just a question...

[slipknotpsycho]

is it wrong for a grown man to cry... does that make them weak, or a 'pussy?'

slipknotpsycho Reviewed by slipknotpsycho on 11-15-2006. just a question... is it wrong for a grown man to cry... does that make them weak, or a 'pussy?' Rating: 5

[ToDrunkToFish]

Not at all. I actually heard that one of the reasons why Women live longer then men is that since they cry so much more they release some bad toxins in their tears that otherwise store up in the body.

But I mean come on, an older mans long-lifed friend dies or parents die. I would never make fun of them for crying.

[slipknotpsycho]

what about someone that's not quite 'older' just old enough to be considered a man, crying just about every week about his brother being taken from him... yeah maybe i'm releasing too much info, but i'm actually confused at this point... he's been gone for quite a bit more than a year, and i still find myself in tears atleast weekly...

[Bodom Children Of]

yes

[slipknotpsycho]

yes

come on man, this is something really close to heart, i mean atleast respect that... if that's what you honestly feel, then i won't argue with it, and even respect that you have the balls to express your opinion instead of what society pre-disposes mostly everyone to believe, but dont' just give answers liek that to be an ass....

if you seriously stand by what you said, then ignore this post... but i'm being 100% serious here..

[Bodom Children Of]

come on man, this is something really close to heart, i mean atleast respect that... if that's what you honestly feel, then i won't argue with it, and even respect that you have the balls to express your opinion instead of what society pre-disposes mostly everyone to believe, but dont' just give answers liek that to be an ass....

if you seriously stand by what you said, then ignore this post... but i'm being 100% serious here..

There is no right or wrong answer to your question. What's the point in asking it?

[ToDrunkToFish]

Well whats the reason? obviously this post turned towards you and whatever is goin on in your life. What about your bro? More info and ill give you a good opinion.

[slipknotpsycho]

i dont' really know what you're asking, but basicly my brother was murdered just over two years ago, but it's not even the fact he was taken way before 'his time' ... it's just that he's gone... nwo i find myself either in tears, or near tears anytime the subject is brought up at all... at first, i thought it was just part of the mourning process, but now i'm not sure anymore... i don't really know what to think, and i need guidance i guess you could say... it seems like the pain will never subside... it hasn't even lessened and it's been two years... two years is a long time when you spend every day wondering why, and imagining what you would do if you got your hands on the person(s) responsible... i just need to know how everyone else woudl feel/act in this situation...

i dont' know if that really answers the questions at hand, but unless i had some more direct questions that's all i can say...

[yoda]

maybe the sadness is a bit frequent, but for a grown man, or any man for that matter, is not "wimpy" to cry over that kind of tragedy.

[JaggedEdge]

There is nothing wrong with anyone crying. It is a natural function that is important in our overall emotional well being.

That said, I don't know the circumstances of your story, nor will I ask. It takes different people different amouts of time to overcome their grief. If you can't seem to move on though, I think you may want to talk to someone. There is nothing wrong with going to a doctor that will listen and give advice. No drugs though.

Bottom line, there is nothing wrong with crying and I hate how society has instilled this in men. Granted if someone is crying, male or female, everytime they stub their toe, than that is a little to much. But never think, "men aren't supposed to cry." I really is just unhealthy.