Personally, I think that the athletes who do that are a little light in the loafers.Quote:
Originally Posted by Spoken Word
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Personally, I think that the athletes who do that are a little light in the loafers.Quote:
Originally Posted by Spoken Word
That IS an interesting study. Spoken Word, when you put it like that...women arouse me "faster" and "harder," as you so eloquently put it. Do you talk to your mother with that mouth? :DQuote:
Originally Posted by stinkyattic
I could be looking for sex or I have played too much Madden with a Dual-Shock Playstation controller? Usually, the games ended in forfeit, as my arousal became something I needed to handle.
I just read an article about Homosexual OCD, and it seems the key difference is homosexuals are attracted to members of the same sex but may keep it secret, as homosexuality has become a "social stigma." So...I guess the big question is, "Am I attracted to members of the same sex?" However, the homosexual thoughts I have are typically unwanted and intrusive, so I fight them off which results in homophobic behavior, like avoiding contact with other guys due to anxiety and worry of what people may assume. The thing is I am strangely open-minded to the idea. I am repulsed by the thought of engaging another man but I do not want that disgust to be fuel for homophobia. And also, simply because I experience anxiety to homosexual thoughts does not mean I have "H" OCD.
The worry is unrelenting and to cast it away would be terrific but at the cost of my happiness? You all say I'm over-thinking things but maybe that is grounds for homosexuality or bi-sexuality? After all, I did say the thoughts grew increasingly acceptable.
If sexual preference is the determining factor for your sexual orientation, then I am heterosexual. However, I have come to this conclusion before and still the intrusive thoughts come. Symptoms of "H" OCD or am I failing to 'come to grips' with my sexuality?
It's obvious I'm having trouble facing this issue 'head-on,' as any inclining one way or the other leaves me discouraged and indifferent. I do not want to be gay, and I do not want be anxious or worry around my male friends. Where are those 'pearls of wisdom' when you need them?
By the way, thank you all. Somehow my threads manage to summon the most compassionate individuals. Your hearts must be made of gold.
Naw, we just like looking at that awesome avatar.Quote:
Originally Posted by Ganj
Hehe calm down Ganj, its called curiosity. You are straight, dont worry about that, but you are having an internal battle between the natural human sexual instinct to explore all the things that excite you, and the imposed view on sexuality being a homo or hetero matter. Sexuality is much more dynamic than black or white. In fact it is almost entirely gray area, with much lighter or much darker values. Its really that simple. Different stimuli sexually excite different people, or alternatively, different people respond differently to their arousal by the same stimuli. Being repulsed by your own curious thoughts in that direction of same-sex sexual activity is only going to perpetuate things. Just relax and go with the flow.
Its obvious that you love women, and sexually they are much more exciting to you than dudes, however there are those inexplicable stimuli that just get your blood flowing, and its relatively new to you. When we are sexually aroused, we often look towards things we consider taboo because it creates a more exciting experience.. its analogous to fetishes, how some people when theyre horny they want to be slapped or choked because its more exciting for them.
Stop worrying about what all these thoughts might imply, and just do what feels right. And dont start feeling wierd around your dude friends, that will only make matters worse. They have no clue what is going on in your head, you are allowing yourself to be controlled by paranoia. Eventually things will fall into place and you will feel much better. Plus.. havent you watched Southpark?? Dont you know that its not gay to watch another guy jack off?? LMAO sorry I just watched my Third season of Southpark again last night. For real dude, theres nothing to worry about, you are completely fine.
Maybe I'll try snowblind's advice and meditate on it. When I'm not meditating, the thoughts seem to be badgered by judgment, worry, and it leads me around in circles. I know I don't have OCD, or at least I have not been diagnosed. I know that if I can face this calmly, then I will arrive to something meaningful, and perhaps put an end to all this. Maybe I should just accept bi-sexuality and be done with it? There. I am bi-sexual. The sensation of anal penetration seems enjoyable. Like Stiffler, when the nurse puts her finger in his ass to induce an orgasm. His he gay? No. Just maybe a little more sexually explorative than most men. The fact is, I am happy to have sex with women. I may worry about performance at times but that is nothing that cannot be solved with a little bit of experience, and perhaps a woman who gets off easily.
I guess I was letting my curiosity 'bog me down,' as you put it Stinky. Maybe I do desire a different sexual lifestyle, after all internet porn gets old after awhile. I suppose I should have mentioned that I masturbate on a daily basis?
This place is full of largely decent, nice people, and I'm glad you got compassionate responses.
So I wondered a couple of things, Ganj, when I first read your post. One of them I was able to get answered on my own by looking at your profile; that was my question about how old you are. You're still quite young and are really just now coming into the phase in your life where you're deciding your likes and dislikes in all sorts of areas. But my other questions were whether or not you've yet had any experiences, either with men or women, so far. And I wondered whether you've had any "conditioning" or teaching in your background about whether certain types of sexual orientation are wrong or right. Just curious.
Well birdgirl, I have had three different sexual partners (all women). And no, my mother always left it up to me to make my own decisions in life, which is probably why I'm a bit indecisive at times...?
There was one occasion though that I believe I was taken advantage of in an unconscious state. However, I have dismissed that notion as irrational and delusional. The suspected culprit was one of my close friends. We did a lot of drugs together and this one particular weekend in question is a little hazy in my mind. I don't remember what happened that week but thoughts that I gave someone oral sex arise when friends make homosexual jokes, that seemingly designating this particular evening as the root of the joke. It's like a dream to me now that I was giving myself oral sex but seeing as how that is impossible...who got the blowjob?
It gets loads more complicated when those thoughts come into play. "Did I really do that and I'm just repressing the memory?" I try not to let it get me down though. If I did do something like that, then I will accept it for what it is. However, if I didn't you could only imagine the confusion that follows such delusions.
Two things: First, its called autofellatio, and its entirely possible, although rather damaging to the spine and internal organs.Quote:
Originally Posted by Ganj
Second, if that really did happen and some of your friends remember it, or remember something of the like happening.. the thing is they dont seem to treat you any differently so at least you know the nature of your friendship hasnt been damaged.
With that I would recommend accepting things that have happened, may have happened, or may happen as just another experience without attaching any sort of stigma to it.
Instead of placing a title upon yourself, such as homosexual, bisexual, or heterosexual.. why not just be sexual? You love sex, you love sensual and sexual acts, the intimacy, the pleasure, the stimulation and excitement.. theres nothing wrong with that. If you are able to be honest with yourself like that, and non judgemental towards yourself, then you will be able to enjoy exploring whatever sexual activity your libido has gotten you in the mood for, without feeling guilty.
I figure whatever you are, you'll make your peace with it in time and will continue to solidify those feelings with more experiences. As you begin to get more experience--and this is advice I'd give to any young person anyplace--make an effort to get those experiences in the most conscious, least drugged-out or drunken state you can. Not only so you'll be aware of the memories you're making later on, assuming they're memory-worthy experiences. But also so you'll be fully conscious of what you're doing and in control of your physical, emotional, and disease-prevention destiny. That's advice I wish more college-aged people would heed.
Here, by the way, is a link that you might be informative. It's been many years since Dr. Alfred Kinsey created this scale to identify the spectrum of sexual orientation, but it's still very good information that will let you know everyone doesn't necessarily fall into two clear, opposing sexual orientation categories. Most thinking scientists know that people fall into every category along the way and that everyone's unique.
Kinsey scale - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia