I think what the poster is trying to say is that it won't work with all girls ,besides flowers are pretty lame for the size of fuck up we are talking about here.Quote:
Originally Posted by JustSayNo
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I think what the poster is trying to say is that it won't work with all girls ,besides flowers are pretty lame for the size of fuck up we are talking about here.Quote:
Originally Posted by JustSayNo
Shame and the worries of being humiliated, along with being exposed, stops many people from seeking help/advice. It takes a lot of courage to stand up and say to those you hurt and love, "i fucked up". You will be able to turn things a round once you confront your fears. Trust me.Quote:
Originally Posted by Terps
If you were my kid that first thing you would get from me is a hug and support. Once you have calmed down and realise that those who love you wont desert you, you will get better. It might not happen the first time, or the second time, but with a good honest effort on your part, and the willingness to trust those closest to you, it will happen. Dont expect a miracle over-night. I imagine that it took you a while to become an addict, and i am even more sure that it will take a while to get a handle on your addiction. I would also leave the church out of it. They seem way tooooooooooo judgemental for my taste. Seek people who have gone through what you are going through, and ask for advice/help/guidance.
It looks as though you have some support here in the forum and i commend you for allowing us to give you input. This might not seem like a huge step on your part, but it is. Now, how do we keep you moving towards that which you seek? Communication? Openess? Trust? :thumbsup: You arent the only addict that is in need of help, although i'm sure for you it feels like it. Keep talking. Find those who you feel you can trust and let them know whats going on. You are worth every breath you take. ;)
dai*ma
The war on drugs have left addicts feeling like they cant come clean. What a shame.
Would this of happened if you only smoked Weed? Nah, I didn't think so.
Fight the addiction,hard as it is.Let the girl go.
live and learn
they'll get over it
you shouldnt have let that man hit you
you admitted to fucking up.
you should have beat his ass.
So, yesterday night I went back to the families house, the wife answered the door and I asked if I could come in and talk, right away she slammed the door on my face. So I started to walk back to my car all bummed out cause I thought this would be a good first step to getting my life turned around. Seconds later the husband came running out of the house and asked me if I would come in and talk to him, he apologized for his wifeâ??s actions and we proceeded inside.
once inside I made it clear to him that I was sorry and then out of no where I wasnâ??t even thinking about it at all its like words were just spewing out of my mouth I said "Thank you" they both turned and looked at me with sort of a pissed off look on there face and replied "Thank you for what?" I said "Thank you for showing me how big of a problem I have and showing me how rapped up in this game I am" immediately the wife started crying and gave me a hug, I also saw the husband choking on his tears I asked if we could sit down and talk some more, so we did.
when we sat down I told them over and over again that my girlfriend had absolutely nothing to do with this and that it was 100% my fault. I told them that as of Monday I am checking myself into an out patient drug therapy program at the local hospital (She gave me sum handouts on it and a few peoples phone numbers cause she works there herself) and I told them what I plan to do with my life in the feature. They both started to tear up again.
As I walked out the door both of them said at the same time, "If you have any problems or just want to talk about whets going on in your life stop back here any time, youâ??re always welcome in our doors. We also want to see you in a few months so we can see how rehab is going for you"
So I drove home feeling bigger and stronger already...Tell I got to my door to read this note...
[align=center]OVER
You crushed me
You broke up in two
Pieces will separate
The pain is deep
I cry over you, you pathetic man
You deserve a ratâ??s life
You crushed our life, my life, her life
You crushed my everything
What the fuck is wrong with you
What were you thinking?
I was betrayed, hurt, used
You used me. You dirty piece of shit
You USED me, over and over again
Time and time again, you took advantage of me
The situations
You crushed me emotionally
It will take a long, bitter long time before I trust again
No more love, no more sex, no more me
A clean break, of open wound
You fucker, look at what you lost
Never again will you have me, never
NEVER
I wonâ??t look back, I wonâ??t
So you listen closely
You crushed me, but Iâ??ll crush you fuckin hard back[/align]
This brought tears to my eyes not because itâ??s "Over" but because I see just how much I hurt her and how much she cared for me.
