I regret that I had to remove both the posts offering it, and the respone quoting it.
But here's the text of those posts, with the addy stripped:

Originally Posted by daddysgirl1976
I can definately understand your problem. I am a 31 yr old female who has the same condition. I have underwent 2 surgeries and am having another done in October, I am having my apocrine oil glands removed. I can definaltely understand the pain, agony, and embarrassment you feel. If you ever want to talk and just need someone to listen or compare "war" stories you can email me
Steph

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Sry stinky didnt know:(....
EDIT: Btw does anyone have any thoughts on the progress being done here in Texas to legalize Medicinal MJ?

I've been trolling forums for a few years now, but have never posted. This will probably be my first and last.

UTD, you aren't alone. 2 years ago, I was diagnosed with ulcerative colitis. I'm currently and have been for the last 2 years on all medications used to fight this disease, all at their full potential. It's never worked. The only thing that has is marijuana. It doesn't end there however. A year ago, I was diagnosed with chronic pancreatitis, auto-immune pancreatitis, and an annular pancreas. Depressing maybe, but I'm proud to say that I'm the only person in the history of the world that has had to deal with all 4 diseases at the same time. Except for a very few close friends, everyone believes me to be conquering these diseases because of the extensive medicine I am taking (over 35 pills a day). Similar to you, I am usually in noticeable to extreme pain when sober.

More importantly however, I also have friends and family that would never accept or condone the use of marijuana. Everyone at some point in their life was taught and BELIEVED that marijuana was illegal for a reason, so don't blame them too much. I imagine your father feels the way he does about marijuana for a few reasons. 1) I'm 100% positive he doesn't like the idea that there is nothing he can do to help you, it probably tears him up inside more then all of us can imagine.
2) He also is probably unaware of marijuana's medicinal capabilities for your disease, believing that you use it to escape life rather than make it livable.
Although I haven't had to convince a family member of cannabis's effect in my life, I did to my 4 closest friends.

The question still remains then, what exactly do you do to improve the situation? The first tip I can give you is no matter what your father decides, all you can do is approach him with a smile and tell him you love him. It will not help you convince your father or keep the strong bond you currently seem to have with him if you choose weed over him. Instead, choose both. If he kicks you out of the house so be it, no one has a right to tell you you deserve to live a life of pain. Life will get better, I made it through. When my 4 closest friends first found out I started smoking weed, which was a little over a year ago, they would not talk to me or hang out with me if I was high. In all sincerity, I wasn't ready to give up that easy. I continued to smoke, and continued to try and hang out with them. I had no intention of throwing away the 4 greatest friendships I had created. It might take awhile, but you will convince your dad just like I convinced my friends. People can try and deny you, but when all you show them is love and kindness, it becomes near impossible and evil, and they realize this. Your dad will come through, just remain hopeful.

These will be dark days for you, but stay strong and confident, you and your father need this. Life has a funny way of FINALLY giving you what you want. I recently just graduated high school, a feat that I feared I wouldn't accomplish this year. Having been in and out of the hospital for long periods of time, it looked unlikely. Hell, I had no intention of applying to college, but my senior counselor forced me to. I'm glad to say that I was accepted into Notre Dame and will be attending there next year. My pancreatitis has left me alone for a few months now, so hospital visits are no longer needed.

I apologize for the long post. Like maybe people on these boards, I am in a comfortable state which allows me to ramble more then I'd like, but there are a few more things I'd like to say. In life, you will come across people that will make you their enemy, just make sure you don't make them yours. And if it helps at all, I wrote this post just as much for you as I did for me. Don't give up my friend, you deserve to be happy, and it's up to you to let yourself. :thumbsup:

When he is sober and in a good mood you might want to confront him one time to be sure you can't convince him of the help it provides. Show him some of the known facts, show him what states have legalized medical mj for purposes just like you have. It can't hurt...if not then I say this..

I say since you can't work for awhile after surgery you should lay off the weed for those two months to please your father. You might even try to make a deal with him that if you give up the weed, he gives up the beer. After that you should look into moving out on your own because if you are in pain and it's the only thing that helps or even if it's just something you enjoy, it's not his place to tell you at your age how to live your life. Trust me being out on your own is very liberating having your own place with your own rules not having to live by someone elses ways.

^^Thank you so much exuone, isn't it so frustrating to try and tell someone that a substance you use recreationally actually helps your overall quality of life, and yet they cease to believe you and conclude based on prior assumptions that "Weed" will just ruin you in the long run? I wish so much my parents would just trust me at 19 and not just stop and the conclusion that "It's illegal, therfore it's bad". Negroes used to be our slaves, women used to have no rights, alcohal used to be illegal, there was once a time when cannabis would be used as a common medicine untiil lovely aspirin came along and has taken many, many lifes since then....does that mean there bad? I cannot wait until I'm back on my feet, and as an adult, my goal in life WILL be to pursue medical marijuana because people should not have to be judged and looked down upon because of the type of medicine they use. Why don't we look down on the average joe that pops oxycontin all day and becomes a zombie the rest of his life? Ughhh so frustrating my friends, so frustrating....:(