Well that's the end of that. I want to cry.

Aww, man, Stinky. That sucks. I wish I could come up with some real kind words for you, but everyone else already beat me to it. You seem to be taking it well, probably just due to the fact that you are a level-headed person. Everyone has emotions, though, so there is no avoiding that, even for me...:(

But as my gf always reminds me, 'we go through life in stages, and for every stage in your life, there is a person you are supposed to be with. That person gives you just what you need for that time period, whether it be negative (learning experiences) or positive (life enrichment). You just have to embrace the time you had with that person, and then move onto the next stage. You are always a better person afterwards.'

I hope you know what I'm trying to say, as I don't always type exactly what I'm trying to say! ha.

Well, I'm sure you'll be fine, and I hope he will too. I'll smoke one for the both of yas, especially you Stinky. :D

:rastasmoke:

TGF

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But as my gf always reminds me, 'we go through life in stages, and for every stage in your life, there is a person you are supposed to be with. That person gives you just what you need for that time period, whether it be negative (learning experiences) or positive (life enrichment). You just have to embrace the time you had with that person, and then move onto the next stage. You are always a better person afterwards.'


TGF

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I think that's the best advice I've ever heard. Ever. If I ever have a daughter that's what I'm going to tell her when she's bawling over some guy... I wish someone had told me that when I was just a silly kid.

(friendly hug)

Well breaking up sucks. There is nothing I can say to you to make you feel any better.

However, after having recovered from my divorce I can say to you it is better to have done this now than wait 10 years like I did.

So feel the pain and go on. You are stronger than you think you are. Take some time to get to know yourself again.

I was crushed after my divorce. But I can see a new person within me rising and getting stronger each day.

The same thing will happen to you.

Vibes tonight - just for you x

You are better off figuring this out now, rather than after getting hitched and having to do a divorce (possibly with kids). You hit it right on the head- "I can't afford to be with someone whose honesty and loyalty even are doubtful". There is only trouble in a relationship if honesty and loyalty are a problem. There is no relationship, if there is no trust! On top of this, he drinks (at a bar?) when he is upset-that is a red flag right there for later alcoholism! He refuses to communicate on issues that are important to you. (What does this say about his opinion of you, as a thinking, feeling, human being?) At best, you were in a 60/40 relationship. I think you are lucky getting out when you did. In a few days, when the shock has worn off, get out of the house- go to a party and mingle. (There are lots of parties this time of year- I don't want to hear any excuses out of you, young lady! You get out there and party! :jointsmile: ) I will have been married for 40 years in a few weeks. You just gotta find the right one! ;) Staying at home and being bummed is not going to help you find him. - Granny Storm Crow :stoned:

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I can't believe how caring the growers on this site are. It's good you have you around.

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when i buy a cabin in the yukon, you and bear can come live with me:p we'll build a 50,000sf greenhouse...:D

sorry babe, i know how it feels:o but like my brother always says...

"if at first you don't succeed, get a bigger hammer"

sorry if this comes off wrong, i'm just trying to make you smile:) how you're doing all right, and my thoughts are with you...

love, kp:p

Sorry to hear about your breakup. I went through the same thing last year (about money) with someone I'd been with for over 10 years. It was hard. I know how you feel now but remember that it will get better with time.

Hey Hey Hey...Well, it has all been said basically...hugs all around...peace

yeh, you know u got friends here, ;) at least thats some comfort... and friends that keep lots of chocolate too! its not all bad eh? well, sad to hear that stinky, and even though i hardly know you, i can tell your a very nice person, youll get a nice man sure enuff! after all, every man wants a bit of stinky attic in their lives! lol :)