how to deal with the fact that you have never had a girlfriend...

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Originally Posted by Coelho

ROFLMAO!!!!! :S2::S2::S2:

BTW... for all those who think the life is shit only because they have not girlfriends... i can say from my own experience... i had my first girlfriend when i was 20, so i know how you feel. And i can say its not THAT too much... Its good, of course, but not having one is not the end of the world.
AND, having a girlfriend brings a LOT of new problems... many of which you may not be ready to deal with. I say it by experience, its far more complicated than you think... and to someone who never had any relationship, women can be, at least, incomprehensible... It would have been better for me if i had my 1st girlfriend when i were older, and wiser.
Also, i know it seems to be a lot of "social pressure", like to be the only ones that are alone... but dont worry about it. Each one is a unique and special person, and no one should feel need to be like no one... so, just be yourself.
A final advice, is that things happen when youre NOT looking for them. If you worries too much about finding someone, probably youre just keeping them away. Stop to worry, do other things, enjoy your life, and when the right time comes (cause it always come), you will find your one. Until then, relax... or, like was said in the quote on the yoda's post (my version):

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that's BS that it will always come. that's why there's guys who are over 40 and still haven't found a date or have never had sex etc.

nothing in life is guaranteed

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Originally Posted by Nailhead

Why do so many of you guys want a girl friend? Most of you guys are younger than me, you shouldn't even be looking for a girlfriend, you should be dating as many women as you possibly can, the last thing you want is to waste your youth with 1 person! I think this is where many of you are having problems, because you are so desperate for a girlfriend every girl you talk to can smell your desperation so you get a quick route into the friend category. But if you make it clear you are only looking to date, aka have sex, then they will never make the mistake of thinking of you as a friend. If they aren't interested, move on and find another. Repeat this process over and over, and in time, you will get better and better, but don't waste your time with a girlfriend while you are so young, in the long run you will just see how much of a waste of time that was.

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I think we are to look for the right person. If you have sex before you know a person than you may end up with a sexually transmitted disease or later find out the person is messed up. Sex is a Union, and not to be abused. You don't first have sex with someone to get to know that person. The problem with this world though is that hardly anyone gets to find the right person (or at least me) before it's too late and then become sexually imbalanced so that people look only to satisfy their sexual needs and may also end up in the wrong relationships because they're just looking for any relationship.

and then because people are looking for just any relationship, they may occupy their time with someone who may be good only on the surface meanwhile that person may be good for someone else, and that someone else may be left alone because the other person is occupied with someone else.................

whatever.

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Originally Posted by Coelho

ROFLMAO!!!!! :S2::S2::S2:

BTW... for all those who think the life is shit only because they have not girlfriends... i can say from my own experience... i had my first girlfriend when i was 20, so i know how you feel. And i can say its not THAT too much... Its good, of course, but not having one is not the end of the world.
AND, having a girlfriend brings a LOT of new problems... many of which you may not be ready to deal with. I say it by experience, its far more complicated than you think... and to someone who never had any relationship, women can be, at least, incomprehensible... It would have been better for me if i had my 1st girlfriend when i were older, and wiser.
Also, i know it seems to be a lot of "social pressure", like to be the only ones that are alone... but dont worry about it. Each one is a unique and special person, and no one should feel need to be like no one... so, just be yourself.
A final advice, is that things happen when youre NOT looking for them. If you worries too much about finding someone, probably youre just keeping them away. Stop to worry, do other things, enjoy your life, and when the right time comes (cause it always come), you will find your one. Until then, relax... or, like was said in the quote on the yoda's post (my version):

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Coelho, I know it's easy to say "wait till you have more experience and are wiser", but having that first screwed-up relationship is what gives you the experience; having that experience, is what builds wisdom.


As for the other guys here, saying it's more hassle than it's worth, that being alone is better, that being without any relationships is just fine... you don't actually know that till you've experienced years upon years of it, into your adult life where every one of your friends have past you by in this field, and the loneliness gets utterly soul-crushing and developes into isolation-based depression. The isolated feeling can be outright hell at times; human beings as with all animals have a biological need for companionship essential to healthy mental development.

