tired of pleasing myself...

My opinion.

You turn your lover into your phsycologist and your lover will love you like a mother not a lover. Mothers dont have sex with their son's, it stands to reason.

This turns women off when guys use women as one-way emotional gas stations, constantly needing that service, yet some dont know how to give it in return.

It is very common like I said for a woman to love her husband very much yet not want to have sex with him. This doesnt make sense to men.

In these cases it is not uncommon for a woman to masturbate herself in private even though both may be aroused and in love.

I dont believe he has a sexual dysfunction problem.

When this starts to happen women will talk in coded language or levels of communication yet men dont hear it. She will project the problem into him as his inability to turn her on or that he needs help from a therapist or doctor.

This is nothing that a therapist can solve.

This happens too often to couples and its hard to reverse the situation.
They go to consuling and talk and talk and talk, and 3 months later they get divorced. I have seen this happen so many times.

I guy must stay an emotional and sexual challenge to a woman even though he is married. He shouldnt dump all of his problems on her and make her his physcologist/mother.

In my opinion the man is hiding nothing.

She is the one who is not interested in having sex with him because he forgot to do the things that turned her on in the begining and he is frustrated that he doesnt know what to do.

When she says "he wont let me go down on him" just reverse that as it is actually just the opposite, its called projection. She is in my opinon sexually rejecting him, not the other way around and this is why this story is vague and doesnt make sense.

Right or wrong?

Im with you MJITC... I'd never say no to a BJ... nor sex..

Well im one of these people that never says no but still .

I am so done with this thread... but since you have been kind enough to respond I will return the same kindness,

Ganjasaurus, thanks so much for sharing your wisdom, your first post made me think a bit and I respect that. But then you kind of got carried away calling me a liar and such...? I'm not really sure what that was all about, if you meant I was lying to myself or just lying on this board. I'm also not really sure what I'm being vague about.. but I put myself out there, so I suppose all is fair. I don't know I guess I was just getting it off my chest. It's not exactly the kind of thing that I'd like to come up while I'm out with my friends.
So anyways, I don't think that I will cheat, I just don't think I have it in me, but it's not to say I don't think about it... kind of all the time lately but thinking about it is one thing. I am going to give us another chance and take him to the doctor. But as you pointed out, it probably won't help, hmm. Thanks for the optimism. : (

How could he not have a sexual dysfunctional problem...? I don't understand. Maybe I wasn't clear with what was going on. I don't wish to further explain myself at this point though, like I said I am kind of done with this. I was thinking it might help to just share my thoughts but infact it's making me even more miserable...
right okay, I'm done.

Peace.

I am in Orange County, CA if you can;t get this "problem" taken care of and I am 26 years old.

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Originally Posted by nitemarehippiegirl

I am so done with this thread... but since you have been kind enough to respond I will return the same kindness,

Ganjasaurus, thanks so much for sharing your wisdom, your first post made me think a bit and I respect that. But then you kind of got carried away calling me a liar and such...? I'm not really sure what that was all about, if you meant I was lying to myself or just lying on this board. I'm also not really sure what I'm being vague about.. but I put myself out there, so I suppose all is fair. I don't know I guess I was just getting it off my chest. It's not exactly the kind of thing that I'd like to come up while I'm out with my friends.
So anyways, I don't think that I will cheat, I just don't think I have it in me, but it's not to say I don't think about it... kind of all the time lately but thinking about it is one thing. I am going to give us another chance and take him to the doctor. But as you pointed out, it probably won't help, hmm. Thanks for the optimism. : (

How could he not have a sexual dysfunctional problem...? I don't understand. Maybe I wasn't clear with what was going on. I don't wish to further explain myself at this point though, like I said I am kind of done with this. I was thinking it might help to just share my thoughts but infact it's making me even more miserable...
right okay, I'm done.

Peace.

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My appologies. Take care.

