I think it's healthy to cry, it's part of the healing process especially when mourning.
Mourning can be a long thing, some people it only lasts a week or two, others can mourn for years.
I agree with what CultureCherryPopper said!
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I think it's healthy to cry, it's part of the healing process especially when mourning.
Mourning can be a long thing, some people it only lasts a week or two, others can mourn for years.
I agree with what CultureCherryPopper said!
Not only is it healthy and good to cry, it's necessary. Oh, Slipknot, my friend, I'm so sorry that happened. You've spent this time being strong for your family and trying to suck that emotion in, but it's the folks who don't let that built-up emotional energy out who are in danger of going nuts. Or going postal. And even then, sometimes, in horrific situations like these, the emotions threaten to overwhelm you.
There are people in this world who are uncomfortable with emotions and don't like any men to show vulnerable feelings. But that's really a statement about the people who judge them and not about the ones who're expressing emotions. Nothing is sexier or more touching to me than a man who can feel and express his feelings. Truly. I couldn't be married to a guy who could not, and I think most self-actualized, sane people feel the same way.
Have you ever given any thought to a few check-in sessions with a good therapist to sort of release some of what's boiling up inside you and get some constructive feedback? Some of what you're going through right now sounds eerily like post-traumatic stress syndrome, Slipknot, which can really eat away at your balance and interrupt your functioning when the previously suppressed emotions start to surface. At difficult times in my life, work with a good counselor has made a lot of difference for me. As I told you in another thread, it helped me when I used to work for the fire department and see traumatic awful things on a frequent basis. It helped me and my husband during a rough spot in our marriage some years ago. And I'm considering a few visits again right now, in fact, after what we've all been through with my sister's illness and death. I think it'll just help the holidays feel less overwhelmingly sad, too.
Give it some thought in case that might feel right to you, too. If you have ever kept a journal of some kind, that's very therapeutic, too. Anything that'll help you get the feelings up and out is healthy. From crying to therapy. And never let anyone else tell you differently. Much love to you, my friend.
No, I don't think so. I cry when I'm sad or really, REALLLLLY angry, and hell, if I didn't, it would just built up sadness that can explode at all the wrong times.Quote:
Originally Posted by slipknotpsycho
So no, it doesn't make you a pussy. Crying is something to be done every once in a while to make someone feel better. If it's done on a daily basis or every few days, then there is something wrong with your emotions. A person shouldn't cry that much, just every so often when needed. :)
"It's okay to cry...crying takes the sad out of you" :p
For something like that, I don't think it would be wrong to cry everyday for 5 years. Any one who thinks its wrong for someone to cry in your situation either has no heart or is too afraid of their own emotions to face someone else's.
id say it is wrong and makes him less of a man unless death is involved, then it is totally understandable. and im not talking about a cat either.
thanks for all the words guys... and as for a therapist, i was never really much for it, it's not like we have the money either way tho... the only thing i know to do to let out emotion is write poetry, but i haven't much felt like writing lately, kind of like writer's block i guess, the words just dont' want to come...
m8, everyone cries no matter how 'hard' you are, seriously man, i cant imagine the pain you must be in... and if anyone calls you a pussy for crying, remember i called you a man for letting yourself cry, seriously man, i feel for you...
as for the poetry thing, i really think you need to hear a song written by dr dre called 'the message,' its deep shit, and fits with your situation, sometimes you just gotta put up with what you feel... unfortunately..
dudes can cry, just not in public.
i shed tears for all my dead homies, but only when i'm alone.
i cry almost everynight because i can't be with my daughter, but don't nobody know that shit. you get caught cryin you considered weak.
only other man that has ever seen me shed a tear is my brother.
when we lost our father we were both crying like blubbering baby bitches. but fuck what you think mayne if you miss yo brother don't hold that shit inside you, just smoke a sweet and cry. you're still a man homie, everybody bleeds just like you.
dude fuck you assholeQuote:
Originally Posted by Bodom Children Of
slipknot is being personal here and all you can do is bring bullshit on his thread......
go to hell man!!!!:mad:
and slipknot.... no man, this is your brother man... cry all you want and then some........
jesus cried all the time in the gospels concerning the humanity of the world and such and he still cries for the world and cries for you to.....
youre a good man, dont worry about it man, your brother knows you care about him and he sees it (i believe)
its your life and if thats how you get out your feelings then keep on brother.....
cause if you dont, you may gun down 16 yr.old boys in walmart parking lots:p
listen to hip hop.... gangstas cry all the time
(scarface--- never seen a man cry)
I watch him dying when he dies, let us celibrate
You took his life but his memory you'll never take
You'll be headed to another place
And the life you used to live will reflect in your momma's face
I still gotta' wonder why
I never seen a man cry
Untill I seen a man die