Non: Although I feel for you, for I was once there when I was younger, the very energy of desperation is likely pushing girls away.

When I said concentrate on your life and goals, I was trying to bring your focus back to your power. It is in you. Confidence will get you everywhere in life and with girls.

Your balls will not fall off if you do not use them right away.

Why is it really easy for me to meet and date girls? Because I really do not give a dam what they think of me. I could care less. Besides there are so many girls on this world it really makes no difference if one shoots me down.

As far as meeting your one and only soul mate, you are on your own for that one. I do not have a clue.

However if you are looking for girls to date and possibly sleep with, you best fake that confidence and tell them what you want.

It might help to look at that fine babe and realize that she has probably put some poor guy through a living hell on earth or she is going to shortly. Suddenly she looses that goddess image and just becomes another mere mortal.

Now if you are staying home every weekend and feeling sorry for yourself, that is not going to get you a girlfriend. If you do not get out how are you going to meet them?

Do something! Whining about it on a Cannabis site, to a bunch of stoners is not going to do anything. I have no sympathy for excuses.

Now go out there into the big bad world and fake that confidence and tell them what you want. You can do it. But is is entirely up to you.:thumbsup:

no girlfriend !! wtf!!!

get a girl for heavens sake !! just take the plunge, be yourself, dont be totally honest, but, make promises, write poetry for her eyes only, tell her, her hair smells good, she has soft skin, open doors, gals loves words, be gentle, girls are fragile

if its about just gettin laid?

the good girls, wont, but, the bad girls will !!

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Originally Posted by Unknown American

Non: Although I feel for you, for I was once there when I was younger, the very energy of desperation is likely pushing girls away.

When I said concentrate on your life and goals, I was trying to bring your focus back to your power. It is in you. Confidence will get you everywhere in life and with girls.

Your balls will not fall off if you do not use them right away.

Why is it really easy for me to meet and date girls? Because I really do not give a dam what they think of me. I could care less. Besides there are so many girls on this world it really makes no difference if one shoots me down.

As far as meeting your one and only soul mate, you are on your own for that one. I do not have a clue.

However if you are looking for girls to date and possibly sleep with, you best fake that confidence and tell them what you want.

It might help to look at that fine babe and realize that she has probably put some poor guy through a living hell on earth or she is going to shortly. Suddenly she looses that goddess image and just becomes another mere mortal.

Now if you are staying home every weekend and feeling sorry for yourself, that is not going to get you a girlfriend. If you do not get out how are you going to meet them?

Do something! Whining about it on a Cannabis site, to a bunch of stoners is not going to do anything. I have no sympathy for excuses.

Now go out there into the big bad world and fake that confidence and tell them what you want. You can do it. But is is entirely up to you.:thumbsup:

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well I could think about my goals. but my goal is to become a doctor. and as a doctor you require your own balance before you work on anyone else. also, I feel like I work for no purpose if I don't get any type of 'affection' or someone likes my work, or approves of it, and some kind of womanly affection is the epitome of that for me.

I don't even feel complete without one. I am like split in half without the 'other'. she is the yin to my yang. etc.

I am strange. people want to tell me "you don't need it" but in all honesty I do think I do, for the sake of my own balance.

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Originally Posted by Unknown American

Non: Although I feel for you, for I was once there when I was younger, the very energy of desperation is likely pushing girls away.

When I said concentrate on your life and goals, I was trying to bring your focus back to your power. It is in you. Confidence will get you everywhere in life and with girls.

Your balls will not fall off if you do not use them right away.

Why is it really easy for me to meet and date girls? Because I really do not give a dam what they think of me. I could care less. Besides there are so many girls on this world it really makes no difference if one shoots me down.

As far as meeting your one and only soul mate, you are on your own for that one. I do not have a clue.

However if you are looking for girls to date and possibly sleep with, you best fake that confidence and tell them what you want.

