how to deal with the fact that you have never had a girlfriend...

Thank your lucky stars if you have not had a girlfriend!

Concentrate on your life and goals, then when you least expect it a girl will come around and screw that all up.:thumbsup:

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Originally Posted by Gandalf_The_Grey

Well, looks like I win this thread; 22 and never had a girlfriend, haven't had sex, not even been kissed. Horray for me, the winner....



Man I fucking hate life sometimes:mad:

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I am sure you have posted about it before but I cant remember the particulars..what the reason for this? Is it by choice?

Edit: how did you become a glorious beacon of light already? :jointsmile:

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Originally Posted by Gandalf_The_Grey

Well, looks like I win this thread; 22 and never had a girlfriend, haven't had sex, not even been kissed. Horray for me, the winner....



Man I fucking hate life sometimes:mad:

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lmao, im very close to being in that same situation :S I dunno but all the girls I know are completly retarded, stuck up and arn't intrested in anything but typical scene / so-cal / popular douche bags. I didnt get a good round of girls as friends

im in kind of a crappy position to meet girls atm though, don't go to school (just graduated 07) dont have a job (but most likely will be in the IT field, which is like .5% women) Im thinking of resorting to online dating? cus seriously, I KNOW i can easily remain single if I dont start doing shit, lol.

I am 25, never had a girlfriend, didn't loose my cherry till I was 19. I have severe social issues, but if you play your game right you can make girls think you are a playa, and that's why you've never had a serious g/f, not because you are what I am, an anti-social loser. lol

Your past experience really does not matter for anything at all, all that matters when it comes to girls, is confidence. If you are confident even though you have little or no experience, you can get a girl to be interested in you. Some people here sound like they are way too nice, don't be! Being nice will get you nothing but perhaps a peck on the cheek from a girl and her constant phone calls at midnight with her crying talking about what an ass her boyfriend is. That is a situation you never want to be in, also known as the dreaded friend zone.

Just be confident, that is the most important thing. If you have to fake the confidence, that is fine, as long as you can fake it long enough to convince a girl you are worth paying attention to then your job is complete.

Oh, one more thing....try dating Asians. I don't know why, but I just have good luck with them, worth a shot ;)

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Originally Posted by Kokujin X

lmao, im very close to being in that same situation :S I dunno but all the girls I know are completly retarded, stuck up and arn't intrested in anything but typical scene / so-cal / popular douche bags. I didnt get a good round of girls as friends

im in kind of a crappy position to meet girls atm though, don't go to school (just graduated 07) dont have a job (but most likely will be in the IT field, which is like .5% women) Im thinking of resorting to online dating? cus seriously, I KNOW i can easily remain single if I dont start doing shit, lol.

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I'd like to give you some help, but damnit....I'm in pretty much the exact same situation lol I just want to say, stay FAR AWAY from online dating!! Well, at least those dating sites. Myspace can be handy, however it seems like most girls on myspace from so-cal are hispanic....and everytime I see some wannabe gangsta posting something stupid like "aww let me hit dat bay bay, get at me" or whatever, I just get turned off. You also have to have a trendy myspace page to get hits from girls worth dating, so myspace hasn't been much of a help for me.

Online dating use to be so easy for me, my friends thought I was nerdy for always meeting girls from the net, but hey, at least I was gettin some action! But somehow I seemed to have lost my touch in the last couple of years, I haven't met a girl from the net in a long long time, not even a fatty :(

So I guess I too would like some advice for online dating, like where some good chat rooms are, etc. But I have little faith in signing up for an actual dating service, too many freaks and weirdos on those....or am I mistaken on that?

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Originally Posted by Nailhead

I'd like to give you some help, but damnit....I'm in pretty much the exact same situation lol I just want to say, stay FAR AWAY from online dating!! Well, at least those dating sites. Myspace can be handy, however it seems like most girls on myspace from so-cal are hispanic....and everytime I see some wannabe gangsta posting something stupid like "aww let me hit dat bay bay, get at me" or whatever, I just get turned off. You also have to have a trendy myspace page to get hits from girls worth dating, so myspace hasn't been much of a help for me.

