First Encounters. A question for females.

First off, why is it that the male has to step up and start the conversation with the female? I do it without hesitation(sometimes) but it's fucked up. I have to open my self up to rejection and admit that I think someone is interesting....without knowing if you have a boyfriend, are gay or even think i'm good looking. It's nerve-racking. You all should feel it too once in a while. It would make my day if a decent looking girl came up and started a conversation with me.:cool:

anyways, I usually ask if she is "with" anyone. I figure, if she digs me, she'll tell me she doesn't and if she thinks im ass-ugly or whatever-she'll tell me she has a boyfriend. So I make it easier for both of us.

My questions for all of you are...

why is it that the male has to step up and start the conversation with the female?

What's the best way of approaching you without looking corny?

What hints or clues should I look for to know if you are interested as well?

i'll think of more.....

To answer third question: http://boards.cannabis.com/sexuality...likes-you.html

As for the guys having to do most of the approaching, I give respects for that. As a girl I don't really don't have the need to do this or even if I wanted to I wouldnt have the guts to because well fear of rejection.

I'd say the best way of approaching someone is to start out as friends.. and then let it grow from there. Start out as friends you know feelings might develope and something will blossom. Thats how I think a perfect relationship should start.

I'm a bit shy so I really like the guy to hit on me. It shows confidence and that's attractive. Of course, I would send some signals by maybe smiling and making eye contact. If it was a friend that I liked, I'm sure he'd know how I felt before making the move in on me.

if it was someone completely new, I'd feel more comfortible if a guy actually introduced himself, with eye contact or even a light hand shake, and asked more innocent questions. how's it going? are you from around here? do you like this kind of music? Down to earth things and maybe small compliments. pretty eyes or pretty smile, nothing sleezy sounding.

It's because our society is from the Victorian era, and men have lost everything that makes it preferable to be a man and just been left with the shitty dregs: paying for stuff, having to make first moves, etc.

Interesting, I would like to here moreon what girls think about this, personaly after being rejected a couple hundred times it realy doesnt faze me(all the rejection leading up to the 200 or so realy sucked though). After you lose that fear of rejection you kinda get a will to get that girl and go bold you could get rejected but in my experiance if your move is fearless and direct you dont get rejected. Rejection is going to happen you must find a back door some how, jump a fence you know what I mean, main.

I need more answers.. Come on girls.. I'll virtually smoke you out:jointsmile:

*I vote for animal instinct. I obviously can't speak for all females, but I'll give a shot at your questions, which are valid questions in my opinion.

-why is it that the male has to step up and start the conversation with the female?
~No idea, best guess would be most girls have issues with shyness. I know I do.

-What's the best way of approaching you without looking corny?
~Don't start hitting on us right away, but do let a girl know you're interested in the first meeting. Asking for her digits usually is enough to show interest.

-What hints or clues should I look for to know if you are interested as well?
~eye contact, smiles, ...

*Hope that was helpful at least a little, Peace! :hippy:

(Stoner Females For The Win!) :thumbsup:

Stoner Females rule. Especially when they are chill and aren't stuck up. I used to pick up this stoner chick in the morning and she would hang with the fellas ALLL day. an she wouldn't be in a corner somewhere.. she'd hang and add to the fun. VERY cool. she'd end up sleeping over and i never tried anything with her.. i mean, she slept in my bed...
she's up in tampa studying... my hat off to that chick.

anyways, thanks for the replies girls. just needed some of you all to know what guys go through.

True that. I smoke with my friend all the time, he's a guy, and we're so chill with each other that I think it's hella cool that we can talk about hot chicks on the street while driving. Lol! I don't know if that made sense, but fuck I gtg get outta here. Peace! Smoke on! :thumbsup::jointsmile:

I think a girl will only approach a guy when she wants to. When she is very attracted to him, and he is just not makin his move. Other wise they will sit right here and wait.. Why do woman need to hit on you? they have tons of other guys hitting on them. Think about it... Just make sure to smile and eye contact, it does make a difference. Their are so many people out in the world, jsut because one guy seems so hot, doesn't mean we are going to run up to them. Id say the best thing to do is become friends, find out who she is what she likes. From their if you are rejected move on to the next girl. You will never run out. And plus you just might make a friend, and all girls have more girlfriends...

edit: Oh and then you have your inside girl to do all the talking for you. Send the friend to investigate(meaning they ask if they like you, not mentioning anything about your feelings just to get theirs) before you make your entrance with other ladies... easy shit dude.. just have to find away around everything.. and their is a way..

Im pretty sure this works, i have had tons of friends and i have been the inside girl, connecting all my best friends i have today.:thumbsup:

Good Luck on finding someone true.