It might help to look at that fine babe and realize that she has probably put some poor guy through a living hell on earth or she is going to shortly. Suddenly she looses that goddess image and just becomes another mere mortal.

Now if you are staying home every weekend and feeling sorry for yourself, that is not going to get you a girlfriend. If you do not get out how are you going to meet them?

Do something! Whining about it on a Cannabis site, to a bunch of stoners is not going to do anything. I have no sympathy for excuses.

Now go out there into the big bad world and fake that confidence and tell them what you want. You can do it. But is is entirely up to you.:thumbsup:

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oh yeah and even if I do go out I don't find anything.

I can't really say anything other than reiterate what's already been said. You have to go out and make yourself available man. And honestly, most of the girls I've dated were never too much into the whole "date" thing anyways. They actually turned their noses up at the idea of just going out to dinner. We just did things together. Anything. Don't put so much pressure on yourself to get a "date," because sometimes that word itself is what intimidates some people. Just go do something and leave it at that.

As for where to find them, I'd recommend not hitting up the bars in search of Mrs. Right. That's just too cliche' and kind of scummy imo. Besides, most girls that are worth holding onto don't go for horny guys at bars to begin with. See if a friend of a friend knows anyone that's single, or if you're in any classes see who's around you and strike up a conversation. Even where you work. Just get out there and meet as many people as you can so you can build up your "network" so to speak.

You have to walk before you can run man. You can't go out there right away expecting to find your dream girl. Take it slow and first get comfortable talking to women, then move onto maybe starting a relationship with one that suits your fancy. I'll warn you not to be over-anxious though lol.

Best of luck my man. Keep your head up and it'll happen as long as you're you, there's nothing anyone can take away from that. :jointsmile:

If you ever get bored, try reading some of the articles on AskMen.com - Free Men's Online Magazine. Maybe they could give you some confidence or inspiration or something.

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Originally Posted by Gandalf_The_Grey

Coelho, I know it's easy to say "wait till you have more experience and are wiser", but having that first screwed-up relationship is what gives you the experience; having that experience, is what builds wisdom.

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Yes... but its the hard way... i know that "the burnt hand teaches best" (or somewhat like... its a proverb)... but wisdom is never too much, nor patience. My own first experience was both heaven and hell. The only concrete thing ive learned from it is that the first love is a heavy drug, as addicting as crack, heroin, and its withdraw is VERY bad also. If you think weed is not enough, go for it... but dont say i didnt warned you!

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Originally Posted by Gandalf_The_Grey

As for the other guys here, saying it's more hassle than it's worth, that being alone is better, that being without any relationships is just fine... you don't actually know that till you've experienced years upon years of it, into your adult life where every one of your friends have past you by in this field, and the loneliness gets utterly soul-crushing and developes into isolation-based depression. The isolated feeling can be outright hell at times; human beings as with all animals have a biological need for companionship essential to healthy mental development.

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Well... i dont want to disregard your views, but companionship isnt a biological need... its only a social need. But, as we humans live completly immersed into the society, we easily confuse biological needs with social needs. I used to feel like you described, but now ive overcame it... the paths i had to thread were black and cold, but now i can say that nothing actually matters. In fact, now i love to be as lonely as possible... But, each one his own, of course. You are intelligent, and surely will find your way... so, good luck! May the force be with you! :thumbsup:

longest relationship ive had was 8 months,imo g/f's are overrated trying to make you change and buy them shit i would rather go out every night.

