tired of pleasing myself...
My opinion.
You turn your lover into your phsycologist and your lover will love you like a mother not a lover. Mothers dont have sex with their son's, it stands to reason.
This turns women off when guys use women as one-way emotional gas stations, constantly needing that service, yet some dont know how to give it in return.
It is very common like I said for a woman to love her husband very much yet not want to have sex with him. This doesnt make sense to men.
In these cases it is not uncommon for a woman to masturbate herself in private even though both may be aroused and in love.
I dont believe he has a sexual dysfunction problem.
When this starts to happen women will talk in coded language or levels of communication yet men dont hear it. She will project the problem into him as his inability to turn her on or that he needs help from a therapist or doctor.
This is nothing that a therapist can solve.
This happens too often to couples and its hard to reverse the situation.
They go to consuling and talk and talk and talk, and 3 months later they get divorced. I have seen this happen so many times.
I guy must stay an emotional and sexual challenge to a woman even though he is married. He shouldnt dump all of his problems on her and make her his physcologist/mother.
In my opinion the man is hiding nothing.
She is the one who is not interested in having sex with him because he forgot to do the things that turned her on in the begining and he is frustrated that he doesnt know what to do.
When she says "he wont let me go down on him" just reverse that as it is actually just the opposite, its called projection. She is in my opinon sexually rejecting him, not the other way around and this is why this story is vague and doesnt make sense.
Right or wrong?
tired of pleasing myself...
Im with you MJITC... I'd never say no to a BJ... nor sex..
Well im one of these people that never says no but still .
tired of pleasing myself...
I am so done with this thread... but since you have been kind enough to respond I will return the same kindness,
Ganjasaurus, thanks so much for sharing your wisdom, your first post made me think a bit and I respect that. But then you kind of got carried away calling me a liar and such...? I'm not really sure what that was all about, if you meant I was lying to myself or just lying on this board. I'm also not really sure what I'm being vague about.. but I put myself out there, so I suppose all is fair. I don't know I guess I was just getting it off my chest. It's not exactly the kind of thing that I'd like to come up while I'm out with my friends.
So anyways, I don't think that I will cheat, I just don't think I have it in me, but it's not to say I don't think about it... kind of all the time lately but thinking about it is one thing. I am going to give us another chance and take him to the doctor. But as you pointed out, it probably won't help, hmm. Thanks for the optimism. : (
How could he not have a sexual dysfunctional problem...? I don't understand. Maybe I wasn't clear with what was going on. I don't wish to further explain myself at this point though, like I said I am kind of done with this. I was thinking it might help to just share my thoughts but infact it's making me even more miserable...
right okay, I'm done.
Peace.
tired of pleasing myself...
I am in Orange County, CA if you can;t get this "problem" taken care of and I am 26 years old.
tired of pleasing myself...
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Originally Posted by nitemarehippiegirl
I am so done with this thread... but since you have been kind enough to respond I will return the same kindness,
Ganjasaurus, thanks so much for sharing your wisdom, your first post made me think a bit and I respect that. But then you kind of got carried away calling me a liar and such...? I'm not really sure what that was all about, if you meant I was lying to myself or just lying on this board. I'm also not really sure what I'm being vague about.. but I put myself out there, so I suppose all is fair. I don't know I guess I was just getting it off my chest. It's not exactly the kind of thing that I'd like to come up while I'm out with my friends.
So anyways, I don't think that I will cheat, I just don't think I have it in me, but it's not to say I don't think about it... kind of all the time lately but thinking about it is one thing. I am going to give us another chance and take him to the doctor. But as you pointed out, it probably won't help, hmm. Thanks for the optimism. : (
How could he not have a sexual dysfunctional problem...? I don't understand. Maybe I wasn't clear with what was going on. I don't wish to further explain myself at this point though, like I said I am kind of done with this. I was thinking it might help to just share my thoughts but infact it's making me even more miserable...
right okay, I'm done.
Peace.
My appologies. Take care.
tired of pleasing myself...
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Originally Posted by nitemarehippiegirl
I am so done with this thread... but since you have been kind enough to respond I will return the same kindness,
Ganjasaurus, thanks so much for sharing your wisdom, your first post made me think a bit and I respect that. But then you kind of got carried away calling me a liar and such...? I'm not really sure what that was all about, if you meant I was lying to myself or just lying on this board. I'm also not really sure what I'm being vague about.. but I put myself out there, so I suppose all is fair. I don't know I guess I was just getting it off my chest. It's not exactly the kind of thing that I'd like to come up while I'm out with my friends.
So anyways, I don't think that I will cheat, I just don't think I have it in me, but it's not to say I don't think about it... kind of all the time lately but thinking about it is one thing. I am going to give us another chance and take him to the doctor. But as you pointed out, it probably won't help, hmm. Thanks for the optimism. : (
How could he not have a sexual dysfunctional problem...? I don't understand. Maybe I wasn't clear with what was going on. I don't wish to further explain myself at this point though, like I said I am kind of done with this. I was thinking it might help to just share my thoughts but infact it's making me even more miserable...
right okay, I'm done.
Peace.
That's cool that you shared, hippiegirl. It gave me a perspective on another world, or, life. Thank you.
If you ever consider sleeping with someone who is halfway between your's and his age, you know how to get in touch with me... :cool:
tired of pleasing myself...
Why don't you get a toy and have him do you with that. Touch yourself, have him watch-this might excite him. If not at least you get to get off.
Don't cheat-you took the vows for better or worse, this counts as worse. Would you want him to seek other ways if your well went dry??? Or would you keep him satisfied other ways????
tired of pleasing myself...
Yeah, really. Just sit him down and tell him to be a man. "Make Love To Me!!!"
tired of pleasing myself...
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Originally Posted by Ganjasaurusrex
This is nothing that a therapist can solve.
This happens too often to couples and its hard to reverse the situation.
They go to consuling and talk and talk and talk, and 3 months later they get divorced. I have seen this happen so many times.
I guy must stay an emotional and sexual challenge to a woman even though he is married. He shouldnt dump all of his problems on her and make her his physcologist/mother.
In my opinion the man is hiding nothing.
She is the one who is not interested in having sex with him because he forgot to do the things that turned her on in the begining and he is frustrated that he doesnt know what to do.
When she says "he wont let me go down on him" just reverse that as it is actually just the opposite, its called projection. She is in my opinon sexually rejecting him, not the other way around and this is why this story is vague and doesnt make sense.
Right or wrong?
Ganja, What are your credentials to be so damn opinionated with SO little facts to go on? Are you a college graduate? If so, what is your degree in? How old are you? You talk like you think you're a licensed psychologist but then again no real therapist would come to such definitive conclusions without so much as a case history on both people in this situation. That's my :twocents:
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Originally Posted by shorty12
Don't cheat-you took the vows for better or worse, this counts as worse. Would you want him to seek other ways if your well went dry??? Or would you keep him satisfied other ways????
you are very right shorty, I keep thinking about all of that.
We have had some good talks these past couple of days- he knows we've got to fix this now and something has to change. and I am going to stay by his side for the time being and see if we can get past all of this-- I am such a good wife- sigh.
It's just seems like it's so uncommon, doesn't it? staying with one person and being committed to him/her? I am surrounded by people who cheat on their spouses, amd divorce is more common than not. Honestly, I don't want to be with anyone else and I don't want to be like that... but, I just want to have sex! Is that so wrong? errr.
So anyways thanks guys, for your support. Esp. Beachguy, by the way beach guy did you realize that we live in the same city.. we should :stoned: sometime.
