mental cheating???

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Originally Posted by muncheemama

what do you all think about porno in a commited relationship? I personally think it's "mental cheating" and while some might see that as too harsh, i believe the act of someone peeling one off to the image of another woman or man just isnt very cool...watching it together as a type of foreplay is fine, but to hide and lie about a stash is deceptive and wrong...guys and girls whats your opinion? how would your partners feel? is my opinion one of an oversensitive woman, or is it rational???

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mental cheating!!
nice !
:D

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Originally Posted by beachguy in thongs

If I had a girl who was hot enough, and available enough, I'd feel no need for porn.

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i am definitely hot enough, and normally he stays satisfied, during this time i was away for 8 weeks in a bigger city about 3 hours away..on bedrest for a difficult pregnancy...but we saw each other pretty often, it was a bad situation to begin with...part of me cant blame him, thats a long time...but the other part wonders why he would do it when I asked him not to..oh well, at this point he has tried to make it better but im afraid post partum emotions have made more of it than necessary..let me say, i dont mind most porn, because i am (for sure) hotter than any (most) porn star skanks around, but at 8 or 9 months prego, you dont feel that sexy..just seemed disrespectful

Usually porn starts with a snip about how it is meant as an educational tool, not for under 18's, etc. If you see it in it's true light then yes, use porn in a committed relationship. if you see it as an escape from your marriage, it becomes a bad thing.

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Originally Posted by muncheemama

i was away for 8 weeks in a bigger city about 3 hours away..on bedrest for a difficult pregnancy

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Many people would lose respect for a man who cheats on his pregnant wife.

But, I think you have to give him a break on this one. He's probably imagining that all the girls are you and, maybe, he secretly likes seeing you cheat on him, as long as it's in his own head and through, only, his eyes.

Seeing his munchee "hot" mama performing sex acts, on anyone, turns him on.

I dont think men need more sex than women.
I dont tell my boyfriend bullshit like, dont masturbate when I'm right here.
I want my bf to jerk it some times because
a. it keeps him appreciative of my pussy(not that I need help).
b. I like to walk in on him and help.
c. masturbation is like working it out, and it increases stamina.
It's a natural thing and it's selfish to tell your bf or gf that they cant perform self love if they so desire. You cant cheat with yourself.

now if they masturbate more than they wanna fuck you then it's a problem.

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Originally Posted by muncheemama

what do you all think about porno in a commited relationship? I personally think it's "mental cheating" and while some might see that as too harsh, i believe the act of someone peeling one off to the image of another woman or man just isnt very cool...watching it together as a type of foreplay is fine, but to hide and lie about a stash is deceptive and wrong...guys and girls whats your opinion? how would your partners feel? is my opinion one of an oversensitive woman, or is it rational???

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Well what about fantasy of the mind? What is that?

Have you ever thought of another guy when your with your husband in the act?

But yeah a secret stash. I dont know why that need be going on but then what about a secret stash in the mind. Whats the difference? :twocents:

Theres a difference. Besides you cant make someone not think or fantasize about things, thats fascism

I read that porn activates endorphins in the human brain, releasing an opiate like chemical. This would mean that porn addicts are actually opiate addicts.
http://www.newscientist.com/channel/...ototoxins.html

I'm having my opiate receptors removed.

There is nothing wrong with viewing porn and pleasuring yourself. A lot of couples will rent a naughty video and watch it, have sex while its playing (do what the porn stars do) and its a great way to spice up the relationship. If your not around for whatever reason and he wants to look at some porn and wank it...count yourself lucky! because it could be worse...he could be out looking for a play date.

Now if he doesn't want to have sex with you only watch porn and jerk off all by himself there is obviously a huge problem.

Why does he feel he needs to "hide" a porn stash from you? Hiding something from someone is done for specific reasons. Reasons that involve the person they're hiding it from. If anything i think you shouldn't make him feel bad about having porn, embrace it and use it together. It'll be fun, very sexually arousing, and it wont be that black cloud that hangs over the relationship.