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dude you got so much experience out of all this, grown up, had a long term stable relationship, motivation through TOUGH classes, YOU ARE LEARNING AND GROWING BY THE SECOND. u haven't failed, she isn't the worst person ever, you just can't live with her... too bad you had to find out now... i had an older man tell me once never to get married till you have been with the person closely for 5 years, because there is little left to hide about themself... it's very true...
If this all goes the way it feels like its going, then I'm going to have to remember that 5 year thing.Quote:
Originally Posted by HighTillIDie
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Originally Posted by drivebyphilosopher
Bull... You have learned alot you had some good times. Now you know what to look for next time. Only if you come out of this and don't learn any thing, then you have wasted your time.
I've definitely learned a lot. I wish I could go back and just do it all over again differently, but I cant. If it ends, it ends. She packed up all of her things, so I'm left in my own place.... at least I hear that's good if we do get a divorce. Usually being the one that leaves is not good for you in the case of a divorce, apparently. She's on the lease though for the rental property. Mistake by me, I guess. We also split a bank account.. not like I have anything for her to take that she hasnt taken already.Quote:
Originally Posted by igot4cheep
yea, while you do need to remember that, you need to not think about long term blah blah blah
you serious mother fucker.
You are doing everything right, anyone that tells you otherwise or judges you... would also judge you for smoking weed... and we both know that neither of these things are how society views them, FUCK EM... i am gonna roll up a fatty at your delima, dr kid. I would hate to be in your position and not have all the experience with women i have... i can't imagine what you are going through... just don't listen to your heart, BAD IDEA... i am guessing listening to your heart is what made this a 3 year relationship not a 2 1/2
YOU HEAR ME?
Your guesses would be right. Dude... I hate this. She was so perfect when I met her, lol. I guess things really change, huh. Well.. On a more practical note, what the hell do I do? Do I go see a lawyer? Do I tell her not to come back? I'm kind of new to all of this BS.Quote:
Originally Posted by HighTillIDie
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Originally Posted by drivebyphilosopher
Dude move and change you number. Get you a GOOD lawyer. In the mean time gatther up all of here stuff and put in a box and sell it on Ebay.
YOU AUTOMATICALLY SEE A LAWYER, i don't care if you aren't even sure
ONLY talk to her when you are sure... don't jerk her around, be clear, civil, and communative... your relationship isn't over, just changing
And no moron, things didn't change, she just let her guard down, and you got to see the real her... we all act different in the beginning... not me, but tards do, lol... that's a classic rule of the game
lol i am just being harsh on you cuz you need it, but you have to communicate as best as you can with her, no reason to hurt her more than need be... she is a lazy bitch, but she doesn't know that, so she won't believe it, and it will be painful to hear.
Lol dude. I barely have enough money to pay the rent. I'd have more were it not for her insisting she take a single summer class that costed 500 dollars. I can't move though, locked into my contract with the land lord. I might be able to get a lawyer for cheap though, being that my case really isnt all that complicated. We don't have verymany assets.Quote:
Originally Posted by igot4cheep
I understand being harsh, dont worry about it. I am not going to hurt her any more than need be, you're right. I'd like to make it as easy for her as possible. She needs some help, and I can't handle her. She's going to quickly learn that her mom can't take care of her anymore, as she's too old for that now, and she's going to have to depend on herself and herself alone. Thats going to be tough for her. She's going to realize she made a mistake, because dude, she's never gonna find another guy like me. I've given her so much respect its not even funny.Quote:
Originally Posted by HighTillIDie