Companionship, friendship, love and affection are very much biological needs. In study after study, we know that people of all ages live longer and in better health when they have companionship and affection. Babies who are deprived of care and nurturing don't thrive at all, and adults are not all that different. It is very much a biological need, most likely driven by evolution. Companionship, since it's a boon to our health and longevity, increases our chances of successfully passing our genes on to another generation.

after reading birdgirl's response I completely forgot what I was gonna say...someting along the lines of it doesn't really matter if you've never had a gf before. Just don't worry...but it doesn't make sense now I can't really remember the way it made sense...

well one thing I have trouble seeing through is that without 'her' I an not even fully yang, because a yang male is supposed to be a certain way. the only way I could do it then is if I find a woman who compliments my 'yang' which isn't even completely 'yang' but an imbalanced 'yang male' so an imbalanced 'yin female' would do so, that we would compliment each other the way the normal 'male/female' relationships are supposed to be.

and so I'm making this whole thing weird.

and I don't believe in evolution by itself. evolution happens through creation, if creation is able, but if not then tough luck. the only motivating force may be pain. so I try connecting with nature but like.. the nature of imbalance is to 'die' and perhaps feel pain with pain being the only motivating force to live on.

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Originally Posted by Coelho

Yes... but its the hard way... i know that "the burnt hand teaches best" (or somewhat like... its a proverb)... but wisdom is never too much, nor patience. My own first experience was both heaven and hell. The only concrete thing ive learned from it is that the first love is a heavy drug, as addicting as crack, heroin, and its withdraw is VERY bad also. If you think weed is not enough, go for it... but dont say i didnt warned you!



Well... i dont want to disregard your views, but companionship isnt a biological need... its only a social need. But, as we humans live completly immersed into the society, we easily confuse biological needs with social needs. I used to feel like you described, but now ive overcame it... the paths i had to thread were black and cold, but now i can say that nothing actually matters. In fact, now i love to be as lonely as possible... But, each one his own, of course. You are intelligent, and surely will find your way... so, good luck! May the force be with you! :thumbsup:

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while you may disagree.. I think we do have ingrained in our biology to be with 'the other'.. why do you think we have the other in the first place, do you think it's for nothing?

People have been giving good advise here and you just dismiss whatever they say. I think if you think a little more positive you will have a better chance. Thinking negative never got anyone anything. I should know im the king of negative thinking. There is at least 1 girl for every guy so just be yourself and things will happen. Dont act desperate around girls, that makes them run a mile.

I don't think it's the need to be with someone or loved quite so much as the need for sex that's ingrained in us all. Looking at the rest of the animal kingdom would be proof. Alot of animals have high social needs of course. Mating isn't a social need. Us feeling that we need to be loved or be with someone special is social. Even now, there are places in the world where the social standard is to be with more than one person and think of those people more as property. The common factor is the factor that we all need to mate. In the event a species isn't able to procreate they will resort to other means of sexual satisfaction or procreation. Like those certain frogs that in the event there aren't enough females to mate with the male has the ability to lay fertilized eggs, of which all the offspring are female. That replenishes the female population so the breeding can continue. Male Koala bears have been observed in captivity to have sex with each other in the event there are no females. The urge to mate is an urge they can't fight. I don't think humans are so different. We tend to take care of ourselves in large ways we don't even notice. Social needs and biological needs are different.

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Originally Posted by Non

the problem is I can't even get a date or fuck budddy

what the fuck is dating anyway. I dont know how to go about that one with women. "Hey you wanna go on a date?" it sounds better if I just ask them if they wanna hang out.

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Don't worry so much about the definition of "dating", your only purpose of going on a date is to have sex so who cares if your time with a girl is considered a date to others, that doesn't matter. Do what is most comfortable, I don't think I have ever asked a girl straight up "Hey, will you date me?" Just do what is comfortable, like getting her number, or as you mention, just ask if they want to hang out. Just plan something interesting, no matter how slutty the girl is, they all pretend to be innocent virgins so don't just plan to have her come over, get naked and go at it. If you can get her to your place with no distractions, (parents, roomates, etc.), that would be good, watch a rented movie or something, whatever will make the both of you comfortable.