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I am so done with this thread... but since you have been kind enough to respond I will return the same kindness,

Ganjasaurus, thanks so much for sharing your wisdom, your first post made me think a bit and I respect that. But then you kind of got carried away calling me a liar and such...? I'm not really sure what that was all about, if you meant I was lying to myself or just lying on this board. I'm also not really sure what I'm being vague about.. but I put myself out there, so I suppose all is fair. I don't know I guess I was just getting it off my chest. It's not exactly the kind of thing that I'd like to come up while I'm out with my friends.
So anyways, I don't think that I will cheat, I just don't think I have it in me, but it's not to say I don't think about it... kind of all the time lately but thinking about it is one thing. I am going to give us another chance and take him to the doctor. But as you pointed out, it probably won't help, hmm. Thanks for the optimism. : (

How could he not have a sexual dysfunctional problem...? I don't understand. Maybe I wasn't clear with what was going on. I don't wish to further explain myself at this point though, like I said I am kind of done with this. I was thinking it might help to just share my thoughts but infact it's making me even more miserable...
right okay, I'm done.

Peace.

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That's cool that you shared, hippiegirl. It gave me a perspective on another world, or, life. Thank you.

If you ever consider sleeping with someone who is halfway between your's and his age, you know how to get in touch with me... :cool:

Why don't you get a toy and have him do you with that. Touch yourself, have him watch-this might excite him. If not at least you get to get off.

Don't cheat-you took the vows for better or worse, this counts as worse. Would you want him to seek other ways if your well went dry??? Or would you keep him satisfied other ways????

Yeah, really. Just sit him down and tell him to be a man. "Make Love To Me!!!"

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Originally Posted by Ganjasaurusrex

This is nothing that a therapist can solve.

This happens too often to couples and its hard to reverse the situation.
They go to consuling and talk and talk and talk, and 3 months later they get divorced. I have seen this happen so many times.

I guy must stay an emotional and sexual challenge to a woman even though he is married. He shouldnt dump all of his problems on her and make her his physcologist/mother.

In my opinion the man is hiding nothing.

She is the one who is not interested in having sex with him because he forgot to do the things that turned her on in the begining and he is frustrated that he doesnt know what to do.

When she says "he wont let me go down on him" just reverse that as it is actually just the opposite, its called projection. She is in my opinon sexually rejecting him, not the other way around and this is why this story is vague and doesnt make sense.

Right or wrong?

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Ganja, What are your credentials to be so damn opinionated with SO little facts to go on? Are you a college graduate? If so, what is your degree in? How old are you? You talk like you think you're a licensed psychologist but then again no real therapist would come to such definitive conclusions without so much as a case history on both people in this situation. That's my :twocents:

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Don't cheat-you took the vows for better or worse, this counts as worse. Would you want him to seek other ways if your well went dry??? Or would you keep him satisfied other ways????

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you are very right shorty, I keep thinking about all of that.
We have had some good talks these past couple of days- he knows we've got to fix this now and something has to change. and I am going to stay by his side for the time being and see if we can get past all of this-- I am such a good wife- sigh.
It's just seems like it's so uncommon, doesn't it? staying with one person and being committed to him/her? I am surrounded by people who cheat on their spouses, amd divorce is more common than not. Honestly, I don't want to be with anyone else and I don't want to be like that... but, I just want to have sex! Is that so wrong? errr.
So anyways thanks guys, for your support. Esp. Beachguy, by the way beach guy did you realize that we live in the same city.. we should :stoned: sometime.

give him a blow job...... sheesh

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you are very right shorty, I keep thinking about all of that.
We have had some good talks these past couple of days- he knows we've got to fix this now and something has to change. and I am going to stay by his side for the time being and see if we can get past all of this-- I am such a good wife- sigh.
It's just seems like it's so uncommon, doesn't it? staying with one person and being committed to him/her? I am surrounded by people who cheat on their spouses, amd divorce is more common than not. Honestly, I don't want to be with anyone else and I don't want to be like that... but, I just want to have sex! Is that so wrong? errr.
So anyways thanks guys, for your support. .

