Fighting with Parents

Yeah, i didnt make a fight out of it because i have alot of respect for my parents and it takes alot for me to fight with them. Especially me and my dad, we never fight, he is awesome. My stepmom, who im still close to about as regular as my mom, cuz my mom is a fuckup but i love her anyways. Newayz, this morning i get woke up to clean the outside of the fucking house, which i wasnt mad about because i said i would do it. This is the part i dont understand. I go inside after cleaning the fucking outside of the house and bout 10 minutes later i start getting fussed at by my stepmom about how my room isnt clean. i didnt say anything, but i was thinking, "what the fuck bitch, no thanks or nothing, just fucking bitching about shit, at least give me some time to do it. Damn."

So i see what you mean. Good luck with that though.

i've gotten in my mother angry twice today already, the first time i admitted my fault because there was no reason for my outburst, i was just grouchy. the most recent time was also my fault - another outburst. i was moving the extention cord outside and it hit my radio and made it skip and she said, "that was you that time" (because my cd was skipping earlier and that's my biggest petpeeve), i took it as if she thought i was going to blame something else when i knew my own fault and i got an attitude...it made her cry. i suppose the reason she was crying is because she doesn't feel that i think she loves me, which is right sometimes - i feel like she loves me for all the wrong reasons. it's my own fault though, i've allowed it to be like this and only i can fix it. i told her that she shouldn't be mad at me because i wasn't mad at her, i don't think it helped, i'd really like for her to understand me and how i feel, perhaps i should talk to her about it sometime...when she gets home. the main issue is the fact that my step-dad likes me more as a human-being than my older brother. the reason being is that i'm not lazy, i've realized what i have to do to get what i desire and my twenty year old brother has the mind of a child.
my brother was recently out of work for six months, until a couple of days ago, he got a job at circuit city. he fails to realize that my mother will not always be there to hold his hand and that he has to make his own living...of course you can see why my dad doesn't appreciate this and his constantly on his back about it. you have to grow up sometime.
i, on the other hand am currently working my ass of to achieve what i desire in life, with or without my mothers assistance. she feels that my dad likes me more as a son, when infact he doesn't, when i start slipping you better believe he's on my ass too. she too has failed to realize this and is always dogging me out. whenever a workload is put on my brother she calls me to lighten it up or completely take over. her own thoughts of my father have poisoned her own head and now she's playing favorites, but don't tell HER this, she'll throw a fit and cuss me out, tell me that i'm not getting anything from her ever again. she threatens to kick me out of the house when i'm only seventeen - what kind of shit is that?? she also likes to blame a lot on my consumption of marijuana, when it's evident that it has no affect on the way i live my life and the way i treat anyone. i may hit her up for money to buy some once in a while, but i earn it...i don't expect anything to just be handed to me.
i love this woman dearly and i'd do anything for her to realize this...anything. i'm currently theorizing a plan to make her realize this without her thinking that i'm just doing it because i want something (which i'm sure she thinks).
i fear the worse, that one day she's going to leave me and be off by herself - i can't live without her...well...i don't want to. my reasoning is because she's told me that she can't handle my dad sometimes and she doesn't feel like coming home to him - i'm not just like the man, but we do hold the same characteristics, mine aren't to his extreme though. we're always telling her things she doesn't want to hear, it seems to me that she doesn't want to believe the truth about anything we have to say. one day it'll hit her though, hopefully before it's too late.
one day, my mother and i will be able to live in supreme happiness without a hint of disappointment in the air...i yearn for this day, it's up to me to make it happen.

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Originally Posted by Nick1990

you may be suprised but i do more than probally any other kid on here. i clean my house everyday (not scrub the floors but clean up after my dad cause he wont do it himself, and the kitchen and bathrooms) and i cook dinner every other night, probally more then anyone else. also i dont get an allowence and all i own is a TV, my comp, a PS2, and a $50 skateboard. i wish i could get a job but im not old enough, if i had a job like my dad's i would be able to take care of my whole family on my paycheck, because i would work from 10 til 6, but my dad inspects houses and he maybe does 2 on a good day, and they take an hour a piece then he doesn't do the reports for like a week when he could do them onsite. and that is why i get in fights with my parents is that they are in a bad mood most of the time because they dont make enough money but like to spend it. my mom works alot and makes about the same as my dad.they will yell at me for an hour because i correct them(like saying that they made a coment about something that wasn't totally correct and it will piss them off so bad) but then they correct me every time i say something slightly off. and today my dad got all fuckin pissed at me cause i didn't want to wake up at 8:30 on a saturday to drive 30 with him to get money because he just couldn't go alone and he couldn't stand being in the house because it was "driving him crazy", but i am by no means a perfect child, i have made a few bigs mistakes but other then that im really nice and help alot.

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you know what you need to do? nothing. don't change for anyone man, you've got the right mentality. i have a feeling whenever you have kids your going to do a good job raising them, but you must remember children learn from the things their parents didn't do. that's how they keep a constant difference in generations to come...is also how some kids relate to their grandparents much better than their own. although you don't have any help in your household, be sure to involve your kids when you have your own...that's all a kid wants...and...of course...a little bit of privacy. i'm not even a parent, what the hell am i talking for?! lol

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Originally Posted by Nick1990

you may be suprised but i do more than probally any other kid on here. i clean my house everyday (not scrub the floors but clean up after my dad cause he wont do it himself, and the kitchen and bathrooms) and i cook dinner every other night, probally more then anyone else. also i dont get an allowence and all i own is a TV, my comp, a PS2, and a $50 skateboard. i wish i could get a job but im not old enough, if i had a job like my dad's i would be able to take care of my whole family on my paycheck, because i would work from 10 til 6, but my dad inspects houses and he maybe does 2 on a good day, and they take an hour a piece then he doesn't do the reports for like a week when he could do them onsite. and that is why i get in fights with my parents is that they are in a bad mood most of the time because they dont make enough money but like to spend it. my mom works alot and makes about the same as my dad.they will yell at me for an hour because i correct them(like saying that they made a coment about something that wasn't totally correct and it will piss them off so bad) but then they correct me every time i say something slightly off. and today my dad got all fuckin pissed at me cause i didn't want to wake up at 8:30 on a saturday to drive 30 with him to get money because he just couldn't go alone and he couldn't stand being in the house because it was "driving him crazy", but i am by no means a perfect child, i have made a few bigs mistakes but other then that im really nice and help alot.