Alcohol is always your friend, bud can be too but most girls aren't really into pot, and many will be turned off if you even offer it so I wouldn't even chance it unless you already know she is down to smoke. Don't listen to these other guys say you need to know her before having sex, if your only looking to get laid her personality doesn't matter for you, and it's not like goody Christian girls are immune from STDs either, so always use a jimmy with anyone you are with! Personally, I'm more paranoid of knocking a girl up than catching an STD, but in either case neither is a good thing to have happen.

lol, well yeah I would only look for sex only because I feel like it's an imbalance, at least until I find the right woman that I may want to be with exclusively for a time. Even then though, I would think it does not fulfill, or balance at least fully if I don't find the right woman, or even if I do: the time for the right opportunities has passed me long ago, and it doesn't matter what I may or may not do, there may never be a balance.

Even my mom suggested a whore may help me out at least until I find the right woman...

*MOST* of you are way too young to even understand what a relationship is all about. I highly recommend doing what you want to do, and being what you want to be.... *BEFORE* getting committed in a relationship. When your well on the way to being successful in your lifes endevors, then its a good thing to have that dedicated support system to help keep you on track and be your personal chearleader. Sex is great, but... life isn't based on something that occupies less than .01% of your life.
FWIW, the right partner can be a phenominal addition to your life, but...OTOH, the wrong one can just as easily destroy your life, and your ability to keep a roof over your head and food on the table...then you can end up paying for that particular privelage for the rest of your life in the form of spousal support.
Take it from somebody who has been there.

WOOOAAAA!!

WATCH THAT WHORE WORD! THAT WILL NOT GET YA LAID!
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what ive found to work best to find a girl friend is to treat all woman like woman, another person, not a potential girl friend, or one night stand. Treat them like you would any other person you know. And If u fall into the friends zone thats ok, cause you get what most guys dont get, to see what they realy want in a man and how they feel about things that guys dont usually see. And guess what that friends zone thing is just like having an ace up your sleeve cause when you do meet that one girl you like, youll know exactally what to do and what not to do. Oh and most girls dont care that your a virgin, never been on a date, never had a girl friend, its all about how you are on a constant. You cant be the cool guy who everyone loves one day and then some closet anti social stoner the next, so its easiest to be yourself in the long run and thats why many relationships fail.

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Originally Posted by silkyblue

WOOOAAAA!!

WATCH THAT WHORE WORD! THAT WILL NOT GET YA LAID!
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lol.. well I meant one that gives sex for money.

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Originally Posted by birdgirl73

Companionship, friendship, love and affection are very much biological needs. In study after study, we know that people of all ages live longer and in better health when they have companionship and affection. Babies who are deprived of care and nurturing don't thrive at all, and adults are not all that different. It is very much a biological need, most likely driven by evolution. Companionship, since it's a boon to our health and longevity, increases our chances of successfully passing our genes on to another generation.

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Now thats the kind of post i like to read right there. I myself love relationships. I love to have someone to share my life with & to give her all the love i can. Call me a pussy if you must, but remember this when i'm having someone to hold me & share my deepest thoughts with, you'll still be crawling through this world crying for someone to love.

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Originally Posted by Gandalf_The_Grey

Well, looks like I win this thread; 22 and never had a girlfriend, haven't had sex, not even been kissed. Horray for me, the winner....



Man I fucking hate life sometimes:mad:

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22 and already have that glorious white beard, thats awesome:D

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Originally Posted by 420_24/7

22 and already have that glorious white beard, thats awesome:D

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Holy monkey you're right! Thanks dude:D

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Originally Posted by kms brown

what ive found to work best to find a girl friend is to treat all woman like woman, another person, not a potential girl friend, or one night stand. Treat them like you would any other person you know. And If u fall into the friends zone thats ok, cause you get what most guys dont get, to see what they realy want in a man and how they feel about things that guys dont usually see. And guess what that friends zone thing is just like having an ace up your sleeve cause when you do meet that one girl you like, youll know exactally what to do and what not to do. Oh and most girls dont care that your a virgin, never been on a date, never had a girl friend, its all about how you are on a constant. You cant be the cool guy who everyone loves one day and then some closet anti social stoner the next, so its easiest to be yourself in the long run and thats why many relationships fail.

