It is, don't let the opinion of one (no offense Stinky) get you bummed or something. I'm sure there are some that will give you advice or pity or whatever you are looking for.
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It is, don't let the opinion of one (no offense Stinky) get you bummed or something. I'm sure there are some that will give you advice or pity or whatever you are looking for.
i dont know if i want to respond to that. but im going to anyways just to prove that point.
Just dont talk in a bitchy tone and no one will call you a cry baby. . .
It generally IS a place to share feelings with people.. I see you're a nOOb... ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by MagicalHerb
You are just going to have to remember that when you post in anger, you might say things either in a WAY that you don't mean, or things you don't really mean at all...(lol I've got an infraction on my record from that, no one is perfect!)
Sometimes you just have to take a deep breath and reread your post before you hit submit, or stuff goes up that gives others the wrong impression of who you are!
It's tough being a teenager and sort of being in that limbo where you are starting to think like an adult and see things that you never noticed before- like yes, flaws in your family- and having your parents not quite ready to see you that way yet.
Maybe because watching your child grow up is exciting but at the same time bittersweet, that the time is coming when you will be leaving the house, and they know they will miss you.
Trust me, it's hard to criticize your parents constructively when you are still living under their roof.. like it or not, it is bound to come across as a challenge to their authority over you... and in a way it IS... I'm sure there ARE ways to talk to your parents about this stuff... this is a good place to practice being a bit more political, ya dig?
Like telling your mom that you're worried about her and want to make sure she has time for her own needs... maybe even helping her MAKE that time...
Anyway that's my several cents on the issue.
Edit: I guess I was posting as the same time as Dusto (who I respect quite a bit btw)... I may bitch at you a bit, but that doesn't mean I won't also try to help...
Listen man. I know exactly what you are going through. You have a strong-willed mother, and a good father, who perhaps could use some lessons in being a real man.
You simply have to deal with it and show your mom some respect. I know how such an attitude can make an entire family dysfunctional, but questioning her only makes thing worse.
You have to start going out of your way to show she cares to get you off her back, being honest, being the best person you can be.
I know how hard this kind of situation can be, but you gotta show her all the respect you can, even if it's not enough for her. She's your mom, and the only person who could love you like no other.
damn yo
just shut up if you dont like what i have to say! why cant you just click on a different page of the internet! its not hard and its going to save me alot of bullshit i dont want to deal with so why not.
and for the record how are you one to tell what tone im talking in. in fact im not even talking. im typing and typing doesnt have a tone. and im NOT beign bitchy so how is it that everyone seems to be against me on this one? when i wrote it i didnt expect all these people to come and lecture me, i thought this was a chill place. you guys smoke up too? its hard to believe
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Originally Posted by FreeVenice
That part of the post made me feel gushy inside. I hope my kids love me that much! But of course I want them to have some motivation and not feel that negative about themselves too....
Try to feel good about yourself FreeVenice, and you'll be the kind of son/daughter every mom wants. Confident, loving, respectful.
:jointsmile: Bree
Dude, they are giving you advise. Wherther you like it or not is your problem. If you want someone to hold your hand, you gotta say that!!!
Geez and I was trying to be 'constructive'... if you can't recognize constructive criticism when it jumps up and bites you in the nose, no wonder you and your mother can't see eye to eye!
Welcome to the wild world of forum posting... why bother even posting it if you just want people to READ it but not respond! DurrrrQuote:
Originally Posted by MagicalHerb
Sorry to break it to ya... typing has a tone if you write well... if you have trouble expressing yourself in text, perhaps you should reconsider posting at all.Quote:
Originally Posted by MagicalHerb
NOW you sound bitchy. I hope it's just the fever talking.
sigh sigh sigh
thank you so much stinky and thc. i really just needed an outside perspective.
its going to be hard though, you guys dont know my mom. she can sit and scream in my face for 10 minutes over (literally) nothing, jsut stupid little issues that odnt deserve that level of emotion. and call me a little shit and worthless and then expect respect. do you really think she still deserves it there?
when she gets home, im going to try telling her
that. and then i just have to find a way to keep her from becoming shut off once i bring it up.Quote:
this is a good place to practice being a bit more political, ya dig?
Like telling your mom that you're worried about her and want to make sure she has time for her own needs... maybe even helping her MAKE that time...
Anyway that's my several cents on the issue.