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Grazi, Columbus huh? Damn dude...you came on too late...the hottest chick to ever grace these boards left b4 you got here and you are in her stomping grounds...she would of made even you, blush...haha
Misshightimes...baby, there is the perfect man out there for you...you just need to look around.
When we lose something we grieve for a while. We get hurt and angry. Hold on to that anger! Use it to transform yourself into the strong woman we all have within us! Dang- I gotta go- friend needs me in court- I'll get back to you later tonight! We are all stronger than we give ourselves credit for! You are going to get through this with a little help from your friends!- Granny:hippy:
Lol thanks for letting me know what Ive missed. The thought will forever torment my dreams now. Congratulations.Quote:
Originally Posted by geonagual
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P.S. where the fuck did she go? lmao Im just playin, it doesnt matter anyway, prob for the best. Im not getting involved in a relationship if I can help it, Im set on going to Thailand and Shao Lin
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Originally Posted by GraziLovesMary
I am not going to say her name..cause she didnt want anyone to know where she lived (cause of growing)...I knew though...I was so close to visiting her when I was back in Ohio at the beginning of the year...but shit didnt work out. she does have a boyfriend that she planned on marrying...but that didnt keep her flirtiness down...damn she was cool.....come back girl...I am sure many people miss you on here...
I'm not saying this is you, but I've known a girl who has such low self-esteem that she cannot be in a relationship that isn't abusive. If a guy is too nice to her, she'll get the idea into her head that there must be something wrong with him, since he likes her.
It seems like you might be attracted to guys like your boyfriend because they give you a lot of attention at first. Maybe they are very persistent, and you have a hard time saying no.Quote:
I dont understand why it's so hard to find a good guy. I do like myself for the most part, I know i look good, and I think I have a good personality, I'm fun and giving, but for some reason the only thing guys pick up on is my doormat qualities. im just not going to look and hope the man of my dreams shows up.
If you really want to meet nice guys, try going to parties at engineering schools. They're all like 90% guys. Or you could go to a public LAN party (where they play video games). Or you could post a profile and a picture on a personals site like craigslist. There are millions of guys out there who are nice and considerate and single, but a lot of times they are kind of shy, and so they might be attracted to venues like personal sites. How do you normally meet guys? Do you just go with the guys that will come up to you and hit on you out of the blue?
Its nothing you haven't herd before but......
It's time.... time for the dreaded talk.... the talk where you call some of the shots... And stick to your Guns Gurl/////
It need to end... It wont be pretty but It will get better with time.
He will tell you he will change and that he'll respect you etc. But untill you change He wont....
SO cut your loses... Call it a learning experience, Take a deep breath and tell him you want a Break. You want to be left alone. No emails No phone no nothing, No Face book or MSN-AIM.
And don't break down and call him... Let him call you cuz he will. right away too... Don't answer it will only make the healing process harder. I bet 2 weeks goes by and you'll feel like a new women, have more respect foryourself and you'll be glad you had the experience. Cuz you'll be closer to yourself and your needs and wants.
It somtimes take s abit of hurt to get some Good....
And when you look at it all,,, Your already hurting.. So you might as well Get the hurt that will reward you in the end...
Stay Strong gurl... Its not going to be easy... But it will definitly be well worth it...
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Hi! It's unfortunate that your effort and time didn't get you where you want to be with that guy. Listen to these kind, considerate people at Cannabis.com who are reminding you of your worth, and never talk to this guy again.Quote:
Originally Posted by 420MissHighTimes420
From your other posts on this thread it seems like you are still in a bad mood, which I want to turn around. While I can't replace your boyfriend, as I'm leaving Philly for 9 months (leaving in a week), I would be willing to smoke you up and converse about everything but that asshole over a dinner that I'll cook. I'm know you're a wonderful girl, I can introduce you to some of my friends if you want.
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Originally Posted by khronik
I am attracted to guys like my boyfriend, well basically guys like my dad, who I have to fight really hard to get attention from, i never had any attention at all from my dad growing up, so now when I have a guy who doesn't give me attention - but sometimes does - the times wen he does, are the reasons Im with him, because I feel liek I was good enough to get the attention. I need to work on being secure with myself, I cant keep seeking validation from guys like I do.
