yea you cant stop the pain, hang in there. me and my girlfriend broke up after a 3 year relationship and a month later she was with my best friend.
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yea you cant stop the pain, hang in there. me and my girlfriend broke up after a 3 year relationship and a month later she was with my best friend.
You two have been an item for "several years" and she is 17 and you are 18. Unless she just had her birthday, you have less than 12 months to "tough it out"! The day she is 18, she can tell her parents "Bye-bye!" and do as she pleases.
My questions are "Why do you think that your love cannot survive a separation of less than a year? Is it that fragile?" and "Is she worth waiting for?"
In the meantime, remember, she is totally jailbait! Do not doubt for a moment, that her parents will press statutory rape charges if they get a chance!
I am certain you have an "acceptable" mutual friend who would be willing to give her a private message from you- "I will wait until you are 18!". Dude, if she isn't willing to wait and give up everything for you, then maybe she doesn't feel as deeply as you do. If she says she will wait, too- then I wish you two the very best! :thumbsup:
In the meantime, start getting ready for your eventual reunion! Do you have a job? A place to live? A car? If you two are going to "set up housekeeping", you don't have time to be sad! This is the time to get things ready! Turn your sorrow into action and determination! By the time she hits 18, I want you to have it SO DANG good, that her parents will be unable to say a single word of criticism!
I'm not saying you need a big screen TV, a Volvo, and a stock portfolio and all that stuff, but you do need a comfortable place (without roaches and meth dealers downstairs), a reliable car and a job that can cover the bills and food. Until you have that, her parents will do their best to prevent you two from being a couple.
Hang in there! And get busy!- Granny:hippy:
man thats really sucks. like who the fuck are her parents to make that decision for her! storm crow made a really good point. Give it some sometime, you can still talk to her tho. tell her how much you really care about her and want to be together.
like dude i kinda know where your coming from in a way. my best friend died of a drug overdose a year and 4 months ago and we hung out like every day we were practally married haha... anyways to say the very least it fucking sucked! i would smoke up just so i wouldnt have to think about it.... got addicted and it never helped except 4 when i was high to b honest... and now is actually the longest ive gone in a long time without being high (6 weeks).
my point is dont curl up and fade away and withdraw from everyone like i did. put yourself out there find activities that you enjoy or more importantly that make you happy and you'll meet people. what really helped me is that i started playing guitar cause i love music (makes me happy) and it helped me vent a lot of my frustrations, anger and sadness cause i didnt really have anyone to talk to anymore...:(
The advantage of being one of the oldest people on the board is that you've had the most time to accumulate wisdom. As always, Storm Crow has a constructive answer. :thumbsup:
It takes two.
So see her behind their backs and when shes 18 tell them to fuck off! WTF is wrong with people nowadays!
Well they can fucking FUCK OFF by god...
Just see her without them knowing...
Fuck them...
Seriousally....
What the fuck...
Parents shouldn't do theese kinds of things kids need to learn from their own mistakes...
And if you fuck up you pay for it...
if not..
well then your doing the right thing...
Oh well...
Hope everything works out for ya.
all the dudes heart broken in this thread first off i know how you all feel but seriously COME ON!!! there millions of hot chicks in the world now do what you/us dudes do best FUCK EM!! :thumbsup:
That sucks.
The majority of this advice is good.
Tell her you will wait until she turns 18, but remember, it's better to give her the space to make her own decision, and you need to respect her parents wishes because they do have legal recourse against you, plus, it's just the way things are, and it's not fair to put your girl in the position of choosing between her parents and you.
If you both feel it's worth it after a year, then get back together. But you may have a change of heart or you might meet someone else (or she might meet someone else).
It should get better over time, especially if you try to stay busy and keep your mind off of things that you can't change.
Good luck. I know this post is a bit late but I feel for you.
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