Should I come out of the closet?

Mojavpa, i know how you feel. I think that at some point you will just want to let your father know. If you're staying at home still, now might not be the time to tell him. For a while i didn't tell my parents (and still haven't officially told my father). I told myself, "My brothers and sisters don't come out at Heterosexual or say 'Mom, Dad, I like red heads,' so why should i tell them i'm gay." Eventually i just told everyone as if it wasn't anything strange.

But you know your situation. Just from experience and from friends, it might be best to wait until you are out of the house (especially if your dad decides to flip out).

One thing we all have to remember (gay, Straight, whatever) is that our life isn't here to make our parent's happy. They lived their lives, they made their own decisions, so we should be able to live our own. Parents are fucked up like that, they forget that once in their life they wanted to live their own life and make themselves happy.

those are my thoughts.

Can he not tell that you are blatantly gay? Or do you act less camp around him??
Why don't you "experiment" with girls! If you are worried it will kill him don't tell him...if you are not worried ...tell him...

sjfkefhe;phe!!!
im indian too so i understand FULLY what you are going through, im a lady, but i need to move out soon so they dont marry me off. well im only 18, but still, they wont approve of me moving out so im just going to get up and leave in the middle of the night.


i think you just need to move out, distance yourself from your family. fuck them. you will be much happier. and in the end, tell them if you want.

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Originally Posted by StOneD.aS.FuK

omg EVERYTHING you just said is just what im like/what happended to me.
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but i dont plan on coming out. i know im living a lie, but id rarther live a lie than live in hell.

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Hey Stoned StOneD.aS.FuK, how old are you? I'm 19, you on MSN, maybe we could chat sometime if you're down for that?

- Aden :)

Just tell them. if your parents can't accept the way you are, than they shouldn't be your parents. Sexual preference shouldn't matter in a family (or anything for that matter.)

i was gona tell my parents that i was gay even tho im not just to see the reaction. but then i realized i am retarted so i dident cause it would be wrong

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Originally Posted by NightProwler

i think, the longer you wait the harder it will be. just do it

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bump, I agree with this

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Originally Posted by pogmoasal1

i was gona tell my parents that i was gay even tho im not just to see the reaction. but then i realized i am retarted so i dident cause it would be wrong

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omg, lmoa, thats classic :):stoned:

I understand how difficult that can be in Indian culture. You are expected to get married and have children.
I know there are guys who get married and see their lovers in private. If there's familial pressure, you may end up having to do this. I'm really sorry about it.
You can always come out to your dad, and hopefully the response will be tolerable, if not favorable. Best of luck! :)

:( I can't stand this shit! I'm fucked! Todat in college, ppl have found out that im bi and I doubt I can lie my way of it! I cnt face seeing any1 in college, and I'm so sensitie that 1 homophobic insult will destroy me! I cnt believe this. Only this morning no1 knew, and now I'm likely to be questioned by ppl in college by Friday. If I turn up 2 col on Friday, I will face my ultimate humiliation, but if I dnt turn up, my chances of sorting shit out could only fuck up more! Although any lies I try to say to save my ass aren't likely to be believed, everyone will probably see thru it. I cnt take this. I cnt even accept my sexuality, let alone accept the homophobic cunts in this fucked up worl. This is scaring me shitless. I got so much goin thru my head! I haven't got much options to sort thisn out. I can either face my embaressment or leave the country and start a new life where no1 knows me and make a fresh start. But I'm not independant enough to live alone with all those responsibilities. I thought I could move to some shitty old apartment where homeless ppl go to sort themselves out and maybe make enough money thru dealin dope or somethin 2 sort myself out. But part of me cant even see myself facing the big bad world just like that. I'm so fuckin scared! I'm 19 and didn't expect this to happen all so suddenly. I couldnt even see myself ever comin out! I dont know what 2 do!! :( |This is so depressin