Having a hard time with my mom

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Originally Posted by Bree1978

That part of the post made me feel gushy inside. I hope my kids love me that much! But of course I want them to have some motivation and not feel that negative about themselves too....

Try to feel good about yourself FreeVenice, and you'll be the kind of son/daughter every mom wants. Confident, loving, respectful.

:jointsmile: Bree

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lol, trust me my ego is big enough...and I didn't say that I didn't learn from her, I just ment she could of taught someone else more. . .

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Originally Posted by MagicalHerb

damn yo
just shut up if you dont like what i have to say! why cant you just click on a different page of the internet! its not hard and its going to save me alot of bullshit i dont want to deal with so why not.

and for the record how are you one to tell what tone im talking in. in fact im not even talking. im typing and typing doesnt have a tone. and im NOT beign bitchy so how is it that everyone seems to be against me on this one? when i wrote it i didnt expect all these people to come and lecture me, i thought this was a chill place. you guys smoke up too? its hard to believe

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Ok, I'm going to jump in here before I finish reading this thread. Magic, you are on here complaining about how your mom won't listen to constructive critisim, yet you have gotten pissed off at Stinky for doing the same thing.

The fact is, you are still a kid. As she said, you are in that period where you are growing up and starting to view the world in a different light. Unfortunatly, you are still a minor who is in your parents care. They won't start looking at you like an adult until you start to become independent.

I understand it is very frusturating, but very few kids actually are looked at as equals by there parents. Alot of parents like to view their children as being younger than they are. It sucks, but when you get out of the house, your relationship with them will change. Than you will likely be viewed a little differently in their eyes.

burn.

"if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all":thumbsup:

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Originally Posted by JaggedEdge

Ok, I'm going to jump in here before I finish reading this thread. Magic, you are on here complaining about how your mom won't listen to constructive critisim, yet you have gotten pissed off at Stinky for doing the same thing.

The fact is, you are still a kid. As she said, you are in that period where you are growing up and starting to view the world in a different light. Unfortunatly, you are still a minor who is in your parents care. They won't start looking at you like an adult until you start to become independent.

I understand it is very frusturating, but very few kids actually are looked at as equals by there parents. Alot of parents like to view their children as being younger than they are. It sucks, but when you get out of the house, your relationship with them will change. Than you will likely be viewed a little differently in their eyes.

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"if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all"

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yes. freevenice shut your mouth lol you are being aggrevating

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Originally Posted by JaggedEdge

Ok, I'm going to jump in here before I finish reading this thread. Magic, you are on here complaining about how your mom won't listen to constructive critisim, yet you have gotten pissed off at Stinky for doing the same thing.

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oh really? i think your wrong because i didnt get pissed at her for that. bla

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The fact is, you are still a kid. As she said, you are in that period where you are growing up and starting to view the world in a different light. Unfortunatly, you are still a minor who is in your parents care. They won't start looking at you like an adult until you start to become independent.

I understand it is very frusturating, but very few kids actually are looked at as equals by there parents. Alot of parents like to view their children as being younger than they are. It sucks, but when you get out of the house, your relationship with them will change. Than you will likely be viewed a little differently in their eyes.

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i uderstand that but what i dont get is why the fuck people think that way it makes no sense to me

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"if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all"

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yes. freevenice shut your mouth lol you are being aggrevating and you are just provoking me.

You sound just like your Mom...

Tell your mom I said hi.

I wish my Mom was still alive. I lost my Mother when I was 11 and the short time I had with her I will always cherish. The things she taught me and my brother will last forever and I'm teaching those same values (she showed us) to my kids now.
I wish you peace and understanding
Enlightenment comes from perspective ..you must stand back to obtain this perspective.
We all try..sometimes the words get mixed up when they come out
Keep hope in your pocket..you'll need it! ~Hazz:thumbsup:

Hi young magical herb! Listen to the grownups on this, as well as the kids like yourself. You aren't alone in your frustration- that battle of wills is present in most adult/teenager relationships. However, as Suhl said, no one likes to be lectured by someone half his/her age, even when their points have some merit! If you try that same thing in the workplace, expect a similar result. It is galling to the older person who has seen so much before you were even born.
My mom died in 1999 and I dearly wish I had not fought her so hard when I was a teenager. She was just trying to do the best she could under difficult circumstances, and I imagine your mom is doing the same. Try to just love her, and not criticize her so much, because that isn't helping anything. Focus your attention on what you need to do to progress in your own life. This is a good place to come talk about your problems, but don't be surprized if we demand that you face yourself, first and foremost- :thumbsup:

Sometimes you just need to admit that you CANNOT fix things yourself, and at that point there is no shame in seeking professional help (not a hired goon). Ask your mother if she would pay for some counseling sessions, or pay for them yourself if you have a job, or talk to a counsellor at school. After a few sessions, ask your mother to join in a session or two. Then the therapist will make sure your mother doesn't scream at you and make sure you don't tirade against her.

It is obvious that you both love each other and mostly just need a neutral environment to work through issues. I wish you the best of luck, and my heart goes out to you and your mother. You will both be in my thoughts and prayers.

why dont you just shut up leave your mom alone. she is who she is, and leave her alone.

i love you all

Well dude, I can actually say my mom use to be like this, she use to hit me over it too. Stupid random shit like not knowing where the groceries are. I dunno what happened but this phase passed after my brother became 3. It still comes out from time to time but for the most part she has it under control. Just try your best to deal with it. Hopefully she chills.

Everytime I see "Hard time with my mom", I chuckle, I mean doesn't anybody else see it... how bout difficult... but not hard and mom... nevermind.

Parents just don't understand...

Kids say the darndest things...

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Originally Posted by Skrappie

I understand where you are coming from, now understand where she is coming from.

She does not want to take advice from you.
I think she made that pretty clear by ignoring what you say, is it right or wrong, who knows, i personally feel like a parent should be able to learn from a child, as the learning process is never over.
But when push comes to shove she is your mother, and as long as she is taking care of you and doing her motherly thing, she could be shooting smack into her eyeballs and you have no 'right' to say anything otherwise.

When you get older, and more independent, it will be easier for you to have the talks you desire with your mother. Just wait it out.


Stinky, although i see what you are saying, let the kids vent. espeically when they can not do it at home:)

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what do you mean as a kid living under my parents and my parent are shooting up smack.. i have no right to tell them not to.. We as the son or daughter have every right in the world to tell are parents to stop shooting up smack if they are , our parents. I dont want my parents to die to shooting up smack and influence me and put me around those types of temptations.. So if your still lving under your parents and if there shooting up shit.. You have every right in the world to try to stop them and try to help them .. i mean you dont have to stop them because if they wanna shoot up smack they can but you have every right "RIGHT in the world to confront your parents about it. And I believe in equal treatment between parents and thier kids. If they dont want to even try to talk to me and listen to my advice.. Why should I listen to their hipocritical ass then if they dont want to try listening to my advice but in return they want me to listen to their advice. I can feal were this kids frustration comes if hes trying to help his mother and she dosent even want to be open minded...