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I'm glad you had a talk!!! That was a very good step, and you are a good wife for hanging in there. And you're completely in the right to want to have sex. I don't know how I'd maintain my sanity if I didn't have that connection and release in my life right now.

I completely agree that monogamy is unnatural. I truly do. It's especially unnatural for men, whose whole evolved genetic programming instructs them to sow as many seeds as possible. But I think monogamy requires a lot from women, too. I truly think that if I ever ended up losing my husband or somehow divorcing down the road, I wouldn't marry again. I might live with someone (or maybe a series of attractive someones???), but I don't think I'd want to be legally contracted in marriage anymore. Too confining.

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No fuck that

seriously try this it will work, as long as he has a dick it'll work!!

When he gets it from work or what it is that he does next time make sure your playing some slow music, candle lights all that shit etc, wear something sexy and revealing and then the rest is up to you, you can just jump on him if you want to :p it will work

i just had to make the size bigger to get noticed seriously try it lol

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Hahaha, then later you said to talk to him!

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Ganja, What are your credentials to be so damn opinionated with SO little facts to go on? Are you a college graduate? If so, what is your degree in? How old are you? You talk like you think you're a licensed psychologist but then again no real therapist would come to such definitive conclusions without so much as a case history on both people in this situation. That's my :twocents:

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I was thinking the exact same thing myself

just out of curiousity hippie girl what is it about you that prevents you from hooking up? In my experience us guys aren't to picky especially when drunk.

oh hippie girl, i wish the best for you. i can empathize with wanting some sex, because i have not been laid in 2 years. 2 FUCKING YEARS, yes you are reading that correctly. oh i have had several close encounters, but then i had to be the nice guy. the nice guy doesn't fuck on the first date. the 'NICE GUY' doesn't fuck the girl with a boyfriend. the nice guy finishes last.

what is my point? maybe you are being too nice with your husband. you should be more ambitious with him. if you are ambitious about fucking a person, you can almost certainly get them to do you . you can do anything if you put your mind to it!!

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Esp. Beachguy, by the way beach guy did you realize that we live in the same city.. we should :stoned: sometime.

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Yes, I did realize that...No, I did not realize that, how could I? Wow.

Maybe, we should :stoned:, sometime. :smokin:

Can you contact me by looking at my profile, or something?

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hold me let me hold you
I want you I want you...
in me.
Whisper to me, tell me something softly in my ear. Something, anything, tell me you want me.
I want to nibble on your ear, I want to run my hands through your hair, let me sigh, sigh with pleasure
as I kiss you
kiss your neck
and down
down
kiss you on your body, on your arms on your abs,
kiss you...
everywhere
slide my tongue down your...
I want to savior every bit of you
as you hold me,
hold me.
make me scream silently from within
I want you
I want you inside of
me
tease me, make me beg,
I don't care
I need you.
make me feel like a woman again...

am i really all alone here..?

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Have you said this to him?
If you haven't you should....
maybe not all at once
don't want to overwhelm him...

As you said,
Whisper to me, tell me something softly in my ear. Something, anything, tell me you want me.

That's exactly what you should be saying and doing.
What more could a man want than his wife's desire to be for him?

Marriage at it's best is a committment to each others happiness.
If he's too embarrassed to seek help, he's not very committed.
Anything less is selfishness.

Make him your priority
Good luck

What kind of douche denies pleasing a 25 year old woman craving sex? Guys usually have to try their damnedest to get a girl to sleep with them and here this guy is not appreciating what hes got.

wait, will he not have sex with you or something?

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Ganja, What are your credentials to be so damn opinionated with SO little facts to go on? Are you a college graduate? If so, what is your degree in? How old are you? You talk like you think you're a licensed psychologist but then again no real therapist would come to such definitive conclusions without so much as a case history on both people in this situation. That's my :twocents:

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yo man ganja nos his shit and hes rite on some lvls that u can see...while it is true that its hard to say what is happening on the internet.... so i could ask u and anyone else here who gave their oppinion the same question.... i just think what ganja says makes sence and hes made alot of wonderful posts/threads in the past and if anyone is going to say somthing that is accurate i bet it would be him....

