Venting in progress!

Dude wtf your 'wife' sounds more like a mental patient than a mother, instead of getting your kids anything just get her a psychological exam as an xmas present.

But holy crap dude what kind of a bitch messes with her own kids to spite their father????? Thats some messed up shit. Just whatever you do don't try to turn the kids on their mother tbecause that is the worst thing in the world I know first hand.

Anyways I wish I could help you out but I literally have like $2.50 in the bank (I live at home and don't really pay rent or anything and im only 16 so....but still thats bad and I still have to get my dad an Xmas present. But he doesnt really want anything, anyways im rambling)

Send me an E-mail at [email protected] with your addy and i'll send you a 'present' in the form of an xmas bud =D

Just go camping or do soemthing fun with your kids as a xmas present, because memories are forever but a batman action figure will just get flushed down the toilet after they get bored with it =D

daZenfmeister has a great point there. Your kids will want to come back to visit you because of the fun they have with their pa, not because of the cool stuff he gets them. ever wonder how grandmothers do it? 'spoiling them rotten' isn't even necessary. a kind word, maybe a cookie that you baked with them, and they will start to realize how different you and your ex really are. and your children will appreciate those differences.

I agree with The C just try to teach your kids about how christmas isnt as much about presents as it is... say Jesus, or Morals, or Family. Take them out and have a good time, somewhere cheap. Also i know its none of my business but really try to get a permanent job...I know your trying... but try as hard as you can, and use the internet and all the papers ect... Sorry I really dont know how hard it is to get a job there..but isnt there something like a "day labor" center where you can go get hired to Manual Labor jobs on a daily basis? Save some money...start a business... ?

I also agree with C. For the time being, make it a point to show them how much you love them. Make up for the lack of goodies. Emphasize to them what we all already know: It's about the love and togetherness. Being with one another. That value is something you can give to them that you're swamp moster ex can't.

The whole "Santa isn't visiting daddy's house" is some low, low shit. However, kudos to you for remaining above such a low level.

You're a smart and resourceful man, Res. You'll figure out how to make it work for the time being, I'm sure. When your kids get older and are mature enough to completely understand the whole situation, then the ball will be in your court.

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I'm not sure, i would even consider buying her a gift, to show her that her financial help is not welcome. Think of something from the heart thats meaning full. M.J had a good idea with the muzzle, try involving that. :p

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lol...that made me chuckle :D

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Anyways I wish I could help you out but I literally have like $2.50 in the bank

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:)cheers man, bless you for the thought

And, DrGonzo and SomeGuy

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Originally Posted by clevemire

When your kids get older and are mature enough to completely understand the whole situation, then the ball will be in your court.

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Aye, I'm counting on that, cleve :)

Yups, the boys and I will be coolies, I'm sure :)

I've kinda cooled down now, but thanks for the words guys - I appreciate it
Res...

fuck her. dont let her tell you how to raise your kids.. she can raise them, at her house, how she pleases and you should have the right to raise them to the best of your ability - without her snotty nosed principles being pushed in your face. christmas isnt about gifts and you know what - the greatest gift you can give someone is the ability to realize that money isnt everything. i come from a family that is too poor to put presents under the tree and it doesnt bother me in the least.. because what we dont have in money we have in love - and thats what matters

*corny music playing in background* lol

hehehe...I agree with everything that you said, BOgart :)
I too come from a background where christmas dinner was the present, and as kids, my brother and I didn't have much...but we were happy with what we got, because we knew how much our mum had to save up for our gifts.
I feel really bad for not being able to get my kids much - of course I want to get them some cool presents, but what do I do?
She (the bitch) can't seem to see that my choices are between getting the kids cool gifts, or paying the rent. Her solution, as was always the case, is to rack up loads of debt - but, come the end of january, I should be starting a new job and earning regular money again - therefore, after a couple of months of 'catch-up', I will be able to do all the things that I want to with my kids.
But even before that, I planned to have as good a time with them as I could, but thanks to her interferring, the kids have already got a mindset that they are losing out!
And that's what is really pissing me off.
thanks BB, and lol@corny music :D

Res's ex

You can't buy love. Even though the world is becoming more materialistic and disconnected, spirit remains alive.

LMFAOoo...MJM, you just made me cough on my 'inhale', dudette :D
That picture is sooo close to the truth, you wouldn't belieeeeve!! hahaha
Nice one :) hehehee..still laffin'
Thanks MJM xhugx
:)