Online dating use to be so easy for me, my friends thought I was nerdy for always meeting girls from the net, but hey, at least I was gettin some action! But somehow I seemed to have lost my touch in the last couple of years, I haven't met a girl from the net in a long long time, not even a fatty :(

So I guess I too would like some advice for online dating, like where some good chat rooms are, etc. But I have little faith in signing up for an actual dating service, too many freaks and weirdos on those....or am I mistaken on that?

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lol, yeah man, myspace is horrible for finding new girls. Its ok to use to talk to girls you meet in person, most of them my age do. But yes, I was branded an outcast all through elementry school basically. Then later on in highschool hardly anyone actually knows me, but if you ask someone about me most likely its "oh yeah, he looks like a pretty chill guy" or "I really like his hair!"

I dont think its good for me to live in a mainly white area, not trying to sound racist or anything but I swear I've been made a spectacle because I grow dreads. Its what my hair does when I dont comb it, I cant help having curly hair. But these people are so fucking retarded, i cant walk down the hall without hearing the name "bob marly", its rediculous. And these girls (which 99% of them are white) seem to have an imbeded mentality of indifferance when it comes to actually dating black people, hell even mexicans and asians. You dont ever see any of them walkin around with nothin but a white guy. I've had 2 girlfriends, one in kindergarden, 1 in 4th grade (lol @ elementry gf's) both were mexican (which i dont have a problem with by any means, they were good lookin to me) but sadly most girls are too tied up in their little bitch clicks. I challenge these girls to go for something a little more exotic, somethin different then all the steriotypical bullshitters, hardly origonal people.

A lot of online dating sites i've tried usually give me bad results (if any for free) I tried chemistry.com thinking it might be decent. Looked through my top 5 (free) matches and they were barely matches at all. I got a terrible impression of all of them and NONE of them even had "african american" under their match req. shit. 3 of them only had "white / cacasian" and they other 2 had most BUT black! wtf???? seriously, you would think they take this into consideration when "matching" couples.

I'm 18 and never been in a serious relationship (lasted longer than a week or two), and haven't been in a relationship since I left high school.
If you guys want a girl so bad, get one, it's not really that difficult, put some effort in!
It just depends who you will settle for, for me personally I haven't come across any lady's who I would would even consider to spend the rest of my days with.

Besides that I enjoy being single alittle, I means I can talk to lady's anyway I like and not feel like I shouldn't be having a laugh with other girls because I'm attached to someone. No responsibility apart from myself.

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Originally Posted by Unknown American

Thank your lucky stars if you have not had a girlfriend!

Concentrate on your life and goals, then when you least expect it a girl will come around and screw that all up.:thumbsup:

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yeah thats what Im trying to do but sometimes i get all preoccupied with my social life and cant focus on my studies. im trying to keep myself busy.

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Originally Posted by Nailhead

I'd like to give you some help, but damnit....I'm in pretty much the exact same situation lol I just want to say, stay FAR AWAY from online dating!! Well, at least those dating sites. Myspace can be handy, however it seems like most girls on myspace from so-cal are hispanic....and everytime I see some wannabe gangsta posting something stupid like "aww let me hit dat bay bay, get at me" or whatever, I just get turned off. You also have to have a trendy myspace page to get hits from girls worth dating, so myspace hasn't been much of a help for me.

Online dating use to be so easy for me, my friends thought I was nerdy for always meeting girls from the net, but hey, at least I was gettin some action! But somehow I seemed to have lost my touch in the last couple of years, I haven't met a girl from the net in a long long time, not even a fatty :(

So I guess I too would like some advice for online dating, like where some good chat rooms are, etc. But I have little faith in signing up for an actual dating service, too many freaks and weirdos on those....or am I mistaken on that?

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i think online dating services look too much like a meat market.

I've had a problem doing the 'cold pickup' or what they call when you chat with a girl spontaneously that you don't really know. it seems girls like that the most, but I may be wrong. you have to have good social skills, and yeah you can compliment a girl on just her looks that way too, but I want things to flow naturally like we meet first as friends or casually through conversation and same interests, and I don't just chat with her just because I want a girlfriend, you know what I mean?

seems like I cant meet a girl, whilst Im doing something of the same interest like at school or at work but some have strict rules like "don't date anyone who is from work, from school, your neighbor, etc" only in special cases I guess.

I think girls prefer the spontaneous pick up like on the street or whatever. like they say they dream about someone who 'sweeps off their feet' spontaneously but that limits them too...