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yo man ganja nos his shit and hes rite on some lvls that u can see...while it is true that its hard to say what is happening on the internet.... so i could ask u and anyone else here who gave their oppinion the same question.... i just think what ganja says makes sence and hes made alot of wonderful posts/threads in the past and if anyone is going to say somthing that is accurate i bet it would be him....

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1. Spell Check
2. I never said all ganja's posts don't make sense; however, I have noticed that many of his posts are written in a tone and manner that project some kind of authority and professional knowledge on subjects (more so than the majority of posters).
3. There is nothing wrong with requesting some credentials from someone who posts like Ganja, he should have no problem backing himself up.

Have a nice day :D

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1. Spell Check
2. I never said all ganja's posts don't make sense; however, I have noticed that many of his posts are written in a tone and manner that project some kind of authority and professional knowledge on subjects (more so than the majority of posters).
3. There is nothing wrong with requesting some credentials from someone who posts like Ganja, he should have no problem backing himself up.

Have a nice day :D

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lol this is a fucking message board on the INTERNET who gives a flying fuck if i spell rite... (altho i see you did so u could say that :p anyway it has nothing to do with this)

no there is nothing wrong abt asking him to give credentials (infact im interested aswell), it was more that you were overly agressive for no real reason... you didnt rlly ask more then just attack

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lol this is a fucking message board on the INTERNET who gives a flying fuck if i spell rite... (altho i see you did so u could say that :p anyway it has nothing to do with this)

no there is nothing wrong abt asking him to give credentials (infact im interested aswell), it was more that you were overly agressive for no real reason... you didnt rlly ask more then just attack

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If that is how you read my tone, that's fine. I have asked ganja the same general question(s) on another thread and never got a reply. Why is it you are responding more than him? I think you need to go have a good cry about this all and maybe you'll feel better tomorrow.

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If that is how you read my tone, that's fine. I have asked ganja the same general question(s) on another thread and never got a reply. Why is it you are responding more than him? I think you need to go have a good cry about this all and maybe you'll feel better tomorrow.

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shit man u need to chill.... i just made a comment and u responded to it so i said somthing back.... i honestly wouldnt have thot twice abt it if u hadnt replied to it....


heh but anyway ur tone was attacking and u proved that in the rest of ur posts.... i dunno i think u just seem a little pathetic being on the attack like taht for no reason....

pull your head in and stop kidding yourself...you love the cock and cant stop thinking bout it fick someone..cry later

why are you telling us about this and not your husband, if you rather communicate with us over the you husband (who's supposed to be your closest, most trustworthy, lifetime partner) then you guys probably don't have a decent marriage

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shit man u need to chill.... i just made a comment and u responded to it so i said somthing back.... i honestly wouldnt have thot twice abt it if u hadnt replied to it....


heh but anyway ur tone was attacking and u proved that in the rest of ur posts.... i dunno i think u just seem a little pathetic being on the attack like taht for no reason....

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This is a message board, you should expect to get responses. You're too vague to be able to prove anything. Of all the posts, you think mine was on the attack and pathetic? (that's a rhetorical quesiton in case you can't tell) I've read [I]plenty[I] of posts that are a hell of a lot more aggressive than that. You said yourself you were wondering the same thing I was. If I continue to talk to you on this thread, things will only get more heated between us. I'm done wasting time on you.

i have nothing to prove... w/e sad that it had to be this way...

I agree with the others. Its time to talk to him about your sex life. Some men after their women have babies, look at them as moms instead of a sex partner. Could you have gained weight and he's not attracted? Could he be having an affair with someone else? If your talk doesn't produce any results, invest in a good vibrator, a porno movie you like to watch, and take care of yourself if you don't want out of the relationship. Cheating isn't the way to go. If you want to cheat, then leave the relationship.