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good to hear ya want to make your own way,
i commend you
and parents and kids will always butt heads over lifestyle and actions,
try ya best to think they only want the best for ya,even when and if they dont know what that is
there is no instruction manual on how to RIASE you,
peace

My mom can drive me nutz but i gotta respect her...shes not all there in the head and whenever i try to help her sort things out with herself she keeps telling me to stop nagging and stop making her feel like a bad mom like shes not doing her job. Thats not the situation tho, as the eldest sibling here im suposed to step in and inform her of anything that can change and who better to tell than her? Shes here all the time, or else shes taking a few naps or cooking so why cant i tell her sum things have got to change round here? My little sisters have a huge anger problems and cry and scream at me and eachother even my mom but she just sympathizes with them or if she does yell at them they yell back. I totally hate this...just imagine watching ur sibs fighting over stupid shit like the tv or computor and then break shit...and then ur parents wanna get rid of both the internet and tv!!! It sucks!! And my mom should take charge and change things.

As for myself i can be pretty annoying too. My mom just wants me to do chores for her...i dont think thats cool. I mean all she asks me for is cleaning stuff while she sleeps and she sleeps a lot about 6 hours a day and at night but thats because of her medicine so i dunt know what to say bout that i cant really blame her right? But why cant she ask me to do sumthing other than clean the car, the kitchen, or anything else that needs cleaning? Why cant she ask the sibs? One is 11 she can clean a kitchen!!! We dont have money problems with eachother, she usually pays me back if i give her sum money but if she dident i wouldent mind. but w/e my mom has issues so do I so i just want sumthings to change.

All in all respect ur parents, ur family and thats very important. I would hate to lose my family so they're really a blessing to have good parents cuz some parents fucking suck.

i can feel where your coming from lily. all you can do is hope everyone comes to an understanding in your house and if takes you stepping up to make it happen...make it happen.

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Originally Posted by unmeg

This is the best advice anyone could ever give fir the situation at hand,are you ready?
MOVE OUT! Problem solved.
I had a problem with my step prick(he just die in horrible car crash few months ago,KARMA) when i was 15.Moved the fuck out & moved in with my brother for about 1 year.By that time they begging me to come back(i was getting survivors bennifits from my dads death).Turns out they realy counted on my money to help with bills.My folks had a social drinking problem(drank in bars only$$$$$$)so they neede me.The step hated it but had to be nice after that.I LOVE IT WHEN A PLAN COMES TOGETHER!!!
Good Luck,hope you guy's work out something cause all you got sometimes is your family,like it or not.

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MOVING OUT, is very good advice :D
Ive been moved out for like a year and two months now, its great. It's not for everyone tho, because not everyone has somewhere they can go, and a way of money to support them. Luckly i have a loving grandma. I use to be like most people on here. I would argue everyday with my mom, atleast like 5 times a day, i swear. It was like everything was fine and then she came home from work. And it sucked because my dad would take her side because he didnt want to get yelled at, and he is pussy whipped. I mean it was so bad that one night at dinner, he told me just not to talk the whole time because he didnt feel like getting yelled at tonight. I was liek WTF, god they piss me off. It was stupid the way i got out of my house tho. Well before i moved out i had been suffering from really bad depression and i had tried to kill myself twice(only once of my parents knowing). Anyways about 3 months before i moved out i started smoking weed. This helped me a lot, it made me more happy, more sociable, i didnt need zoloft anymore(didnt work anyways except for side effects). But then my mom found out that i was smoking weed, kinda by tricking me, but it didnt work cuz i was just honest about it anyways. So then she freaks out and i go home and im like im leaving, and then i threatned if she didnt let me go live with my grandma then i was going to kill myself(looking back it was something stupid to say, but i got what i wanted so yeah)So i just left my house, she wouldnt let me go in my room to get anything.(theres more to the whole story of why i moved out and stuff but then you'd have to hear my whole life story). Anyways in the end if you can move out, and you have somewhere to stay and some finicial support, go for it. Oh btw i just barely turned 15 when i moved out. Im 16 now.

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Originally Posted by Ganj

i can feel where your coming from lily. all you can do is hope everyone comes to an understanding in your house and if takes you stepping up to make it happen...make it happen.

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lol but its not happening...and i get yelled at if i try :(

thats what every tenn goes thru. It wasnt even bad with me during my teen years. It was more of something like, calvin you closing your door now'a days? Do you feel unsociable bla bla bla?. it was random shit that just leaves you argueing back and forth with no cause. It got so bad that my dad threatened to put me thru boarding school but they were just niave to accept that fact i was jsut growing up. Being an only child and all doesnt help at all btw. But my dad try to bully me around by pushing me and all i could think about was leaving or hitting him back. But luckily today, my rents are cool and they no longer give me a hardtime. Maybe its because I got reallie jacked from baseball lol. By anywho, they could be afraid or they might not be, but your rents will always love you.

Just remember, it's not a bad arguement till a glass ashtray gets whipped at your arm. No...that never happened to me. ;)

Yeah it happened to me, i don't even know what we were argueing about, i just know it was something stupid.

-peace