Long Distance Relationship?

[HighWheeling]

I know that a lot fail. However, my existence is proof that they do work too. But I'm thinking about trying it with a girl I know. Use to work with her (which is why I never tried anything earlier, I didn't want things to get messed up at work if things didn't work) for the past year and then some. I like her, and she likes me... That's the easy part, ironic since usually that's the hardest part.

I know she's willing to try long-distance... I'm not sure that I want to do that, but that's not what I'm torn about.

How exactly does one do a long-distance relationship? If I decide that I can do this, I don't know what it entails. I mean... we only hung out once before I moved, cause it sort of grew over the last summer, though I knew I liked her since last summer. But... I don't have any idea exactly how one does a Long Distance relationship.

*shrug* anyone been in one? It's always been something I told myself I wouldn't do... but obviously I'm reconsidering.

On the plus said, I finally found myself a dealer today. I was out for a run, and some guy was walking around with a bunch of brownies and baggies and asked me if I wanted some. Wasn't even looking lol. Plus, I got his number. So that makes me happy, way easy =)

HighWheeling Reviewed by HighWheeling on 10-01-2007. Long Distance Relationship? I know that a lot fail. However, my existence is proof that they do work too. But I'm thinking about trying it with a girl I know. Use to work with her (which is why I never tried anything earlier, I didn't want things to get messed up at work if things didn't work) for the past year and then some. I like her, and she likes me... That's the easy part, ironic since usually that's the hardest part. I know she's willing to try long-distance... I'm not sure that I want to do that, but that's not Rating: 5

[beachguy in thongs]

You're gonna need some type of free long-distance calling plan. You need to memorize the driving directions, in case you need to leave, for her, tomorrow.

[xxxhazexxx]

its not easy dude,i have lost the girl of my life due to the fact we are so far apart if she was closer i would be albe to get her.

goodluck mate hope it works for you both:thumbsup:

[stars stars stars]

Honestly, it's not going to work. It might at first, but humans need physical contact. Unless you're seeing her every weekend and then some, one of you is either going to slip-up or get frustrated. I've been there, I've done that. My boyfriend lives a few towns away and it drives me crazy, I can't imagine him being any further.

I've been in a few long distance relationships. They're really great at first, until you realize you have no idea what he/she's doing when you're not around. When you start getting jealous because they're going out and you're not with them. When you start getting lonely, angry, ect and they're not there to comfort you.

Maybe yous are strong people tho and can overcome that. I think it depends on the people too. In my opinion, though; they don't work.

[stinkyattic]

It can work. My record is 4200 miles for several months- you need cash for plane tickets in that case, lol- the only reason it ended was that I was unwilling to sell my house and move, but until I came to that decision, it was a wonderful relationship. We had excellent trust and were able to see each other about a week every 2 months. I thought that the lack of physical contact would be hard, but it wasn't, and I was never even tempted to stray. I'd say that having a specific goal in mind for where the relationship is heading, that you both see as a good future, is important to a long-distance relationship.

You need:
EXCELLENT communication- misinterpreting things said on the phone or in text is a really easy pitfall.
TRUST- neither of y'all better be foolin' around, or even SUSPECT the other of it.
Free long-distance calling obviously
Somewhat compatible time zones- a 4 hour difference SUCKS trust me.
Some idea of an ideal future to keep your relationship moving forward.

Long distance is a pain in the butt, but at the same time, it can be freeing and rewarding. I'd be perfectly happy to do it all over again for the right man.

[geonagual]

Is 100 miles enough to be considered a long distance relationship?

[yoda]

Is 100 miles enough to be considered a long distance relationship?

nahhhh man, she just lives far away.

me personally, i don't think they are worth it. i tried it, we last several months. and i was so excited cause she was getting ready to move back permanently in a month from when i went to visit her. when she came to MD, things were AMAZING. when i went to cali, fucking 2 weeks of hell.

the thing is, jealousy comes into play. when she went out with her friends, i had no idea what she was doing. part of it killed me cause i knew she'd act flirty, but just how flirty?

physical contact was something i missed a lot. not just sex, but holding hands or kissing too. i flirted with several girls just cause. only one instance where i came close to cheating. but i dunno with her case.

it's just really hard and takes a toll dude. keep everything in consideration. but if neither of you are in a position to visit often for extended time, not even remotely worth doing.

[beachguy in thongs]

when she went out with her friends, i had no idea what she was doing. part of it killed me cause i knew she'd act flirty, but just how flirty?

If you're out of place, she should've taken you everywhere that she went. She should have turned down her friends to be with you. You turned down your home-state for her.

The first weekend that I moved into an apartment with a girl, none of our stuff was unpacked, and, she was invited to a "sex party", by her mother and sister. If her mother brought five guests, she received a free dildo, or something. My girlfriend was to be the fifth guest.

She asked if she could leave her phone with me, so she can call, and, I said, "I'm not gonna answer it. If I have no clue where you are, I'm not letting you know where I am." Even though, I had no place to go. I was in Wisconsin, for Christ's sake!

So, she rebelled against her mother and blew her off. I kept telling her to go, but, she realized that we had nothing for me to do, at the house. Boxes were everywhere. I had no money, so a bar was out of the question. I had no friends.

The next four months, we did everything together. I moved back here, with her, and, still do everything with her.

[HighWheeling]

As I said, I know it CAN work, the fact that I am alive means it can work.

Trust for me isn't an issue. As opposite as we are, the fact that she is a good girl (no drinking, smoking, christian) who doesn't even club. I am a somewhat jealous type (I get jealous but I don't take it out on her. I know some boyfriends who have told their girl not to even talk to their guy friends, I'm not like that, I just feel it) but as for her I trust her completely, it's just not her personality/character to do something like that. She might have trust issues with me, obviously I hope not because I'm the guy who will end something if something better comes along (haven't yet, btw), but I don't cheat. But she knows I drink/smoke.

Good call on phone plan. I may have to up my minutes. We don't actually talk on the phone, we just text eachother all day (she sent me 365 a couple nights ago, probably more last night). I definitely hate talking on the phone - I view a 30 minute conversation as one that dragged on forever. But, I guess we all got to make sacrifices =).

We are actually a few hundred miles away. I'm in the middle of Oregon she's at the top of WA, near the Canada border. But, a train up there is only 49 dollars. So, especially next year when I will have a lot more money, it won't be bad. Btw I'm high right now.

[beachguy in thongs]

My ex-girlfriend, from high school, used to live in Oregon, said it was nice, and, it is the first place my doctor suggested that I move to. Plus, if I only have to go a few hundred miles for girls, then I'm all set!