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None of this info is helpful for anybody trying to get laid, as I said before, women don't even know what they really want so asking them for tips won't get you anywhere as far as sex goes.

Non, you just need to get laid, you can worry about all that balance crap later on, but first thing's first, just get laid. I guess you could hire a professional if that is your last option, but that won't really teach you anything about how to talk to girls, so I wouldn't recommend that unless you are getting frustrated to the point where all you can think of is sex, (which doesn't sound like that is you, at least from what I'm getting).

I don't know any girl that would prefer a virgin over a guy that knows what he's doing, not just for sex, but relationships as well. They all want a guy that knows what he is doing, but you will never figure out what to do if you don't have the basics of a relationship down, that is, sex. Yes, sex is the basic core of all relationships. The main reason relationships fail is because they don't have a good sex life, having a good sex life with your mate is the most important part of that relationship. If you never learn the basics, you can never advance into a serious relationship, so don't listen to anybody that tells you sex isn't important because it is, and it always has been in human history. So many people today ignore the importance of sex in a relationship, is it any wonder why so many relationships fail? Divorce is becoming the trendy thing to do these days, few marriages last longer than 5 years, and people continue to ignore the importance of having a good sex life in their relationships.

Although, it seems you are choosing what you want to hear, you are ignoring excellent recommendations given in this thread because you continue to believe in some "balance" crap. With as little experience as you claim to have, I'm not sure how you can even think you know enough about women to have balance. That would be like me claiming to know how to balance my check book when I don't even know enough about my own bank account to log in and see how much money is left. Ok, maybe a bad analogy, but I do think you should be focused on sex and only sex, and let the relationship part come together when the time is right with the right person. The more women you date, the more you will learn what you do and don't like in a partner, both physically and emotionally, again, don't ignore the physical side!

^lol, very true, very true

ok well first of all I'm not denying the physical side of things. I absolutely know that I need sex, but I was using the balance thing to refer to my sexual balance. I said I really do need a sexual balance and that means: getting laid right now.

I understand that there is an emotional gap (or imbalance) you are yearning to fill with some female excitement. If you are looking for a relationship then of course it's going to take some more time than just finding the girl that will relieve your urges. Nobody is still clear on your situation...we don't know your appearance, history, or ideals that might have caused you to believe your stuck in this rut. Be as whatever it may be, you aren't a hopeless person.

Nothing in life was meant to be easy so you are going to have to get on your feet and make some action happen. Get your name out there, meet new people, and present the attitude that you want people to see about you, and you bet it'll need to be a confident attitude. Nobody wants to feel sorry for you, they want to see the greatness in you. Focus less about what is wrong with you, and more about how you can work to change it.

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Originally Posted by OLDE ENGLISH '800

longest relationship ive had was 8 months,imo g/f's are overrated trying to make you change and buy them shit i would rather go out every night.

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agreed man 100%.way overrated.


I have a lot more money and time to do what i want and im happy this way im not gonna change for someone but if someone likes me for who i am then great but so far that hasnt happened im only 18 tho but i could see me in your same situation at 21 but if you learn to not care and just make yourself happy then its all good and hopefully eventually you'll meet someone for you

yea man biggest mistake is worring so much about it, when the time finally comes for you to make your move youll panic cus youve been so stressed out about this day for so long. take it easy listen to everyone and make yourself happy first. be comfortable and confident when approaching a girl.

PS at least you got your hands for now dude

I do not think it will ever happen.

If you keep talking like that you're right. Man up
You got any personal friends that can help you or give you advice or take you out and and show you.
Theres someone for everyone Just be strong man youll get the poon or relationship you deserve. Don't diss yourself Gotta be more confident. Everones giving you great advice listen to them.

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Originally Posted by WeedyBoyWonder

I'm 18 and never been in a serious relationship (lasted longer than a week or two), and haven't been in a relationship since I left high school.
If you guys want a girl so bad, get one, it's not really that difficult, put some effort in!
It just depends who you will settle for, for me personally I haven't come across any lady's who I would would even consider to spend the rest of my days with.

