I hate him but I want to love him.

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Originally Posted by Blitzed

Yeah, a break might be a good thing, tell him he needs to change his ways if he wants to keep you. In my relationships the girls always seem to have controll over me, and Id do 95% of what they ask me to do, and Im sure its the same in most relationships. After a couple weeks if he said he will change and you trust him, go back. If he doesnt than go out and have some fun.

I mean you can always road trip to IL, and come party with me! :stoned:

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If anyones doing any kind of road trip its either me to her. or her to me LMAO...

:D:D:thumbsup:

:( Maybe a three way road trip, in a winnabago(sp?), lol!

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Originally Posted by Blitzed

:( Maybe a three way road trip, in a winnabago(sp?), lol!

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okie dokie we will make a pit stop.. lol

See a future with an alcoholic who you hate? Sounds simple to me.

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Originally Posted by BlAzInIt4:20

okie dokie we will make a pit stop.. lol

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Good, cause Im the life of the party! I guess we need BFA's approval on our great plan though..

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Originally Posted by Blitzed

Good, cause Im the life of the party! I guess we need BFA's approval on our great plan though..

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that's very true...

we have two lifes of the partys if your one also :jointsmile:

Just so you and everyone knows: I am not trying to be mean here in any way. I just think you need someone to tell you the hard truth or this cycle is NEVER going to end with you and him.

Has the reality brick not hit you hard enough? What does it take for you to realize your causing your own pain. Girl, I love ya hun but you are causing all of this to happen. I think you feed from the emotional bullshit you and him have going. You are in an unhealthy cycle and you say you want out but you go back for more each time. If you REALLY wanted to drop that guy you would. If you want to end the pain and suffering leave him COMPLETELY. I dont care if he wants to keep coming back. CUT HIM OFF LIKE THE CANCER HE IS. Your maintaining your strength and then caving in. You have to be STRONG. S-T-R-O-N-G! You know damn well what you need to do. Either your in or out. He's a fucking alcoholic! Do you know what that entails in your future if you would decide to get married? Your gonna end up on Cops with a boyfriend who is a drunken fool and who also does other drugs (you said that before yourself). You so know you could do better. You deserve better! Your sexy and smart and you make us all laugh here. Dont sell yourself short with this loser.

Take a stab at these websites:

The Safe Space

Break the Cycle of Bad Relationships


Or just google "unhealthy relationships" or "break an unhealthy cycle"

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Originally Posted by MadSativa

BFA buy not telling him what you didnt like in the beggining you reasured him that his actions were wanted. All those little things (which are not that little emotional playing is the muther of all fukups) that you didnt like are now amplified buy weeks of him thinking thats what you want. He wont change and you wont change what has to change is the situation. Break it off by not giving him any outs, simply say I dont feel for you the same anymore, he will probly want to fight your dicision but dont give him an outs if he says I love you, you say I know but the felling is not muttual, If he says thats not what you felt last week then tell him it is no longer last week. You dont have to be mean or yell at him but the way it sounds hes gonna hound you for a while. Dont answer his phone calls if he pulls the calling from a friends phone and you answer, just say Im sorry but we cant talk cause its over and hang up. Unless you want to carry on like you have been you have to end it. No just friends no break up sex just bye. Better to have love and lost than not loved at all, And next time mabey you shouldnt bottle up everything, your a smart and yong hottie but you are putting your self in these situations, although Im sure alot was mutual between the both of you.

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:thumbsup:Listen to him You need to just CUT HIS ASS OUT! You desrve to have someone who is as wonderful as YOU are. You don't need his bullshit, and he sounds a bit obsessive and controlling and like he isn't going to let you go any time soon . And he isn't going to want you to go because he knows that your too good for him. He can't get anyone nearly as great as you because most people who are as smart and beautiful as you wouldn't deal with that sort of bullshit. And trust me I know how hard it can be to end it, but you have to be strong. In a month or so you will be so happy and proud of yourself for letting him go that you will laugh at yourself for not doing it soonerr. So like MadSativa said don't answer his calls! Dont answer his friends calls, no IM's no Emails, no NOTHING. Becuase by the sounds of it he will try his hardest to manipulat you into being back with him. And from a lot of experince from being in relationships just like yours sometimes being friends after doesn't work. And this guy isn't someone who you should be friends with. I know your strong, so be strong towards him. Stand up for yourself. You know what you need to do. Best luck sweetie I hope everything gets better.

I love what Storm Crow said but the reality of it is that Rebgirl pinned it perfectly. We really ARE masters of our own fate. Nobody does anything to you that you don't let them.....in one way or another. (I'm talking about people here....not life in general)

Part of what is hard for you BFA is your age. You quite simply have not seen anything but a teeny little portion of the world so you have zero idea what is out there. I don't mean that in a cruel way.....I was absolutely the same way then. There is no way of realizing how many different options there are in life until you actually go look. Experiences are what make up life. Go do some. The more the better.

We honestly do make our own choices with others in life.