Long Distance Relationship?

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Originally Posted by HighWheeling

I know that a lot fail. However, my existence is proof that they do work too. But I'm thinking about trying it with a girl I know. Use to work with her (which is why I never tried anything earlier, I didn't want things to get messed up at work if things didn't work) for the past year and then some. I like her, and she likes me... That's the easy part, ironic since usually that's the hardest part.

I know she's willing to try long-distance... I'm not sure that I want to do that, but that's not what I'm torn about.

How exactly does one do a long-distance relationship? If I decide that I can do this, I don't know what it entails. I mean... we only hung out once before I moved, cause it sort of grew over the last summer, though I knew I liked her since last summer. But... I don't have any idea exactly how one does a Long Distance relationship.

*shrug* anyone been in one? It's always been something I told myself I wouldn't do... but obviously I'm reconsidering.

On the plus said, I finally found myself a dealer today. I was out for a run, and some guy was walking around with a bunch of brownies and baggies and asked me if I wanted some. Wasn't even looking lol. Plus, I got his number. So that makes me happy, way easy =)

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Hmmmmm My last relationship started out as a long distance relationship. and after about 4 months she ended up moving in with me, and then about 9 months later we got happily married! But after 4 and a half years of marriage now we are going through a divorce..The reason why our marriage failed is cause we rushed it way too fast, way too fast! and most of that was due to the distance between us in the first place. Its hard to trully get to know the way your going to interact fully with that person when your having a long distance relationship, I honestly thought she was the one for me, but In the begining when we visited each other all we got to see of each other was the good side, not the bad. and eventually we both revealed our incompatability. I honestly don't think I'll ever get involed in a long distance relationship again, but my problems were not all to do with the distance. I rushed everything, and so did she...I should've taken more time to get to know her before she moved in with me.

So my advice is if you do this long distance relationhship take it slow and just see where it goes. Ya never know it might work, but ya never know if ya don't try. The main problem i find with long distance relationship is, you don't have enough time when you/she is visiting to truly get to know each other, and in order to trully get to know each other you have to close the gap and that ussually involves one of you moving, and thats a huge step. Some people can make it work, but its an risky situation. and going from a long distance relationship to a face to face relationship is ussually quite the adjustment.

Every long distance relationship will hit a breaking point. A point that asks "is this worth it?" Its really hard when you get stuck in these ruts, but if you can find your way out of them together, then I guess its meant to be. Im in the middle of one of those ruts, im hoping for the best... love really is fucking hard.

I was with the same girl off and on through out all of college. all most 5 years now. We HAD been long distance for only 6 months and the strain ruined an amazing relationship. i tell you that if you love them you always have to try. but even if it they love you back, it doesn't always have to work out ........

"100 days have made me older since the last time that i saw your pretty face."