Besides that I enjoy being single alittle, I means I can talk to lady's anyway I like and not feel like I shouldn't be having a laugh with other girls because I'm attached to someone. No responsibility apart from myself.

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Same situation man. :)

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Originally Posted by Nailhead

None of this info is helpful for anybody trying to get laid, as I said before, women don't even know what they really want so asking them for tips won't get you anywhere as far as sex goes.

Non, you just need to get laid, you can worry about all that balance crap later on, but first thing's first, just get laid. I guess you could hire a professional if that is your last option, but that won't really teach you anything about how to talk to girls, so I wouldn't recommend that unless you are getting frustrated to the point where all you can think of is sex, (which doesn't sound like that is you, at least from what I'm getting).

I don't know any girl that would prefer a virgin over a guy that knows what he's doing, not just for sex, but relationships as well. They all want a guy that knows what he is doing, but you will never figure out what to do if you don't have the basics of a relationship down, that is, sex. Yes, sex is the basic core of all relationships. The main reason relationships fail is because they don't have a good sex life, having a good sex life with your mate is the most important part of that relationship. If you never learn the basics, you can never advance into a serious relationship, so don't listen to anybody that tells you sex isn't important because it is, and it always has been in human history. So many people today ignore the importance of sex in a relationship, is it any wonder why so many relationships fail? Divorce is becoming the trendy thing to do these days, few marriages last longer than 5 years, and people continue to ignore the importance of having a good sex life in their relationships.

Although, it seems you are choosing what you want to hear, you are ignoring excellent recommendations given in this thread because you continue to believe in some "balance" crap. With as little experience as you claim to have, I'm not sure how you can even think you know enough about women to have balance. That would be like me claiming to know how to balance my check book when I don't even know enough about my own bank account to log in and see how much money is left. Ok, maybe a bad analogy, but I do think you should be focused on sex and only sex, and let the relationship part come together when the time is right with the right person. The more women you date, the more you will learn what you do and don't like in a partner, both physically and emotionally, again, don't ignore the physical side!

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While i do agree that sex is a key factor i also believe that what you just said is moronic. Your not having sex 24/7 and if your not having sex what are you doing? communicating with eachother, and if you cant communicate and all you can wait for is sex, your relationship will fail. You dont see many 60-80 yr old married couples still together for the sex, i mean im sure there is one or two out there, but sex stops eventually and when you have a relationship around sex, guess what the relation ship stops too.
I didnt realise he was looking for sex, i thought he was looking for a relationship when i read "I would guess that women are different in these days, most don't want to marry or stay exclusive for an amount of time." If you really want to get laid get rid of your ego.

Sign up for a gym and start lifting weights. Gain some muscle, confidence, energy, and get out there. Just don't be too damn confident.

i love my girl and im 18 it sucks tho cuz we dont chill that much cuz she works and between school and that and asap its hard to chill,, so i dont know i cant help u,, relationships fuck with ur head

We weren't born to be in relationships. We were born to procreate and fulfill our desires. It's a matter of conforming that makes relationships so difficult.

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Originally Posted by kms brown

While i do agree that sex is a key factor i also believe that what you just said is moronic. Your not having sex 24/7 and if your not having sex what are you doing? communicating with eachother, and if you cant communicate and all you can wait for is sex, your relationship will fail. You dont see many 60-80 yr old married couples still together for the sex, i mean im sure there is one or two out there, but sex stops eventually and when you have a relationship around sex, guess what the relation ship stops too.
I didnt realise he was looking for sex, i thought he was looking for a relationship when i read "I would guess that women are different in these days, most don't want to marry or stay exclusive for an amount of time." If you really want to get laid get rid of your ego.

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It would be moronic if I was giving him relationship advice, getting laid and getting a g/f are 2 completely different things. If he is like any normal guy, he probably thinks that in order to get laid he needs to have a relationship, which just isn't true at all.

Maybe it is just me, but you seem a bit angered by the advice I gave, why is that?