So I wrote her a poem back...
[align=center]I made a mistake, that's about all I know.
But my sorrow right now I wish to show.
I do not know exactly how bad it is.
But you and me, I'm starting to miss.
In plains words I do not know how to say.
I only wish I could take back that day.
My sincerity right now I hope you realize.
Because I'm trying my best to apologize.[/align]
And placed it in a box with all her stuff she had left at my house, I read all the cards she made me over and over again as I placed them in a box. Looked over all the pics she had left at my house of me and her and placed them in the box. I also wrote a note that said "Heres all your stuff, it means alot to me, but did you really mean what you wrote...if so give me a call" (On every single card from the first one she ever wrote me she always put in big bold letters "I love you" )
So I took this big box of all her stuff to her house and I didnâ??t know what I was going to do with it, I still donâ??t have the balls to hand it to her and say im sorry to her face, so I placed it a little bit under her car so she would find it in the morning.
So now itâ??s Monday and I go to the hospital to see what they can do and pretty much got told if I donâ??t have health insurance, Good luck getting help from professionals. So im going to give this a hard effort to clean my act up myself.
Day 1 Sober
Now thank you for the help so far but now comes the hardest part of all...How do I show my love that I am going to change and that I am going to become a better man and that I need her by my side to get threw all of this???
first of all congrats on taking a huge step forward, and making amends with those people, its good that you have their support
as for your girl, it may take time, and you are going to have a lot of proving to do, you have to understand, she thought she knew you, and loved you, but then it turns out that you've been living a lie, and the trust is gone at the moment, she's hurt, confused, and very pissed, so take baby steps
its may take a long time, she's going to have to be convinced that your are sober and are gonna stay sober
but be realistic man, you made a huge mistake, and you may have lost her for good, sorry to break your spirit on that one, but its the truth, but don't let it stop you from getting well, freeing yourself from addiction is the best gift you can give yourself
and also I wanted to say that you have my full support and you ever feel down and out and need someone to talk to i will be here, and I'm sure the rest of us will be here as well
stay strong and good luck!
Man, you made a good choice on going back to the peoples house and apologizing. It's not easy to admit you have a problem, and it takes balls to admit it to someone you've hurt like that.
Good post. IMO it would be a good idea for this person to worry about self. I believe thats what you are suggesting. Once you can take care of self, others will be able to see the progress. Never be in a relationship to be taken care of. My dad use to tell me..."Everything is in your life because you put it there. What you choose to do with it is up to you"Quote:
Originally Posted by Kryzco
I repeat those words everytime i have to take the time and figure things out....., which being a parent/grand parent, is quite often.
420 Peace,
dai*ma:stoned:
thanks
I agree, i was taught that as well
learn from your mistakes
choices have consequences be they good or bad, what you broke, you must fix
Fuck this shit, Fuck this bitch, Straight up i hope she burns in fucking hell....
So i get home from class, Felt good cause i turnd down a burn cruise for the first time in my life only to come home and find my car (chrysler 300, that i inherited from my mom when she passed away last year) mother fuckin keyd. Fuck this whore she wants to play these games this bitch is going to loose. i no it sounds like i have just turnd around and i am going down the same path, but last night i thought about it and i am NOT an addict, i just have to work on my self control. I am going to smoke dope but i am going to quit everything ealse...blow, pills, E (the list goes on) im a stoner for life always will be. but this bitch is pullin sum highschool shit and if she wants to play games count me in this bitch wont last long.
Im off buy a secruity system for my car and a secruity system for my house, sad that i have to spend the rest of the money i inherited on protecting my ass from this slut.
