Quit the marijuana and stay with the gal.
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Quit the marijuana and stay with the gal.
pie_man is ignorant, dont listen to him.
its not about the chronic, its about the girl. i cant imagine anybody considering divorce over such a small thing, marijuana.
although, it seems like even if marijuana wasn't involved, you guys wouldn't end up staying together. sorry for the whole situation.
peace.
A man has got to do what a mans got to do, so cut the crap and get on with it.:rolleyes:
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Shut your mouth little boy. Sometimes you have to realize there are more important things than smoking a joint. Love is more important than being high. Ignorant fool.Quote:
Originally Posted by HolyChrondon
that's if you believe in love...Quote:
Originally Posted by Pie_man
Well one thing's for sure, you can't go on with hiding this fact from her in the long term. If it really is such a big deal for her, then it will be devastating if she finds out other than by you telling her. Also I think it will wear on you having a secret like this --- some people can live with secrets like this, but it doesn't sound like you can.
Actually, I would agree with others who have said that this is not so much about weed as it is about your relationship. You think your marriage was a mistake, and you don't have the kind of relationship that makes it easy to be honest about everything. The weed just happens to be the thing that is potentially bringing it to a head.
I admire your wanting to fix the situation and also the fact that you take responsibilioty for your part in getting to the bad situation where you are right now. It sucks that your normal support group, family, friends, church etc. are not likely to be much help in this particular situation from what you have described. But you have us! And you have your counselor.
I would recommend bringing it up with the counselor and asking advice on how to handle it. They'll have a better read on your wife and the whole situation than what we have. If this is a professional counselor, telling them should not be a problem. They should be able to handle it. If you are eventually going to tell your wife, then having the counselor know is the least of your worries. From what you said, when your wife finds out, soon her parents will know. And if it ends in diviorce, then given their closed mindedness and ingorance, it's quite likely they'll tell other people the divorce was because you are "addicted to reefer." Even if it doesn't come to that, your wife will surely bring it up with the counselor, so better just to start there in the first place, I'd say.
Good luck.
Ignorant fool? Thats going a bit far. The ignorant fool is the one who didn't read the full thread. "Even though, at least at this point, I honestly believe our marriage was a mistake". I agree that love is more important than a joint, but does this sound like love? He also states he "feels he has an obligation to stay with her". It's obvious, to me anyway, that the bud is more important than this relationship. End it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Pie_man
Like everyone else has said, this is a very bad situation. Number one, I'm glad you're deciding to tell her. Keeping emotions tucked away can cause major psychological problems in the future. It's always best to be honest, especially to your mate, no matter how bad the outcome is.
If this person is truly in love with you and can accept new ideas at all, you have hope. The biggest thing to realize here is why she thinks marijuana is bad. She's been brought up by the bible, and it's illegal. The first issue is the worst to handle, but the second issue is very possible.
My mother has tried cannabis in the past, but now she's as straight as a whistle. I recently brought her over to my side of the spectrum. I first asked her, why do you think marijuana is bad? The only answer she could come up with is because it's illegal. I asked her, why do you think it's illegal? She sad because it's bad. I told her once upon a time, drugs were used for good. Most drugs were natural, and they were used to fix bad things in our body. Recreational drug usage has been around for thousands of years. The two legal recreational drugs in america are of course, alcohol and tobacco. Not only does the hemp plant have thousands of economical uses, but it can used as a very safe recreational drug. The drug has hundreds of medical uses, where the only medical use of alcohol and tobacco is to kill you. Maybe ask her to read online studies with you. Explain that there is a very very large percentage of the world pushing to decriminalize the only drug they trust to either heal their pain or use safely as a recreational drug.
It's a very tough situation, and the hardest part is tackling the bible issue. I'm sorry you have to go through with this, but I wish for the best!
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your trying to take your marrige vowels seriously, but it seems that you shouldn't have married in the first place, dont live a lie, live life as you want, if your wife doesn't like it, tough you are who you are, let people take you for what you are, otherwise in years to come you will realise that you wasted your life.hope you manage to sort it out.
THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN LIFE IS: BE TRUE TO YOURSELF! Sounds like you know that and that is your problem! Only you will have to live with yourself the rest of your life!!! Are you seeing a minister for counseling? If not, a therapist office would be a safe seem place to bring it up. Unless, the therapist is a drug rehab counselor also (lots of shrinks and therapists are weed friendly). You can recite all the scripture and share all the wise skill you've been given, ultimately, it will come down to your relationship with your wife! At 30, I just tried it and have only done it on social occasions. Now, after 20 years of pain and no relief, I will do it every day, as soon as I get my medical script and find some! I was once young and idealistic and thought I'd lose my job by toking! NO ONE REALLY CARES IF THEY LOVE YOU! I think the main concerns are: do not drive and smoke and safety things--I'd be prepared for that. Most of all, if you don't say anything, IT IS YOU THAT YOU MAY NOT BE ABLE TO LIVE WITH! TIMING IS EVERYTHING AND I AM GLAD I AM NOT YOU! You have figured out what to do, when seems to be the question and how. GOOD LUCK AND KNOW YOU HAVE A LOT OF PEOPLE OUT HERE ON YOUR SIDE! AND PRAYERS! Keep us informed??:thumbsup::thumbsup: