how to deal with the fact that you have never had a girlfriend...

I think Nailhead brought up some good points. I wont go so far as to say sex is EVERYTHING and that is the sole key to a long-term relationship, but yes sex is important.

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Originally Posted by Nailhead

It would be moronic if I was giving him relationship advice, getting laid and getting a g/f are 2 completely different things. If he is like any normal guy, he probably thinks that in order to get laid he needs to have a relationship, which just isn't true at all.

Maybe it is just me, but you seem a bit angered by the advice I gave, why is that?

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I apoligize for my anger ive been dry on bud for a few days now so i havent gotten the best sleep. You gave advice to get layed, I gave advice for a relationship, i miss interpreted what he wanted, my bad.

lol, I don't know how to go about getting sex without a relationship first.

Obviously you are going to need to make friends with a few girls first. Mentioning that you aren't looking for a serious relationship at the moment is a must, but I wouldn't necessarily mention your personal/truthful intentions right off the bat.

It sounds to me that you have trouble meeting people. Get outside and meet people. Be a fun and positive person, then women will want to have fun with you.

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Originally Posted by Non

lol, I don't know how to go about getting sex without a relationship first.

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Have you ever heard about a poison called booze?

its called date rape get with the times :glugglug:

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Originally Posted by Innominate

It sounds to me that you have trouble meeting people. Get outside and meet people. Be a fun and positive person, then women will want to have fun with you.

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I can't speak for Non, but I'd say that people who have trouble meeting people often have trouble meeting people because they suffer from some sort of social anxiety and I'd say that meeting people, for a person with social anxiety, can be quite troublesome. It's quite difficult to have friends, male or female, when you're too scared to go out and do something.

Well im not the most social person...most find me weird. Its all about confidence, think to yourself they are lesser than you and your doing them a favor. Also most people with not so much experience tend to cling severely...just relax and be patient.

Drinking helps me, might be worth a shot....snap, nice pun.

Try and lightly flirt or just start little conversations then ask for a date, after the date wait a bit before you call. :smokin:

got a girl yet?
go get a girl !


then you'll find love ~~
fill us in !!


make love to her from the back of a chevy !

memorable !!

the next post you read will be

about the bitchin chick NON has!!

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Originally Posted by cadmiumblimp

I can't speak for Non, but I'd say that people who have trouble meeting people often have trouble meeting people because they suffer from some sort of social anxiety and I'd say that meeting people, for a person with social anxiety, can be quite troublesome. It's quite difficult to have friends, male or female, when you're too scared to go out and do something.

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I completely understand, but it doesn't mean it is hopeless for him. As I've said before, there are different kinds of women out there looking for Non.

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Originally Posted by Cyclonite

Its all about confidence, think to yourself they are lesser than you and your doing them a favor.

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I don't understand this at all. Are you saying that dudes should see the girls as lesser than themselves? That's...degrading, in my opinion. Of course, that could be why I'm still a virgin and all, but probably not.

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Originally Posted by Innominate

I completely understand, but it doesn't mean it is hopeless for him. As I've said before, there are different kinds of women out there looking for Non.

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Of course. It can still be difficult to find someone if he's always at home, because the obvious is that there aren't any girls at his home, but also because if he's at home he probably doesn't know where to go. This dude, in my opinion, needs some friends before he gets a girlfriend. He's gotta find a scene he likes -- therein lies people similar to himself and, probably, people he'd be able to get along with and people he'd have stuff in common with.

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Originally Posted by cadmiumblimp

I don't understand this at all. Are you saying that dudes should see the girls as lesser than themselves? That's...degrading, in my opinion. Of course, that could be why I'm still a virgin and all, but probably not.

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Well... they say so because many men tends to regard any woman theyre interested in as goddesses, queens, so high and distant from them that they think it would be impossible that the woman give him even a look. So, they become very afraid of even approaching her, fearing theyre not good enough for her.
I dont think women likes men who are afraid of her. In fact, it seems women likes corageous, standing, cocky men... and this kind of men, due their own cockyness, would think theyre doing a favour to the ladies when being interested in them. And, strangely, it works with most women...
From my own experiences, it seems as most interested you show you are, less interested the woman becomes. And as less interested you show you are, most interested the woman becomes. Its weird, i know... but who said that women are understandable?

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Originally Posted by cadmiumblimp

Of course. It can still be difficult to find someone if he's always at home, because the obvious is that there aren't any girls at his home, but also because if he's at home he probably doesn't know where to go. This dude, in my opinion, needs some friends before he gets a girlfriend. He's gotta find a scene he likes -- therein lies people similar to himself and, probably, people he'd be able to get along with and people he'd have stuff in common with.

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I'm glad to see we're on the same page.

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Originally Posted by killerweed420

Women are highly over rated. Get a rubber fuck me in the face doll and dog for companionship.lol;)

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works for me, and Im happy as hell. Got money in the bank and some peace and quiet.

listen, wanna work on your confidence? go to a strip club and practice. talk to the chicks, wave a few dollars around and enjoy yourself. you can screw up bad there, make loads of goofy mistakes. but the chicks arent goning to care, cause its all green to them. then when your ready, hunt ya down a real chick.

then fall in love, get married, have kids.....then you will see loads of chicks given you the eye. then you will have to have some of that because it's written into your dna as a guy. next thing you know, your divorsed. then you go back to the strip clubs and start the whole process again.

another thought: ever notice it's easier to get a girl when you have a girlfreind. seems like the very second your single, all the girls get together and vote you out. I have never been able to figure that one out.

other things about chicks: ever notice those complicated woman magazines at the check out lines. next time your stuck in line, read the covers. "100 ways to make love your man" or "men's 100erotic zones" I only know one erotic zone. I dont have a clue where the others are. trust me, I looked everywhere. thing is, chicks are crazie. I dated one chick who swore spies where chasing her. serious. another told me she was some kind of healing witch. not a bad witch, a good one she says. one chick thougth she was psychic. another would call a psychic hot line. had a few who swore someone is trying to distroy her. been the ringleader of many a circus. chicks love drama. thats why they love those damn reality shows on tv.

oh yeah..chicks love chocolate. everyone of them. you should always have chocolate around for the emergency break down times.

but yes...the best hunters will tell you, it's all in the confidence. I once told a chick at a club that I was an astronaunt and flew to marrs. funny thing about confidence. you can say the crazie things to a chick. but you do it with a degree of confidence, chicks will damn near believe anything. it just takes practice;)

it will all work out...its all good;):rastasmoke:

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Originally Posted by cadmiumblimp

I don't understand this at all. Are you saying that dudes should see the girls as lesser than themselves? That's...degrading, in my opinion. Of course, that could be why I'm still a virgin and all, but probably not.

Of course. It can still be difficult to find someone if he's always at home, because the obvious is that there aren't any girls at his home, but also because if he's at home he probably doesn't know where to go. This dude, in my opinion, needs some friends before he gets a girlfriend. He's gotta find a scene he likes -- therein lies people similar to himself and, probably, people he'd be able to get along with and people he'd have stuff in common with.

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Im not saying women are...thats far from the truth. It will help your mindset, your probably putting the girl above and the way you act will portray that to them...then they will get the idea they are better than you. Its just a different way to perceive things...like auto loans, most people are like "great im approved, thank god" but im more like why the hell would I give you my business when there is better offers.

Ever notice most girls get with the guys you will deem an asshole? That gos back to what im saying, its just that initial attitude you have to take to get the date...after you get it then ease into how you really are show her how she should be treated.....I dont understand it but it works time and time again.

well I had my first kiss today.

And so life continues. Nice! :thumbsup: