yes, and you no longer need to be honest with her about your business until she has earned back your trust from her many betrayals of you.....Quote:
Originally Posted by altagid
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yes, and you no longer need to be honest with her about your business until she has earned back your trust from her many betrayals of you.....Quote:
Originally Posted by altagid
Yeah tried that once...... that was the second time she called the cops on me.Quote:
Originally Posted by Irv
:rolleyes:
Don't blaim ya for being pissed! Honesty when it comes to telling your parrents you do drugs is not allways the best policy, but your Mom is just trying to protect you, she proably views her experience with drugs a bad thing, and doesn't want you making the same mistakes. Generation gap is a bitch! I'm sure when i have kids i will be more open to them to smoking pot, but then again I don't and won't regard smoking weed as a bad experience, or effect on me so what if I failed grade 10 when I started smoking weed with my friends. But I got my act together and finished highschool after that year, and I wouldn't change anything if I could about my grade ten year it was the best times of my life, and now years later I find myself back smoking the herb, the herb rocks!!Quote:
Originally Posted by GanjaBob
welcome welcome welcomeQuote:
Originally Posted by altagid
where the hell were you when I need a tutor...contemporary mathematics.
A favorite of liberal arts students : )
I just noticed that you've been here for a while altagid
but welcome anyway :stoned:
Likem: thank you for you warm welcome! I do appreciate it.
I love tutoring math - if anyone does need help - dont hesitate! :)
Ganja: Your mom really shouldnt say "You are nothing but a common criminal" Its a bad mistake IMO but I read it as a desparate attempt to get through to you. This may be the first encounter for her in which you see the world differently from her and stand firm on your position. Up till now she could likely dismiss your opinion and make you do what she wants - was it your choice to be potty trained? There will be more confrontations like this in the next few years and standing your ground early on in this process is very important. Just because she is being a jackass about it doesnt mean you should too. Avoid inflammatory confrontations even when she provokes - it will only make things worse for both of you. Try to find calm moments and gently point out to her that you have your own opinions and she should respect them: that your use of ganja is a decision that you have thought about carefuly (if you havent then now is the time!) and that she should respect that even if she disagrees. That you are not a common criminal - you believe in the law and being law abiding but you use your own judgement. "A foolish consistency is the hobgobblin of small minds" / Hobbes. Surely she speeds sometimes when driving - thats a case of he making her own judgement despite the law. Point out that she has a lot better chance of influencing you if she is a friend rather than an adversary. Be calm - let her rant and rave - stick to your guns - she will likely hear you but it will take time.
When my eldest was your age we had similar problems - not MJ - it was booze and schoolwork. I tried the approach that your mom has taken and it crashed and burned - leaving us both further apart and resentful of each other. I wish I could have been smarter - I did alot better with his brothers - like I said I did learn a thing or two over the years. In the end he got his act together and did great. I still have bad nights when I recall the shitty time I gave him. We are good friends now but there is still something of a barrier between us that I dont feel with his brothers - sigh
I have a five year old...your scaring the shit out of me. I have a girl :eek:
Thanks for all the advice. Being grounded blows! man im bored
^ I hear ya dude. How long you grounded for?
meh prolly like 2 weeks
she hasent really said yet
I know what you all are talking about.. Sounds like my exwife with my son. When he was finally able to contact me, She had called the cops on him and was on his way to jail. I went to visit every visting day, His mom did to but he made her cry every time she showed up. The day he come out she was there to get him. He told her to kiss his ass and he came home with me and my present wife. We talk almost every day now and he is 20 yrs. old now and we both have a grow going and I just talked to him today to see if he wanted to help me get a cactus grow and a shroom grow up and going. We will probably get started in a month or so. My point being some grown-ups are brain washed and then there are the rest of us. BTW I am 46 yrs. old.
This says it all:
A nation of sheeps will beget a government of wolves
Tell a lie loud enough and long enough and people will beLIEve it..
"The only power any government has is the power to crack down on criminals. Well, when there aren't enough criminals, one makes them. One declares so many things to be a crime that it becomes impossible for men to live without breaking laws.â?
Good Luck To Us All !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yeah you sound like my dad, he smokes and he trys to defend me from my mom (they are divorced) but he dosent have room for me to live with him so it really sucks.
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Originally Posted by Stoner Shadow Wolf
CLAP CLAP nice dude.Quote:
Originally Posted by Stoner Shadow Wolf
And to this thread... 4 and 1/2 stars. I know people who go through this bullshit rough like you're going throug now, Ganja. I'm lucky my mom was a stoner. But it's true that she only wants what is best for you, but you've got to explain to her that... YOU KNOW THAT SHE ONLY WANTS WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU BUT... she has gotta understand that you will be fine, and that you're really doing nothing wrong and even if you are, she should learn to accpet it rather then despise her son over such a stupid fucking thing. Maybe only toke rarely for awhile, while away from your house... teach her that you CAN be responsible.
You see this is another question i have. Although this is not the case with my mother but it is the case for some of my friends. Their parents say they dont care about the smoking part they just dont want them to get caught so they are not allowed to smoke. Well if thats all they are concerned for why not give your kid a safe enviornment to do it? I have never quite understood this.
New here.
Anyways, a good way to get through to your mom could be a written letter.
It's personal, you have time to get all your feelings down, and she can't interrupt. You can take time to sort it all out and say things exactly how you want without rash behavior.
Be sure as well to tell her how much you love her, lots of parents feel a disrespect for authority is from a lack of their nurturing so they overcompensate in situations like this. Assure that it isn't so, and that you appreciate all she has done for you, while stating your feeling of injustice at the situation.
Be respectful and mature in handling it, but be firm in what you believe.
Yeah i actually sent her an email last night doing all of the things you said and i think it pissed her off more. I seriously give up, I hate living here.
Trust me You will be singing a different tune when you are older!!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by GanjaBob
No i really will be singing the same tune , i can assure you that.
exactly..over the last few years I have come to relize just how important family isQuote:
Originally Posted by Skink
Im not saying Family isnt important and i never have said that. All I am doing is expressing my anger over my mom being an unreasonable ignorant nazi. But i still love her dearly.
She probably is not ignorant.
She thinks that you can't handle the responsibility of smoking and school, and whatever else. It doesn't mean you can't, just that all in all she is almost certainly looking out for your well being.
I would probably react similarily to how you are if my parents were to find out but I am an outsider, so I can view it objectively.
Well if ignorance is not thinking that weed will cause me to get cancer in a year then i dont know what is.
True, that is ignorance.
But would she worry that about anyone other than her child?
Yes she divorced my father because she found out he smoked. And she belives that marijuana users are all stupid and the scum of the earth or somthing like that i dont remember her exact words.
And the divorce wasnt just for the weed but it was a big part of it and i just found this out today.
What you should do is keep your grades up if they're high but if they're low bring them up. And tell her you were smoking the entire time. I'm going to do that so far it's going good straight A's for me. Then I'll be smoking in my room (hopefully). I would be worth a shot. But it could be risky confessing that you were smoking even thought she told you not to.
Yes, quite right.
I have never had a problem maintaining good grades since I began smoking (two years ago). Am a straight A student, and heck, I smoke at school!
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Originally Posted by GanjaBob
Hey man just try to hang in there, and keep this in the back of you mind, If it don't get better you can go out on your own in a couple of years.
Hey you always have us!
Good luck to you man!
Of course I graduated in 1977, But I would have never made it thru if I had not had my weed. It really helped me!Quote:
Originally Posted by Smokey Bear
Yep yep.
My school is independent study, so we can leave the building whenever we want, and there is a fenced in lot at the back, with some abandoned cars. We just climb in one of those a toke away.
Put in eyedrops, and no one is the wiser.
We smoke everyday....fun fun.
That proves it! That sounds exactly like 30 years ago. If it was wrong it would have changed by now!Quote:
Originally Posted by Smokey Bear
I got an idea, We got Republican, Democrat, and Independent. What we need is a candidate on the Cannabis Ticket. Works for me.
I had the same situation when i lived with my mom. I had blunt guts in my trashcan and she found them. I got drug tested and grounded for a month. It was pretty simple, I didn't fight it i just dint smoke for a month. When my punishment was over the first thing i did was light up lol
you mean the gas they use in star wars as fuel for weapons?Quote:
Originally Posted by SmurfyBH
lol
Exactly.Quote:
Originally Posted by intheclouds
And I have found that I test better when stoned.
So perhaps it is beneficial to my thought process, and nessecary in order for me to live up to my full potential? :D :stoned:
Wait til the boys start calling and coming over and wanting to date your baby girl. :eek:Quote:
Originally Posted by likemclever
Look. Maybe your mom will chill at some point. My brother and I would smoke in our cars, at friends, in parks. One day we come home and there is an announcement.Quote:
Originally Posted by GanjaBob
Mom: Look, I'm sick of worrying about you 2 smoking that shit out there. You could get caught and then what? From now on you can smoke in the house,BUT, only in your bedrooms.
Me & brother: Really? We can? Cooooool!
Every night after that when she would come up to her bedroom, we'd hear her mutter "I can still smell that shit. Go to sleep":dance: LOLOL
NIce you are very lucky
Hahaha.
That is SO funny.
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Originally Posted by GanjaBob
Well, there you have it hon. In a nutshell. She's pissed at your dad and a major part of the break up was due to his smoking.
The thing she is doing wrong is taking her frustrations out on you.
Since she sees weed as bad and your dad is bad for smoking it and then there's you. Now she's mad at you cuz you smoke.
It's all a big circle. You mom needs to seperate you from your dad and see that you are 2 different people.
She's prolly hurtin.
Me and my brother got closer that year and over the next several years we lived there.Quote:
Originally Posted by GanjaBob
Seriously....all kids want to leave home so they can be their own boss. My brother and I ended up staying well past 21.:thumbsup: She paid our car insurance and medical insurance fed us and stocked our necessities. We had it made man. I was almost bummed out when I met my husband. I didn't wanna leave home!!! LOLOLOL