Then im off to slash that fat fucks tiers WHAT NOW FAT FUCK :dance:
as for all of you i can not show you how thankfull i am for all of your responses, you have helped me out alot. the night i started this thread i was going to take my life...OVER A FUCKING GIRL! thats one sad mother fucker, im going to become huge im going to become big and show this girl what SHE lost... Peace for now
~High till i die
Daaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaamn
thats really fucked up, and your right, that was a quick change of heart
she went way over the line, I had a radio stolen that my mom bought me before she died, so I totally understand what your feel right now
keep on tokin man, and glad to hear ur gettin off the pills
Kryzco, if i could man id give u a fuckin hug and than pass the blunt to your ass...
Kryzco = my shrink
dude do you have any instant messengers? we should chat sometime
Hell ya
xXihatethesimsXx - thats my Sn on aim
cool beans I'll add ya when I get the chance, because my comp has add and runs slow as fuck! its a pos
damn too bad you don't live in the chi, or else we would blaze!
and u hate the sims? awwww i kinda like them, fun setting them on fire and watching people cry over it
im dam close bro i live in milwaukee and go to school at the university there, thats just a hop / skip / jump to Chi~Town
damn! thats pretty cool
well if you ever come to visit be sure to hit me up!
just out of curiousity, how old are ya?
im 18
but my Id says im 21, thats just how i roll :cool:
Don't waste your money on the security shit.
She already got her revenge.
This is what you should do:
Call the dude you stole the pills from. Give 'em back if you still got 'em. Apologize. You don't have to explain anything. That's it. Wear the keyed car like a badge. She'll find out you apologized. She doesn't care if that dick asks her to babysit again. She'll find out you aplogized and then she'll want to apologize for what she did. If you do find yourself pilfering again, try to use your head a little.
cool!
I'm 18 too
sweet!
I wish my id said I was 21 I sure could use a bottle right about now
oh and minnesota man, I agree with ya, but then again she went way too far, and he already made amends with the people
dam i swear all ya ppl dont read/cant read
i said i gave the ppl there pills back cause they were screaming at my gf and she was in tears and then the guy smoked me right in my face (by smoked i mean wound up and cracked me one in the head)
So 1st off i gave there pills back
2nd i already appologized to them
3rd its a mother fuckin chrysler 300 and i have the money to get it fixxed
4th im not going to let her appologize to me. she fucked with my dead mothers shit that is a god dam discrase she new that car means the world to me
5th im going to be big im going to be huge im going to be sombody in this world, i will make her want me back just to stick her face in the dirt and take a big shit on her
lol take a big shit on her, I'm crackin up, thats a first to here that
but yeah especially if she knew that car meant that much, she deserves some form of retaliation, I also believe being the bigger man and all, but I went through my mother dying and I'd be damned to let someone disrespect me and my mother like that, you damn right they are going to get their just desserts
just be careful man, don't get into trouble now, it'd be a shame to spend some time in jail over that stupid whore
damn now you got me wanting to kick her ass, and I'm a female so its making it more tempting
It's cool dude. Sorry if I missed all that. It was a good story. You're so angry, you missed my point. People turn into the things they hate so yeah, that's all I'm saying. Sorry to be judgemental but if you think about, what is the anger doing for you? Use it wisely.
So all of a sudden you don't have a problem and don't need help?It was very couragous of you to go to the door and face them again but it is weak of you to think that you don't need help.
Ha,,,A cop in my town got busted for raiding med cabinets last year...