And every guy I have ever dated I met in highschool. Or through a friend in highschool. I wanted to meet some new guys so I took this art class and ddin't meet anyone -- it was mostly women go figure, lesbian women too but Im not ready for that lol. I lve in a big city with a lot of hot young professionals so I feel like it shouldnt be that hard. Ive been working here for the past month, and moved down abbout 2 weeks ago, and have yet to me a single person! Wtfffff Im good looking - or at least I think so - so why dont guys come up to me more? I get nothing more than a hey baby or a wave . and ladies u no wut im talking about it only the old creepers who hit on you! wut is that?!
Im a bit hesitant of meeting people off of the internet, but I know NO ONE in this city, and I think I would be open to it -- espicially if its through someone on this site. edit :IM me at chelss80 and we can chat about it there, Im online all day 9 - 5 30 at work.Quote:
Originally Posted by xblackdogx
It seems to me like you have absolutely no confidence in yourself anymore. You're lacking self esteem. It's actually frustrating to read this and know you're probably still with him. For God's sake DUMP HIM! Are you afraid of him? You're obviously petrified of something. You have these thoughs that the breakup will be bad.. It's completely the opposite, it will be great for you. I advise you tell this dickhead off before you dump him, but reading this thread, you don't seem strong enough to do what you KNOW you have to do.
maybe he doesnt eat out.......?
i dont know, that sounds like some fucked up shit, i always stand on my own 2 in relationships, he sounds like a moocher, u should get rid of him, and find yourself a real man, and that's comin from me, but even i dont do any of that shit.......lol
and relationships are give and take, not just take, like he's doing, you should be takin too, unless he's a brokeass, then, i dont know what to say....lol
Sweetie- about the class- right idea, wrong class! Computers, drafting, co-ed sports! Look in on the classes before you sign up! Certain classes have a preponderance of one sex or the other. Had one dude admit once he took "Women's History" to meet gals! It worked! He also got an "A" in the class for providing a "male" viewpoint! lol
Now about the self esteem, Whew! I got it too! My Dad was absent much of the time (sub duty in the Navy) and Mom was a bitch on wheels- alcoholic, bipolar, promiscuous, talented and beautiful. She did a number on my head. I know intellectually I am brilliant, talented in many ways and do a job better than most. Emotionally, it's always "Am I good enough?"
So I have turned it around! I am remarkably reliable and competent! I watch each detail. My bosses love me! So I can tell that nasty little voice "SHUT UP! I'm doing it right!" I know it will always be there, but I am more than it is! I will not let it rule me! Take your power back!
I remember all the shit that has been done to me. Not to make me bitter, but to remind myself that I have survived it ALL! You have survived this guy. You are examining your reasons for being with these guys- EXCELLENT! Now "shut the door" on that fool and get on with your life! - Granny:hippy:
Listen to Granny, chica. She's got the right idea.
Boy does she ever! I'm not even a girl and her advice works for me also.
hehe is that AIM? ... :DQuote:
Originally Posted by 420MissHighTimes420
DAMN IT!! what is this power you women have over me???
yes it issss
you make me cheese!
hehe Id like to make you do alot more than that..Quote:
Originally Posted by 420MissHighTimes420
GOD DAMNIT!! I DID IT AGAIN!!
I'd like to point out that a lot of girls make the mistake of waiting for guys to come to them. Come to think of it, a lot of guys make the mistake of waiting for girls to come to them too. Another common mistake is trying to meet people at places where you probably won't find such a great selection, like bars.
If you're looking to meet guys, I guess it depends what type you're looking for. For instance, single nerdy guys are a dime a dozen. Private parties are great for meeting people.
It can be hard to approach people though, especially when you're self-confidence is in the gutter. This is why internet dating sites can be great, since you have such a small emotional investment. Plus you don't have to invest a lot of time either. If you don't like someone, it's really easy to just not give them any personal information and stop emailing them. Plus, you can do all that at home, where you're comfortable.