how i look at it there are 2 Ez ways out of any situation
1) say your an addict
2)Kill yourself
just using the excuse "O but im an addict..." is fucking lame, think about it what makes u an addict, do these pills controll your life or do you just like how you feel when your on them
pills dont controll me i just LOVE the way they make me feel
i just need more self controll so i dont gank other ppls shit
as for this bitch shes a god dam poet... this is her latest work
[align=center]i cry for you and over you and to you
my cheeks blacken with mascara streaks
my eyes swollen and puffy, barely open to see the ones i love
you hurt me so badly
i don't think i will ever come to look at you again
but you gave up
you gave up in more ways i can count
you gave up on us, on me
you gave me a box filled of memories
do you want to forget, forget me
you say your sorry
if you really feel remorse you will not forget this
you will keep all the feelings with you until you die
feelings of joy, love, pain
especially pain... the pain you caused on several people
i cant eat because of you
i can not sleep because of you
and i will not live with you
you need help
we both know you do
i can't provide you with the help you need
i will be waiting for an apology
when you return from help i will be here
not for us, but for the apology
and i will keep the box
filled from us, i will keep it
you will want it back some day
you hurt me badly
and i can never forgive you for that
and i didn't fuckin move on
i was crushed you could do that to me
in my fuckin sleep
just fuck you, fuck you over again
so some day if you get over you need
the need for drugs, the need to hurt people
then come back and give me the apology i deserve
but until then i'll just keep crying[/align]
...CRY BITCH CRY i dont give a fuck about you and i hope my mom haunts your dreams at night
i dont need help i just need to controll my shit
she makes some EMO ass poems
i don't like emos
they make me sad
and as long as you get off the pills and don't steal no mo I'll be happy
i got faith in you man
That's fucked up.
As for your need for drugs, I know how you feel. I've scrapped the basement floor to find a little ash that might get me high. It fucking sucks. Just wanted to tell you, you're not alone.
You're unbelievable dude.Quote:
Originally Posted by Terps
You get her in shit and steal from folks and then bitch when payback comes a calling. It's called karma dude. I am sorry about your motor and I admire you having the balls to apologise to the folks who's shit you took, but this girl is obviously pissed at you because of your stupidity and the grief you caused her. Be a man and take it on the chin ,try to learn this from it, you fuck with others and it gives them the right to fuck with you.
IMO you don't need help you need a fuckin slap.
Wow!!!
I'm away for 12 hours and many things have happened...
Terps, good for you. :)
I've got to be 100% honest...
1st - Nice work on talking with the folks. DON'T LOOSE CONTACT WITH THEM YOU ASSWIPE!!!
2nd- Get a new paint job with your car... yeah, yeah, I know.... in the future. But, as ^^^ said, take it in the chin. Fuck it.
3rd- Don't retaliate with your ex... why?
4th- I've come to believe, that your girlfriend is similary fucked-up.
I don't think you should hang-out with her, or seek her.
If you where doing drugs, I'm about 98% sure she also does all those drugs. Maybe not as fucked up as you are (were... sorry), but she does them.
If that's the case, you'll never quit.
Either
A- You both become junkies.
B- She realizes you're a junkie looser, and leaves you for a better man...
C- You realize she isn't the best game, and leave her for a better woman... or better life.
And you and Kryzco,... take it easy... don't go meeting each other in Minnesota and starting some fires... only small weed fires...
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I was gonna post... but I want to convince you not to do anything to get back at her for your car...
Look at it in this light:
Her fucking up your car, has just deposited a SHITLOAD of "action points" in your bank account...
If she every comes bitchin' for whatever reason... you remind her of the car.
But if you do something in return, you're back to zero in your "action points" account.
Learn from Sun Tzu dude... lie to your enemies.
Peace out Terp...
-turtle420 :cool:
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wow....this was like reading a small book.
It was the right thing to do talking to the parents and I honor you for that...
I dont think you should go for revenge though...
All this anger will only make things worse. Turn the other cheek and forgive. Youve made mistakes and are on the path to overcoming them (hopefully) and she has the right to making mistakes too.
Look at her point of view...The guy she loved turned out to be a completely different person thatn she though, and then runs off into the night, leaving her vulnerable at these peoples house.
I think the only thing now is to call her up and tell her EVERYTHING...or write her a long notw with most all of the stuff you have posted on here. It mayn not save your relationship, but it will save yall both alot of stress.
Another thing is I think you should check out churchs about drug programs. God is a big factor in helping lost of people fix their lives. Even though this whole thing dosnt look that great it seems as if God our some higher power has thrown a wrench in your life to give you an oppertunity to fix it.
Peace & Love Man
Hope everthing works out...
post back
hmm, you want support and forgiveness, however, you are unable to provide those things yourself. You hurt your girlfriend but think her hurting you is inappropriate. Her level of expressing her feelings only show how much you hurt her. Your chrysler isn't shit compared to a life long loving relationship. One day that chrysler will go from a prized possession to just transportation to you. Your value of your chrysler WILL change, however, you will never look at your wife and see her just as someone who keeps you company like your dog might. Your car will depreciate with time, your wife will appreciate with time.
You'd better take 5, learn how to forgive, learn how to grow up, learn how to determine what is really valuable. Things like cars (no matter where you got them or how much they mean to you) can be easily replaced with money. Try replacing your loving relationship with money. All you'll get is a whore.
The things you two are experiencing are the things that forge your relationship into something unbreakable. Hang in there, quit the poem crap and act like an adult. Many times I wanted to "shit on my wife" but now there's nothing she can do that will make me hate her. My old lady could burn my house down and I'd say "I didn't like that house much anyway". When you're young your "toys" seem so valuable to you, but rest assured one day, you would gladly give up anything money could buy to have her back.
Keep your focus....get yourself to where you want to be. The rest will follow. She is only venting her anger hurting you in a way that she knows will register. That alone says she must care for you considerably otherwise, she'd have left you alone and never uttered a word about it. She must care for you a lot, otherwise, she'd have just abandoned you without a word. That relationship can be salvaged, but you must decide if that's what you want and accept all those "punishments" willingly.
GM
So the story goes on...
Katie (my x-gf) calls me up today, i ignord her first 50 calls just like she did mine, and then i picked up she was in tears. balling about hows she sorry she did that to my car and blah blah, then she goes on about how much she has missed me and how she wants to come over...so i tell her to come over and we can talk, she gets to my house and she is so fucked up she tripps on my shoes and falls face first to the floor, i help her up and dust her off and i bring her to my couch and tell her how sorry i am and immedeitly she says "Forget about it" and attempts to make-out with me. i push her away as i know shes just drunk and wants to fuck. Now she gets angry demanding that i have sex with her or she will ruin my life, she says abunch of stuff like "I will call the cops and tell them u raped me" "I will call the cops and tell them about your drug problem" "i will call the university and tell them what you did" "i will call all your friends and tell them what you did" so on and so on the bitch came up with so many reasons that i should have sex with her it wasnt even funny i just sat there, thinking thinking about the 36 mafia song "Pussy got you hooked" i waqs about to cave in and have sex with her but then came the vurse that say "HELL NAH!"...i looked at her slapped her accrosed the face and kicked her out of my house. i told her if she ever comes back or ever fucks with my shit one more time i will get the cops involved myself.
This was realy weird i love the girl to death but at the same time i dont...
why do i feel this way???
You hit her? WTF for? Man, if you can't control your anger, then you have no hope in ever keeping a relationship. My old lady can beat me with a ball bat and I'd never hit her. You did the right thing by making her leave, however, she can now press charges against you for assult, which you rightfully deserve. Now I ask you, can you ever take that slap back? Is there any chance she will feel totally secure with you? I doubt it. You just permanently ended that relationship. I hope that's something you can live with. You'd better hope you one day find someone who will make you forget your girlfriend, because if you can't, you're gonna be one lonely dude.
I was reluctant to post this, but it's time you've read this little poem.
If...
If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise;
If you can dream - and not make dreams your master;
If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools;
If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it all on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breath a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on!";
If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with kings - nor lose the common touch;
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run -
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And - which is more - you'll be a Man, my son!
Best of luck to you,
GM
Sorry starting no to believe your strange ass story.
Hey Terps,
I can go on and on telling you what you did right and what you did wrong, but there are plenty of other members here that will give you their two cents. I just wanted to wish you good luck in sorting out everything thats going on. Take care.
You two belong together,you are both fucked up I think.
You gave us bullshit in your first post saying you could of beat the fuck out of that guy whose pills you stole when really you only have the balls to hit women.I hope karma kicks your ass or someone else does and if/when it happens please tell me about it I need something to smile about.