The more you give, the more people will take and think you a fool for it. You sound nice I'm sure you'll meet someone better.
How sweet.Quote:
Originally Posted by GraziLovesMary
You guys better be making babies tonight.
Your not pathetic, in the slightest. HE IS PATHETIC.
That silly inconciderate bastard is an idiot. He doesnt deserve you. It's as simple as that.
What he deserves for acting like a spoilt little kid is a smack around the chops. He needs a wake up call. A serious one.
Think about it. Do you really love him?
Sit him down, and talk to him. Really talk. Tell him everything, and make him tell you how he feels. Dont accept the usual nods and grunts - make him talk, and make him listen to you. At the moment your on top, because you've done nothing wrong.
If you want to talk and he doesnt, knock him out and tie him up, so when he comes round he HAS to listen.
Dont take his shit - and dont feel you owe him ANYTHING [apart from the obvious wack over the head with a cricket bat ;) ]
I'm not good with advice - you can probably tell. BUT, what i said is true. It's not your fault, and your NOT pathetic in the slightest. Remember that!
thats pretty fuckd up..someone who treats you like that is'nt worth your time, there are plenty of guys out there so dump his ass and get a new man
lmao :pQuote:
Originally Posted by thcbongman
hehe *blushes*Quote:
Originally Posted by thcbongman
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Originally Posted by 420MissHighTimes420
Not only are you incredibly beautiful, but you are also smart enough to know the fundamental underlying problem- the daddy that couldn't show love, is now the boy that also doesn't....this is not an uncommon situation. The low self-esteem your daddy fostered is still repeating the pattern- the part of you that feels unlovable due to dad's inability keeps seeking withholding types because that's all an unlovable deserves, and the part of you that feels finally validated when daddy or boy does show affection stays with them for those times. It is a terrible web to be caught in. The best thing you can do is work it out through therapy of whatever sort works for you, and there are many approaches. It is a difficult pattern to break, but not impossible. You may find a friendship on the net based on personality is a better lead in to a relationship than one that begins with the trigger of physical attraction, because that sex apect often masks the very things you need to be on the lookout for, which is a lack of consideration and appreciation of you!
Remember, the problem is not with the guys necessarily, for there are selfish people everywhere. The problem is that you are choosing to be with them, and while that means you have to do the hard work (They will seldom change, don't waste too much time hoping for that!) of making better choices and standing up for yourself, it also means You have the Power! I have walked that road and wish you strength!
If the time again comes where you feel degraded by anyone, reach into your higher being and use the strength which is there to walk away. Just leave. Once you do it you find it gets easier and feels great:D
P.S. Once you feel better about you, you will attract better men! Keep getting involved in things you are passionate about, and passion will find you!
^^Awsome advice! You should be a therapist, that was right on. Thank you
The school of hard knocks has taught me well;)
I hope you you can break out of the pattern much sooner than I did- life is much more fun when you are taking care of you.
Good luck sweetie!
Maybe theyre intimidated?? Maybe the person you are meant to be with is not in that area?? Hmmm.. I dunno whats up with those guys, cause youre definitely hot.Quote:
Originally Posted by 420MissHighTimes420
grazil u always make me smile during a shitty day :1baa:
Well I sure as hell hope so!!! You shouldnt be having a shitty day! God damnit what is wrong with this world when these kinds of evil forces are at foot!?!?!? :mad:Quote:
Originally Posted by 420MissHighTimes420
idk but i heard somewhere that smoking enormus amounts of pot and making enormus amounts of love can stop these forces!!!!!!!
tehehe
woman... you just might be able to talk me into that :DQuote:
Originally Posted by 420MissHighTimes420
Well kids, I don't know if massive amounts of pot and sex can stop the forces of evil, but daaaang, give it a try!;) - Granny:hippy:
:rastasmoke:I'm glad this has turned into a happy thread. :)
hehe.. well... theres only one way to find out I guess... eh??Quote:
Originally Posted by Storm Crow